We all have them. We like them, we hate them. We welcome them, we push them away. Good, bad. Happy, sad…. Feelings.
Our problem isn’t our feelings. It’s how we manage them. They are part of life- no way around it. We were created with feelings. Our feelings tell us something is up.
Happiness tells us things are well. We are enjoying life or a circumstance.
Sadness tells us we have lost something or someone. Or other unfortunate events have influenced our feelings.
Anger lets us know something doesn’t feel right- we are hurt, scared, or frustrated. We need to deal with those painful feelings.
Feelings are within us, meant to be listened to.
So why do we try to fight them away? So much of our energy goes in making them disappear. I wonder if we just learned to manage them, instead of them controlling us- I wonder if we would feel different. We could acknowledge them, feel them as they come and then let them go (repeat cycle as necessary). Then we would have more energy to do what we are in control of to change our circumstances (when this is possible- sometimes it’s not).
I wonder if our negative feelings would not be as strong if we didn’t fight so hard.
With anger- accepting that it is natural and discover what is underneath to manage it.
Sadness- allow ourselves the permission to grieve a loss or feel disappointed.
Happiness- living in the moment, savoring every morsel of it- and purposely working to create more.
I want to encourage you to not run from your feelings or use up too much energy to change them (when you can’t).
Do something to change it (if you can).
This is managing them rather than letting them control you.
Thank you for reading and have a great day.
Written by Natalie Chandler
Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville