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- How Can You Help With Your Treatment of Postpartum Depression? by: joleenwatson
May 17, 2013, 05:09
To help the treatment from your provider work better, there are several things that you can do on your own: Stay healthy and fit: Do somthing active…
- What Kind of Unglued Are You? The Stuffer Who Collects Retaliation Rocks by: joleenwatson
April 19, 2013, 12:06
The Stuffer Who Collects Retaliation Rocks What do you do with your feelings about small (and not-so-small) situations that happen in your marriage? Do…
- What Kind of Unglued Are You? The Stuffer Who Builds Barriers by: nataliechandler
April 17, 2013, 17:48
The Stuffer Who Builds Barriers So what do you do when you have a friend who has said or did something that really hurt you? What about your spouse- do you…
- Spring Book Recommendations- Joleen by: joleenwatson
April 12, 2013, 14:29
The subject of ambiguous loss is a relatively new one to me, as it relates to therapy, but is one that we frequently see with our clients (as well as in our…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Natalie by: nataliechandler
March 28, 2013, 04:31
The 3 most common mistakes I see couples make are the following: 1. Making a lot of assumptions about what the other partner is thinking. I see this a…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Tammy by: joleenwatson
March 26, 2013, 05:00
*Fighting about too many things at once - It’s hard to follow a disagreement when you’re fighting about this, that, & the kitchen sink. Stick to one…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Teri by: tericlaassen
March 17, 2013, 08:58
As therapists we see big issues in relationships start from a small mistake and grow into a bigger issue. Conquering the small issues is good prevention and…
- Signs of Hidden Anger: 18-23 by: joleenwatson
February 22, 2013, 05:00
So far, we have seen 17 different signs that can tell you if you might have hidden anger. As Natalie and Tammy have shared, many of them can mimic signs of…
- The Five Levels of Intimacy: 5-My Needs, Emotions & Desires by: joleenwatson
February 15, 2013, 06:38
As we have previously discussed, there are five main levels of intimacy in relationships. When beginning to date, or when working on rebuilding a relationship…
- Love Knot: The Judge by: joleenwatson
February 1, 2013, 14:26
We all want to have our parnter be our biggest listener and support system when something is going wrong in life (and even when it isn't!). But what happens…
- Love Knot-If You Really Loved Me by: joleenwatson
January 29, 2013, 06:48
Now that you know what a "Love Knot" is, we will be spending this week talking about some of the most popular ones that we see our clients get stuck in. …
- How to Rebuild Trust by: nataliechandler
January 24, 2013, 06:21
Rebuilding trust is very difficult and takes a lot of time. I think the most difficult part of working with people that have lied or have been untrustworthy…
- Saving Your Marriage Before Giving Up-5 by: joleenwatson
January 11, 2013, 11:29
All week we have been talking about the importance of addressing issues and identifying “hot buttons” in your marriage. Today I’m going to talk about…
- Saving Your Marriage Before Giving Up-4 by: nataliechandler
January 10, 2013, 07:28
As Alexa mentioned yesterday, there are certain reasons you get so upset with your spouse. One of them is your hot buttons. It is important to identify what…
- Saving Your Marriage Before Giving Up-3 by: alexa griffith
January 9, 2013, 09:55
Before you give up on your marriage, it is important to isolate and identify what is making you feel so upset. Why Do You Get Upset? Are you feeling…
- Saving Your Marriage Before Giving Up-2 by: tamarawilhelm
January 8, 2013, 05:00
3 Reasons you don't want to give up in your marriage: 1. Some research shows if you have patience, your marriage will take a turn for the better. Note: This…
- Saving Your Marriage Before Giving Up-1 by: tericlaassen
January 7, 2013, 04:17
It is sad to say that the following are America's divorce rates: 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce,…
- Danger of Being in an Enmeshed Relationship by: joleenwatson
November 9, 2012, 12:58
By now, you are aware of what "enmeshment" is and how to know if you are in an enmeshed relationship (see earlier blog posts this week). What are the…
- The Masks We Wear... Counterdependency by: joleenwatson
November 2, 2012, 08:27
This week, as a tribute to the Halloween season, we are talking about masks. Every day we can unknowingly put on different masks that hide us from various…
- Feelings and Defenses 5 by: joleenwatson
October 19, 2012, 06:15
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing how defenses can be used to mask or avoid feelings, especially the feelings of anger, sadness, fear, loneliness, shame…
- Feelings and Defenses 4 by: nataliechandler
October 18, 2012, 05:34
As we are talking this week about defensive behaviors that cover our primary feelings, it is imperative that we chat about the "quiet behaviors". These are…
- Non-Traditional Addictions- Busy Addiction by: joleenwatson
October 12, 2012, 06:30
Do you ever find it difficult to sit still and just "be" without having to do something "productive" with your time? Does idle time without having a…
- Facebook and Your Marriage- Tips by: joleenwatson
October 5, 2012, 13:50
Keep good boundaries when using Facebook. Don't friend people you used to date or have romantic feelings towards. This is important because it can easily…
- Fall Book Recommendations: Why Does He Do That? by: joleenwatson
September 15, 2012, 07:40
Why Does He Do That?, by Lundy Bancroft is a straightforward book about being in an abusive relationship and abusive men. Bancroft challenges the myth that…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent- Negative Control by: tericlaassen
September 3, 2012, 10:14
Codependency is unhealthy love and a tendency to behave in overly passive or excessively caretaking ways that negatively impact one’s relationships and…
- Counterdependency- Characteristics Part 2 by: nataliechandler
August 30, 2012, 16:29
On Tuesday, Tamara gave us great descriptions of 4 of the 7 characteristics of Counterdependency: Grandiose, Not knowing/respecting boundaries of others,…
- Counterdependency Characteristics Part 1 by: tamarawilhelm
August 28, 2012, 05:00
Yesterday Teri introduced us to Jim, a sharp-tongued workaholic who seems very self-involved. Sound familiar? Maybe you have a parent, sibling, friend, boss,…
- How To Create Fireworks in Your Marriage- Dream by: joleenwatson
August 17, 2012, 06:02
Dream Together! Many couples begin their dating relationship full of dreams for their future, but once the marriage has become comfortable, they stop…
- How to Create Fireworks In Your Marriage - It matters when you're apart by: tamarawilhelm
August 14, 2012, 05:00
Ever receive a small gift or thank-you note unexpectedly? Remember how special it felt to receive it? The same applies in marriage too. Let your spouse know…
- How to Create Fireworks In Your Marriage- Date Each Other by: tericlaassen
August 13, 2012, 02:51
The beginning of relationships can feel like fireworks. The passion, the desire to see them and talk to them, and the drug like euphoria are all common parts…
- The Five Freedoms: Taking Risks by: joleenwatson
August 3, 2012, 06:20
Freedom #5: To take risks in one's own behalf instead of choosing to be only "secure" and not rocking the boat. We have all probably been in a situation…
- Myths About Love- Love and Anger Are Incompatible by: joleenwatson
July 20, 2012, 05:38
Myth #7: Love and Anger are Incompatible Many people believe that if you really love someone, that means you never get angry at them. Or perhaps you…
- Myths About Love- Falling in Love and Exclusiveness by: alexa griffith
July 18, 2012, 00:30
Myth #4 -We fall in and out of love. To watch movies or read romance novels, one would believe that love is something that happens to us, not something we…
- Myths About Love- It's Eternal by: tericlaassen
July 16, 2012, 04:24
People love love. Romance can be like a drug to many. But the danger of this is that people don't truly understand what love is. They bring misconceptions…
- 4 Ways to Tear Apart A Relationship- Stonewalling by: joleenwatson
July 6, 2012, 19:26
Very few people actually enjoy conflict, and it's natural to sometimes feel stuck during a fight. Maybe you are struggling with what to say, or perhaps you…
- 4 Ways to Tear Apart A Relationship- Defensiveness by: nataliechandler
July 5, 2012, 11:53
#3 Defensiveness We are probably all guilty of getting defensive at one time or another in our relationships. It's a natural feeling to want to defend…
- 4 Ways to Tear Apart A Relationship- Contempt by: tamarawilhelm
July 3, 2012, 05:00
#2 Contempt In his book, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail, John Gottman describes contempt as the intention to insult and psychologically abuse your partner.…
- 4 Ways to Tear Apart A Relationship- Criticism by: tericlaassen
July 2, 2012, 02:22
Imagine Hope is in the relationship repairing business. Which means we see a lot of people come to us with bad habits that need undone in order for the…
- Tips to Make Sex More Fulfilling- Joleen by: joleenwatson
June 22, 2012, 18:07
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing different tips for how you can make your sex life more fulfilling. Have fun and be more playful. Sex doesn't have to…
- Characteristics of A Healthy Father- Protection by: joleenwatson
June 15, 2012, 11:24
In honor of Father's Day, this week Imagine Hope is talking about some characteristics of a healthy father. Do any of the characteristics from this week…
- 13 Essential Ingredients To A Healthy Relationship 11-13 by: joleenwatson
June 8, 2012, 07:50
This week, Imagine Hope is going over the different ingredients that are needed to have a healthy relationship-- whether it's with a spouse, co-worker, friend,…
- How to Get Through to A Man 5 by: joleenwatson
April 27, 2012, 19:47
Today we finish up with this weeks blog topic, adapted from W. Bruce Cameron's article (reference below). What do you think of the tips so far? "What a…
- How to Get Through to a Man 4 by: nataliechandler
April 26, 2012, 10:15
If you are just catching up with us this week, we are talking about how to get through to a man. We've adapted it from W. Bruce Cameron's article (see below…
- How to Get Through To A Man 1 by: tericlaassen
April 23, 2012, 06:18
Let's face it, women AND men are hard to understand sometimes. If only we could read each others minds, it would be so much easier! There are some specific…
- Healthy Sexual Intimacy after Sexual Addiction by: joleenwatson
April 13, 2012, 05:26
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing sexual addiction and what healthy sexual intimacy looks like after sexual addiction has been identified in a relationship.…
- Relationships: Intimate vs. Addictive- 4 by: nataliechandler
March 29, 2012, 04:45
Hopefully this week you have been able to identify if your relationship is healthy/intimate or has more addictive characteristics. Being in an addictive type…
- Relationships: Intimate vs. Addictive- 1 by: tericlaassen
March 26, 2012, 05:32
Many clients dance the line in their relationships between achieving emotional intimacy and being addicted to the relationship. The key to an emotionally…
- What Does It Mean to "Let Go"? -5 by: joleenwatson
March 22, 2012, 21:33
"Letting Go" is a popular topic in recovery from many things-- childhood issues, addictions, codependency, and unhealthy relationships, just to name a few. …
- Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce 5 by: joleenwatson
March 9, 2012, 15:09
10. Evaluate your relationships and make whatever life adjustments you feel are necessary. During a divorce, you might encounter many "Monday Morning…
- Basic Human Needs- Sexuality by: joleenwatson
March 2, 2012, 06:21
Sometimes, it's difficult to see sexuality or sex as a human need. Many times in marriage, we tend to think of it as a "perk" or a benefit... or a want,…
- Basic Human Needs- Touch by: joleenwatson
February 27, 2012, 04:55
All of us have basic needs that make us feel fulfilled in our lives. Some of these needs are critical to our survival as a child (such as safety and…
- Dealing With Difficult People- The Know-it-all by: joleenwatson
February 24, 2012, 21:03
Do you have a difficult person in your life? Perhaps it's a boss, or a relative-- or maybe a co-worker... or even a spouse! This week, Imagine Hope is…
- Let's Talk About Love- Agape by: joleenwatson
February 17, 2012, 15:48
In honor of Valentine's week, this week Imagine Hope is discussing the different kinds of love. Today is one of the most incredible forms of love-- Agape…
- Do You Have a Healthy Love Relationship? by: joleenwatson
February 10, 2012, 11:09
Picture two people standing side by side, each reaching for the other's hand: This is a healthy love relationship. A healthy love relationship…
- Do you have a Boarding House or Martyr Relationship? by: nataliechandler
February 9, 2012, 06:58
The Boarding House Relationship Picture two people linked together by their elbows, with their backs to each other. This is the Boarding House Relationship.…
- Do You Have An "A-Frame Dependency" Relationship? by: tericlaassen
February 6, 2012, 06:21
Love and relationships are a big focus this time of year as we approach Valentine's Day. In honor of the upcoming day, we will be sharing about many types of…
- Talks To Have Before Getting Married: Conflict Styles and Common Interests by: joleenwatson
February 4, 2012, 06:01
If you are presently engaged to be married, we send you our warmest congratulations! The time of dating and engagement is exciting and promising-- a time where…
- Talks To Have Before Getting Married: Communication Styles by: nataliechandler
February 2, 2012, 04:40
If you are reading this, there is probably a Congratulations in order?? Well congrats! Or you may be a parent or friend, reading this to pass along the…
- Talks to Have Before Getting Married: Love Style by: alexa griffith
February 1, 2012, 07:59
What is your partners's love style? Have you ever been with your partner and you feel like you are expressing a lot of love but your s/he does not seem to…
- Talks to Have Before Getting Married: Relationship Rules by: tamarawilhelm
January 31, 2012, 03:00
Whether you realize it or not, you have relationship rules and role expectations. It's how we believe things are going to be when we're married. It's how the…
- Talks to Have Before Getting Married: My Expectations by: tericlaassen
January 30, 2012, 11:15
Imagine Hope is getting several calls each week for people who want to save their marriage before it starts! Couples are starting to realize that they need to…
- Flower Messages 2 by: joleenwatson
January 27, 2012, 09:56
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the different types of messages we give to others in our communication-- termed "Garbage Messages" or "Flower Messages". …
- What To Do if You Are Loving Too Much 9-10 by: joleenwatson
January 21, 2012, 06:25
So far, have you used any of this week's blog post suggestions to help with your relationship with yourself? Or, maybe you are wondering "How can you love…
- What to do if you are loving too much 6-8 by: nataliechandler
January 19, 2012, 10:58
As we have been discussing this week, loving too much can be damaging to your relationships and to yourself. It can cause Depression, Anxiety, multiple…
- Are You Loving Too Much? by: tericlaassen
January 16, 2012, 06:04
What? Love TOO much? Is that possible? Yes it is and it can be very damaging for someone when they do. Loving someone is a great thing, but when it crosses…
- Christmas Gifts that Say "I Get You"- Physical Touch & Acts of Service by: joleenwatson
December 9, 2011, 13:55
This week we are reviewing different Christmas gift ideas for your significant other, based on the 5 Love Languages. Do you know your significant other's P…
- Do You Know a Narcissist? 5 by: joleenwatson
November 13, 2011, 14:54
Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be frustrating, overwhelming and challenging. What are some additional signs of destructive narcissism? Hunge…
- The Masks We Wear- Counterdependency by: joleenwatson
October 28, 2011, 08:34
This week, as a tribute to the Halloween season, we are talking about masks. Every day we can unknowingly put on different masks that hide us from various…
- The Masks We Wear- Codependency by: nataliechandler
October 27, 2011, 05:32
This week we are talking about masks we wear to cover up our authentic selves. If you haven't already, feel free to back up and read the other blogs from this…
- Lessons From Inspirational Quotes- Joleen by: joleenwatson
October 21, 2011, 15:14
"Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced." - James Baldwin Most of us have heard the famous 12 step saying…
- Ways to Develop Companionate Love by: joleenwatson
October 14, 2011, 15:57
So, we've all heard the fairy tale endings at some point in our childhood, right? But what really happens after the prince kisses Sleeping Beauty and…
- What Does Companionate Love Look Like? by: tamarawilhelm
October 11, 2011, 05:00
Yesterday Teri gave us two stories describing two very different couples. Can you pick out which couple is displaying Companionate Love? It's Couple #2, Jane…
- Which Story is Companionate Love? by: tericlaassen
October 10, 2011, 05:51
You might ask... What IS companionate love? This week Imagine Hope is going to tell you! But I'm going to keep you guessing for now! Today I'm giving you 2…
- Are You a BAD Communicator? 5 by: joleenwatson
September 23, 2011, 06:15
So far this week, we have heard several characteristics of bad communication. Today we will finish up with three more: 13. Defensiveness is where you…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent-Nonexistent Spirituality by: nataliechandler
August 25, 2011, 05:51
Teri and Tamara have described what having the symptoms of Negative Control and Resentment can create in our lives as Codependents. Today I will discuss how…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent- Negative Contol by: tericlaassen
August 22, 2011, 10:46
Codependency is unhealthy love and a tendency to behave in overly passive or excessively caretaking ways that negatively impact one's relationships and quality…
- Do You Have a "Damaged Love Style"? The Secure Connector by: joleenwatson
August 19, 2011, 07:43
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing how our love styles can impact us in our relationships later in life. Based on the book "How We Love" by Milan and Kay…
- Do You Have a "Damaged Love Style"? Controller and Victim by: nataliechandler
August 18, 2011, 05:18
By now you may have identified some of the ways you love by either being an avoider, a pleaser, or a vacillator. If you are not sure what these types are,…
- Do You Have a “Damaged” Love Style?- Pleaser & Vacillator by: tamarawilhelm
August 16, 2011, 05:00
No one wants to damage their relationship and the way they love each other. Learning these 5 love styles by Milan & Kay Yerkovich can create deeper…
- Do You Have a "Damaged" Love Style?- Avoider by: tericlaassen
August 15, 2011, 04:43
Milan and Kay Yerkovich's book "How We Love" gives us a great picture of how dysfunctional attachments can cause painful patterns in relationships. Their…
- The Difference Between Toxic and Healthy Secrets by: joleenwatson
August 5, 2011, 06:39
So now you know what toxic and healthy secrets look like and how they impact your relationships… How do you know the difference between the two? Here are…
- The Difference Between Healthy and Toxic Secrets by: nataliechandler
August 4, 2011, 05:35
Teri and Tammy have discussed both toxic secrets and healthy secrets, but how do each of them impact our relationships with others? Toxic Secrets: Create…
- 30 Tips to Help with Communication Traps 23-30 by: joleenwatson
July 29, 2011, 10:38
This week, we are discussing the different ways you can work on avoiding communication traps, whether you are the speaker or the listener in communication. …
- 30 Tips to Help with Communication Traps 14-22 by: nataliechandler
July 28, 2011, 04:33
As Therapists, we get the opportunity to be on the outside of conflict, looking in without being emotionally involved. Most of the time, it is easy to see how…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Part 4 by: joleenwatson
July 8, 2011, 05:12
In addition to what Teri, Tammy, and Natalie spoke about in their blogs, here are 3 additional mistakes I see when working with couples: Becoming…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Part 3 by: joleenwatson
July 7, 2011, 05:08
The 3 most common mistakes I see couples make are the following: 1. Making a lot of assumptions about what the other partner is thinking. I see this a lot.…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Part 1 by: joleenwatson
July 5, 2011, 05:05
As therapists we many times see big issues in relationships start from a small mistake and grow into a bigger issue. Conquering the small issues is good…
- Healthy Boundaries and Separateness 4 by: joleenwatson
July 2, 2011, 06:38
Having healthy boundaries and maintaining our own identity is an important part of being healthy individuals-- and being a healthy individual means having…
- Emotional Needs- Domestic Support, Family Commitment, Admiration by: joleenwatson
June 10, 2011, 21:05
If you are finding your "love bank" empty in your relationship, there's a good chance that you or your partner are lacking in one (or more) critical area of…
- Emotional Needs- Honesty/Openness, Attractive Spouse, Financial Support by: nataliechandler
June 9, 2011, 05:40
As you are reading the blogs for the week on Emotional Needs, are you imagining your love tank full or empty? What about your spouse? How would they answer…
- Emotional Needs - Sex, Conversation, & Recreation by: tamarawilhelm
June 7, 2011, 05:00
Teri did a great job yesterday introducing emotional needs and the concept of the "Love Bank". If we don't deposit into each other's emotional accounts, we…
- Emotional Needs- Affection by: tericlaassen
June 6, 2011, 03:42
In Willard Harley's book "His Needs, Her Needs", he includes an Emotional Needs Questionnaire for couples. This book breaks down 10 primary needs that…
- How to Keep Your Sanity: If a Counterdependent Won't Get in Recovery by: nataliechandler
June 3, 2011, 06:53
By now, you have heard the characteristics of Counterdependency. But what do you do if you're in a relationship with one or work with one who refuses…
- Counterdependency Characteristics Part 2 by: nataliechandler
June 2, 2011, 05:19
On Wednesday, Tamara gave us great descriptions of 4 of the 7 characteristics of Counterdependency: Grandiose, Not knowing/respecting boundaries of others,…
- 4 Myths about Affairs - #2 by: tamarawilhelm
May 3, 2011, 11:26
There's no doubt that affairs cause grief, heartache, destruction and pain in relationships. One of the most important things to do when dealing with infidelity…
- 4 Myths about Affairs- #1 by: tericlaassen
May 2, 2011, 03:46
Affairs happen in many relationships. It causes deep pain and destruction for all parties involved with it's ripple effects going much wider than people think.…
- How Do You Handle Conflict? -Collaborating by: joleenwatson
April 22, 2011, 04:00
This week, Imagine Hope therapist's are discussing the different ways we handle conflict. If you haven't gotten the chance to read the earlier blog posts, we…
- Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples 14-18 by: joleenwatson
April 16, 2011, 07:24
This week's blog is focusing on the different characteristics of a dysfunctional couple. Today we will finish up with the final characteristics: 14. It…
- Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples 10-13 by: nataliechandler
April 14, 2011, 05:31
If you are just joining us in our blog this week, please check out Tamara and Teri's previous blogs. We are discussing charateristics of Dysfunctional Couples…
- Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples 1-4 by: tericlaassen
April 11, 2011, 04:17
What does it mean to be a dysfunctional couple? You might be wondering if you're in one! This week we are writing about the characteristics of dysfunctional…
- Emotional Affairs - How it Starts by: tamarawilhelm
March 22, 2011, 05:00
Harry and Sally both worked at Eli Lilly. They were on the IT team together and worked on several projects as a great team. They started going out to lunch to…
