I’m amazed at how hooked we can get on being voyeurs into people’s lives! The popularity of watching reality shows about rich people, drugged up former rock stars, and people singing for a million dollar contract has replaced the once popular sit-coms we all enjoyed. I admit, I love peeking into the lives of the American Idol contestants and finding out what they are really like!
We often joke around here and about how our lives outside of session could be a reality show. We all really enjoy working together. We like to laugh together (often AT each other) and playing jokes on each other. When you think about it, our careers are pretty intense, listening to challenges all day long. So we need somewhere to let go and laugh. This is the place! And we actually think people would enjoy watching it! (Or maybe we would only enjoy it!)
This got me thinking about what if our lives were a reality show? Would we be embarrassed of our lives people don’t see? Now I don’t mean the day-to-day things we wouldn’t want people to see. Yes, we all go to the bathroom, make occasional noises we don’t want others to hear, and laugh at things we probably shouldn’t. But I mean how we LIVE.
Would you want your co-workers knowing that you go home and scream at your kids at night? Or that you go home and eat a bag of chips, washing it down with a box of Twinkies. Or would you want people at your church or parish knowing you view porn when your family goes to sleep or that you’ve gambled your retirement away? Those are the kinds of things I am talking about.
Now none of us would truly want to be followed around 24/7 with a camera. But in general, do you live your life the way you portray it? Or do you have double (even triple) lives?
It’s important to think about WHO we want to be and live that out in every area of our lives. I think that’s part of the problem. So many people aren’t sure who they are so they go thru life trying to figure that out by filling voids, trying things secretly to fill the void, and all the while feeling empty and still not knowing who they are.
If you feel this way, I encourage you to call us. Therapy is a safe, non-judgmental place where you can let someone see the reality show of your life without judgement or being afraid that you are hurting them. They can help you sort thru it, find the voids, and work on who you REALLY want to be.
So what’s your reality show??
Written by Natalie Chandler
Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville