Get An Outside Perspective
Sometimes we get held back by our own line of thinking which can pose some limitations. Seeking the feedback and advice of others can open up new avenues and options we possibly would not have considered before.
We can become limited in what we believe is possible of our situation, or limited in how we believe others will react to us. Often when we’re concerned about a certain decision or situation, we do what professionals call the “crystal ball technique”. This happens when we believe we can predict how others will react to us or how the situation will play out. We have to keep in mind that although humans have patterns, we cannot predict how others will react to us in every situation.
The healthy option here is to search for an outside perspective so you can see things from someone else’s viewpoint, consider options you may not have thought about, brainstorm options together, and role play.
Please check back in as we have several more suggestion to help you ask for what you want. Thank you for reading!
*Source – How to Ask for What You Want by Jane Herman
Written by: Tamara Wilhelm MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.