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Remember that classic phrase found on stickers on VHS tapes and as part of the Blockbuster marketing campaign. This phrase is one my kids will never know or understand due to advancements in technology.
But stop and think about the message this phrase sent. As a young child, I was forced to STOP and THINK about the consequences of my actions and how it would affect other people. If I wasn’t kind by rewinding the video tape, I would be fined. A worker would have to take the time to rewind it or the next customer would have to.
Just that sticker on the video tape caused me to step outside of myself and do something to help someone else out. What a valuable reminder!
It is also telling that as a society there was a fine for not doing your part and “showing kindness”. What happened to those days when there were negative results and fines for being unkind? Although there are still threads of this that do exist today, the times have surely changed more away from it.
We now live in a world where people are so entitled to do and get what they want when and how the want it that we often forget to “be kind”. We loose sight that our desires might have a negative ripple affect on others. We get so focused on “I” that we miss the opportunity of “We and Us” as a positive in life.
I encourage you to revisit the Golden Rule, “Do to others as you would want them to do to you.” Using this as a guide in life will help you step out of this entitled world and into a world that still sees the value in “Be kind…Please rewind”. Doing this can bring on a whole different quality of life that is much more fulfilling and enjoyable!
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.
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Hope is a powerful emotion. It gives us a sense that there is life outside the craziness around us.
At some point… a horrible day ends…the fight gets resolved… the illness might get cured… a new job is offered… he does graduate from high school… and you will stop crying.
I know in the midst of the pain, it seems that all hope is lost. Your tunnel vision sinks in and all the voices become mumbles.
It might seem pointless to believe that the pain will stop. You might not be able to control the situation, but you do get to control what you do with the situation.
I encourage you to find hope from your pain. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Look for it. Cling to it.
Sometimes it just takes you looking for the hope and noticing it is right there with you along the way. It is what helps you get out of bed, helps you take the next step, and find the tiniest ounce of pleasure as you go through the pain. When you believe it is there, you will find it.
Be kind to those around you- you might give them the hope they are looking for to find the light at the end of the tunnel.
Keep searching for the hope…it will be what keeps you going and not stuck in the pain. I wish you all hope on life’s crazy journey!
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.
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I recently read a blog on generis.com that struck me as I learned a good lesson about greed and the dangers of holding on to something too long from baboons! Here is a segment of their blog:
“A television documentary on animal life in Africa was demonstrating how the natives of Africa have learned to find water during the dry season. A native first located a colony of baboons. Certain that the baboons were watching, the African dug a small hole in a dirt embankment. He then placed a handful of fruit inside.
Baboons, it seems, are incurably curious, so as soon as the native returned into the jungle, one baboon quickly approached the hole. Seeing the fruit inside, the baboon stuck his hand into the hole and grasped the tasty morsel. The African hunter had skillfully carved the hole just large enough to allow the animal’s hand to enter but, when clasped around the fruit, the hand could not be withdrawn.
The native then returned from the concealment of the forest with a small rope in his hands. Amazingly, as the man approached, the baboon shrieked in terror but refused to release the fruit and run for its life. I found myself moving to the edge of my chair as this drama unfolded. I expected the animal to bolt and run for its life but, incredulously, the native casually strolled up to the panic-stricken animal, laid the noose over the animal’s neck, and pulled him away.
The animal was then tied to a tree, given salt, and held captive for a couple of days without water. As soon as it was released, the baboon made a beeline for its secret waterhole. The native simply followed the thirst-driven animal and found the water he would never have found without the animal’s unwitting assistance.” (See source below)
Do you relate to the baboon? Do you find yourself holding on to things so tightly that you put yourself in harms way because you are scared to let go?
Sometimes in life we have to let go and lean into change in order to protect and save ourselves. Remember you can’t control anything but yourself. Learn from the baboon’s mistakes and start letting go of dangerous things in your life!
Source: http://generis.com/blog/2012/05/21/what-a-baboon-taught-me-about-greed/
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.
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I meet weekly with my coworkers to discuss office business, to staff cases, and a little bit of catching up on each others personal lives. This time is important for all of us to touch base and stay connected in the midst of managing our busy practices.
Do you do this regularly in your relationship?
The busyness of life can get away from people and cause them to loose connection. You might even find yourself rationalizing why you aren’t sharing as much with your spouse because you feel they don’t understand you or what is going on with you and they have missed too much.
This is a DANGEROUS slippery slope that can end in major issues in the relationship, even a break up and divorce.
Jim Burns from HomeWord Center for Youth and Family (a faith based organization) suggests you do a weekly check in meeting as a couple and follow his outline below:
“1. Review your recent quiet-times and devotional life.
2. Share your greatest joy of the week.
3. Share your greatest struggle of the week.
4. Share an affirmation of your spouse.
5. Share a wish or a hope for yourself or your family.
6. Share physical goals for yourself.
7. Pray Together.”
Regardless if you practice a faith or not, I think Jim’s outline for a weekly meeting is a good start. Notice that 5 out of the 7 points starts with the word “SHARE”. If you want to get closer to your partner and feel an intimate connection again, start with sharing what’s going on with you at least weekly. This step in prevention will reap positive benefits!
* Source: Jim Burns from Homeword http://www.homeword.com/outline-weekly-meeting-couples-ta-a-1006.html?rmmf=MjE3OSw1MzY2ODQsMA==
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.
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