- Don't Drive a Relationship Lemon- Detailing by: joleenwatson
March 18, 2011, 14:21
This week, you have learned about how your relationships can be like a car... So far we've talked about how to choose a car, the importance of regular…
- Don't Drive a Relationship Lemon- Warning Lights! by: nataliechandler
March 17, 2011, 05:39
What a fun way to look at a relationship this week! And it's so true. As Tamara talked about maintenance and its importance on Tuesday, I am going to piggyback…
- Are You an Adult Child of Dysfunction? 4 by: joleenwatson
January 21, 2011, 10:47
This week, Imagine Hope Counseling Group is discussing signs of Adult Children of Dysfunction. So far, we have some insightful descriptions. Here are some…
- Communication Using an Internal Boundary 4 by: joleenwatson
January 14, 2011, 13:59
This week we are discussing how to use internal boundaries for better communication. Today we will finish up some tips to help you with internal boundaries…
- Roadblocks to a Healthy Sex Life- 4 by: joleenwatson
November 19, 2010, 08:00
Hopefully, you've had a chance to read our earlier blog posts from this week discussing some of the most common roadblocks to having a healthy sex life! Some…
- Roadblocks to a Healthy Sex Life- 1 by: tericlaassen
November 15, 2010, 06:03
Every relationship deserves to have a healthy sex life. Unfortunately it is hard for many couples to achieve and maintain what they might consider a healthy…
- Pia Melody's Relationship Maxims 19-24 by: joleenwatson
November 5, 2010, 12:56
Today we will finish up with Pia Melody's Relationship Maxims from her book: The Intimacy Factor. These maxim's offer great insight into healthy relationshi…
- Pia Mellody's Relationship Maxims 7-12 by: tamarawilhelm
November 3, 2010, 11:22
In continuance of our blog this week, here are more of Pia Mellody's maxims: 7. Lead your life and see who shows up. When you honor your own personal…
- Pia Mellody's Relationship Maxims 1-6 by: tericlaassen
November 1, 2010, 10:09
Tamara and I had a chance to go to Chicago for a conference a few weeks ago, and while there we heard Pia Mellody speak. Mellody is a true pioneer in the…
- Communication Myths 8-10 by: joleenwatson
October 22, 2010, 21:20
How many communication myths have you noticed so far in your relationships? Today we will finish up with myths 8-10: Myth #8: “For healthy communication…
- Communication Myths 3-5 by: tamarawilhelm
October 19, 2010, 08:32
Teri got us off to a great start yesterday with uncovering some common mis-beliefs in communication. Here are 3 more communication myths individuals and…
- Communication Myths 1-2 by: tericlaassen
October 18, 2010, 08:41
Are you struggling with communication? Do you get frustrated when it feels like your partner and you aren't on the same page? This might mean that you are…
- Recommended Books for the Fall- Joleen by: joleenwatson
September 24, 2010, 08:00
So far, the therapists at Imagine Hope have recommended some great books (and a few that I've already added to my reading "to do" list)! One book that I've…
- What blocks you from working on your issues?-Insight vs. Changes by: joleenwatson
September 10, 2010, 08:00
We all have personal obstacles that block us from growth, and therapy is no exception to this! I am blessed to be working with some individuals and couples…
- What blocks you from working on your issues? Keeping consistent by: nataliechandler
September 9, 2010, 09:50
There are many things that block individuals and couples from working on their issues in therapy. However, the one I see the most is keeping consistent. This…
- What blocks you from working on your issues? Homework? by: tamarawilhelm
September 8, 2010, 05:45
I really like this topic this week. This can be a refresher course for those in therapy, or great preparation for those thinking of joining counseling. These…
- What blocks you from working on your issues? Waiting too long to start by: tericlaassen
September 7, 2010, 03:24
Issues...everyone has them. There's always a little "needs improvement" somewhere in our lives, whether it's in our relationships, with parenting, as an…
- Do you say these things? He/she "makes" me feel.... by: joleenwatson
August 27, 2010, 12:29
Phrase #4: "He/she MAKES me feel...." It's a common myth that others are responsible for our feelings. Let's face it-- Most of us didn't grow up…
- Do You Say These Things?--"Yeah, but..." by: tericlaassen
August 23, 2010, 16:03
As therapist's we hear a lot of dysfunctional phrases from people. Many say things without thinking about the message they are sending. Some will blurt phrases…
- How do you know if you are ready for counseling Part 3 by: nataliechandler
August 19, 2010, 06:38
This week we have been discussing how to know if you are ready for counseling. Have you recognized any of the items Tamara has mentioned this week? So many…
- How do you know you're ready for counseling? Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
August 17, 2010, 11:56
As discussed yesterday, this week we're talking about how to know when you are ready individually or as a couple to begin counseling. For some, that decision…
- How Do You Know You're Ready For Counseling? by: tamarawilhelm
August 16, 2010, 11:51
I recently had the honor of speaking with a former client who shared their gratitude of their experience in therapy a couple of years ago. They explained how…
- The difference between toxic and healthy secrets by: joleenwatson
July 30, 2010, 23:02
So now you know what toxic and healthy secrets look like and how they impact your relationships... How do you know the difference between the two? Here are…
- How toxic and healthy secrets impact our relationships by: joleenwatson
July 29, 2010, 19:04
Teri and Tammy have discussed both toxic secrets and healthy secrets, but how do each of them impact our relationships with others? Toxic Secrets: Create…
- When have you felt most loved? #4 by: joleenwatson
July 25, 2010, 17:11
As Teri and Tammy have mentioned, feeling loved allows us to have SO much to give back to a relationship-- whether romantic, friendship, or family. Each time…
- When have you felt most loved? #3 by: tericlaassen
July 22, 2010, 17:00
Feeling loved is important in all close relationships. It's what draws us into intimacy with a person. If we don't feel loved we will likely hold back and…
- When have you felt most loved? #2 by: tamarawilhelm
July 20, 2010, 11:02
I absolutely love Gary Chapman's concept of the Love Languages. I love teaching it to couples and watch them "get it" as they identify their own language and…
- When have you felt most loved? by: tericlaassen
July 19, 2010, 12:57
Tamara and I were invited to present 2 workshops a few weeks ago at the National Alpha Sigma Alpha Convention. We were honored to present on Positive…
- Forgiveness Tips 2 by: joleenwatson
July 13, 2010, 19:06
The alternative to forgiveness is resentment. Resentment is one of the most toxic things to relationships, and can often times cause irreparable damage. …
- Negative Thinking Patterns Alternatives Part 4 by: joleenwatson
June 27, 2010, 17:15
Here are the last 4 alternate ways of thinking that are healthier and less destructive: 12. Fallacy of Change: You expect that other people will change…
- Negative Thinking Patterns Part 4 by: joleenwatson
June 18, 2010, 17:59
There can be many ways we sabotage our thinking, which result in issues such as marital conflict and communication issues in relationships, depression,…
- Negative Thinking Patterns by: tericlaassen
June 14, 2010, 10:35
Did you know that negative thinking can really impact your life and relationships? Many people don't realize how damaging your mindset can be if it isn't…
- AH-HA! Moments and life changing experiences- Joleen by: joleenwatson
June 12, 2010, 14:57
One of my biggest Ah-ha! moments came shortly after graduate school. In school, we learn about the concept of shame, and how it impacts a person's life (and…
- More Things To Remove From Your Life by: joleenwatson
June 4, 2010, 22:10
What is one definite way to ruin communication, trust and intimacy in your relationships? Passive-Aggressive behaviors and indirect communication. In our…
- More Things to Remove From Your Life by: nataliechandler
June 3, 2010, 05:53
Do you know the definition of insanity? We see it a lot in couples and individuals. It's what many of them need to remove from their life: Doing the same…
- More Things to Remove From Your Life by: tericlaassen
June 2, 2010, 16:13
Thanks Tammy! That is a great example of how a "remodel" can change your outlook in life and relationships. Speaking of a remodel...another thing that is…
- Things You Need To Remove From Your Life by: tamarawilhelm
June 1, 2010, 15:23
If you follow the MLB, you probably already know that in 2008 the Tampa Bay Devil Rays became the Tampa Bay Rays. They removed the "Devil" from their…
- Addictions- Sex by: tericlaassen
May 24, 2010, 16:48
Sex addiction became a popular topic in the media as stories of Tiger Woods' situation continue to break. But many don't really understand what makes something…
- Healthy Love Songs part 4 by: joleenwatson
May 13, 2010, 20:20
I absolutely loved the songs that Teri, Natalie, and Tammy chose for their blogs this week. They all give such great messages about love, and are wonderful…
- Characteristics of Unsafe People part 4 by: joleenwatson
April 30, 2010, 19:26
How many (emotionally) unsafe people have you recognized so far? Here a few more characteristics: 17. Unsafe people confront not to forgive, but to…
- Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries Part 4 by: joleenwatson
April 23, 2010, 13:13
By now, you might have already recognized some ways that you or the people in your life have unhealthy boundaries. Here are a few more to wrap things…
- Healing From an Affair by: joleenwatson
April 17, 2010, 16:26
The Imagine Hope ladies have shared some great statistics and information on infidelity, but what can you do if an affair has already happened? Seek out a…
- Affair Proof Your Marriage by: nataliechandler
April 15, 2010, 06:01
Unfortunately, too many people wait to walk thru our doors once an affair has happened. Although there is hope if an affair has occurred, it is much easier to…
- Are You At Risk For an Affair? by: tamarawilhelm
April 13, 2010, 08:55
If you haven't read Teri's blog yesterday on the statistics of affairs, please read it. The stats are alarming, depressing, sad and scary. It's easy to spiral…
- How to Keep Your Sanity: If a Counterdependent Won't Get in Recovery by: joleenwatson
April 2, 2010, 17:51
By now, you have heard the characteristics of Counterdependency. But what do you do if you're in a relationship with one or work with one who refuses…
- Counterdependency-Characteristics Part 1 by: tamarawilhelm
March 30, 2010, 09:23
Yesterday Teri introduced us to Jim, a sharp-tongued workaholic who seems very self-involved. Sound familiar? Maybe you have a parent, sibling, friend, boss,…
- Counterdependency by: tericlaassen
March 29, 2010, 16:19
Many people are familiar with co-dependency issues, but do not always understand it’s counterpart: The counterdependent. This week we will help you see the…
- Do you fight fair? Tips 16-20 by: joleenwatson
March 5, 2010, 13:28
Teri, Tammy, and Natalie have all shared some great tips so far to fighting fair. Here are a few more to add to your "marital toolbox": 16. Remember…
- Do you fight fair? Tips 11-15 by: nataliechandler
March 4, 2010, 06:28
Are you starting to understand that conflict is normal? It is how you handle it that is important! Have you tried any of the tips so far? Here are 5 more to…
- Do you fight fair? - Tips 6-10 by: tamarawilhelm
March 1, 2010, 21:05
As Teri mentioned, fighting can be healthy, as long as it's done in a respectful way. Conflict can be one of the ways you and another person grow closer. It's…
- What does a Healthy Relationship Look Like? by: tericlaassen
February 8, 2010, 12:41
It's Valentine's week and many people are focused on relationships. So Imagine Hope wants to help you discover what a healthy relationship looks like. This…
- Recognizing and dealing with stress Part 3 by: joleenwatson
January 21, 2010, 19:56
Natalie and Tammy have explained the signs and symptoms of stress, as well as some tips for how to stay healthy during stressful times. Have you gotten past…
- The Imagine Hope Experience Part 4 by: tericlaassen
January 15, 2010, 09:56
As you can see from Natalie, Joleen, and Tamara's blog this week, the Imagine Hope Experience has been carefully thought out from start to finish and is…
- Joleen's 2010 Book Recommendation by: joleenwatson
January 8, 2010, 16:27
There are SO many self-help and personal growth books out there lately, it can be overwhelming and sometimes conflicting to find one giving sound advice that…
- Signs your Marriage is in Trouble Part 4 by: joleenwatson
December 11, 2009, 13:33
Teri, Natalie, and Tammy have shared some insightful ways to learn more about the state of your marriage. Today we will finish up this blog series with a few…
- Signs your Marriage is in trouble Part 3 by: nataliechandler
December 10, 2009, 07:30
Hopefully you have found Teri and Tamara's signs helpful. Have you identified any signs in your relationship yet? Here are a few more: 9. You have same…
- Signs your Marriage is in trouble Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
December 8, 2009, 13:31
Teri got us started yesterday on signs to watch out for that can show a marriage is in trouble. You may read some of these and think, "Duh!" But some of these…
- Signs your marriage is in trouble- Part 1 by: tericlaassen
December 7, 2009, 09:23
Imagine Hope specializes in helping couples build a healthy relationship. Unfortunately many people come to marriage counseling after a lot of damage has been…
- 5 Love Languages by: joleenwatson
November 12, 2009, 21:21
By now, you have read about the other 4 Love Languages: Acts of Service, Gifts, Words of Affirmation, and Physical Touch. The 5th Love Language is Quality…
- 5 Love Languages by: nataliechandler
November 12, 2009, 18:09
Teri and Tamara have described the first three love languages: Acts of Service, Affirmations, and Giving Gifts. Today I want to talk about Physical Touch. Lo…
- 5 Love Languages by: tamarawilhelm
November 10, 2009, 12:55
We're continuing our talk today on how we receive and show love. The next two love languages are: 2. Words of Affirmations. This includes giving verbal…
- 5 Love Languages by: tericlaassen
November 9, 2009, 05:26
This week Imagine Hope is talking about The Five Languages. We all have needs in relationships, and it is important to know what those needs are so you can…
- Tips for Creating Intimacy by: joleenwatson
November 6, 2009, 15:13
Here are our last two tips for creating a deeper level of intimacy with your partner: 9. Flirt with your partner throughout the day! Send text messages…
- Tips for Creating Intimacy by: nataliechandler
November 5, 2009, 07:13
This week we have been giving tips for creating intimacy with your partner. By now maybe you can think of some things to do for your partner that will bring…
- Tips for Creating Intimacy by: tamarawilhelm
November 3, 2009, 12:56
We're continuing our talk on creating intimacy in relationships. It is essential the lines of communication stay open and assumptions be put aside in order for…
- Tips for Creating Intimacy by: tericlaassen
November 2, 2009, 07:08
This week Imagine Hope is focusing on creating intimacy with your partner. Intimacy is more than just sex, it is the deep connection you strive for to feel…
- Tips for Positive Parenting by: joleenwatson
October 30, 2009, 11:47
8. The best way to parent in a positive way is to take care of you. Make sure you get enough rest, good nutrition, and some time for yourself when…
- Emotional Affairs Part 4 by: joleenwatson
October 23, 2009, 17:22
There are many signs of emotional affairs, if you know what to look for. While these signs can also be related to other life issues, as well as physical or…
- Emotional Affairs Part 2 by: nataliechandler
October 20, 2009, 10:29
Harry and Sally both worked at Eli Lilly. They were on the IT team together and worked on several projects as a great team. They started going out to lunch to…
- Emotional Affair by: tamarawilhelm
October 19, 2009, 08:50
In this week's blog series, Imagine Hope is going to discuss Emotional Affairs. It's a issue we see happening more & more often, and throughout the week,…
- Codependency part 4 by: joleenwatson
October 16, 2009, 09:27
Codependency has a great impact on our relationships, and is very destructive to both the individual, as well as the relationships well-being. Here are…
- Codependency Part #2 by: tericlaassen
October 13, 2009, 12:51
Good story Tammy! It is amazing how easy it is to fall into the codependency trap. Here are some characteristics of codependency: low self-esteem feeling…
- Codependency by: tamarawilhelm
October 12, 2009, 06:01
The other evening I decided I wanted to workout while watching TV with my husband. The only problem was that I had to get the equipment down the stairs. It…
- 3 Common mistakes couples make by: joleenwatson
October 9, 2009, 15:45
In addition to what Teri, Tammy, and Natalie spoke about in their blogs, here are 3 additional mistakes I see when working with couples: Becoming…
- 3 common mistakes couples make by: nataliechandler
October 8, 2009, 15:47
The 3 most common mistakes I see couples make are the following: 1. Making a lot of assumptions about what the other partner is thinking. I see this a lot.…
- 3 common mistakes couples make by: tamarawilhelm
October 6, 2009, 08:03
Fighting about too many things at once. It's hard to follow a disagreement when you're fighting about this, that, & the kitchen sink. Stick to one topic…
- 3 common mistakes couples make by: tericlaassen
October 5, 2009, 05:40
As therapists we many times see big issues in relationships start from a small mistake and grow into a bigger issue. Conquering the small issues is good…
- Welcome to Imagine Hope's Blog by: nataliechandler
September 24, 2009, 18:38
We are so excited to add an Imagine Hope blog to our website! We will each keep our own individual blogs where you can continue to get tidbits of what we hope…
- How Can You Help With Your Treatment of Postpartum Depression? by: joleenwatson
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- Characteristics of a Healthy Mother- 5 by: joleenwatson
May 10, 2013, 11:43
In honor of Mother's Day, Imagine Hope is blogging about several different characteristics of a healthy Mom. 5. She is involved in her child's life-- but…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Mother 3 by: alexa griffith
May 8, 2013, 04:47
This week before Mother’s Day we are examining what characteristics make a healthy mother. Most moms want to do their best to raise happy well- adjusted…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Mother 2 by: tamarawilhelm
May 7, 2013, 05:00
I love the scene from the movie, The Help, that Teri discussed yesterday. It's so important to use kind/encouraging words with children. Here is another…
- Characteristics Of A Healthy Mother 1 by: tericlaassen
May 6, 2013, 02:37
Mother's Day is approaching on Sunday! I know this day can be exciting for some as they celebrate motherhood, while for others it can be painful due to loss of…
- Hoarding: Common Traits of Hoarders by: joleenwatson
April 26, 2013, 11:20
What are some common traits of hoarders? There are many traits that contribute to hoarding behaviors, though just because you only share of few of these…
- Hoarding: Self-Assessment by: tamarawilhelm
April 23, 2013, 05:00
Now that we've discussed the symptoms of hoarding, let's see how you evaluate your own symptoms. Answer the questions as honestly as you can. The following…
- What Kind of Unglued Are You? The Stuffer Who Builds Barriers by: nataliechandler
April 17, 2013, 17:48
The Stuffer Who Builds Barriers So what do you do when you have a friend who has said or did something that really hurt you? What about your spouse- do you…
- Spring Book Recommendations- Joleen by: joleenwatson
April 12, 2013, 14:29
The subject of ambiguous loss is a relatively new one to me, as it relates to therapy, but is one that we frequently see with our clients (as well as in our…
- Spring Book Recommendations- Natalie by: nataliechandler
April 11, 2013, 07:15
Constantly Craving by Marilyn Meberg This book is a wonderful book that is insightful, engaging, and filled with humor. Marilyn has a way of getting her…
- Tips to Nurture Relationships 5 by: joleenwatson
March 15, 2013, 08:34
Speak your child's love language! Speaking your child's love language, whether it's physical touch or quality time (or any of the 5), helps to restore…
- Tips to Nurture Relationships 4 by: nataliechandler
March 14, 2013, 04:50
Acceptance of Underlying Feelings Many times we may have a strong emotional reactions to something that may not be that big of a deal to someone else.…
- Tips To Nurture Relationships 3 by: alexa griffith
March 13, 2013, 07:13
A New Approach to Criticism Most of us have that one family member, coworker, or aquaitance that just cannot help but say negative comments. We usually…
- Tips To Nurture Relationships 2 by: tamarawilhelm
March 12, 2013, 05:00
Opportunities to Build Trust Trust is an essential ingredient in every relationship. Trust is extremely important in marriages, romantic relationships,…
- Tips to Nurture Relationships 1 by: joleenwatson
March 11, 2013, 09:13
We all have moments where we stop and think “I should call and check on so-and-so to see how they are”, or “I should really make an effort with this…
- Serenity Prayer- Wisdom by: joleenwatson
March 8, 2013, 17:07
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the Serenity Prayer and it's meaning. So far, we have gone through serenity, courage and change. Today we will…
- Love Knot- If I were Important then You Would Remember! by: nataliechandler
January 31, 2013, 12:39
It is easy to fall into the trap of believing that because someone doesn't remember something, that it is not important to them. It is even more difficult to…
- Saving Your Marriage Before Giving Up-2 by: tamarawilhelm
January 8, 2013, 05:00
3 Reasons you don't want to give up in your marriage: 1. Some research shows if you have patience, your marriage will take a turn for the better. Note: This…
- Lessons From Kids Movies- Brave by: tericlaassen
December 17, 2012, 11:18
Kids movies can have great life lessons. This week each of us will be reviewing kids movies that we have found to teach some helpful things to remember about…
- Favorite Holiday Traditions- Tammy by: tamarawilhelm
December 11, 2012, 05:00
My favorite Holiday tradition is looking at Christmas lights. From the time I was a little girl until now, my family has driven around on Christmas Eve, or…
- Christmas Through The Eyes Of A Child- 3-4 years old by: alexa griffith
December 5, 2012, 08:20
Do you remember being three years old? Most of us are fairly verbal at three so we may have some memories of Christmas at that age. You may even remember…
- Christmas Through The Eyes of a Child- 2 Year Olds by: joleenwatson
December 4, 2012, 06:34
If you’re like me, Christmas is your favorite time of the year—the decorations, the presents, time with family—and the image in your mind of everything…
- Christmas Through The Eyes of a Child- Infants by: tericlaassen
December 3, 2012, 03:53
It is Christmas Time! Trees are going up. Lights are being put out. Gifts lists are being made. Traditions are being upheld. This time of year can be a…
- How Dysfunctional Families Affect Children 5 by: joleenwatson
November 16, 2012, 04:00
A child is naturally immature. This is normal due to brain development and lack of life experiences. If children are growing up in a dysfunctional family,…
- How Dysfunctional Families Affect Children 4 by: nataliechandler
November 15, 2012, 00:00
A child naturally feels wants and has needs. This is built into them as babies- we are helpless, therefore we need and want things from our caretakers. In a…
- How Dysfunctional Families Affect Children 3 by: alexa griffith
November 14, 2012, 08:32
So far this week we have discussed the natural states of children. We have discussed that a child naturally feels valuable and vulnerable. Today we explore…
- How Dysfunctional Families Affect Children 2 by: tamarawilhelm
November 13, 2012, 05:00
A child naturally feels vulnerable. They easily feel "emotionally naked" because not all of their defenses have been yet fully developed. If children are…
- How Dysfunctional Families Affect Children 1 by: tericlaassen
November 12, 2012, 03:47
Dysfunctional families are every where. Most often the family is caught up in all the drama around them that they don't notice how much it can impact the kids.…
- The Masks We Wear- Codependency by: nataliechandler
November 1, 2012, 05:46
This week we are talking about masks we wear to cover up our authentic selves. If you haven't already, feel free to back up and read the other blogs from this…
- How to Get Your Teen to Open Up- Get Closer to Their World by: joleenwatson
October 26, 2012, 15:57
It's difficult to get your teenager to open up if you don't show interest in what is important to them. One way to show interest is to find out what they…
- How to Get Your Teen to Open Up- Be Consistent by: nataliechandler
October 25, 2012, 05:44
Be Consistent and Follow Through With Commitments Kids need consistency. They need to know what to expect from parents. Otherwise they are floundering and…
- How to Get Your Teen to Open Up-Be Open Yourself by: joleenwatson
October 23, 2012, 05:07
This week Imagine Hope is focusing on specific things parents can do to help draw out more open communication with their teens. #2 Be Open Yourself Do…
- How to Get Your Teen to Open Up- Seize Moments by: tericlaassen
October 22, 2012, 02:40
Teens can be tricky to communicate with! Many parents hear more grunts and silence then they do words when trying to get their teenager to share and open…
- Feelings and Defenses 5 by: joleenwatson
October 19, 2012, 06:15
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing how defenses can be used to mask or avoid feelings, especially the feelings of anger, sadness, fear, loneliness, shame…
- Relationship Exits-4 by: nataliechandler
September 27, 2012, 06:18
We exit when we see you are in pain and we can't fix it Many people feel uncomfortable with seeing others in emotional pain. That is normal. Usually it brings…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent- Nonexistent Spirituality by: nataliechandler
September 6, 2012, 09:23
Teri and Tamara have described what having the symptoms of Negative Control and Resentment can create in our lives as Codependents. Today I will discuss how…
- How to Keep Your Sanity: If a Counterdependent Won't Get in Recovery by: alexa griffith
August 31, 2012, 09:08
By now, you have heard the characteristics of Counterdependency. But what do you do if you're in a relationship with one or work with one who refuses…
- Positive Discipline Techniques- 4 by: joleenwatson
August 24, 2012, 06:17
Today we will wrap up with more discipline techniques and tips to add to your parenting tool box! Use role reversals. For example, when speaking to your…
- Positive Discipline Techniques- 2 by: alexa griffith
August 21, 2012, 05:25
Parenting is a fantastically fun job. However, it is the hardest most important job in the world. Part of our responsibility as a parent is to teach our…
- Positive Discipline Techniques- 1 by: tericlaassen
August 20, 2012, 04:20
Parenting is a hard job- especially when it comes to disciplining your child. Discipline should be something parents do as a way to teach children right from…
- How to Create Fireworks In Your Marriage - It matters when you're apart by: tamarawilhelm
August 14, 2012, 05:00
Ever receive a small gift or thank-you note unexpectedly? Remember how special it felt to receive it? The same applies in marriage too. Let your spouse know…
- TV's Influence on Children- 4 by: joleenwatson
August 10, 2012, 10:00
Do you give consent by remaining silent? Many parents react with silence when a television program is misleading to our children. Unfortunately, this…
- TV’s Influence On Children-2 by: tamarawilhelm
August 7, 2012, 05:00
Do You Use TV as a Reward, or to Punish Bad Behavior? This is ultimately not a good idea either way. Rewards and punishments need to relate to the behavior…
- TV's Influence On Children-1 by: tericlaassen
August 6, 2012, 04:53
Do you worry about how the media will shape your kids? TV can impact a child's social and intellectual development. Violence and inappropriate scenes on TV can…
- 5 Freedoms: To Ask For What You Want by: nataliechandler
August 2, 2012, 05:34
Freedom #4: To Ask for What One Wants Instead of Always Waiting For Permission Many people struggle with telling people what they really want or need. They…
- The Five Freedoms: To Say by: tamarawilhelm
July 31, 2012, 05:00
Freedom #2: To Say What One Feels and Thinks Instead of What One Should Feel and Think There's that "Should" word again. Whenever you use the word "Should",…
- 5 Toxic Behaviors That Poison Your Relationship With Your Teen by: joleenwatson
July 27, 2012, 05:38
Toxic Behavior #5: No Oppportunities to Regain Trust When teenagers feel as though they can't regain trust with their parents after something has…
- 5 Toxic Behaviors That Poison Your Relationship with Your Teens by: nataliechandler
July 26, 2012, 05:49
Toxic Behavior #4: You must first be good to get my love It can be so difficult to show your child love when you are angry and frustrated, right? But it is…
- 5 Toxic Behaviors That Poison Your Relationship With Your Teen by: alexa griffith
July 25, 2012, 00:26
Toxic Behavior #3 Compliment Sandwiches Have you ever received a compliment followed by a "but?" Imagine your boss tells you, " you did a great job on…
- 5 Toxic Behaviors That Poison Your Relationship With your Teen- Attacking the Person by: tamarawilhelm
July 24, 2012, 05:00
Toxic Behavior #2: Attacking the Person Rather Than the Misbehavior This can happen when you don't separate out your teen's misbehavior from their character…
- 5 Toxic Behaviors That Poison Your Relationship With your Teen- Bringing up the Past by: tericlaassen
July 23, 2012, 05:38
Parenting a teenager can feel like a roller coaster! A few weeks ago we shared good info about out of control teen behaviors, but this week we want to look at…
- Stopping Your Out of Control Teen- Level 7 by: joleenwatson
July 13, 2012, 10:21
Level 7- Threats of Suicide While any threat of suicide should be taken seriously, it's important to react appropriately and not allow this to become a form…
- Stopping Your Out of Control Teen- Levels 5&6 by: nataliechandler
July 12, 2012, 05:32
Your teen has now pulled out MOST of the stops! They've been disrespectful, are truant or failing school and running away, and now are threatening to have a…
- Stopping Your Out Of Control Teen Levels 3&4 by: alexa griffith
July 11, 2012, 00:11
Maybe your teen is beyond disrespect or truancy and failing school. Perhaps your child is trying to manipulate you with more severe or dangerous threats. …
- Stopping Your Out of Control Teen- Levels 1&2 by: tamarawilhelm
July 10, 2012, 05:00
Starting with the least extreme and dangerous, let's look at what some teens will tell themselves in order to manipulate parents into getting what they want.…
- Stopping Your Out of Control Teen- Intro by: tericlaassen
July 9, 2012, 04:58
Are you parenting teenagers? Have you lost total control because of their behaviors? Do you resist taking back control because you are scared of what they…
- Characteristics of A Healthy Father- Protection by: joleenwatson
June 15, 2012, 11:24
In honor of Father's Day, this week Imagine Hope is talking about some characteristics of a healthy father. Do any of the characteristics from this week…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Father- Communication by: alexa griffith
June 13, 2012, 00:51
This week of Father’s Day, Teri has written about engagement and Tamara has written about teaching and modeling. Another essential skill for healthy…
- Characteristics of A Healthy Father - Teacher/Model by: tamarawilhelm
June 12, 2012, 05:00
Characteristic #2: Teacher/Model A healthy father knows he's always being watched by his children. Therefore, he chooses his words carefully, chooses how he…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Father- Engaged by: tericlaassen
June 11, 2012, 04:49
Father's Day is coming up this Sunday! Last month we wrote about characteristics of a healthy mother, so now it is time to do the same for fathers. I know…
- 13 Essential Ingredients To A Healthy Relationship 11-13 by: joleenwatson
June 8, 2012, 07:50
This week, Imagine Hope is going over the different ingredients that are needed to have a healthy relationship-- whether it's with a spouse, co-worker, friend,…
- Ways to Protect Your Kids From Predators 5 by: joleenwatson
June 1, 2012, 18:40
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the importance of protecting your children from predators. As we have discussed, in this day and age, it's vital to…
- Ways to Protect Your Kids From Predators 3 by: alexa griffith
May 30, 2012, 00:51
As a parent, I can attest that there are few fears that are bigger than something terrible happening to your children. The reality is that we, as parents,…
- Ways To Protect Your Kids From Predators 2 by: tamarawilhelm
May 29, 2012, 06:46
This week's blog is such an important topic. If you the parent are aware and better informed, then you can pass on this information to your children as well.…
- Ways To Protect Your Kids From Predators 1 by: tericlaassen
May 28, 2012, 15:19
As a parent, one of my main concerns is my child's safety. Part of my job is to be the "safety patrol" and teach them how to catch on to what is safe and what…
- Middle Child: Making Birth Order Work For You by: alexa griffith
May 23, 2012, 00:08
Have you ever heard the term “middle child syndrome?” While it is not a true diagnosable condition, it describes some traits that sometimes come along…
- Firstborns: Making Your Birth Order Work for You! by: tamarawilhelm
May 22, 2012, 05:00
Oh how this week's blog is too true. I'm a first-born, and I can honestly say that the info below is dead-on. Hopefully if you are a first-born as well you'll…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Mother 3 by: alexa griffith
May 9, 2012, 00:17
This week before Mother’s Day we are examining what characteristics make a healthy mother. Most moms want to do their best to raise happy well- adjusted…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Mother 1 by: tericlaassen
May 7, 2012, 05:50
Mother's Day is approaching on Sunday! I know this day can be exciting for some as they celebrate motherhood, while for others it can be painful due to loss of…
- How to Get Through To A Man 2 by: tamarawilhelm
April 24, 2012, 05:00
"Let Me Get Your Power Drill" Okay, this title may sound completely silly, but the concept really does work. (I know this from personal experience!). We'v…
- Top 7 Reasons for Teen Misbehavior- #7 by: joleenwatson
April 20, 2012, 04:43
Today we will finish up with this weeks blog series on the reasons for teen misbehavior. Have you recognized any of these reasons so far this week? Reason…
- Top 7 Reasons for Teen Misbehavior #4 by: alexa griffith
April 18, 2012, 00:04
The mere mention of adolescence often produces strong emotional responses from adults. Teens have strong emotions, and evoke strong emotions from the adults…
- Top 7 Reasons for Teen Misbehavior- #2 & 3 by: tamarawilhelm
April 17, 2012, 11:46
Don't ya just love teens? Especially one who's testing the boundaries? Scott Sells book, Parenting Your Out of Control Teenager, can help you love them even…
- Top 7 Reasons for Teen Misbehavior- #1 by: tericlaassen
April 16, 2012, 07:06
Raising a teen can be overwhelming. This is often the time I hear cries from parents who feel lost and at the end of their rope. Scott Sells gives us 7 reasons…
- Relationships: Intimate vs Addictive - 2 by: tamarawilhelm
March 27, 2012, 05:00
In an intimate relationship you have a sense of freedom vs. in an addictive relationship there is a sense of compulsion. In healthy relationships, there's a…
- Tips on Helping Your Child Cope With Divorce- Control by: joleenwatson
March 16, 2012, 12:59
Give your child some element of control. Kids feels totally out of control of their world while going through a divorce. Try to find ways to let them…
- Tips on Helping Your Child Cope with Divorce- Feelings by: nataliechandler
March 15, 2012, 05:22
We have given some great information this week on helping your children to cope with divorce. It is very important to go back and read the previous blogs- they…
- Tips on Helping Your Child Cope With Divorce - Watch Your Mouth by: tamarawilhelm
March 14, 2012, 03:00
Teri & Alexa have done an excellent job preparing a parent for how to tell a child they're divorcing. Now, let's discuss what you as a parent should do…
- Caring For Your Children Through A Divorce- Impact By Age by: alexa griffith
March 13, 2012, 05:46
Like Teri I am a child of divorce. I have a clear memory of my parents separation and divorce 32 years later. I remember what thoughts ran through my head,…
- How To Tell Your Kids About Divorce by: tericlaassen
March 12, 2012, 07:14
I am a child of divorce. It amazes me the memories I have of the details of being told, the exact words used, where I was, and what I did after I was told.…
- Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce 5 by: joleenwatson
March 9, 2012, 15:09
10. Evaluate your relationships and make whatever life adjustments you feel are necessary. During a divorce, you might encounter many "Monday Morning…
- Basic Human Needs- Accomplishment and Enjoyment/Fun by: nataliechandler
March 1, 2012, 05:47
It is never surprising to us when couples come in with challenges they are having that revolve around not getting their needs met. Besides communication, this…
- Basic Human Needs - Listening by: tamarawilhelm
February 28, 2012, 03:00
Listening, Participating & Accepting Everyone likes to know the person they're speaking with has heard them, even if that person does not always agree…
- Dealing with Difficult People- Silent People and Busybodies by: nataliechandler
February 23, 2012, 07:02
Everyone knows difficult people, right? That's why a few years ago we developed a presentation to start helping people to deal with difficult people in the…
- Dealing with Difficult People - The Sniper by: tamarawilhelm
February 21, 2012, 03:00
Difficult people are everywhere in our life. It could be someone in our family, workplace or a friend. It could also be a distant acquaintence. It's easy…
- Flower Messages 2 by: joleenwatson
January 27, 2012, 09:56
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the different types of messages we give to others in our communication-- termed "Garbage Messages" or "Flower Messages". …
- Garbage Message 2 by: alexa griffith
January 25, 2012, 07:07
We all engage in negative self-talk. These are the conversations we have with ourselves in our heads that spiral from “oops I made a mistake” to “I’m…
- What To Do if You Are Loving Too Much 9-10 by: joleenwatson
January 21, 2012, 06:25
So far, have you used any of this week's blog post suggestions to help with your relationship with yourself? Or, maybe you are wondering "How can you love…
- What is your Family Role? Lost Child by: nataliechandler
December 22, 2011, 06:45
Teri and Tamara did an excellent job of describing the Family Hero and the Scapegoat in our families. I want to discuss with you the role in the family that…
- What is your family role? - Scapegoat by: tamarawilhelm
December 20, 2011, 05:00
Yesterday Teri introduced us to the "Family Hero". Since it's Christmas time, we may see ourselves falling back into these "roles" as we interact with our…
- What is your family role? - Hero by: tericlaassen
December 19, 2011, 04:56
Christmas is here, which means family gatherings. We thought this would be a good week to re-post our blog from last year about family roles. Take a look…
- Decrease Holiday Stress- Watch Your Spending by: joleenwatson
December 16, 2011, 11:59
Teri, Tammy and Natalie have shared some really helpful tips so far in ways to decrease Holiday stress, which helps each of us to enjoy the Holiday season…
- Decrease Holiday Stress- Focus on the Significance of the Holiday by: tamarawilhelm
December 13, 2011, 05:00
Celebrating the Holidays means parties, food, fun and families. Some family members we love to see, and others we don't. Maybe we see these family members…
- Decrease Holiday Stress- Emotional Boundaries by: tericlaassen
December 12, 2011, 06:08
Clients tell me all the time, “I hate the holidays”. There are many stressors as people are attending family gatherings and trying to meet everyone’s…
- TV Families- All in the Family by: nataliechandler
December 1, 2011, 06:34
I am LOVING reading this weeks blogs about dysfunctional TV families. How fun to relive the childhood moments of the Brady Bunch and to think of the beauty of…
- TV Families- The Brady Bunch by: alexa griffith
November 30, 2011, 06:00
At Imagine Hope we help many blended families. I am currently in a blended family and I come from a blended family. Perhaps that is why my sister Natalie…
- TV Families - The Golden Girls by: tamarawilhelm
November 29, 2011, 05:00
When you think of family, it doesn't have to be in the traditional sense. Although this show consisted of four women, they were just as much of a family as…
- TV Families- Modern Family by: tericlaassen
November 27, 2011, 18:04
It's the holiday season which means it's time for family! At Imagine Hope we hear a lot of stories from clients about their families. As we watch how the media…
- Natalie's Lessons from the Thanksgiving Table by: nataliechandler
November 19, 2011, 07:54
What great lessons I am learning and being reminded of this week thru our Lessons from the Thanksgiving Table! We host both sides of the family at our house…
- Do You Know A Narcissist 3 by: alexa griffith
November 9, 2011, 09:13
“The thing with Dickie... it's like the sun shines on you, and it's glorious. And then he forgets you and its very, very cold. When you have his attention,…
- Factors Contributing to Eating Disorders by: joleenwatson
November 4, 2011, 05:24
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing eating disorders and the different ways they manifest. According to the National Eating Disorders Association, while we…
- The Masks We Wear- Counterdependency by: joleenwatson
October 28, 2011, 08:34
This week, as a tribute to the Halloween season, we are talking about masks. Every day we can unknowingly put on different masks that hide us from various…
- The Masks We Wear- Codependency by: nataliechandler
October 27, 2011, 05:32
This week we are talking about masks we wear to cover up our authentic selves. If you haven't already, feel free to back up and read the other blogs from this…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent-Nonexistent Spirituality by: nataliechandler
August 25, 2011, 05:51
Teri and Tamara have described what having the symptoms of Negative Control and Resentment can create in our lives as Codependents. Today I will discuss how…
- Do You Have a "Damaged Love Style"? Controller and Victim by: nataliechandler
August 18, 2011, 05:18
By now you may have identified some of the ways you love by either being an avoider, a pleaser, or a vacillator. If you are not sure what these types are,…
- Do You Have a “Damaged” Love Style?- Pleaser & Vacillator by: tamarawilhelm
August 16, 2011, 05:00
No one wants to damage their relationship and the way they love each other. Learning these 5 love styles by Milan & Kay Yerkovich can create deeper…
- The Difference Between Toxic and Healthy Secrets by: joleenwatson
August 5, 2011, 06:39
So now you know what toxic and healthy secrets look like and how they impact your relationships… How do you know the difference between the two? Here are…
- The Difference Between Healthy and Toxic Secrets by: nataliechandler
August 4, 2011, 05:35
Teri and Tammy have discussed both toxic secrets and healthy secrets, but how do each of them impact our relationships with others? Toxic Secrets: Create…
- How Divorce Impacts Kids of All Ages: 13-18 Years Old by: joleenwatson
July 15, 2011, 05:43
As we have been discussing, divorce has different effects on children, depending on their ages. It's so important to be aware of this when a family is…
- How Divorce Impacts Kids of All Ages 5-8, 9-12 by: nataliechandler
July 14, 2011, 05:41
With divorce being on the rise, it is imperative that parents educate themselves on how to get their children thru it with the least amount of psychological…
- How Divorce Impacts Kids of all Ages 2-4 years-old by: nataliechandler
July 12, 2011, 08:00
As Teri mentioned in the previous blog, a divorce can be devasting to kids and they all react differently. But there are some behaviors and feelings that are…
- How Divorce Impact Kids of All Ages: Infant-2 Years by: tericlaassen
July 11, 2011, 02:27
Divorce can be a devastating experience for all involved- no matter what your age. I've worked with kids of divorce, young and old, and am a sufferer of this…
- Healthy Boundaries and Separateness 4 by: joleenwatson
July 2, 2011, 06:38
Having healthy boundaries and maintaining our own identity is an important part of being healthy individuals-- and being a healthy individual means having…
- Are You an Enabler? 2 by: tamarawilhelm
June 21, 2011, 05:00
If you have a loved one in your life who is currently an addict, our hearts go out to you & your family. We know how difficult it can be to live and…
- Are You an Enabler? 1 by: tericlaassen
June 20, 2011, 03:00
Do you enable an addict in your life? Many people think they are helping a loved one with an addiction, when in reality they are giving an addict permission to…
- How Can Parents Cope with Difficult Behaviors? 4 by: joleenwatson
June 17, 2011, 08:25
As we have been discussing parenting a difficult child, we encourage you to keep in mind that parenting isn't just about teaching your child how to "behave"--…
- How Can Parents Cope With Difficult Behavior? 2 by: tamarawilhelm
June 14, 2011, 08:41
Parenting is hard enough, but throw in difficult behaviors, and ugh, watch out! All my respect goes out to parents, I really don't know a harder job out there.…
- How Can Parents Cope With Difficult Behavior? 1 by: tericlaassen
June 13, 2011, 02:28
Let's face it- Parenting is HARD work! It keeps you on your toes from minute to minute. Once you think you have mastered one challenge, everything changes and…
- Emotional Needs- Domestic Support, Family Commitment, Admiration by: joleenwatson
June 10, 2011, 21:05
If you are finding your "love bank" empty in your relationship, there's a good chance that you or your partner are lacking in one (or more) critical area of…
- Emotional Needs - Sex, Conversation, & Recreation by: tamarawilhelm
June 7, 2011, 05:00
Teri did a great job yesterday introducing emotional needs and the concept of the "Love Bank". If we don't deposit into each other's emotional accounts, we…
- Counterdependency Characteristics Part 2 by: nataliechandler
June 2, 2011, 05:19
On Wednesday, Tamara gave us great descriptions of 4 of the 7 characteristics of Counterdependency: Grandiose, Not knowing/respecting boundaries of others,…
- Abandonment Issues- What are they? by: tericlaassen
April 25, 2011, 04:43
Have you heard someone say they suffer from abandonment issues? Most people think about adoption or being left on a door step as a child, but abandonment…
- How Do You Handle Conflict?-Compromise by: tericlaassen
April 18, 2011, 03:50
Conflict is a reality in all relationships. We can't avoid it. Many people react and respond so fast to conflict they don't slow down enough to see that they…
- Family Communication Tips- Do's 4 by: joleenwatson
April 8, 2011, 09:20
Today we will finish up with our tips for healthier communication in a family: Do: Use a neutral/natural tone of voice Say what you mean, be specific…
- Family Communication Skills "Do's" 1 by: nataliechandler
April 7, 2011, 05:31
Doesn't it frustrate you when self-help books and articles tell you everything NOT to do? That's why we wanted to be sure and give you some "do's" this week…
- Family Communication Tips- Don'ts 2 by: tamarawilhelm
April 5, 2011, 06:35
We all fall prey to bad communication from time to time. However, doing poor communication over and over can really lead to distance between relationships and…
- Family Communication Tips-Don'ts 1 by: tericlaassen
April 4, 2011, 10:54
Every family has bumps in the road which can create stress. But the stress can be increased significantly when the family has poor communication skills. This…
- Is Your Life Balanced? Money & Career by: joleenwatson
April 1, 2011, 05:00
