IHCG – Tammy Wilhelm's Blog
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I love watching the (now) syndicated show “Golden Girls”. My old roomate in college got me watching it, and I’ve been hooked for the last 10 years. I love the togetherness, love and laughs the women share together. We all need a Blanche, Rose, Dorothy & Sophia in our lives…seriously! Having someone in our lives with whom we can share our feelings, thoughts, fears and daily happenings with gives us more benefits than we realize. Having friendships is good for our mental health. Friendships:
- increase our sense of social belonging
- support positive mental health
- raise our self-esteem
It saddens me when I hear individuals speak about how they don’t have anyone in their life that they can call a friend, or someone in their life that they don’t trust enough to let in all the way. Like all relationships, friendships take work and require time spent working on them. I’m very blessed to have great friends, and a best friend with whom I can share anything with and know I’ll be accepted.
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.
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I like listening to the announcers Len & Bob of the Chicago Cubs. Not only are they funny & down-to-earth, they are informational and educational. When you watch the game, they tell you why a play was made a certain way. If the play was made at 1st base instead of 2nd, they’ll tell you why, when generally you know you want to get the lead runner out first. They tell you why the players do what they do in a way that makes sense. (And if they’re not telling me, my husband is!)
I realized today as I’m watching the game, this is exactly what we do as therapists as we listen (or watch) the telling of an argument or incident of our clients. We explain why defense isn’t always appropriate and offer a different gameplan for our clients in a way that makes sense. And, we always encourage “friendly confines”. How about it? Play ball!
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.
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It pains me to see the devastation a divorce creates. Whether a divorce is handled in a civil way or in a “I’m going to fight you every step of the way” manner, it creates so many emotions….and I’m just talking about the adults here!
Dreams not yet realized are lost & memories once shared feel sad. Whatever brings a couple to the decision of divorce, the same feelings can be stirred…depression, sadness, anger, regret, shame, insecurity or fear.
It also pains me to see how people handle these feelings. Too often we see people coping with feelings of divorce by lashing out, isolating, doing an addictive behavior, or rushing too quick into another relationship. If you find yourself facing a divorce, our hearts go out to you.
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.
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My little brother graduated from high school a few weeks ago. He was dreading the day, you could just see it on his face and hear it in his voice. Aside from the aches that come from pitching a baseball game the night before, he had an awful headache and didn’t really want to get out of bed that day. I kept thinking to myself,”Boy, you don’t even know how great college is going to be and how much life you have ahead of you!”
I kept thinking back to when I graduated from high school and how I didn’t think I was going to survive without my girlfriends and my small hometown. Guess what? I survived. Then when I graduated from college I couldn’t fathom how I was going to survive without seeing my roomate everyday and that college campus, and then with graduate school how was I going to possibly find a job when I had been in school for 24 years and start working? Guess what? I survived.
And then….when my dad died. I really didn’t know how I was going to make it. How was I going to function? I’ll be honest, it wasn’t easy, but I did it. But I didn’t do it alone. It took family, friends, and most importantly God to get me thru that terrible time. Out of all of this I’ve realized that whether it’s a life change or a life-altering experience, there’s nothing that God hasn’t equipped me to survive thru it.
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.
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When I was telling my husband about our decision to start blogging, we were on our way to dinner. He was driving, & for the first time ever, I think he was actually listening:) He almost ran a red light and missed the turn into the restaurant. “What is going on?” I asked, to which he replied, “I’m listening to you, and I’m not paying attention to what I’m doing.”
It reminded me of the many times I’m in the car driving & I arrive at my destination & I don’t know how I got there….I was on “auto-pilot” the entire time. Other than driving, how often do I/we do this in life? How many years have passed in marriages where two people are on auto-pilot and suddenly one of them “wakes up” and realizes 2, 5, 10 years have passed and no goals have been met or intimate time spent together? Or, parents who have been on auto-pilot with their children & promises they’ve made secretly to themselves when their children were 3 years old to do this or that with their child are still promises as they now look into the eyes of their 11 year old?
In that brief car ride with my husband I realized how easy it is to get distracted and focus on other things in life than to stay in the moment & be present with our loved ones. And, I did share all of this with him, versus going on auto-pilot with & not being present during dinner:)
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.
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