A few weeks ago some of us from Imagine Hope attended the Women of Faith Conference. It was wonderful event and rejuvenating for our souls. One of the speakers, Henry Cloud, spoke of having a “monkey” (aka, friend) with you when you do things in your life. The concept is that having friends helps you handle emotional and physical hurdles better than handling them alone. My coworker Natalie wrote a blog on this as well http://www.imaginehopecounseling.com/nkcblog/?p=559.
One of the first memories that came to mind as I listened to Dr. Cloud speak was my honeymoon. My husband loves water and loves to swim and snorkel. I, on the other hand, feel safest on the beach, on a towel, observing the water. I had promised my husband I’d grab some snorkeling gear and look around with him, but I just couldn’t do it.
It just so happened towards the end of our honeymoon week that some friends were going to be coming onto the same island we were vacationing on, and we were going to meet up. I decided to try snorkeling again, and with my friend by my side, I was able to do it. She went at my pace, talked me through it, and was there with me the whole time. I never felt alone, and I was so appreciative of her patience. If it hadn’t been for my “monkey”, I would have never gotten in that water!
I’m grateful & blessed that I have many different “monkeys” in my life. Who are the “monkeys” in yours? If you struggle to answer this question, then I encourage you to start developing a stronger connection with someone who is already in your life so that they can become a great friend. All it takes to start is asking, ”How are you really doing today?” Life is more joyous when we can share it with others.
Thank you for reading!
Written by: Tamara Wilhelm MA, LMHC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counselingat Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.