This week, Imagine Hope Counseling Group is discussing the importance of balance in all areas of life and different ways to achieve balance. So far, we have…
- Don't Drive a Relationship Lemon- Warning Lights! by: nataliechandler
March 17, 2011, 05:39
What a fun way to look at a relationship this week! And it's so true. As Tamara talked about maintenance and its importance on Tuesday, I am going to piggyback…
- Don't Drive a Relationship Lemon - Maintenance by: tamarawilhelm
March 15, 2011, 05:00
In therapy we use alot of analogies with individuals and couples to get a point across. This week we chose cars. Everyone can relate to cars because they…
- Conflict Resolution Tips 2 by: tamarawilhelm
February 15, 2011, 12:55
This week as we explore conflict resolution tips, see if you can recognize strengths you already possess in this area, along with skills you need to sharpen a…
- Great Self-Help Books- Teri by: tericlaassen
January 31, 2011, 03:22
Self-help books are great tools for taking the things we teach in therapy sessions to a deeper explanation for your lives. I am always on a lookout for good…
- 7 Tips to Keep Your Child From Being Self-Absorbed 4 by: joleenwatson
January 28, 2011, 13:36
Here are 2 more tips to add onto our list for this week's blog: 6. Sex is natural, and children should not be made to feel shameful about their sexuality…
- 7 Tips to Keep Your Child from Being Self-Absorbed 2 by: tamarawilhelm
January 25, 2011, 09:54
About 8 years ago, a Roper National Youth Survey was done asking teens what they thought was wrong with America. Some of their answers were: Selfishness/people…
- Are You an Adult Child of Dysfunction? 4 by: joleenwatson
January 21, 2011, 10:47
This week, Imagine Hope Counseling Group is discussing signs of Adult Children of Dysfunction. So far, we have some insightful descriptions. Here are some…
- Are You an Adult Child of Dysfunction? 2 by: tamarawilhelm
January 18, 2011, 05:00
As a therapist working with clients from different family backgrounds, one thing rings true: No matter the type of dysfunction in a family, it produces…
- Are You an Adult Child of Dysfunction? 1 by: tericlaassen
January 17, 2011, 03:44
Janet Woititz is a pioneer in the field of helping Adult Children of Alcoholics live healthy lives. Her books were originally written with only children of…
- Communication Using an Internal Boundary 4 by: joleenwatson
January 14, 2011, 13:59
This week we are discussing how to use internal boundaries for better communication. Today we will finish up some tips to help you with internal boundaries…
- Ways to Decrease Holiday Stress 1 by: tericlaassen
November 29, 2010, 08:30
Clients tell me all the time, “I hate the holidays”. There are many stressors as people are attending family gatherings and trying to meet everyone’…
- Our Thanksgiving Memories- Tammy by: tamarawilhelm
November 23, 2010, 03:00
Tammy's Memory Thanksgiving is probably my favorite holiday & always held at my parent's house. I love the gathering of my family, the smells of the…
- Roles for Parenting Teens- 4 by: joleenwatson
November 12, 2010, 13:34
We have heard some great tips for parenting teens so far this week on Imagine Hope's blog. Today we will review the fourth and final tip: 4. Build a…
- Roles for Parenting Teens- 2 by: tamarawilhelm
November 9, 2010, 13:08
Ahhh, the teenage years. It's hard enough going through them as a teen, let alone parenting one. Hopefully these roles will help! 2. Teach them communication…
- Roles for Parenting Teens- 1 by: tericlaassen
November 8, 2010, 03:38
Parenting a teen can be an extremely stressful stage for parents. They often feel overwhelmed and sucked into the wild roller coaster ride of adolescence.…
- Recommended Books for the Fall- Teri by: tericlaassen
September 20, 2010, 10:35
At Imagine Hope we read and recommend books for people all the time. As the fall is starting it's time for us to recommend some more! When you think about the…
- What's your family role? Lost Child by: nataliechandler
September 16, 2010, 05:00
Teri and Tamara did an excellent job of describing the Family Hero and the Scapegoat in our families. I want to discuss with you the role in the family that…
- What's your family role? Hero by: tericlaassen
September 13, 2010, 11:07
I've been a people watcher since I was a little girl. I even remember sitting in church as a young girl watching the non-verbals of family members who were…
- What blocks you from working on your issues?-Insight vs. Changes by: joleenwatson
September 10, 2010, 08:00
We all have personal obstacles that block us from growth, and therapy is no exception to this! I am blessed to be working with some individuals and couples…
- What blocks you from working on your issues? Homework? by: tamarawilhelm
September 8, 2010, 05:45
I really like this topic this week. This can be a refresher course for those in therapy, or great preparation for those thinking of joining counseling. These…
- Are You Creating a Shame-Based Family Environment? 16-20 by: joleenwatson
September 3, 2010, 11:53
Teri, Tamara and Natalie did a great job at explaining the issue of shame: a feeling of toxic guilt, or where you feel bad-- even though you haven't done…
- Are You Creating a Shame-based Family Environment? 11-15 by: nataliechandler
September 2, 2010, 14:50
Yesterday Tamara really hit home with shame by calling it "toxic guilt". Unfortunately, we see so much of this toxic guilt in our clients. They have been…
- Are You Creating a Shame-Based Family Environment? 5-10 by: tamarawilhelm
August 31, 2010, 09:16
Teri did a great job yesterday introducing Shame, and how lethal of an issue it can be. Another way I like to describe shame is to say it's the feeling you get…
- Are You Creating a Shame-Based Family Environment? by: tericlaassen
August 30, 2010, 10:51
Many people are confused about the issue of shame. They often mistake it as guilt or as just being ashamed of an action you have done; but that is only a…
- How do you know you're ready for counseling? Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
August 17, 2010, 11:56
As discussed yesterday, this week we're talking about how to know when you are ready individually or as a couple to begin counseling. For some, that decision…
- School's coming- Educate Yourself by: tericlaassen
August 13, 2010, 10:40
Just because we are adults does not mean that we know it all! Parenting techniques are always changing and can be different from child to child. So as our…
- School's coming- Connect with others by: joleenwatson
August 12, 2010, 20:16
This week we are using the acronym PACE, when talking about how to make the “Back to School” transition more manageable for everyone— especially you, as…
- School's coming- Are you ready? by: tericlaassen
August 9, 2010, 16:32
It's back to school time already! I can't believe how quick this summer has gone. Here at Imagine Hope we work with lots of parents and kids who want to start…
- How toxic and healthy secrets impact our relationships by: joleenwatson
July 29, 2010, 19:04
Teri and Tammy have discussed both toxic secrets and healthy secrets, but how do each of them impact our relationships with others? Toxic Secrets: Create…
- When have you felt most loved? #4 by: joleenwatson
July 25, 2010, 17:11
As Teri and Tammy have mentioned, feeling loved allows us to have SO much to give back to a relationship-- whether romantic, friendship, or family. Each time…
- When have you felt most loved? #3 by: tericlaassen
July 22, 2010, 17:00
Feeling loved is important in all close relationships. It's what draws us into intimacy with a person. If we don't feel loved we will likely hold back and…
- Forgiveness Tips 2 by: joleenwatson
July 13, 2010, 19:06
The alternative to forgiveness is resentment. Resentment is one of the most toxic things to relationships, and can often times cause irreparable damage. …
- Negative Thinking Patterns by: tericlaassen
June 14, 2010, 10:35
Did you know that negative thinking can really impact your life and relationships? Many people don't realize how damaging your mindset can be if it isn't…
- AH-HA! Moments and life changing experiences-Natalie by: nataliechandler
June 10, 2010, 10:55
I LOVE Ah-ha moments! I love to have them, I love to see them in our clients! You can just tell something has clicked and that person will never be the same.…
- More Things To Remove From Your Life by: joleenwatson
June 4, 2010, 22:10
What is one definite way to ruin communication, trust and intimacy in your relationships? Passive-Aggressive behaviors and indirect communication. In our…
- Alcohol and Drug Addiction by: joleenwatson
May 29, 2010, 18:18
This week, Imagine Hope has covered some common areas of addiction: Sex addiction, TV and internet addiction, and Relationship addiction. In the final part…
- Characteristics of Unsafe People part 4 by: joleenwatson
April 30, 2010, 19:26
How many (emotionally) unsafe people have you recognized so far? Here a few more characteristics: 17. Unsafe people confront not to forgive, but to…
- How to Keep Your Sanity: If a Counterdependent Won't Get in Recovery by: joleenwatson
April 2, 2010, 17:51
By now, you have heard the characteristics of Counterdependency. But what do you do if you're in a relationship with one or work with one who refuses…
- Counterdependency-Characteristics Part 1 by: tamarawilhelm
March 30, 2010, 09:23
Yesterday Teri introduced us to Jim, a sharp-tongued workaholic who seems very self-involved. Sound familiar? Maybe you have a parent, sibling, friend, boss,…
- Depression- How it Affects Relationships by: tamarawilhelm
March 23, 2010, 19:07
According to the National Institute of Mental Health, nearly 15 million American adults, or about 6.7% of the U.S. population age 18 and older, is affected…
- Do you fight fair? Tips 16-20 by: joleenwatson
March 5, 2010, 13:28
Teri, Tammy, and Natalie have all shared some great tips so far to fighting fair. Here are a few more to add to your "marital toolbox": 16. Remember…
- Do you fight fair? - Tips 6-10 by: tamarawilhelm
March 1, 2010, 21:05
As Teri mentioned, fighting can be healthy, as long as it's done in a respectful way. Conflict can be one of the ways you and another person grow closer. It's…
- What do healthy families look like? by: joleenwatson
February 12, 2010, 17:51
Having healthy family dynamics is such an important thing, yet few of us are aware of what that looks like because we tend to equate "normal" with what we are…
- What is a healthy romantic relationship? by: tamarawilhelm
February 9, 2010, 18:54
This week we're discussing all types of relationships: romantic, friend, and family. Yesterday Teri introduced us to the styles we can get into with our…
- What does a Healthy Relationship Look Like? by: tericlaassen
February 8, 2010, 12:41
It's Valentine's week and many people are focused on relationships. So Imagine Hope wants to help you discover what a healthy relationship looks like. This…
- Grief and Loss part 4 by: joleenwatson
February 5, 2010, 10:27
So far, we have explained the first 4 stages of grief and loss: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, and Depression. Remember that everyone grieves in their own way,…
- Recognizing and dealing with stress Part 4 by: tericlaassen
January 22, 2010, 14:11
Good reminders ladies of how to recognize and deal with stress. It sure is a stressful world for us adults, but what about our kids. Oftentimes a child will…
- Joleen's 2010 Book Recommendation by: joleenwatson
January 8, 2010, 16:27
There are SO many self-help and personal growth books out there lately, it can be overwhelming and sometimes conflicting to find one giving sound advice that…
- Joleens Favorite Christmas Memory by: joleenwatson
December 23, 2009, 12:23
Christmas-time always brings up pleasant (and sometimes not-so-pleasant!) memories of growing up and celebrating the Holidays with my family. One of my…
- Tamara's Favorite Christmas Memory by: tamarawilhelm
December 22, 2009, 06:16
When we decided to do this blog, the first memory that came to mind was when my brother and I got our 10-speed bicycles from Santa. I was 10 years old, and he…
- Ways to decrease Holiday stress part 4 by: joleenwatson
December 18, 2009, 13:21
Teri, Tammy and Natalie have shared some really helpful tips so far in ways to decrease Holiday stress, which helps each of us to enjoy the Holiday season…
- Ways to decrease holiday stress Part 3 by: nataliechandler
December 17, 2009, 16:37
Teri and Tamara have done such a great job sharing ways to decrease holiday stress pertaining to families. I want to share with you some tips to help you keep…
- Ways to decrease holiday stress Part 1 by: tericlaassen
December 14, 2009, 11:33
Clients tell me all the time, “I hate the holidays”. There are many stressors as people are attending family gatherings and trying to meet everyone’s…
- Signs your Marriage is in trouble Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
December 8, 2009, 13:31
Teri got us started yesterday on signs to watch out for that can show a marriage is in trouble. You may read some of these and think, "Duh!" But some of these…
- Communication Tips for Parents Part 4 by: joleenwatson
December 4, 2009, 13:11
Teri, Tammy, and Natalie have listed many wonderful tips for better communication between parents and their children. Today we will expand on this to…
- Communication Tips for Parents Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
December 1, 2009, 14:16
Here are some more tips Imagine Hope is offering parents to better connect with your children and teens: Ask open ended questions (questions that cannot be…
- Tips for Creating Intimacy by: tamarawilhelm
November 3, 2009, 12:56
We're continuing our talk on creating intimacy in relationships. It is essential the lines of communication stay open and assumptions be put aside in order for…
- Tips for Positive Parenting by: joleenwatson
October 30, 2009, 11:47
8. The best way to parent in a positive way is to take care of you. Make sure you get enough rest, good nutrition, and some time for yourself when…
- Tips for Positive Parenting by: nataliechandler
October 29, 2009, 09:25
This week we have been discussing positive ways to parent your children. We have talked about boundaries, positive reinforcement, natural consequences,…
- Tips for Positive Parenting by: tamarawilhelm
October 27, 2009, 06:32
Today we're continuing our discussion on how to parent children in a positive way. Yesterday we discussed boundaries, positive reinforcement and natural…
- Emotional Affairs Part 4 by: joleenwatson
October 23, 2009, 17:22
There are many signs of emotional affairs, if you know what to look for. While these signs can also be related to other life issues, as well as physical or…
- Emotional Affair by: tamarawilhelm
October 19, 2009, 08:50
In this week's blog series, Imagine Hope is going to discuss Emotional Affairs. It's a issue we see happening more & more often, and throughout the week,…
- Codependency part 4 by: joleenwatson
October 16, 2009, 09:27
Codependency has a great impact on our relationships, and is very destructive to both the individual, as well as the relationships well-being. Here are…
- Codependency Part #2 by: tericlaassen
October 13, 2009, 12:51
Good story Tammy! It is amazing how easy it is to fall into the codependency trap. Here are some characteristics of codependency: low self-esteem feeling…
- 3 Common mistakes couples make by: joleenwatson
October 9, 2009, 15:45
In addition to what Teri, Tammy, and Natalie spoke about in their blogs, here are 3 additional mistakes I see when working with couples: Becoming…
- 3 common mistakes couples make by: tamarawilhelm
October 6, 2009, 08:03
Fighting about too many things at once. It's hard to follow a disagreement when you're fighting about this, that, & the kitchen sink. Stick to one topic…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Mother- 5 by: joleenwatson
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- How Can You Help With Your Treatment of Postpartum Depression? by: joleenwatson
May 17, 2013, 05:09
To help the treatment from your provider work better, there are several things that you can do on your own: Stay healthy and fit: Do somthing active…
- What are the signs of Postpartum Depression? by: alexa griffith
May 15, 2013, 08:27
After the baby comes, women are often overwhelmed with many feelings. A mother may feel tired, happy, anxious, frustrated, in love, and blue. Sometimes all…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Mother- 5 by: joleenwatson
May 10, 2013, 11:43
In honor of Mother's Day, Imagine Hope is blogging about several different characteristics of a healthy Mom. 5. She is involved in her child's life-- but…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Mother 3 by: alexa griffith
May 8, 2013, 04:47
This week before Mother’s Day we are examining what characteristics make a healthy mother. Most moms want to do their best to raise happy well- adjusted…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Mother #4 by: nataliechandler
May 7, 2013, 07:18
I think as a society in general, we tend to focus on what we are doing "wrong" as parents. I love what we are doing this week as we focus on what a healthy Mom…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Mother 2 by: tamarawilhelm
May 7, 2013, 05:00
I love the scene from the movie, The Help, that Teri discussed yesterday. It's so important to use kind/encouraging words with children. Here is another…
- Characteristics Of A Healthy Mother 1 by: tericlaassen
May 6, 2013, 02:37
Mother's Day is approaching on Sunday! I know this day can be exciting for some as they celebrate motherhood, while for others it can be painful due to loss of…
- Spring Book Recommendations- Alexa by: alexa griffith
April 10, 2013, 02:44
Carry On Warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton I do not follow many blogs, but there are some I follow regularly: Brene Brown’s Ordinarycourage.com; Jenny…
- Tips to Nurture Relationships 5 by: joleenwatson
March 15, 2013, 08:34
Speak your child's love language! Speaking your child's love language, whether it's physical touch or quality time (or any of the 5), helps to restore…
- Tips To Nurture Relationships 3 by: alexa griffith
March 13, 2013, 07:13
A New Approach to Criticism Most of us have that one family member, coworker, or aquaitance that just cannot help but say negative comments. We usually…
- Tips To Nurture Relationships 2 by: tamarawilhelm
March 12, 2013, 05:00
Opportunities to Build Trust Trust is an essential ingredient in every relationship. Trust is extremely important in marriages, romantic relationships,…
- Tips to Nurture Relationships 1 by: joleenwatson
March 11, 2013, 09:13
We all have moments where we stop and think “I should call and check on so-and-so to see how they are”, or “I should really make an effort with this…
- Lessons From Kids Movies- Brave by: tericlaassen
December 17, 2012, 11:18
Kids movies can have great life lessons. This week each of us will be reviewing kids movies that we have found to teach some helpful things to remember about…
- Christmas Through The Eyes of a Child- 8 years old by: joleenwatson
December 7, 2012, 14:21
Around the age of 8 usually comes the beginning of some skepticism for the concept of Santa Claus for some children. At this age, they may begin to deny some…
- Christmas Through the Eyes of a Child 5-6 years old by: nataliechandler
December 6, 2012, 06:42
Isn't it fun to see Christmas through the eyes of a child? A few weeks ago, when decorations started popping up, my 4 year-old noticed every light, each tree,…
- Christmas Through The Eyes Of A Child- 3-4 years old by: alexa griffith
December 5, 2012, 08:20
Do you remember being three years old? Most of us are fairly verbal at three so we may have some memories of Christmas at that age. You may even remember…
- Christmas Through The Eyes of a Child- 2 Year Olds by: joleenwatson
December 4, 2012, 06:34
If you’re like me, Christmas is your favorite time of the year—the decorations, the presents, time with family—and the image in your mind of everything…
- Christmas Through The Eyes of a Child- Infants by: tericlaassen
December 3, 2012, 03:53
It is Christmas Time! Trees are going up. Lights are being put out. Gifts lists are being made. Traditions are being upheld. This time of year can be a…
- How Dysfunctional Families Affect Children 5 by: joleenwatson
November 16, 2012, 04:00
A child is naturally immature. This is normal due to brain development and lack of life experiences. If children are growing up in a dysfunctional family,…
- How Dysfunctional Families Affect Children 4 by: nataliechandler
November 15, 2012, 00:00
A child naturally feels wants and has needs. This is built into them as babies- we are helpless, therefore we need and want things from our caretakers. In a…
- How Dysfunctional Families Affect Children 3 by: alexa griffith
November 14, 2012, 08:32
So far this week we have discussed the natural states of children. We have discussed that a child naturally feels valuable and vulnerable. Today we explore…
- How Dysfunctional Families Affect Children 2 by: tamarawilhelm
November 13, 2012, 05:00
A child naturally feels vulnerable. They easily feel "emotionally naked" because not all of their defenses have been yet fully developed. If children are…
- How Dysfunctional Families Affect Children 1 by: tericlaassen
November 12, 2012, 03:47
Dysfunctional families are every where. Most often the family is caught up in all the drama around them that they don't notice how much it can impact the kids.…
- Danger of Being in an Enmeshed Relationship by: joleenwatson
November 9, 2012, 12:58
By now, you are aware of what "enmeshment" is and how to know if you are in an enmeshed relationship (see earlier blog posts this week). What are the…
- How to Get Your Teen to Open Up- Get Closer to Their World by: joleenwatson
October 26, 2012, 15:57
It's difficult to get your teenager to open up if you don't show interest in what is important to them. One way to show interest is to find out what they…
- How to Get Your Teen to Open Up- Be Consistent by: nataliechandler
October 25, 2012, 05:44
Be Consistent and Follow Through With Commitments Kids need consistency. They need to know what to expect from parents. Otherwise they are floundering and…
- How to Get Your Teen to Open Up-Be Open Yourself by: joleenwatson
October 23, 2012, 05:07
This week Imagine Hope is focusing on specific things parents can do to help draw out more open communication with their teens. #2 Be Open Yourself Do…
- How to Get Your Teen to Open Up- Seize Moments by: tericlaassen
October 22, 2012, 02:40
Teens can be tricky to communicate with! Many parents hear more grunts and silence then they do words when trying to get their teenager to share and open…
- Positive Discipline Techniques- 4 by: joleenwatson
August 24, 2012, 06:17
Today we will wrap up with more discipline techniques and tips to add to your parenting tool box! Use role reversals. For example, when speaking to your…
- Positive Discipline Techniques by: nataliechandler
August 23, 2012, 05:30
I love that Alexa reminded us that discipline is about teaching. So many times as parents we forget that we don't just need to eliminate the negative behavior,…
- Positive Discipline Techniques- 2 by: alexa griffith
August 21, 2012, 05:25
Parenting is a fantastically fun job. However, it is the hardest most important job in the world. Part of our responsibility as a parent is to teach our…
- Positive Discipline Techniques- 1 by: tericlaassen
August 20, 2012, 04:20
Parenting is a hard job- especially when it comes to disciplining your child. Discipline should be something parents do as a way to teach children right from…
- TV's Influence on Children- 4 by: joleenwatson
August 10, 2012, 10:00
Do you give consent by remaining silent? Many parents react with silence when a television program is misleading to our children. Unfortunately, this…
- TV's Influence on Children-3 by: alexa griffith
August 8, 2012, 00:20
Do You Interrupt, Interpret, or Mediate the Programs Watched By Your Children? If your children are at all like mine, they watch very different shows than…
- TV’s Influence On Children-2 by: tamarawilhelm
August 7, 2012, 05:00
Do You Use TV as a Reward, or to Punish Bad Behavior? This is ultimately not a good idea either way. Rewards and punishments need to relate to the behavior…
- TV's Influence On Children-1 by: tericlaassen
August 6, 2012, 04:53
Do you worry about how the media will shape your kids? TV can impact a child's social and intellectual development. Violence and inappropriate scenes on TV can…
- 5 Toxic Behaviors That Poison Your Relationship With Your Teen by: joleenwatson
July 27, 2012, 05:38
Toxic Behavior #5: No Oppportunities to Regain Trust When teenagers feel as though they can't regain trust with their parents after something has…
- 5 Toxic Behaviors That Poison Your Relationship with Your Teens by: nataliechandler
July 26, 2012, 05:49
Toxic Behavior #4: You must first be good to get my love It can be so difficult to show your child love when you are angry and frustrated, right? But it is…
- 5 Toxic Behaviors That Poison Your Relationship With Your Teen by: alexa griffith
July 25, 2012, 00:26
Toxic Behavior #3 Compliment Sandwiches Have you ever received a compliment followed by a "but?" Imagine your boss tells you, " you did a great job on…
- 5 Toxic Behaviors That Poison Your Relationship With your Teen- Attacking the Person by: tamarawilhelm
July 24, 2012, 05:00
Toxic Behavior #2: Attacking the Person Rather Than the Misbehavior This can happen when you don't separate out your teen's misbehavior from their character…
- 5 Toxic Behaviors That Poison Your Relationship With your Teen- Bringing up the Past by: tericlaassen
July 23, 2012, 05:38
Parenting a teenager can feel like a roller coaster! A few weeks ago we shared good info about out of control teen behaviors, but this week we want to look at…
- Stopping Your Out of Control Teen- Level 7 by: joleenwatson
July 13, 2012, 10:21
Level 7- Threats of Suicide While any threat of suicide should be taken seriously, it's important to react appropriately and not allow this to become a form…
- Stopping Your Out of Control Teen- Levels 5&6 by: nataliechandler
July 12, 2012, 05:32
Your teen has now pulled out MOST of the stops! They've been disrespectful, are truant or failing school and running away, and now are threatening to have a…
- Stopping Your Out Of Control Teen Levels 3&4 by: alexa griffith
July 11, 2012, 00:11
Maybe your teen is beyond disrespect or truancy and failing school. Perhaps your child is trying to manipulate you with more severe or dangerous threats. …
- Stopping Your Out of Control Teen- Levels 1&2 by: tamarawilhelm
July 10, 2012, 05:00
Starting with the least extreme and dangerous, let's look at what some teens will tell themselves in order to manipulate parents into getting what they want.…
- Stopping Your Out of Control Teen- Intro by: tericlaassen
July 9, 2012, 04:58
Are you parenting teenagers? Have you lost total control because of their behaviors? Do you resist taking back control because you are scared of what they…
- Characteristics of A Healthy Father- Protection by: joleenwatson
June 15, 2012, 11:24
In honor of Father's Day, this week Imagine Hope is talking about some characteristics of a healthy father. Do any of the characteristics from this week…
- Characteristics of A Healthy Father - Teacher/Model by: tamarawilhelm
June 12, 2012, 05:00
Characteristic #2: Teacher/Model A healthy father knows he's always being watched by his children. Therefore, he chooses his words carefully, chooses how he…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Father- Engaged by: tericlaassen
June 11, 2012, 04:49
Father's Day is coming up this Sunday! Last month we wrote about characteristics of a healthy mother, so now it is time to do the same for fathers. I know…
- Ways to Protect Your Kids From Predators 5 by: joleenwatson
June 1, 2012, 18:40
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the importance of protecting your children from predators. As we have discussed, in this day and age, it's vital to…
- Ways to Protect Your Kids From Predators 3 by: alexa griffith
May 30, 2012, 00:51
As a parent, I can attest that there are few fears that are bigger than something terrible happening to your children. The reality is that we, as parents,…
- Ways To Protect Your Kids From Predators 2 by: tamarawilhelm
May 29, 2012, 06:46
This week's blog is such an important topic. If you the parent are aware and better informed, then you can pass on this information to your children as well.…
- Ways To Protect Your Kids From Predators 1 by: tericlaassen
May 28, 2012, 15:19
As a parent, one of my main concerns is my child's safety. Part of my job is to be the "safety patrol" and teach them how to catch on to what is safe and what…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Mother 3 by: alexa griffith
May 9, 2012, 00:17
This week before Mother’s Day we are examining what characteristics make a healthy mother. Most moms want to do their best to raise happy well- adjusted…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Mother 1 by: tericlaassen
May 7, 2012, 05:50
Mother's Day is approaching on Sunday! I know this day can be exciting for some as they celebrate motherhood, while for others it can be painful due to loss of…
- Top 7 Reasons for Teen Misbehavior- #7 by: joleenwatson
April 20, 2012, 04:43
Today we will finish up with this weeks blog series on the reasons for teen misbehavior. Have you recognized any of these reasons so far this week? Reason…
- Top 7 Reasons for Teen Misbehavior #5-#6 by: nataliechandler
April 19, 2012, 05:15
This week we are talking about 7 reasons for teen misbehavior, taken by the book "Parenting Your Out-Of-Control Teenager" by Scott Sells. This book is very…
- Top 7 Reasons for Teen Misbehavior #4 by: alexa griffith
April 18, 2012, 00:04
The mere mention of adolescence often produces strong emotional responses from adults. Teens have strong emotions, and evoke strong emotions from the adults…
- Top 7 Reasons for Teen Misbehavior- #2 & 3 by: tamarawilhelm
April 17, 2012, 11:46
Don't ya just love teens? Especially one who's testing the boundaries? Scott Sells book, Parenting Your Out of Control Teenager, can help you love them even…
- Top 7 Reasons for Teen Misbehavior- #1 by: tericlaassen
April 16, 2012, 07:06
Raising a teen can be overwhelming. This is often the time I hear cries from parents who feel lost and at the end of their rope. Scott Sells gives us 7 reasons…
- From The Mouths of Babes- Alexa by: alexa griffith
April 4, 2012, 04:12
Kids really do say the darndest things. The show of the same name was before my time, but being a mother and working with children has shown me that truth. …
- From The Mouths of Babes- Teri by: tericlaassen
April 2, 2012, 10:12
Kids can say the coolest things! When you look through the eyes of a child, you might notice some significant life lessons from their perspective. This week we…
- Tips on Helping Your Child Cope With Divorce- Control by: joleenwatson
March 16, 2012, 12:59
Give your child some element of control. Kids feels totally out of control of their world while going through a divorce. Try to find ways to let them…
- Tips on Helping Your Child Cope With Divorce - Watch Your Mouth by: tamarawilhelm
March 14, 2012, 03:00
Teri & Alexa have done an excellent job preparing a parent for how to tell a child they're divorcing. Now, let's discuss what you as a parent should do…
- Caring For Your Children Through A Divorce- Impact By Age by: alexa griffith
March 13, 2012, 05:46
Like Teri I am a child of divorce. I have a clear memory of my parents separation and divorce 32 years later. I remember what thoughts ran through my head,…
- How To Tell Your Kids About Divorce by: tericlaassen
March 12, 2012, 07:14
I am a child of divorce. It amazes me the memories I have of the details of being told, the exact words used, where I was, and what I did after I was told.…
- Basic Human Needs - Listening by: tamarawilhelm
February 28, 2012, 03:00
Listening, Participating & Accepting Everyone likes to know the person they're speaking with has heard them, even if that person does not always agree…
- Basic Human Needs- Touch by: joleenwatson
February 27, 2012, 04:55
All of us have basic needs that make us feel fulfilled in our lives. Some of these needs are critical to our survival as a child (such as safety and…
- Let's Talk About Love- Storge by: alexa griffith
February 15, 2012, 06:31
“Love isn't a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is,…
- Flower Messages 2 by: joleenwatson
January 27, 2012, 09:56
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the different types of messages we give to others in our communication-- termed "Garbage Messages" or "Flower Messages". …
- Life Lessons From Movies - The Pursuit of Happyness by: tamarawilhelm
December 27, 2011, 04:00
I watch ALOT of movies. It's something my husband and I enjoy doing together. It was hard coming up with just one movie that had a great lesson. But, The…
- What is your family role? - Scapegoat by: tamarawilhelm
December 20, 2011, 05:00
Yesterday Teri introduced us to the "Family Hero". Since it's Christmas time, we may see ourselves falling back into these "roles" as we interact with our…
- TV Families- Modern Family by: tericlaassen
November 27, 2011, 18:04
It's the holiday season which means it's time for family! At Imagine Hope we hear a lot of stories from clients about their families. As we watch how the media…
- The Difference Between Toxic and Healthy Secrets by: joleenwatson
August 5, 2011, 06:39
So now you know what toxic and healthy secrets look like and how they impact your relationships… How do you know the difference between the two? Here are…
- How Divorce Impacts Kids of All Ages: 13-18 Years Old by: joleenwatson
July 15, 2011, 05:43
As we have been discussing, divorce has different effects on children, depending on their ages. It's so important to be aware of this when a family is…
- How Divorce Impact Kids of All Ages: Infant-2 Years by: tericlaassen
July 11, 2011, 02:27
Divorce can be a devastating experience for all involved- no matter what your age. I've worked with kids of divorce, young and old, and am a sufferer of this…
- How Can Parents Cope with Difficult Behaviors? 4 by: joleenwatson
June 17, 2011, 08:25
As we have been discussing parenting a difficult child, we encourage you to keep in mind that parenting isn't just about teaching your child how to "behave"--…
- How Can Parents Cope with Difficult Behaviors? 3 by: nataliechandler
June 16, 2011, 05:34
I can say from experience, parenting is the biggest blessing in life and the biggest challenge. I have never felt so proud and inadequate in all my life! Any…
- How Can Parents Cope With Difficult Behavior? 2 by: tamarawilhelm
June 14, 2011, 08:41
Parenting is hard enough, but throw in difficult behaviors, and ugh, watch out! All my respect goes out to parents, I really don't know a harder job out there.…
- How Can Parents Cope With Difficult Behavior? 1 by: tericlaassen
June 13, 2011, 02:28
Let's face it- Parenting is HARD work! It keeps you on your toes from minute to minute. Once you think you have mastered one challenge, everything changes and…
- How Do You Handle Conflict?-Compromise by: tericlaassen
April 18, 2011, 03:50
Conflict is a reality in all relationships. We can't avoid it. Many people react and respond so fast to conflict they don't slow down enough to see that they…
- Family Communication Tips- Don'ts 2 by: tamarawilhelm
April 5, 2011, 06:35
We all fall prey to bad communication from time to time. However, doing poor communication over and over can really lead to distance between relationships and…
- Family Communication Tips-Don'ts 1 by: tericlaassen
April 4, 2011, 10:54
Every family has bumps in the road which can create stress. But the stress can be increased significantly when the family has poor communication skills. This…
- Great Self-Help Books- Joleen by: joleenwatson
February 4, 2011, 06:00
One book that I recently read and highly recommend is "Parenting Your Out of Control Teenager: 7 Steps to Reestablish Authority and Reclaim Love" by Scott…
- Great Self-Help Books- Teri by: tericlaassen
January 31, 2011, 03:22
Self-help books are great tools for taking the things we teach in therapy sessions to a deeper explanation for your lives. I am always on a lookout for good…
- 7 Tips to Keep Your Child From Being Self-Absorbed 4 by: joleenwatson
January 28, 2011, 13:36
Here are 2 more tips to add onto our list for this week's blog: 6. Sex is natural, and children should not be made to feel shameful about their sexuality…
- 7 Tips to Keep Your Child from Being Self-Absorbed 2 by: tamarawilhelm
January 25, 2011, 09:54
About 8 years ago, a Roper National Youth Survey was done asking teens what they thought was wrong with America. Some of their answers were: Selfishness/people…
- 7 Tips to Keep Your Child from Being Self-Absorbed 1 by: tericlaassen
January 24, 2011, 05:29
Doing the "right" thing as a parent is always a concern when you think about how to handle things with your children. In the book "Why Is It Always About You?"…
- How to Enjoy Your Christmas Break 1 by: tericlaassen
December 20, 2010, 03:30
Merry Christmas! Christmas break is here! We hope all our readers take advantage of this time to be intentional about enjoying their break. This week we came…
- Roles for Parenting Teens- 4 by: joleenwatson
November 12, 2010, 13:34
We have heard some great tips for parenting teens so far this week on Imagine Hope's blog. Today we will review the fourth and final tip: 4. Build a…
- Roles for parenting teens- 3 by: nataliechandler
November 11, 2010, 06:35
I have to admit, I'm anxious when I think about my little children one day becoming teens! My friends and clients say they would do anything to go back to…
- Roles for Parenting Teens- 2 by: tamarawilhelm
November 9, 2010, 13:08
Ahhh, the teenage years. It's hard enough going through them as a teen, let alone parenting one. Hopefully these roles will help! 2. Teach them communication…
- Roles for Parenting Teens- 1 by: tericlaassen
November 8, 2010, 03:38
Parenting a teen can be an extremely stressful stage for parents. They often feel overwhelmed and sucked into the wild roller coaster ride of adolescence.…
- Recommended Books for the Fall- Teri by: tericlaassen
September 20, 2010, 10:35
At Imagine Hope we read and recommend books for people all the time. As the fall is starting it's time for us to recommend some more! When you think about the…
- What blocks you from working on your issues? Waiting too long to start by: tericlaassen
September 7, 2010, 03:24
Issues...everyone has them. There's always a little "needs improvement" somewhere in our lives, whether it's in our relationships, with parenting, as an…
- Are You Creating a Shame-Based Family Environment? 16-20 by: joleenwatson
September 3, 2010, 11:53
Teri, Tamara and Natalie did a great job at explaining the issue of shame: a feeling of toxic guilt, or where you feel bad-- even though you haven't done…
- Are You Creating a Shame-based Family Environment? 11-15 by: nataliechandler
September 2, 2010, 14:50
Yesterday Tamara really hit home with shame by calling it "toxic guilt". Unfortunately, we see so much of this toxic guilt in our clients. They have been…
- Are You Creating a Shame-Based Family Environment? 5-10 by: tamarawilhelm
August 31, 2010, 09:16
Teri did a great job yesterday introducing Shame, and how lethal of an issue it can be. Another way I like to describe shame is to say it's the feeling you get…
- Are You Creating a Shame-Based Family Environment? by: tericlaassen
August 30, 2010, 10:51
Many people are confused about the issue of shame. They often mistake it as guilt or as just being ashamed of an action you have done; but that is only a…
- Do You Say These Things?--"Yeah, but..." by: tericlaassen
August 23, 2010, 16:03
As therapist's we hear a lot of dysfunctional phrases from people. Many say things without thinking about the message they are sending. Some will blurt phrases…
- School's coming- Educate Yourself by: tericlaassen
August 13, 2010, 10:40
Just because we are adults does not mean that we know it all! Parenting techniques are always changing and can be different from child to child. So as our…
- School's coming- Connect with others by: joleenwatson
August 12, 2010, 20:16
This week we are using the acronym PACE, when talking about how to make the “Back to School” transition more manageable for everyone— especially you, as…
- School's Coming- Find an Activity by: tamarawilhelm
August 10, 2010, 15:37
In keeping with our P.A.C.E. (Staying Positive, Activity, Connecting with Others & Educating) theme this week, today we're focusing on Activity. What does…
- School's coming- Are you ready? by: tericlaassen
August 9, 2010, 16:32
It's back to school time already! I can't believe how quick this summer has gone. Here at Imagine Hope we work with lots of parents and kids who want to start…
- When have you felt most loved? #4 by: joleenwatson
July 25, 2010, 17:11
As Teri and Tammy have mentioned, feeling loved allows us to have SO much to give back to a relationship-- whether romantic, friendship, or family. Each time…
- When have you felt most loved? #3 by: tericlaassen
July 22, 2010, 17:00
Feeling loved is important in all close relationships. It's what draws us into intimacy with a person. If we don't feel loved we will likely hold back and…
- Inspirational Quotes 3 by: tericlaassen
July 8, 2010, 03:04
Thanks Tamara for that powerful lesson! This quote is one of my favorites and is at the end of my email: "In the adversity we dread facing, we find a…
- Negative Thinking Patterns by: tericlaassen
June 14, 2010, 10:35
Did you know that negative thinking can really impact your life and relationships? Many people don't realize how damaging your mindset can be if it isn't…
- More Things To Remove From Your Life by: joleenwatson
June 4, 2010, 22:10
What is one definite way to ruin communication, trust and intimacy in your relationships? Passive-Aggressive behaviors and indirect communication. In our…
- More Things to Remove From Your Life by: nataliechandler
June 3, 2010, 05:53
Do you know the definition of insanity? We see it a lot in couples and individuals. It's what many of them need to remove from their life: Doing the same…
- More Things to Remove From Your Life by: tericlaassen
June 2, 2010, 16:13
Thanks Tammy! That is a great example of how a "remodel" can change your outlook in life and relationships. Speaking of a remodel...another thing that is…
- What are Boundaries?- Physical Boundaries by: tericlaassen
February 15, 2010, 12:02
Boundaries are vital to healthy relationships. A boundary is a rule you set or the line you draw when it comes to your interactions with others. Whether you…
- What do healthy families look like? by: joleenwatson
February 12, 2010, 17:51
Having healthy family dynamics is such an important thing, yet few of us are aware of what that looks like because we tend to equate "normal" with what we are…
- What does a Healthy Relationship Look Like? by: tericlaassen
February 8, 2010, 12:41
It's Valentine's week and many people are focused on relationships. So Imagine Hope wants to help you discover what a healthy relationship looks like. This…
- Recognizing and dealing with stress Part 4 by: tericlaassen
January 22, 2010, 14:11
Good reminders ladies of how to recognize and deal with stress. It sure is a stressful world for us adults, but what about our kids. Oftentimes a child will…
- Communication Tips for Parents Part 4 by: joleenwatson
December 4, 2009, 13:11
Teri, Tammy, and Natalie have listed many wonderful tips for better communication between parents and their children. Today we will expand on this to…
- Communication Tips for Parents Part 3 by: nataliechandler
December 3, 2009, 10:27
Here are some more tips Imagine Hope is offering parents to better connect with your children and teens: Say "I know" rather than "it's okay" when your…
- Communication Tips for Parents Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
December 1, 2009, 14:16
Here are some more tips Imagine Hope is offering parents to better connect with your children and teens: Ask open ended questions (questions that cannot be…
- Tips for Positive Parenting by: joleenwatson
October 30, 2009, 11:47
8. The best way to parent in a positive way is to take care of you. Make sure you get enough rest, good nutrition, and some time for yourself when…
- Tips for Positive Parenting by: nataliechandler
October 29, 2009, 09:25
This week we have been discussing positive ways to parent your children. We have talked about boundaries, positive reinforcement, natural consequences,…
- Tips for Positive Parenting by: tamarawilhelm
October 27, 2009, 06:32
Today we're continuing our discussion on how to parent children in a positive way. Yesterday we discussed boundaries, positive reinforcement and natural…
- How Can You Help With Your Treatment of Postpartum Depression? by: joleenwatson
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- Characteristics of a Healthy Mother- 5 by: joleenwatson
May 10, 2013, 11:43
In honor of Mother's Day, Imagine Hope is blogging about several different characteristics of a healthy Mom. 5. She is involved in her child's life-- but…
- 30 Questions To Ask About Your Relationship 25-30 by: joleenwatson
May 3, 2013, 05:41
25. When was the last time you talked about your future together, and were you on the same page? Obviously, if you aren’t talking about the future, you…
- 30 Questions to Ask About Your Relationship 7-12 by: tamarawilhelm
April 30, 2013, 05:00
#7 - When you think of your partner, do you smile? - Is your gut reaction to smile when you think of your spouse or your significant other? We hope so! If your…
- 30 Questions to Ask About Your Relationship 1-6 by: tericlaassen
April 29, 2013, 02:41
Everyone questions themselves...did I make the right or wrong choice? Should or shouldn't I? Why do I do that? etc. Questions are a normal part of the human…
- What Kind of Unglued Are You? The Stuffer Who Collects Retaliation Rocks by: joleenwatson
April 19, 2013, 12:06
The Stuffer Who Collects Retaliation Rocks What do you do with your feelings about small (and not-so-small) situations that happen in your marriage? Do…
- What Kind of Unglued Are You? The Stuffer Who Builds Barriers by: nataliechandler
April 17, 2013, 17:48
The Stuffer Who Builds Barriers So what do you do when you have a friend who has said or did something that really hurt you? What about your spouse- do you…
- Spring Book Recommendations- Joleen by: joleenwatson
April 12, 2013, 14:29
The subject of ambiguous loss is a relatively new one to me, as it relates to therapy, but is one that we frequently see with our clients (as well as in our…
- Spring Book Recommendations- Natalie by: nataliechandler
April 11, 2013, 07:15
Constantly Craving by Marilyn Meberg This book is a wonderful book that is insightful, engaging, and filled with humor. Marilyn has a way of getting her…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Natalie by: nataliechandler
March 28, 2013, 04:31
The 3 most common mistakes I see couples make are the following: 1. Making a lot of assumptions about what the other partner is thinking. I see this a…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Tammy by: joleenwatson
March 26, 2013, 05:00
*Fighting about too many things at once - It’s hard to follow a disagreement when you’re fighting about this, that, & the kitchen sink. Stick to one…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Teri by: tericlaassen
March 17, 2013, 08:58
As therapists we see big issues in relationships start from a small mistake and grow into a bigger issue. Conquering the small issues is good prevention and…
- Tips to Nurture Relationships 5 by: joleenwatson
March 15, 2013, 08:34
Speak your child's love language! Speaking your child's love language, whether it's physical touch or quality time (or any of the 5), helps to restore…
- Tips to Nurture Relationships 4 by: nataliechandler
March 14, 2013, 04:50
Acceptance of Underlying Feelings Many times we may have a strong emotional reactions to something that may not be that big of a deal to someone else.…
- Tips To Nurture Relationships 3 by: alexa griffith
March 13, 2013, 07:13
A New Approach to Criticism Most of us have that one family member, coworker, or aquaitance that just cannot help but say negative comments. We usually…
- Tips To Nurture Relationships 2 by: tamarawilhelm
March 12, 2013, 05:00
Opportunities to Build Trust Trust is an essential ingredient in every relationship. Trust is extremely important in marriages, romantic relationships,…
- Tips to Nurture Relationships 1 by: joleenwatson
March 11, 2013, 09:13
We all have moments where we stop and think “I should call and check on so-and-so to see how they are”, or “I should really make an effort with this…
- Serenity Prayer- Wisdom by: joleenwatson
March 8, 2013, 17:07
