So what’s the climate when you’re around? Is it nice, peaceful, and calm? Or is it chaotic, anxiety provoking, and full of turmoil? I think about this sometimes when I am around certain friends or family members. It’s like I prepare myself with my “raincoat” to shield myself from “the storm”. Know what I mean? Or I feel myself get anxious and try to gain some control when someone that is a tornado is coming thru.
I think it’s important to recognize what we are like to be around. I am not saying that we need to be what everyone else wants us to be or to be happy happy all the time. I just mean in general, what’s it like to be around you? Do people walk away feeling good and energized or drained and negative. How do people dress around you? Do they armour themselves to shield themselves from flying objects (hurtful words) or can they relax in a t-shirt, shorts, and flip-flops? If it’s the former, you may want to try working on what makes you that way. Are you overly anxious, depressed, addicted? Might be time to work on some things so the weather’s not so nasty!
*Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville.