The Smothering Relationship
Picture two people hugging, attached at the hip, never far apart from the other at any time. Feel suffocated? I bet!
This type of relationship is typically seen in teenage & high school relationships. You might have even felt this way for a little bit when you first met your significant other.
The messages sent in this relationship are “I cannot live without you” or “I want to spend the rest of my life with you” or “It feels so good to be so close to you”.
Most love relationships start off this way. However, they slowly move out of the smothering stage as they develop and change into relationships where privacy is valued and where you do things alone as an individual. But, when you are so close to someone like you are in this smothering type of relationship, there is not enough space to grow because you’re too close to the other person too much of the time.
Are we saying couples should not be close? No. We’re saying couples that are this close all/most of the time will find that the relationship will start to feel uncomfortable/unfulfilled and a person may start to feel trapped and suffocated.
Are you relating to this smothering relationship? If so, you might want to read our article on Enmeshment. You can read it by clicking here.
Obviously this is not the type of relationship we encourage. On Friday Joleen is going to discuss the healthy type of relationship that couples can work towards that brings happiness, fulfillment and peace. Thank you for reading. Tomorrow Alexa will discuss Pedestal Relationships and Master/Slave Relationships…sounds interesting!
Written by: Tamara Wilhelm MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.