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the Serenity Prayer and it's meaning. So far, we have gone through serenity, courage and change. Today we will…
- Serenity Prayer - Acceptance by: tamarawilhelm
March 5, 2013, 05:00
In studying the Serenity Prayer this week, we want an awareness & focus to be on what the words mean, not memorization and repetitiveness of the…
- Signs of Hidden Anger: 18-23 by: joleenwatson
February 22, 2013, 05:00
So far, we have seen 17 different signs that can tell you if you might have hidden anger. As Natalie and Tammy have shared, many of them can mimic signs of…
- The Five Levels of Intimacy: 5-My Needs, Emotions & Desires by: joleenwatson
February 15, 2013, 06:38
As we have previously discussed, there are five main levels of intimacy in relationships. When beginning to date, or when working on rebuilding a relationship…
- 5 Levels of Intimacy- #3 Personal Opinions and Beliefs by: joleenwatson
February 13, 2013, 06:43
This level of intimacy is about taking small risks, while still allowing some protective barriers to exist. This stage is often where we start to share…
- 5 Levels of Intimacy- #2 Other's Opinions and Beliefs by: tamarawilhelm
February 12, 2013, 05:00
During this stage, we start making ourselves more vulnerable to each other than we did in the first stage (discussed yesterday). While we're not quite…
- 5 Levels of Intimacy- #1 Safe Communication by: tericlaassen
February 11, 2013, 04:25
Love is in the air as we look forward to celebrating Valentine's Day this week! Relationships aren't just about romance and feeling "that loving feeling".…
- Love Knot: The Judge by: joleenwatson
February 1, 2013, 14:26
We all want to have our parnter be our biggest listener and support system when something is going wrong in life (and even when it isn't!). But what happens…
- Love Knot- If I were Important then You Would Remember! by: nataliechandler
January 31, 2013, 12:39
It is easy to fall into the trap of believing that because someone doesn't remember something, that it is not important to them. It is even more difficult to…
- Love Knot-If You Really Loved Me by: joleenwatson
January 29, 2013, 06:48
Now that you know what a "Love Knot" is, we will be spending this week talking about some of the most popular ones that we see our clients get stuck in. …
- What is A Love Knot? by: tericlaassen
January 28, 2013, 03:26
When you get frustrated with your partner, do you notice a phrase in your head that starts with, "If he really loved me, he would just know I'm upset about…
- Lying and Trust Issues- 5 by: joleenwatson
January 25, 2013, 06:21
What to do if you think you are being lied to: Don't obsess-- when you invest all of your emotional energy in what another person is doing, you are only…
- How to Rebuild Trust by: nataliechandler
January 24, 2013, 06:21
Rebuilding trust is very difficult and takes a lot of time. I think the most difficult part of working with people that have lied or have been untrustworthy…
- Trust Issues by: alexa griffith
January 23, 2013, 06:48
Why Do People Have Trust Issues? Most of us have been hurt at some point in our history. Some of us still have wounds from those hurts. It takes a lot…
- Why do People Lie? by: tamarawilhelm
January 22, 2013, 05:00
This is the golden question, isn't it? Truth is, there's not really one correct answer to this. People lie for many different reasons, and I'm sure I won't…
- Lying and Trust Issues by: joleenwatson
January 21, 2013, 06:42
We all have people in our lives that we struggle with because of lying or betrayal. I'm sure you can probably think of a few right now! These individuals…
- Saving Your Marriage Before Giving Up-5 by: joleenwatson
January 11, 2013, 11:29
All week we have been talking about the importance of addressing issues and identifying “hot buttons” in your marriage. Today I’m going to talk about…
- Saving Your Marriage Before Giving Up-4 by: nataliechandler
January 10, 2013, 07:28
As Alexa mentioned yesterday, there are certain reasons you get so upset with your spouse. One of them is your hot buttons. It is important to identify what…
- Saving Your Marriage Before Giving Up-2 by: tamarawilhelm
January 8, 2013, 05:00
3 Reasons you don't want to give up in your marriage: 1. Some research shows if you have patience, your marriage will take a turn for the better. Note: This…
- Saving Your Marriage Before Giving Up-1 by: tericlaassen
January 7, 2013, 04:17
It is sad to say that the following are America's divorce rates: 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce,…
- Favorite Holiday Traditions- Joleen by: joleenwatson
December 14, 2012, 10:28
Christmas was a very important holiday for my family as it relates to tradition. There are so many traditions we established, it's difficult to pick just…
- 10 Steps to Forgiving Yourself- Steps 9 & 10 by: joleenwatson
November 30, 2012, 09:37
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the different steps towards self-forgiveness. If you haven't read the blogs from earlier this week, we encourage you to…
- Natalie's Lessons from the Thanksgiving Table by: nataliechandler
November 21, 2012, 15:51
What great lessons I am learning and being reminded of this week thru our Lessons from the Thanksgiving Table! We host both sides of the family at our house…
- How Dysfunctional Families Affect Children 4 by: nataliechandler
November 15, 2012, 00:00
A child naturally feels wants and has needs. This is built into them as babies- we are helpless, therefore we need and want things from our caretakers. In a…
- Danger of Being in an Enmeshed Relationship by: joleenwatson
November 9, 2012, 12:58
By now, you are aware of what "enmeshment" is and how to know if you are in an enmeshed relationship (see earlier blog posts this week). What are the…
- Tips To Not Be an Enmeshing Person by: joleenwatson
November 8, 2012, 06:52
If you’ve been reading this week, you may have realized that you have been or are currently in an enmeshed relationship. The following are some ways to…
- Tips To Break Free of An Enmeshed Relationship by: alexa griffith
November 7, 2012, 00:28
After reading the signs of being an enmeshed relationship, have you recognized that you may be in one? Have you realized that you may have merged your…
- Signs You're In An Enmeshed Relationship by: tamarawilhelm
November 6, 2012, 05:00
Your belief systems change - When you get too close to someone and enmesh with them, sometimes the things you believe in (religion, politics, moral…
- Enmeshment- What is it? by: tericlaassen
November 5, 2012, 03:23
"I LOVE him and CAN'T live without him." "I would just DIE without her." "You complete me." "I NEED you." "I am NOTHING without you." Ever heard…
- The Masks We Wear... Counterdependency by: joleenwatson
November 2, 2012, 08:27
This week, as a tribute to the Halloween season, we are talking about masks. Every day we can unknowingly put on different masks that hide us from various…
- The Masks We Wear- Codependency by: nataliechandler
November 1, 2012, 05:46
This week we are talking about masks we wear to cover up our authentic selves. If you haven't already, feel free to back up and read the other blogs from this…
- The Masks We Wear...Addiction by: joleenwatson
October 31, 2012, 06:26
This week we are talking about masks since it is Halloween. However, we are not talking about the masks we put on to dress up for trick-or-treating; we are…
- The Masks We Wear…But Why? by: tericlaassen
October 29, 2012, 02:42
Halloween can be so much fun to get dressed up and be whoever you want to be! At Halloween we give permission as a society to “pretend” to be someone…
- Feelings and Defenses 5 by: joleenwatson
October 19, 2012, 06:15
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing how defenses can be used to mask or avoid feelings, especially the feelings of anger, sadness, fear, loneliness, shame…
- Feelings and Defenses 4 by: nataliechandler
October 18, 2012, 05:34
As we are talking this week about defensive behaviors that cover our primary feelings, it is imperative that we chat about the "quiet behaviors". These are…
- Feelings and Defenses 2 by: tamarawilhelm
October 16, 2012, 05:00
Teri did a great job yesterday explaining the primary emotions. A reminder is that the primary feeling words are Angry, Sad, Afraid, Lonely, Ashamed and…
- Feelings and Defenses 1 by: tericlaassen
October 15, 2012, 02:57
Feelings are a normal part of the human experience. You can't get away from them, but people do fight to hide them by using defenses. Our primary feelings…
- Non-Traditional Addictions- Busy Addiction by: joleenwatson
October 12, 2012, 06:30
Do you ever find it difficult to sit still and just "be" without having to do something "productive" with your time? Does idle time without having a…
- Facebook and Your Marriage- Tips by: joleenwatson
October 5, 2012, 13:50
Keep good boundaries when using Facebook. Don't friend people you used to date or have romantic feelings towards. This is important because it can easily…
- Facebook and Your Marriage- Tips by: alexa griffith
October 3, 2012, 00:41
Teri and Tamara helped us set some safe ground rules and boundaries for Facebook. Now let's talk about how we can use it to have more connection and fun in…
- Facebook and Your Marriage- Ground Rules 2 by: tamarawilhelm
October 2, 2012, 05:00
Ground Rule #3: Exchange login and password information with your spouse - I'm sure some of you just choked, but hear us out. Letting your spouse login to your…
- Facebook and Your Marriage- Ground Rules 1 by: tericlaassen
October 1, 2012, 03:59
Facebook has changed the way people communicate. People have more ability to share with all of their "friends" through one post. People can reconnect or stay…
- Relationship Exits-4 by: nataliechandler
September 27, 2012, 06:18
We exit when we see you are in pain and we can't fix it Many people feel uncomfortable with seeing others in emotional pain. That is normal. Usually it brings…
- Relationship Exits-3 by: alexa griffith
September 26, 2012, 12:01
We exit when we feel the ancient feeling of being trapped. Our fight or flight or freeze responses can be traced back to our ancient human days. When we…
- Relationship Exits - 2 by: tamarawilhelm
September 25, 2012, 05:00
We exit when we can't find the language to express our feelings - sometimes it can be hard to find the words to clearly express what we're trying to say.…
- Relationship Exits-1 by: tericlaassen
September 24, 2012, 02:22
The fight or flight instinct is a strong one that kicks in without us even thinking about it. Sometimes this instinct can play out in relationships too. We…
- Fall Book Recommendations: Why Does He Do That? by: joleenwatson
September 15, 2012, 07:40
Why Does He Do That?, by Lundy Bancroft is a straightforward book about being in an abusive relationship and abusive men. Bancroft challenges the myth that…
- Fall Book Recommendations- Fresh Brewed Life by: nataliechandler
September 13, 2012, 05:25
Do you need hope for the daily grind? Are you sleepwalking through your days? Are your responsibilities and commitments robbing your life of joy? This…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent- Nonexistent Spirituality by: nataliechandler
September 6, 2012, 09:23
Teri and Tamara have described what having the symptoms of Negative Control and Resentment can create in our lives as Codependents. Today I will discuss how…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent- Negative Control by: tericlaassen
September 3, 2012, 10:14
Codependency is unhealthy love and a tendency to behave in overly passive or excessively caretaking ways that negatively impact one’s relationships and…
- How to Keep Your Sanity: If a Counterdependent Won't Get in Recovery by: alexa griffith
August 31, 2012, 09:08
By now, you have heard the characteristics of Counterdependency. But what do you do if you're in a relationship with one or work with one who refuses…
- Counterdependency- Characteristics Part 2 by: nataliechandler
August 30, 2012, 16:29
On Tuesday, Tamara gave us great descriptions of 4 of the 7 characteristics of Counterdependency: Grandiose, Not knowing/respecting boundaries of others,…
- Counterdependency Characteristics Part 1 by: tamarawilhelm
August 28, 2012, 05:00
Yesterday Teri introduced us to Jim, a sharp-tongued workaholic who seems very self-involved. Sound familiar? Maybe you have a parent, sibling, friend, boss,…
- Counterdependency by: tericlaassen
August 27, 2012, 04:56
Many people are familiar with co-dependency issues, but do not always understand it’s counterpart: The counterdependent. This week we will help you see…
- How To Create Fireworks in Your Marriage- Dream by: joleenwatson
August 17, 2012, 06:02
Dream Together! Many couples begin their dating relationship full of dreams for their future, but once the marriage has become comfortable, they stop…
- How To Create Fireworks in Your Marriage- Flirting by: nataliechandler
August 16, 2012, 05:52
You've heard the saying, "The grass grows where it's watered". As with grass and plants, so it is in our relationships. The more effort and time you give to…
- How To Create Fireworks In Your Marriage- Seduction by: alexa griffith
August 15, 2012, 00:45
The key to seduction is communicating desire. Not just desire for your own needs to be met, but to meet the desires of your partner. You have to show your…
- How to Create Fireworks In Your Marriage - It matters when you're apart by: tamarawilhelm
August 14, 2012, 05:00
Ever receive a small gift or thank-you note unexpectedly? Remember how special it felt to receive it? The same applies in marriage too. Let your spouse know…
- How to Create Fireworks In Your Marriage- Date Each Other by: tericlaassen
August 13, 2012, 02:51
The beginning of relationships can feel like fireworks. The passion, the desire to see them and talk to them, and the drug like euphoria are all common parts…
- The Five Freedoms: Taking Risks by: joleenwatson
August 3, 2012, 06:20
Freedom #5: To take risks in one's own behalf instead of choosing to be only "secure" and not rocking the boat. We have all probably been in a situation…
- 5 Freedoms: To Ask For What You Want by: nataliechandler
August 2, 2012, 05:34
Freedom #4: To Ask for What One Wants Instead of Always Waiting For Permission Many people struggle with telling people what they really want or need. They…
- The Five Freedoms: To Say by: tamarawilhelm
July 31, 2012, 05:00
Freedom #2: To Say What One Feels and Thinks Instead of What One Should Feel and Think There's that "Should" word again. Whenever you use the word "Should",…
- Myths About Love- Love and Anger Are Incompatible by: joleenwatson
July 20, 2012, 05:38
Myth #7: Love and Anger are Incompatible Many people believe that if you really love someone, that means you never get angry at them. Or perhaps you…
- Myths about Love- True Love is Selfless by: nataliechandler
July 19, 2012, 07:32
Myth #6- True Love is Selfless Many people have this myth in their minds and it can be dangerous. Yes, selfish is not good if we are all consuming and…
- Myths About Love- Falling in Love and Exclusiveness by: alexa griffith
July 18, 2012, 00:30
Myth #4 -We fall in and out of love. To watch movies or read romance novels, one would believe that love is something that happens to us, not something we…
- Myths About Love- It's Fleeting & Constant Closeness by: tamarawilhelm
July 17, 2012, 05:00
Myth #2 - Love Is Fleeting There are some people whose feelings change for their significant other very quickly. They may be in love with Partner #1 on…
- Myths About Love- It's Eternal by: tericlaassen
July 16, 2012, 04:24
People love love. Romance can be like a drug to many. But the danger of this is that people don't truly understand what love is. They bring misconceptions…
- 4 Ways to Tear Apart A Relationship- Stonewalling by: joleenwatson
July 6, 2012, 19:26
Very few people actually enjoy conflict, and it's natural to sometimes feel stuck during a fight. Maybe you are struggling with what to say, or perhaps you…
- 4 Ways to Tear Apart A Relationship- Defensiveness by: nataliechandler
July 5, 2012, 11:53
#3 Defensiveness We are probably all guilty of getting defensive at one time or another in our relationships. It's a natural feeling to want to defend…
- 4 Ways to Tear Apart A Relationship- Contempt by: tamarawilhelm
July 3, 2012, 05:00
#2 Contempt In his book, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail, John Gottman describes contempt as the intention to insult and psychologically abuse your partner.…
- 4 Ways to Tear Apart A Relationship- Criticism by: tericlaassen
July 2, 2012, 02:22
Imagine Hope is in the relationship repairing business. Which means we see a lot of people come to us with bad habits that need undone in order for the…
- How To Find Mr. Or Mrs. Right- 6-8 by: joleenwatson
June 29, 2012, 06:33
What are some additional things you can do if you are searching for "Mr. Or Mrs. Right"? Have realistic expectations. Things aren't always a bed of roses,…
- How to Find Mr. or Mrs. Right- 4 & 5 by: nataliechandler
June 28, 2012, 05:42
#4- Don't talk yourself out of pink and red flags First of all, what are pink and red flags? Most of you know what a red flag is- it's a phrase we use to…
- How to Find Mr or Mrs Right 2-3 by: tamarawilhelm
June 26, 2012, 05:00
Tip #2 - Be the person you think your Ideal would be attracted to. First off, we're not saying to change who you are in order to get someone to like you.…
- How to Find Mr or Mrs Right 1 by: tericlaassen
June 25, 2012, 04:56
We are asked many times a week by singles about how to find a quality mate. Everyone is looking for Mr or Mrs Right to share their lives with, but the biggest…
- Tips to Make Sex More Fulfilling- Joleen by: joleenwatson
June 22, 2012, 18:07
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing different tips for how you can make your sex life more fulfilling. Have fun and be more playful. Sex doesn't have to…
- Tips to Make Sex More Fulfilling- Natalie by: nataliechandler
June 21, 2012, 05:49
Wow- are we having fun around here this week with our topic and your comments! Glad you all are enjoying it and getting some ideas! Here are a few more: Talk…
- Tips to Make Sex More Fulfilling- Alexa by: alexa griffith
June 20, 2012, 00:18
Remember that feeling you had when you began dating your partner? When we make special effort to romance our partner, they will know that we are interested…
- Tips to Make Sex More Fulfilling- Tammy by: tamarawilhelm
June 19, 2012, 05:00
Don't Get Stuck In A Rut Change it up! Sex can get boring very quickly when the routine (& the room) is the same each time. If you have sex mainly at…
- Tips to Make Sex More Fulfilling- Teri by: tericlaassen
June 18, 2012, 04:53
Every relationship deserves a healthy sex life. Sex is what sets a romantic relationship apart from any other relationship. Ideally, sex is a physical…
- Characteristics of A Healthy Father- Protection by: joleenwatson
June 15, 2012, 11:24
In honor of Father's Day, this week Imagine Hope is talking about some characteristics of a healthy father. Do any of the characteristics from this week…
- Characteristics of A Healthy Father - Teacher/Model by: tamarawilhelm
June 12, 2012, 05:00
Characteristic #2: Teacher/Model A healthy father knows he's always being watched by his children. Therefore, he chooses his words carefully, chooses how he…
- 13 Essential Ingredients To A Healthy Relationship 11-13 by: joleenwatson
June 8, 2012, 07:50
This week, Imagine Hope is going over the different ingredients that are needed to have a healthy relationship-- whether it's with a spouse, co-worker, friend,…
- 13 Essential Ingredients to a Healthy Relationship 8-10 by: nataliechandler
June 7, 2012, 05:28
It feels like we are baking a cake this week with all these "ingredients" :) But isn't that kind of how relationships are? If the ingredients are nasty, the…
- 13 Essential Ingredients To A Healthy Relationship 5-7 by: alexa griffith
June 6, 2012, 00:14
We do not usually think of our relationship as something with ingredients. However, it is important to break down components that support relationship…
- 13 Essential Ingredients To A Healthy Relationship 3-4 by: tamarawilhelm
June 5, 2012, 05:00
Ahhh, healthy relationships. It's what we all strive for, right?! Let's talk about the next 2 ingredients: Ingredient #3 - Compassion - Do I have a…
- 13 Essential Ingredients To A Healthy Relationship 1-2 by: tericlaassen
June 4, 2012, 09:14
Everyone has good intentions to find a healthy relationship, but do they have what it takes to make it happen? Enmeshment is the initial love stuck feeling…
- Last-Borns: Making Your Birth Order Work for You by: nataliechandler
May 24, 2012, 08:29
As the pattern would follow for this week: Tamara writing on the 1st born and being one, Alexa being a middle child and writing about that- guess what I might…
- Mind Over Mood- Alternative Thoughts by: nataliechandler
May 17, 2012, 05:33
This week we are talking about how to challenge your thinking rather than making assumptions that can possibly lead to a negative mood. In order to follow, it…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Mom 5 by: nataliechandler
May 11, 2012, 11:49
I think as a society in general, we tend to focus on what we are doing "wrong" as parents. I love what we are doing this week as we focus on what a healthy Mom…
- Characteristics of A Healthy Mother- 4 by: joleenwatson
May 11, 2012, 10:48
In honor of Mother's Day, Imagine Hope is blogging about several different characteristics of a healthy Mom. 5. She is involved in her child's life-- but…
- How to Help a Friend.....Who is an Addict by: nataliechandler
May 3, 2012, 05:42
It can be really difficult to help a friend who is addicted to something. We are not just talking about being addicted to alcohol or drugs either. Many…
- How to Help A Friend....Who Is In An Abusive Relationship by: alexa griffith
May 2, 2012, 00:07
Some people like to have large groups of friends; some people like to have a small group of close friends. I have a small group of friends, but we are very…
- How To Help A Friend....Who's Seriously Ill by: tamarawilhelm
May 1, 2012, 05:00
This week we're addressing several major life issues we all endure. But, what do we do if a friend goes through them? Sometimes there are "rules" to follow to…
- How to Get Through to A Man 5 by: joleenwatson
April 27, 2012, 19:47
Today we finish up with this weeks blog topic, adapted from W. Bruce Cameron's article (reference below). What do you think of the tips so far? "What a…
- How to Get Through to a Man 4 by: nataliechandler
April 26, 2012, 10:15
If you are just catching up with us this week, we are talking about how to get through to a man. We've adapted it from W. Bruce Cameron's article (see below…
- How To Get Through To A Man 3 by: alexa griffith
April 25, 2012, 00:09
" Wanna Dance?" Are you feeling romanic? Are you wondering how to seduce your man? There is a reason why it is called the dance of seduction. Seduction…
- How to Get Through To A Man 2 by: tamarawilhelm
April 24, 2012, 05:00
"Let Me Get Your Power Drill" Okay, this title may sound completely silly, but the concept really does work. (I know this from personal experience!). We'v…
- How to Get Through To A Man 1 by: tericlaassen
April 23, 2012, 06:18
Let's face it, women AND men are hard to understand sometimes. If only we could read each others minds, it would be so much easier! There are some specific…
- Top 7 Reasons for Teen Misbehavior #4 by: alexa griffith
April 18, 2012, 00:04
The mere mention of adolescence often produces strong emotional responses from adults. Teens have strong emotions, and evoke strong emotions from the adults…
- Healthy Sexual Intimacy after Sexual Addiction by: joleenwatson
April 13, 2012, 05:26
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing sexual addiction and what healthy sexual intimacy looks like after sexual addiction has been identified in a relationship.…
- What is Sexual Addiction? by: tericlaassen
April 9, 2012, 10:19
Sex addiction is a common buzz phrase these days. It can have a horrible impact on a person, marriage, and family. Because of this Imagine Hope is going to dig…
- From The Mouths of Babes- Tammy by: tamarawilhelm
April 3, 2012, 05:00
"I can remember what flavor of ice cream cone my grandmother and I shared at Disneyworld; but most of the time I can't remember what day it is. I guess it…
- From The Mouths of Babes- Teri by: tericlaassen
April 2, 2012, 10:12
Kids can say the coolest things! When you look through the eyes of a child, you might notice some significant life lessons from their perspective. This week we…
