Why in the world would I post an amateur picture of a poinsettia on my blog? And then compare it to a relationship? Let me tell you a little story….
Last week, Tamara was so sweet to think of all of us at Imagine Hope when she saw some beautiful poinsettias while shopping. She surprised us all with them at the office. I enjoyed looking at it last week at work. I was out of the office for the weekend, and when I returned on Tuesday, mine looked like I had literally killed it. I felt so bad! I immediately gave it some water. By mid-afternoon I was happy to see that it was trying it’s hardest to come back. When I returned this morning, I couldn’t believe my eyes. I’m not kidding when I say that the poinsettia actually looks better than it did last week when she first gave it to me. It is so BEAUTIFUL! I was so excited!! One thing you should know is I am the one in the office that is known for killing the plants. I don’t know why I do but I do! Another thing you should know about us is we try, well we don’t even try, it just comes natural to us- we are all very light hearted and joke a lot when we are not working. It helps us keep our spirits up so we can be more positive with our clients. That and we all enjoy working with each other. Anyway, when I saw my beautiful plant, I HAD to text Tamara to show her. Her and Joleen had been in my office the day prior and I just knew they probably got a chuckle that I had already killed my Christmas present! So I text Tamara with a picture that said, “He is risen! He is risen indeed!” She got quite a chuckle out of that. I hope you did, too!
Ok, all of that to tell you my point!! Our relationships are so like that! Sometimes it may seem they are dying or really weak. Maybe they just need a little attention! It’s amazing what a compliment, a “How ARE you?”, or what a tight embrace can do when a partner is feeling lonely in a relationship. It can open the doors to conversations or just light a spark that could lead to a flame. If you’re not “watering your plant” so to speak in your relationship, it’s going to die. We somehow get this notion that when we meet someone and fall in love, love will carry us through our lives. Not so! Yes, love is important, but if we don’t nurture and take care of our relationship, it will die off. This is not only in romantic relationships but friendships, family members, and even our investment in our co-workers. You will typically get out what you put into it. One thing I know about Tamara is that she loves to laugh! So one reason I texted her the picture with the funny saying was to actually nurture our friendship. I was taking a moment out of a very busy day to make her laugh, let her know I was thinking about her, and to let her know that I saved the plant!
I’m so glad my poinsettia was saved! It’s so pretty! It’s also a reminder to me over the Holidays to invest time in my family. Not just the giving and the getting, but to truly invest in each of their love languages. So what plant can you water this weekend?
I thank God that he invested in us all and gave us His Son in human form so we could all relate to Him and have an example to live by. I hope you have a wonderful Christmas. God bless you and your family!
*Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville.