Today we will finish up with this weeks blog series on the reasons for teen misbehavior. Have you recognized any of these reasons so far this week?
Reason #7: Misuse of power from forces outside of the parents
It is difficult for your teen to respect you if you are handing over parenting tasks to other people or things to “fix” your child, without doing equal work yourself. Whether it’s a counselor or therapist, teacher, principle, another parent, a “boot camp” for teens, medications, a psychiatrist or doctor, or any other person or professional, if you are looking to outside forces to “fix” your teen behavior without working on the relationship yourself, chances are, the changes are less likely to be lasting.
This doesn’t mean that it’s inappropriate to get help with parenting– which is far from the truth! Parenting is one of the most difficult tasks we are given! It just means that looking towards something to be a “quick fix” or a “magic solution”, quickly becomes a double-edged sword. Your teen may change as a result of these things mentioned above, but the same problems are likely to start up again at home if the changes don’t begin with you as a parent. This means teaching your child to respect and obey you as a parent.
Remember, there is strength in numbers and it truly takes a village to raise a child. Utilize outside help to assist you in parenting– just don’t use it as a replacement for parenting.
We hope this week’s blog has been helpful! Please check back with us next week!
Adapted from Scott Sells book, “How To Parent Your Out-Of-Control Teenager”.
Joleen Watson, MS, NCC, is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. She enjoys doing marriage counseling, relationship counseling, couples counseling, and individual counseling. Imagine Hope also specializes in family, child and adolescent counseling and serves Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield, and Fishers.