- Relationships: Intimate vs. Addictive- 4 by: nataliechandler
March 29, 2012, 04:45
Hopefully this week you have been able to identify if your relationship is healthy/intimate or has more addictive characteristics. Being in an addictive type…
- Relationships: Intimate vs Addictive - 2 by: tamarawilhelm
March 27, 2012, 05:00
In an intimate relationship you have a sense of freedom vs. in an addictive relationship there is a sense of compulsion. In healthy relationships, there's a…
- Relationships: Intimate vs. Addictive- 1 by: tericlaassen
March 26, 2012, 05:32
Many clients dance the line in their relationships between achieving emotional intimacy and being addicted to the relationship. The key to an emotionally…
- What Does It Mean to "Let Go"? -5 by: joleenwatson
March 22, 2012, 21:33
"Letting Go" is a popular topic in recovery from many things-- childhood issues, addictions, codependency, and unhealthy relationships, just to name a few. …
- What Does It Mean to "Let Go"- 4 by: nataliechandler
March 22, 2012, 04:55
This week we are focusing on what it means to "let go". This can help you with relationships, in your job, with your children, and many aspects of your life.…
- What Does It Mean to "Let Go"? -1 by: tericlaassen
March 19, 2012, 10:18
Day after day we hear people talk about the difficulty they have with letting things go. Sometimes it's related to codependency and the trouble they have with…
- Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce 5 by: joleenwatson
March 9, 2012, 15:09
10. Evaluate your relationships and make whatever life adjustments you feel are necessary. During a divorce, you might encounter many "Monday Morning…
- Taking Care of Yourself Thru a Divorce 4 by: nataliechandler
March 8, 2012, 06:32
7. Allow yourself to grieve the loss of the relationship and the loss of the DREAM of what you hoped for when you married this person Talk to others, cry,…
- Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce 2 by: tamarawilhelm
March 6, 2012, 03:00
1. Find Some Stability- Throughout this process there will be alot of disruption. Lots of meetings with lawyers & mediators, lots of packing, lots of…
- Basic Human Needs- Sexuality by: joleenwatson
March 2, 2012, 06:21
Sometimes, it's difficult to see sexuality or sex as a human need. Many times in marriage, we tend to think of it as a "perk" or a benefit... or a want,…
- Basic Human Needs- Accomplishment and Enjoyment/Fun by: nataliechandler
March 1, 2012, 05:47
It is never surprising to us when couples come in with challenges they are having that revolve around not getting their needs met. Besides communication, this…
- Basic Human Needs- Support by: alexa griffith
February 29, 2012, 08:10
"Lean on me! When you're not strong, I'll be your friend. I'll help you carry on". You know the Bill Withers song... We do all need somebody to lean on!…
- Basic Human Needs - Listening by: tamarawilhelm
February 28, 2012, 03:00
Listening, Participating & Accepting Everyone likes to know the person they're speaking with has heard them, even if that person does not always agree…
- Basic Human Needs- Touch by: joleenwatson
February 27, 2012, 04:55
All of us have basic needs that make us feel fulfilled in our lives. Some of these needs are critical to our survival as a child (such as safety and…
- Dealing With Difficult People- The Know-it-all by: joleenwatson
February 24, 2012, 21:03
Do you have a difficult person in your life? Perhaps it's a boss, or a relative-- or maybe a co-worker... or even a spouse! This week, Imagine Hope is…
- Dealing with Difficult People- Silent People and Busybodies by: nataliechandler
February 23, 2012, 07:02
Everyone knows difficult people, right? That's why a few years ago we developed a presentation to start helping people to deal with difficult people in the…
- Dealing with Difficult People - The Sniper by: tamarawilhelm
February 21, 2012, 03:00
Difficult people are everywhere in our life. It could be someone in our family, workplace or a friend. It could also be a distant acquaintence. It's easy…
- Dealing with Difficult People- Openly Aggressive Person by: tericlaassen
February 20, 2012, 05:00
Difficult people are everywhere in this world! It is inevitable that you will come across someone daily who is hard to deal with. Because of this, Imagine Hope…
- Let's Talk About Love- Agape by: joleenwatson
February 17, 2012, 15:48
In honor of Valentine's week, this week Imagine Hope is discussing the different kinds of love. Today is one of the most incredible forms of love-- Agape…
- Let's Talk about Love- Philia by: nataliechandler
February 16, 2012, 06:33
Philia This week we have talked about types of love. So far we have described Storge (family love) and Eros (romantic love). Today let's talk about…
- Let's Talk About Love - Eros by: tamarawilhelm
February 14, 2012, 03:00
Happy Valentines Day! If you're in a romantic relationship, today would be the day you would most celebrate the Eros kind of love. Eros Love Eros love is…
- Let's Talk About Love! by: tericlaassen
February 13, 2012, 12:49
I 'love' my family. I 'love' to eat ice cream. I 'love' to hang out with a friend and drink coffee. I'm 'in love' with my husband. I would 'love' to visit…
- Do You Have a Healthy Love Relationship? by: joleenwatson
February 10, 2012, 11:09
Picture two people standing side by side, each reaching for the other's hand: This is a healthy love relationship. A healthy love relationship…
- Do you have a Boarding House or Martyr Relationship? by: nataliechandler
February 9, 2012, 06:58
The Boarding House Relationship Picture two people linked together by their elbows, with their backs to each other. This is the Boarding House Relationship.…
- Do you have a Pedestal Relationship or a Master /Slave Relationship? by: alexa griffith
February 8, 2012, 07:17
As we head toward Valentine's Day, often we think of our relationships. Sometimes we remember past relationships, appreciate present relationships, or dream…
- Do You Have A Smothering Relationship? by: tamarawilhelm
February 7, 2012, 03:00
The Smothering Relationship Picture two people hugging, attached at the hip, never far apart from the other at any time. Feel suffocated? I bet! This…
- Do You Have An "A-Frame Dependency" Relationship? by: tericlaassen
February 6, 2012, 06:21
Love and relationships are a big focus this time of year as we approach Valentine's Day. In honor of the upcoming day, we will be sharing about many types of…
- Talks To Have Before Getting Married: Conflict Styles and Common Interests by: joleenwatson
February 4, 2012, 06:01
If you are presently engaged to be married, we send you our warmest congratulations! The time of dating and engagement is exciting and promising-- a time where…
- Talks To Have Before Getting Married: Communication Styles by: nataliechandler
February 2, 2012, 04:40
If you are reading this, there is probably a Congratulations in order?? Well congrats! Or you may be a parent or friend, reading this to pass along the…
- Talks to Have Before Getting Married: Love Style by: alexa griffith
February 1, 2012, 07:59
What is your partners's love style? Have you ever been with your partner and you feel like you are expressing a lot of love but your s/he does not seem to…
- Talks to Have Before Getting Married: Relationship Rules by: tamarawilhelm
January 31, 2012, 03:00
Whether you realize it or not, you have relationship rules and role expectations. It's how we believe things are going to be when we're married. It's how the…
- Talks to Have Before Getting Married: My Expectations by: tericlaassen
January 30, 2012, 11:15
Imagine Hope is getting several calls each week for people who want to save their marriage before it starts! Couples are starting to realize that they need to…
- Flower Messages 2 by: joleenwatson
January 27, 2012, 09:56
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the different types of messages we give to others in our communication-- termed "Garbage Messages" or "Flower Messages". …
- Flower Messages 1 by: nataliechandler
January 26, 2012, 07:13
By now you are understanding what a Garbage Message is. Now let's talk about Flower Messages. These are messages that we send that are encouraging, uplifting,…
- Garbage Messages 1 by: tamarawilhelm
January 24, 2012, 03:00
I love this week's blog because it brings to all of our attention how we're communicating with each other and whether that communication is positive or…
- Are You Full of Garbage Messages or Flower Messages? by: tericlaassen
January 23, 2012, 06:57
What messages do you send to others? What messages do others give to you? What about the messages you tell yourself in your own head? Are these messages…
- What To Do if You Are Loving Too Much 9-10 by: joleenwatson
January 21, 2012, 06:25
So far, have you used any of this week's blog post suggestions to help with your relationship with yourself? Or, maybe you are wondering "How can you love…
- What to do if you are loving too much 6-8 by: nataliechandler
January 19, 2012, 10:58
As we have been discussing this week, loving too much can be damaging to your relationships and to yourself. It can cause Depression, Anxiety, multiple…
- What to Do if You Are Loving Too Much 1-2 by: tamarawilhelm
January 17, 2012, 03:00
As Teri wrote yesterday, it is possible to love too much. Amazing, but true. We want to help those of you who find yourself in this situation to find balance…
- Are You Loving Too Much? by: tericlaassen
January 16, 2012, 06:04
What? Love TOO much? Is that possible? Yes it is and it can be very damaging for someone when they do. Loving someone is a great thing, but when it crosses…
- Life Lessons From Movies- Princess Bride by: alexa griffith
December 28, 2011, 07:54
After reading Teri’s life lessons from The Wizard of Oz, and Tamara’s lessons from the Pursuit of Happyness, I am happy to write about one of my favorite…
- What is your Family Role? Lost Child by: nataliechandler
December 22, 2011, 06:45
Teri and Tamara did an excellent job of describing the Family Hero and the Scapegoat in our families. I want to discuss with you the role in the family that…
- Decrease Holiday stress- Boundaries by: nataliechandler
December 15, 2011, 06:22
Teri and Tamara have done such a great job sharing ways to decrease holiday stress pertaining to families. I want to share with you some tips to help you keep…
- Decrease Holiday Stress- Emotional Boundaries by: tericlaassen
December 12, 2011, 06:08
Clients tell me all the time, “I hate the holidays”. There are many stressors as people are attending family gatherings and trying to meet everyone’s…
- Christmas Gifts that Say "I Get You"- Physical Touch & Acts of Service by: joleenwatson
December 9, 2011, 13:55
This week we are reviewing different Christmas gift ideas for your significant other, based on the 5 Love Languages. Do you know your significant other's P…
- Christmas Gifts that say "I get you!" Quality Time/Receiving Gifts by: nataliechandler
December 8, 2011, 06:15
Thank you, Teri for giving us a great description of the 5 Love Languages. And Tamara had some GREAT ideas for Words of Affirmations. If you haven't read the…
- Christmas Gifts That Say "I get you"- Words of Affirmation by: tericlaassen
December 6, 2011, 04:00
When giving a Christmas gift to someone who's love language is Words of Affirmation, you have the chance for your creativity to come out! If you want to…
- Christmas Gifts that say "I Get You" by: tericlaassen
December 5, 2011, 07:44
Christmas is coming up and many feel pressure to find the "perfect" gift. This week Imagine Hope is giving you tips on what to give based on your partner's…
- TV Families- All in the Family by: nataliechandler
December 1, 2011, 06:34
I am LOVING reading this weeks blogs about dysfunctional TV families. How fun to relive the childhood moments of the Brady Bunch and to think of the beauty of…
- TV Families - The Golden Girls by: tamarawilhelm
November 29, 2011, 05:00
When you think of family, it doesn't have to be in the traditional sense. Although this show consisted of four women, they were just as much of a family as…
- TV Families- Modern Family by: tericlaassen
November 27, 2011, 18:04
It's the holiday season which means it's time for family! At Imagine Hope we hear a lot of stories from clients about their families. As we watch how the media…
- Natalie's Lessons from the Thanksgiving Table by: nataliechandler
November 19, 2011, 07:54
What great lessons I am learning and being reminded of this week thru our Lessons from the Thanksgiving Table! We host both sides of the family at our house…
- Do You Know a Narcissist? 4 by: nataliechandler
November 10, 2011, 06:54
It can be a challenge, to say the least, to deal with a Narcissist. Let alone be in a relationship with one. Many of our clients who are in a relationship with…
- Do You Know A Narcissist? 2 by: tamarawilhelm
November 8, 2011, 05:00
Narcissistic people are those who come across as selfish, mean and make the world all about them. This week we're talking about the patterns that these type of…
- The Masks We Wear- Counterdependency by: joleenwatson
October 28, 2011, 08:34
This week, as a tribute to the Halloween season, we are talking about masks. Every day we can unknowingly put on different masks that hide us from various…
- The Masks We Wear- Codependency by: nataliechandler
October 27, 2011, 05:32
This week we are talking about masks we wear to cover up our authentic selves. If you haven't already, feel free to back up and read the other blogs from this…
- The Masks We Wear...But Why? by: tericlaassen
October 24, 2011, 05:50
Halloween can be so much fun to get dressed up and be whoever you want to be! At Halloween we give permission as a society to "pretend" to be someone else. It…
- Lessons From Inspirational Quotes- Joleen by: joleenwatson
October 21, 2011, 15:14
"Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced." - James Baldwin Most of us have heard the famous 12 step saying…
- Lessons From Inspirational Quotes - Tamara by: tamarawilhelm
October 18, 2011, 05:00
"Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art... It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival." - C.S.…
- Ways to Develop Companionate Love by: joleenwatson
October 14, 2011, 15:57
So, we've all heard the fairy tale endings at some point in our childhood, right? But what really happens after the prince kisses Sleeping Beauty and…
- What does Companionate Love Look Like 4-7 by: nataliechandler
October 13, 2011, 05:23
Companionate Love is such a wonderful thing. Many couples think if two people love each other that this should come naturally. This is a myth. This type of…
- What Does Companionate Love Look Like 1-3 by: alexa griffith
October 12, 2011, 05:57
Companionate Love reaches the depths of our hearts and has the ability to ignite our passion and calm insecurities with equal measure. There is no like for…
- What Does Companionate Love Look Like? by: tamarawilhelm
October 11, 2011, 05:00
Yesterday Teri gave us two stories describing two very different couples. Can you pick out which couple is displaying Companionate Love? It's Couple #2, Jane…
- Which Story is Companionate Love? by: tericlaassen
October 10, 2011, 05:51
You might ask... What IS companionate love? This week Imagine Hope is going to tell you! But I'm going to keep you guessing for now! Today I'm giving you 2…
- Are You a BAD Communicator? 4 by: nataliechandler
September 22, 2011, 05:35
Communication can be so difficult. You put all our experiences (childhood, past relationships etc) + our current mood and that can = a disaster! We all…
- Are you a BAD Communicator?- 1 by: tericlaassen
September 19, 2011, 03:16
At Imagine Hope we spend endless hours teaching people HOW to communicate effectively. It is amazing how easy it is to fall into poor habits. This week we will…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent-Nonexistent Spirituality by: nataliechandler
August 25, 2011, 05:51
Teri and Tamara have described what having the symptoms of Negative Control and Resentment can create in our lives as Codependents. Today I will discuss how…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent- Negative Contol by: tericlaassen
August 22, 2011, 10:46
Codependency is unhealthy love and a tendency to behave in overly passive or excessively caretaking ways that negatively impact one's relationships and quality…
- Do You Have a "Damaged Love Style"? The Secure Connector by: joleenwatson
August 19, 2011, 07:43
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing how our love styles can impact us in our relationships later in life. Based on the book "How We Love" by Milan and Kay…
- Do You Have a "Damaged Love Style"? Controller and Victim by: nataliechandler
August 18, 2011, 05:18
By now you may have identified some of the ways you love by either being an avoider, a pleaser, or a vacillator. If you are not sure what these types are,…
- Do You Have a “Damaged” Love Style?- Pleaser & Vacillator by: tamarawilhelm
August 16, 2011, 05:00
No one wants to damage their relationship and the way they love each other. Learning these 5 love styles by Milan & Kay Yerkovich can create deeper…
- Do You Have a "Damaged" Love Style?- Avoider by: tericlaassen
August 15, 2011, 04:43
Milan and Kay Yerkovich's book "How We Love" gives us a great picture of how dysfunctional attachments can cause painful patterns in relationships. Their…
- The Difference Between Toxic and Healthy Secrets by: joleenwatson
August 5, 2011, 06:39
So now you know what toxic and healthy secrets look like and how they impact your relationships… How do you know the difference between the two? Here are…
- The Difference Between Healthy and Toxic Secrets by: nataliechandler
August 4, 2011, 05:35
Teri and Tammy have discussed both toxic secrets and healthy secrets, but how do each of them impact our relationships with others? Toxic Secrets: Create…
- Toxic Secrets by: tericlaassen
August 1, 2011, 02:54
This week we are talking about secrets! Secrets come in many forms. There are healthy secrets, but also toxic ones. What is the difference? A toxic…
- 30 Tips to Help with Communication Traps 23-30 by: joleenwatson
July 29, 2011, 10:38
This week, we are discussing the different ways you can work on avoiding communication traps, whether you are the speaker or the listener in communication. …
- 30 Tips to Help with Communication Traps 14-22 by: nataliechandler
July 28, 2011, 04:33
As Therapists, we get the opportunity to be on the outside of conflict, looking in without being emotionally involved. Most of the time, it is easy to see how…
- 30 Tips To Help With Communication Traps 1-4 by: tericlaassen
July 25, 2011, 03:25
Using good communication and listening skills are key to helping you avoid being misunderstood. People get trapped when they aren't slowing down enough to use…
- Tips to Getting Out of a Toxic Friendship #4 by: joleenwatson
July 22, 2011, 14:09
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing 5 different tips to getting out of a toxic friendship. If you haven't read our earlier blogs, feel free to go back and…
- Tips To Getting Out of a Toxic Friendship #3 by: nataliechandler
July 21, 2011, 11:32
Friendships are the sunshine in our lives. Yes, all friendships go thru problems or struggles, but for the most part, a friendship needs to be a bright spot in…
- Tips To Get Out of a Toxic Friendship- #1 by: tericlaassen
July 18, 2011, 02:34
Have you ever been in a toxic friendship? Did you have the courage to "break up" with them and get out? Toxic friends often leave you feeling worse than…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Part 4 by: joleenwatson
July 8, 2011, 05:12
In addition to what Teri, Tammy, and Natalie spoke about in their blogs, here are 3 additional mistakes I see when working with couples: Becoming…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Part 3 by: joleenwatson
July 7, 2011, 05:08
The 3 most common mistakes I see couples make are the following: 1. Making a lot of assumptions about what the other partner is thinking. I see this a lot.…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Part 1 by: joleenwatson
July 5, 2011, 05:05
As therapists we many times see big issues in relationships start from a small mistake and grow into a bigger issue. Conquering the small issues is good…
- Healthy Boundaries and Separateness 4 by: joleenwatson
July 2, 2011, 06:38
Having healthy boundaries and maintaining our own identity is an important part of being healthy individuals-- and being a healthy individual means having…
- Healthy Boundaries and Separateness 3 by: tamarawilhelm
June 30, 2011, 10:03
Hopefully you're getting a great feel for healthy & unhealthy boundaries. Let's continue to talk about how to have healthy separateness in relationships…
- Healthy Boundaries and Separateness 2 by: tamarawilhelm
June 28, 2011, 05:00
Teri did a great job yesterday introducing boundaries and describing their importance. It's amazing how many different boundaries there are....that's why we're…
- Healthy Boundaries and Separateness 1 by: tericlaassen
June 27, 2011, 03:59
Can you connect with others without losing yourself? Being ok with being separate is an important part of mastering healthy boundaries. It's sometimes hard…
- Are You an Enabler? 2 by: tamarawilhelm
June 21, 2011, 05:00
If you have a loved one in your life who is currently an addict, our hearts go out to you & your family. We know how difficult it can be to live and…
- Emotional Needs- Domestic Support, Family Commitment, Admiration by: joleenwatson
June 10, 2011, 21:05
If you are finding your "love bank" empty in your relationship, there's a good chance that you or your partner are lacking in one (or more) critical area of…
- Emotional Needs- Honesty/Openness, Attractive Spouse, Financial Support by: nataliechandler
June 9, 2011, 05:40
As you are reading the blogs for the week on Emotional Needs, are you imagining your love tank full or empty? What about your spouse? How would they answer…
- Emotional Needs- Affection by: tericlaassen
June 6, 2011, 03:42
In Willard Harley's book "His Needs, Her Needs", he includes an Emotional Needs Questionnaire for couples. This book breaks down 10 primary needs that…
- How to Keep Your Sanity: If a Counterdependent Won't Get in Recovery by: nataliechandler
June 3, 2011, 06:53
By now, you have heard the characteristics of Counterdependency. But what do you do if you're in a relationship with one or work with one who refuses…
- Counterdependency Characteristics Part 2 by: nataliechandler
June 2, 2011, 05:19
On Wednesday, Tamara gave us great descriptions of 4 of the 7 characteristics of Counterdependency: Grandiose, Not knowing/respecting boundaries of others,…
- Counterdependency by: nataliechandler
May 31, 2011, 09:36
Many people are familiar with co-dependency issues, but do not always understand it’s counterpart: The counterdependent. This week we will help you see the…
- What Memorial Day Means to Me- Teri by: tericlaassen
May 23, 2011, 12:25
Memorial Day can be a great time for family and friends to get together and celebrate having a day off at the beginning of summer. But many use the day to…
- 4 Myths about Affairs- #3 by: nataliechandler
May 5, 2011, 05:31
This week we are talking about MYTHS people have about affairs. So much magical thinking goes on in affairs. As ridiculous as some of the myths sound, when…
- 4 Myths about Affairs - #2 by: tamarawilhelm
May 3, 2011, 11:26
There's no doubt that affairs cause grief, heartache, destruction and pain in relationships. One of the most important things to do when dealing with infidelity…
- 4 Myths about Affairs- #1 by: tericlaassen
May 2, 2011, 03:46
Affairs happen in many relationships. It causes deep pain and destruction for all parties involved with it's ripple effects going much wider than people think.…
- Abandonment Issues- Withdrawl and Internalizing by: nataliechandler
April 28, 2011, 14:07
Teri and Tamara have done a wonderful job of explaining abandonment and the first stage of the process- Shattering. I want to reiterate what Tamara said, this…
- Abandonment Issues- What are they? by: tericlaassen
April 25, 2011, 04:43
Have you heard someone say they suffer from abandonment issues? Most people think about adoption or being left on a door step as a child, but abandonment…
- How Do You Handle Conflict? -Collaborating by: joleenwatson
April 22, 2011, 04:00
This week, Imagine Hope therapist's are discussing the different ways we handle conflict. If you haven't gotten the chance to read the earlier blog posts, we…
