Sometimes it can be hard to accept help from others. Especially if you’re like me and take pride in being independent and self-sufficient. But, I received a very good lesson in re-framing this difficulty of accepting help by turning it into accepting blessings from others. Let me explain.
I was taking a class through my church, but one specific week, I had to attend the class at a different location. I didn’t know anyone, and had never been to this particular church before. During the break of the class, there was a display selling fair-trade products helping a charity in Africa. I decided to purchase a hand lotion and as I tried to pay for it, the lady accepting the money couldn’t make change because the only bill I had to pay for the lotion was too large.
We went back and forth: Do you accept checks? “No”. Will you be here next week to give me correct change? “No.” Hmmm. We didn’t know what to do.
A lady standing next to me had heard the entire exchange. She grabbed my arm and said, “I’ll buy the lotion for you”. My first response was “No, I can’t let you do that.” She insisted. I insisted again it wasn’t necessary. She then said something that spoke directly to my heart. She looked me dead in the eye and said, “Will you let me bless you?!”
Have you ever had those moments? Those times when someone says something that grabs a hold of you? If I had been reading in a book, this would have been one of those times when I would have grabbed my highlighter and soaked the page in yellow.
I had to take a deep breath but I said “Yes, thank you.” I gave her a hug and squeezed tightly. This was a lesson I desperately needed to be taught. I love how God speaks through people – even strangers – to get through to us. I doubt this woman knew the depths of her words & the impact they had for me.
When someone is offering their help, I choose now to see it as a blessing, rather than feeling guilty that someone is offering to help me. Don’t get me wrong, it’s still a struggle, but I talk myself through it. I’m more open to others offering to buy me lunch, do favors for me, or even greater and bigger things. I’m able to say “thank you, I appreciate it”, rather than turn away the blessing that’s being bestowed on me.
How about you? What blessings do you need to start accepting from others?