As a marriage therapist, losing a couple to divorce is like a Dr. who has helped a patient thru a long term illness and then loses them to the illness. It is so sad. You want to keep telling them to fight harder and longer, yet you understand how hard they have already fought and understand the fatigue. It is just sad and difficult.
Always ask yourself when you are planning to leave:
Can I look myself in the mirror and say that I turned every possible stone?
If divorce was not an option and I HAD to stay in this marriage, what would I do to make it better?
Whatever you do, don’t give up before seeing a professional, QUALIFIED therapist. You never know what you might learn and find out about yourself and your relationship.