My husband loves playing golf. And boy do I mean love. The first day the temperature is over 50 degrees and the golf-course is open, he’s playing. By the time March rolls around, he’s probably been out 10 times already, weather permitting.

I don’t play golf. I don’t enjoy golf. I’ll watch football, baseball and basketball all day long. But golf? Ugh. I can find better things to do with 4 hours of my precious time.

However, a couple of times a year, I end up on a golf course. And it’s the best time in the world. Really.

You see, it’s such a passion of my husbands, that there are times when he wants to share that passion with me. When he asks, “Do you want to go golfing with me today?”, I know this is a great opportunity to spend some quality time with him. He doesn’t ask often because he knows I don’t enjoy golf. But I go because I know he wants me there and it’s one his love languages. So, I’ll ride along in the golfcart, make fun of his swing (ha!) and hunt for that little white ball like it’s an Easter egg.

Don’t get me wrong, we have lots of things we generally do together, but sometimes couples need to “cross-over” and do things you wouldn’t normally do with your spouse. Doing things your significant other likes to do shows you’re invested in them. It also shows you’re not just interested in or only care about the things you personally enjoy.

And, if my husband were to write a similar blog it would say, “Sometimes You Have to Sit in the Theatre Chair”.

Written by: Tamara Wilhelm MA, LMHC

*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counselingat Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.