I am not a morning person, ask anyone in my family! I have been forced to get better with this since I have been married and have had children. It’s not their fault I don’t like it, so I have learned to grin and bear it. But I have to say, one of my favorite parts of the day is when my kids wake up in that groggy, messed up hair, eyes half shut state. I always love to hug them right away and kiss their cute little curls on their head! They are just so precious at that moment. Now I know what’s coming down the pipe for the day- sibling fights, arguing about not wanting to take a bath, lots of yucky diapers! But at that moment, all is well!
A few weeks ago, I was listening to someone speak about how God loves us when we are messy. He seems to love us even more at those times when we are a mess. When we are going thru difficult times or when we are really getting to the heart of things and working thru our pain. Wow! I had never thought of that. I used to feel like the more messy I was, the more I was disappointing Him. But to think He is actually looking at me the way I see my children in the morning- with that gleam in his eye, thinking I look precious. That is so awesome! I am so glad He sees us in spite of our messes, that we often create, and loves us even more. He wants to hug us and kiss us on the head, even though we are a mess.
As I am writing this, I am also thinking about my clients. The couples I see are often defensive and ready to fight their partner when they come in. As they slowly let down their walls and let their partner see and experience their pain, they become more vulnerable and messy. It’s a wonderful time as a Therapist to see this transformation. All of the sudden, their spouse can see that raw part of them and actually feel empathy and compassion for their partner. You see a major shift in the relationship. All because they were willing to get messy with each other. Or the individual who comes in, finally lets out something they have been carrying for years, and cries their eyes out. With puffy eyes and running nose they are a mess. Yet they have a glow about them that makes them look more beautiful then before. Great things can happen when we get messy!
What relationships do you need to get messy in to reach a better place in your relationship? Your spouse? Your kids? Yourself? God? Get messy and see what happens!
Thank you for reading. I hope you have a wonderful week!
*Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville.