It feels like we are baking a cake this week with all these “ingredients” But isn’t that kind of how relationships are? If the ingredients are nasty, the cake is nasty. If they are great, the cake is the bomb! So let’s get more wonderful ingredients into your relationship recipe!
Ingredient #8 Trust- This is deciding how much or how little we are going to allow our partner or friend to know about us. Trust takes time to build. The better the relationship is and the more trustworthy a person is, the more trust they will gain. However, if the person is not someone you can believe, rely on, or feel emotionally safe with, trust will be harder to obtain.
Ingredient #9 Empathy- Empathy is being able to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and considering their point of view from where they are at. Notice I didn’t say “agreeing”. Many people confuse this. It is simply trying to understand them. Why might they think this way? Where are they coming from? How might this be true for them?
Ingredient #10 Vulnerability- Being vulnerable in a relationship is deciding to let down your barriers and walls. It is letting that person know things about you that they need to know but things that might be difficult to share. It’s about feeling safe emotionally and physically and because you feel safe, you share. You share yourself, your thoughts and feelings, and allow the other person into your “inner life”. It is a wonderful feeling of true emotional intimacy when this is shared between two people.
Hopefully you are adding to your cabinet of ingredients to put into your relationship recipe. I hope yours is delicious! Thank you for reading and we will see you tomorrow as Joleen shares the last secret ingredients!
Written by Natalie Chandler
Natalie Chandler, MA, LMHC is a therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Natalie enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, and couples counseling. We also specialize in family counseling, child, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Westfield, and Zionsville