This past weekend, my husband and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary! (Yayy! Thank you- I hear the cheers!):) We had a great time, spending it with just the two of us. We had uninterrupted conversations (a commodity), great food (2 date nights!), sleep, and yes, of course some Sweet 16 basketball and shopping (every relationship needs compromise!!)
When we have these weekends together, we are reminded of what made us fall in love and how much fun we used to have dating. It was before kids, bills, serious careers, and curve balls that life threw at us. It’s so easy, even in a good relationship, to let life get in the way and make those memories fade.
That’s why it’s so important to make these times happen and recharge the relationship battery! It doesn’t just “happen” either. It takes some planning on both partners parts and usually some major problem solving. I literally felt like I had to move mountains to make this weekend happen. There was so much to figure out- childcare, finances, schedules etc. It wasn’t easy. But if you can get creative, be flexible, and think outside of the box- it can happen!
I preach this all the time to my clients. I must confess, since my last child was born 21 months ago, I have let this slide. But after this weekend, I am reminded of its importance and am committed to not letting it go this long again.
I’m sure if you reading this and are not in a marriage, I have lost you by now. But if not, I want you to think about your relationships- friendships, family, your kids. What could you do to recharge those batteries as well? Have a cellphone free day with the kids and take them to the park! Spend the day shopping with your Mom. Or hey, what about your relationship with yourself? You could use a day in the park, on a blanket, reading a book. Or a day at the spa would feed your soul!
We are all in relationships and they all can use a re-charge! I’m so grateful I recharged mine this weekend. What can you do to recharge yours today?
Written by Natalie Chandler
Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville