Do you have your partner’s back when it comes to the kids? Are you a united front?
There have been many times in our 4 years of parenting that my husband and I have stood firm together as a team. We have each others back and tag the other one in when we need back up or relief.
It feels more secure to have a teammate when it comes to shaping these sweet little lives. There are SO many questions along the parenting journey that deserve to be analyzed and discussed together rather than decided by one person.
I encourage you to embrace the “US” concept of parenting with your spouse. Have regular talks and pick each others brains about what you need and are encountering along the way.
Make sure you keep your stance together in front of the kids-even if you disagree. Discuss the conflict about the kids and discipline behind closed doors in order to not give them any ammo to use to manipulate. Kids are masters at using the tiny things they pick up on toward their advantage and get their way. Dividing the parents can help their cause.
It is ok to say “I’ll let you know when your dad and I talk and decide.” This shows that you are talking and value making parenting decisions together.
Having a united front as parents is vital to remaining sane and to a more enjoyable parenting experience. In order to, you have to increase the communication and “over share” the details to stay on the same page. You don’t want your teammate to be left out of any puzzle pieces when making decisions.
Set a time for your next “parenting meeting” today! The investment of this time can have powerful dividends!
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW, LCAC is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.