- How Do You Handle Conflict- Accommodating by: nataliechandler
April 21, 2011, 13:37
As Teri and Tamara have mentioned, many of us were not taught how to handle conflict appropriately or effectively. Many of us learn the hard way or don't learn…
- How Do You Handle Conflict?-Compromise by: tericlaassen
April 18, 2011, 03:50
Conflict is a reality in all relationships. We can't avoid it. Many people react and respond so fast to conflict they don't slow down enough to see that they…
- Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples 14-18 by: joleenwatson
April 16, 2011, 07:24
This week's blog is focusing on the different characteristics of a dysfunctional couple. Today we will finish up with the final characteristics: 14. It…
- Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples 10-13 by: nataliechandler
April 14, 2011, 05:31
If you are just joining us in our blog this week, please check out Tamara and Teri's previous blogs. We are discussing charateristics of Dysfunctional Couples…
- Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples 5-9 by: tamarawilhelm
April 12, 2011, 06:13
I've often been told & read that God built us to be in relationships. Whether those relationships are familial, friendships, or romantic relationships.…
- Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples 1-4 by: tericlaassen
April 11, 2011, 04:17
What does it mean to be a dysfunctional couple? You might be wondering if you're in one! This week we are writing about the characteristics of dysfunctional…
- Family Communication Skills "Do's" 1 by: nataliechandler
April 7, 2011, 05:31
Doesn't it frustrate you when self-help books and articles tell you everything NOT to do? That's why we wanted to be sure and give you some "do's" this week…
- Family Communication Tips- Don'ts 2 by: tamarawilhelm
April 5, 2011, 06:35
We all fall prey to bad communication from time to time. However, doing poor communication over and over can really lead to distance between relationships and…
- Family Communication Tips-Don'ts 1 by: tericlaassen
April 4, 2011, 10:54
Every family has bumps in the road which can create stress. But the stress can be increased significantly when the family has poor communication skills. This…
- Is Your Life Balanced? Money & Career by: joleenwatson
April 1, 2011, 05:00
This week, Imagine Hope Counseling Group is discussing the importance of balance in all areas of life and different ways to achieve balance. So far, we have…
- Is Your Life Balanced? Spirituality & Romance by: tamarawilhelm
March 29, 2011, 05:00
Life is constantly changing. Whether it's a move, addition to the family, or career change. How well we handle the change in our lives depends upon how well we…
- Emotional Affairs - What to Watch For by: tamarawilhelm
March 25, 2011, 05:00
There are many signs of emotional affairs, if you know what to look for. While these signs can also be related to other life issues, as well as physical or…
- Emotional Affairs - What to do by: tamarawilhelm
March 24, 2011, 05:00
Once you have identified that you are in an emotional affair or you have been caught in an emotional affair, there is a specific reconstruction process to…
- Emotional Affairs - How it Starts by: tamarawilhelm
March 22, 2011, 05:00
Harry and Sally both worked at Eli Lilly. They were on the IT team together and worked on several projects as a great team. They started going out to lunch to…
- Emotional Affairs by: tamarawilhelm
March 21, 2011, 05:00
In this week's blog series, Imagine Hope is going to discuss Emotional Affairs. It's a issue we see happening more & more often, and throughout the week,…
- Don't Drive a Relationship Lemon- Detailing by: joleenwatson
March 18, 2011, 14:21
This week, you have learned about how your relationships can be like a car... So far we've talked about how to choose a car, the importance of regular…
- Don't Drive a Relationship Lemon- Warning Lights! by: nataliechandler
March 17, 2011, 05:39
What a fun way to look at a relationship this week! And it's so true. As Tamara talked about maintenance and its importance on Tuesday, I am going to piggyback…
- Don't Drive a Relationship Lemon - Maintenance by: tamarawilhelm
March 15, 2011, 05:00
In therapy we use alot of analogies with individuals and couples to get a point across. This week we chose cars. Everyone can relate to cars because they…
- Don't Drive a Relationship Lemon-Which One to Choose? by: tericlaassen
March 14, 2011, 02:55
How is your relationship with your car similar to your relationships with others? Can you learn something about what it takes to be in a relationship from how…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Step 12 by: joleenwatson
March 11, 2011, 06:17
Today, we will finish up with the 12 Steps of Recovery, discussing the 12th and final step. Remember that utilizing these steps in everyday life is for…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone - Steps 8 & 9 by: tamarawilhelm
March 8, 2011, 05:00
Natalie, Joleen & Teri have done a great job of explaining the Steps & have given some great exercises to do along the way. I hope you'll get a chance…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Step 4 & Step 5 by: joleenwatson
March 4, 2011, 16:00
This week we are discussing the 12 Steps of recovery... You might be saying to yourself "But I don't have an addiction, so this doesn't apply!" We…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Step 3 by: nataliechandler
March 3, 2011, 06:49
This week, in discussing the 12 Steps, we have talked about recognizing our brokenness and believing we can be restored by something far greater than ourselves.…
- Serenity Prayer- Wisdom by: joleenwatson
February 25, 2011, 12:02
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the Serenity Prayer and it's meaning. So far, we have gone through serenity, courage and change. Today we will…
- Conflict Resolution Tips 1 by: tericlaassen
February 14, 2011, 02:53
Resolving conflict is a skill that everyone needs to work on, even if you aren't in a relationship. There are several things to remember when entering into a…
- Gifts that say "I Get You!"- Physical Touch/Acts of Service by: joleenwatson
February 11, 2011, 10:47
This week we are reviewing different Valentine's Day gift ideas for your significant other, based on the 5 Love Languages. Do you know your significant…
- Gifts that say "I get you" by: tericlaassen
February 7, 2011, 03:19
Valentine's Day is coming up and many feel pressure to find the "perfect" gift. This week Imagine Hope is giving you tips on what to give based on your…
- Great Self-Help Books- Tammy by: tamarawilhelm
February 1, 2011, 08:34
One of books I've found to be wonderful and full of insight recently is So Long, Insecurity by Beth Moore. Beth addresses the main issue many women struggle…
- Great Self-Help Books- Teri by: tericlaassen
January 31, 2011, 03:22
Self-help books are great tools for taking the things we teach in therapy sessions to a deeper explanation for your lives. I am always on a lookout for good…
- Are You an Adult Child of Dysfunction? 4 by: joleenwatson
January 21, 2011, 10:47
This week, Imagine Hope Counseling Group is discussing signs of Adult Children of Dysfunction. So far, we have some insightful descriptions. Here are some…
- Communication Using an Internal Boundary 4 by: joleenwatson
January 14, 2011, 13:59
This week we are discussing how to use internal boundaries for better communication. Today we will finish up some tips to help you with internal boundaries…
- Communication using an Internal Boundary Part 3- Listening by: nataliechandler
January 12, 2011, 11:30
Hopefully Teri and Tamara have given you some understanding into internal boundaries and you are recognizing a better way to talk with people. Today we are…
- Communication Using an Internal Boundary 2 by: tamarawilhelm
January 11, 2011, 06:57
I know I generally start Tuesday's blog saying "If you haven't read Monday's blog, go back and start there". Well, today isn't any different! This week we're…
- Communication Using an Internal Boundary 1 by: tericlaassen
January 10, 2011, 03:00
Pia Mellody is one of my favorite self-help authors. Tamara and I were able to hear her speak last fall at a conference! In her latest book "The Intimacy…
- Types of Sex Addicts: Part 4 by: joleenwatson
December 10, 2010, 16:41
This week, we are going through the different types of sexual addicts. Teri and Tamara started the weeks blog off with the different types of socially…
- Ways to Decrease Holiday Stress 1 by: tericlaassen
November 29, 2010, 08:30
Clients tell me all the time, “I hate the holidays”. There are many stressors as people are attending family gatherings and trying to meet everyone’…
- Roadblocks to a Healthy Sex Life- 4 by: joleenwatson
November 19, 2010, 08:00
Hopefully, you've had a chance to read our earlier blog posts from this week discussing some of the most common roadblocks to having a healthy sex life! Some…
- Roadblocks to a Healthy Sex Life-3 by: nataliechandler
November 18, 2010, 12:42
Isn't it interesting to see the Roadblocks to a Healthy Sex Life? I think oftentimes it is easy to know we are struggling in our sex life but to not really…
- Roadblocks to a Healthy Sex Life-3 by: nataliechandler
November 18, 2010, 12:38
Isn't it interesting to see the Roadblocks to a Healthy Sex Life? I think oftentimes it is easy to know we are struggling in our sex life but to not really…
- Roadblocks to a Healthy Sex Life- 1 by: tericlaassen
November 15, 2010, 06:03
Every relationship deserves to have a healthy sex life. Unfortunately it is hard for many couples to achieve and maintain what they might consider a healthy…
- Pia Melody's Relationship Maxims 19-24 by: joleenwatson
November 5, 2010, 12:56
Today we will finish up with Pia Melody's Relationship Maxims from her book: The Intimacy Factor. These maxim's offer great insight into healthy relationshi…
- Pia Melody's Relationship Maxim's 13-18 by: nataliechandler
November 4, 2010, 19:31
I am so excited we are teaching you Pia's Relationship Maxim's this week. They are so relevant to what we do. Hopefully you are finding them helpful. Here are…
- Pia Mellody's Relationship Maxims 7-12 by: tamarawilhelm
November 3, 2010, 11:22
In continuance of our blog this week, here are more of Pia Mellody's maxims: 7. Lead your life and see who shows up. When you honor your own personal…
- Pia Mellody's Relationship Maxims 1-6 by: tericlaassen
November 1, 2010, 10:09
Tamara and I had a chance to go to Chicago for a conference a few weeks ago, and while there we heard Pia Mellody speak. Mellody is a true pioneer in the…
- Domestic Violence- What to do/Resources by: joleenwatson
October 29, 2010, 08:00
This week, Imagine Hope Counseling Group is dedicating our blog topic in honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Earlier this week, we heard from Teri,…
- Communication Myths 8-10 by: joleenwatson
October 22, 2010, 21:20
How many communication myths have you noticed so far in your relationships? Today we will finish up with myths 8-10: Myth #8: “For healthy communication…
- Communication Myths 6-7 by: nataliechandler
October 20, 2010, 23:29
Thank you Teri and Tamara for Myths 1-5. Isn't it amazing the myths we believe? It seems we pick these up from so many different relationships in our lives and…
- Communication Myths 3-5 by: tamarawilhelm
October 19, 2010, 08:32
Teri got us off to a great start yesterday with uncovering some common mis-beliefs in communication. Here are 3 more communication myths individuals and…
- H.A.L.T.- Tired by: joleenwatson
October 8, 2010, 17:37
This week, we are discussing the acronym HALT- Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired. As you've read, all of these can be triggers to both addictions, as well as a…
- H.A.L.T.- Lonely by: nataliechandler
October 7, 2010, 08:19
H.A.L.T. is such a great acronym to use for recovery. We have been talking about recovery of addictions but we also use this for our clients who struggle with…
- Stages of Relationships- Norming by: nataliechandler
September 30, 2010, 05:00
Teri and Tamara did a wonderful job explaining Forming and Storming. Now we move into Norming. Norming is the part of the relationship that is comfortable.…
- Stages of Relationships- Storming by: tamarawilhelm
September 28, 2010, 11:38
Teri introduced us to Tuckman's stages of group development yesterday. Today we're going to discuss the 2nd stage of Storming. I like to go over these stages…
- Stages of Relationships- Forming by: tericlaassen
September 27, 2010, 03:55
Bruce Tuckman created a theory in the 1960's about the stages of Group and Team development. These stages can be applicable to any relationships, whether it is…
- Recommended Books for the Fall- Joleen by: joleenwatson
September 24, 2010, 08:00
So far, the therapists at Imagine Hope have recommended some great books (and a few that I've already added to my reading "to do" list)! One book that I've…
- Recommended Books for the Fall- Teri by: tericlaassen
September 20, 2010, 10:35
At Imagine Hope we read and recommend books for people all the time. As the fall is starting it's time for us to recommend some more! When you think about the…
- What's your family role? Hero by: tericlaassen
September 13, 2010, 11:07
I've been a people watcher since I was a little girl. I even remember sitting in church as a young girl watching the non-verbals of family members who were…
- What blocks you from working on your issues? Waiting too long to start by: tericlaassen
September 7, 2010, 03:24
Issues...everyone has them. There's always a little "needs improvement" somewhere in our lives, whether it's in our relationships, with parenting, as an…
- Are You Creating a Shame-Based Family Environment? 16-20 by: joleenwatson
September 3, 2010, 11:53
Teri, Tamara and Natalie did a great job at explaining the issue of shame: a feeling of toxic guilt, or where you feel bad-- even though you haven't done…
- Are You Creating a Shame-Based Family Environment? 5-10 by: tamarawilhelm
August 31, 2010, 09:16
Teri did a great job yesterday introducing Shame, and how lethal of an issue it can be. Another way I like to describe shame is to say it's the feeling you get…
- Are You Creating a Shame-Based Family Environment? by: tericlaassen
August 30, 2010, 10:51
Many people are confused about the issue of shame. They often mistake it as guilt or as just being ashamed of an action you have done; but that is only a…
- Do you say these things? He/she "makes" me feel.... by: joleenwatson
August 27, 2010, 12:29
Phrase #4: "He/she MAKES me feel...." It's a common myth that others are responsible for our feelings. Let's face it-- Most of us didn't grow up…
- Do You Say These Things?- People Take Advantage Of Me by: tamarawilhelm
August 24, 2010, 12:02
Phrase #2: "People Take Advantage Of Me...." Too many times this phrase is said in our office, without someone realizing what impact and belief this phrase…
- Do You Say These Things?--"Yeah, but..." by: tericlaassen
August 23, 2010, 16:03
As therapist's we hear a lot of dysfunctional phrases from people. Many say things without thinking about the message they are sending. Some will blurt phrases…
- How do you know you're ready for counseling? Part 4 by: joleenwatson
August 20, 2010, 18:06
As you have read, this week we are discussing ways an individual or couple might recognize if they are ready for counseling. So many times in my…
- How do you know you're ready for counseling? Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
August 17, 2010, 11:56
As discussed yesterday, this week we're talking about how to know when you are ready individually or as a couple to begin counseling. For some, that decision…
- How Do You Know You're Ready For Counseling? by: tamarawilhelm
August 16, 2010, 11:51
I recently had the honor of speaking with a former client who shared their gratitude of their experience in therapy a couple of years ago. They explained how…
- The difference between toxic and healthy secrets by: joleenwatson
July 30, 2010, 23:02
So now you know what toxic and healthy secrets look like and how they impact your relationships... How do you know the difference between the two? Here are…
- How toxic and healthy secrets impact our relationships by: joleenwatson
July 29, 2010, 19:04
Teri and Tammy have discussed both toxic secrets and healthy secrets, but how do each of them impact our relationships with others? Toxic Secrets: Create…
- Healthy Secrets by: tamarawilhelm
July 27, 2010, 15:39
You might be surprised to know that there are secrets that are indeed "healthy". Support4Change.com gives a great rule of thumb. They say: "Healthy Secrets…
- Toxic Secrets by: tericlaassen
July 26, 2010, 11:08
This week we are talking about secrets! Secrets come in many forms. There are healthy secrets, but also toxic ones. What is the difference? A toxic secret is…
- When have you felt most loved? #4 by: joleenwatson
July 25, 2010, 17:11
As Teri and Tammy have mentioned, feeling loved allows us to have SO much to give back to a relationship-- whether romantic, friendship, or family. Each time…
- When have you felt most loved? #3 by: tericlaassen
July 22, 2010, 17:00
Feeling loved is important in all close relationships. It's what draws us into intimacy with a person. If we don't feel loved we will likely hold back and…
- When have you felt most loved? #2 by: tamarawilhelm
July 20, 2010, 11:02
I absolutely love Gary Chapman's concept of the Love Languages. I love teaching it to couples and watch them "get it" as they identify their own language and…
- When have you felt most loved? by: tericlaassen
July 19, 2010, 12:57
Tamara and I were invited to present 2 workshops a few weeks ago at the National Alpha Sigma Alpha Convention. We were honored to present on Positive…
- Forgiveness Tips 2 by: joleenwatson
July 13, 2010, 19:06
The alternative to forgiveness is resentment. Resentment is one of the most toxic things to relationships, and can often times cause irreparable damage. …
- Forgiveness Tips by: tericlaassen
July 12, 2010, 03:30
Forgiveness is powerful and necessary for the healing process. Lewis Smedes says that "Forgiveness is to set a prisoner free; and to discover that prisoner is…
- Inspirational Quotes 4 by: joleenwatson
July 11, 2010, 18:49
Both Tammy and Teri have some great inspirational quotes with great lessons! One of my all time favorite quotes is by Eleanor Roosevelt: "No one can…
- Inspirational Quotes by: tericlaassen
July 5, 2010, 04:20
Inspirational quotes can be found everywhere. As therapists we run across them all the time in books and at trainings. This week Imagine Hope is sharing some…
- Negative Thinking Patterns Alternatives Part 4 by: joleenwatson
June 27, 2010, 17:15
Here are the last 4 alternate ways of thinking that are healthier and less destructive: 12. Fallacy of Change: You expect that other people will change…
- Negative Thinking Pattern Alternatives by: tericlaassen
June 21, 2010, 10:59
Last week you read about examples of negative thinking patterns. This week we will show you the self talk you can use as an alternative. As you could see…
- Negative Thinking Patterns Part 4 by: joleenwatson
June 18, 2010, 17:59
There can be many ways we sabotage our thinking, which result in issues such as marital conflict and communication issues in relationships, depression,…
- Negative Thinking Patterns by: tericlaassen
June 14, 2010, 10:35
Did you know that negative thinking can really impact your life and relationships? Many people don't realize how damaging your mindset can be if it isn't…
- AH-HA! Moments and life changing experiences- Joleen by: joleenwatson
June 12, 2010, 14:57
One of my biggest Ah-ha! moments came shortly after graduate school. In school, we learn about the concept of shame, and how it impacts a person's life (and…
- AH-HA! Moments and life changing experiences-Tammy by: tamarawilhelm
June 8, 2010, 16:20
One of my AH-HA! moments happened for me when I was 20 years old. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship with a guy and I had become completely…
- More Things To Remove From Your Life by: joleenwatson
June 4, 2010, 22:10
What is one definite way to ruin communication, trust and intimacy in your relationships? Passive-Aggressive behaviors and indirect communication. In our…
- More Things to Remove From Your Life by: tericlaassen
June 2, 2010, 16:13
Thanks Tammy! That is a great example of how a "remodel" can change your outlook in life and relationships. Speaking of a remodel...another thing that is…
- Things You Need To Remove From Your Life by: tamarawilhelm
June 1, 2010, 15:23
If you follow the MLB, you probably already know that in 2008 the Tampa Bay Devil Rays became the Tampa Bay Rays. They removed the "Devil" from their…
- Alcohol and Drug Addiction by: joleenwatson
May 29, 2010, 18:18
This week, Imagine Hope has covered some common areas of addiction: Sex addiction, TV and internet addiction, and Relationship addiction. In the final part…
- Relationship Addiction by: nataliechandler
May 27, 2010, 06:58
As we continue to discuss Addictions this week, it is important to identify Relationship Addictions. We see this a lot at Imagine Hope. Again, it is one of the…
- Addictions- Sex by: tericlaassen
May 24, 2010, 16:48
Sex addiction became a popular topic in the media as stories of Tiger Woods' situation continue to break. But many don't really understand what makes something…
- Addictions- Workaholism by: nataliechandler
May 20, 2010, 15:25
This week we are focusing on addictions. If you have not read the previous blogs, it is important to do so as Teri has actually defined an addiction. Tamara…
- Healthy Love Songs part 4 by: joleenwatson
May 13, 2010, 20:20
I absolutely loved the songs that Teri, Natalie, and Tammy chose for their blogs this week. They all give such great messages about love, and are wonderful…
- Healthy Love Songs Part 3 by: nataliechandler
May 13, 2010, 16:03
I am lovin the healthy love songs this week! This has been one of my favorites for a long time. Now that I am married, I really understand and appreciate it.…
- Healthy Love Songs Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
May 11, 2010, 11:41
I chose this song by Brandon Heath, because it talks about Love as not only a feeling, but as an entity. I love that concept. This song makes you think of love…
- Healthy Love Songs by: tericlaassen
May 10, 2010, 04:54
It's true- healthy love songs do exist! We searched and found some that depict healthy love in a way that is more interdependent than the dysfunctional loves…
- "Dysfunctional" Love Songs- Part 4 by: joleenwatson
May 7, 2010, 17:25
After reading Teri, Tammy, and Natalie's blog posts on "Dysfunctional" love songs, by now you've probably got several in mind of your own (if you haven't…
- "Dysfunctional" Love Songs Part 3 by: nataliechandler
May 6, 2010, 09:18
I have enjoyed reading Tamara and Teri's blogs. Although I love the Police, I guess that gave me a different perspective for sure- major stalker song! But we…
- "Dysfunctional" Love Songs by: tericlaassen
May 3, 2010, 16:30
Listening to the radio it is easy to get lost in the fantasy world of love that you hear described in most "love songs". Most of the time we sing along without…
- Characteristics of Unsafe People part 4 by: joleenwatson
April 30, 2010, 19:26
How many (emotionally) unsafe people have you recognized so far? Here a few more characteristics: 17. Unsafe people confront not to forgive, but to…
- Characteristics of Unsafe People Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
April 27, 2010, 12:07
Please remember that safety does not always refer to physical safety. What we're talking about this week is emotional safety. You may feel physically safe with…
- Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries Part 4 by: joleenwatson
April 23, 2010, 13:13
By now, you might have already recognized some ways that you or the people in your life have unhealthy boundaries. Here are a few more to wrap things…
- Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries Part 3 by: nataliechandler
April 22, 2010, 08:35
Teri and Tamara have given us many signs of unhealthy boundaries in ourselves and in our relationships. Are you identifying with any of them in your life? Here…
- Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
April 20, 2010, 17:55
As Teri mentioned yesterday, it's good to know the signs of unhealthy boundaries to know if you are ever crossing the line, or if someone else ever crosses…
- Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries by: tericlaassen
April 19, 2010, 06:23
Boundaries are key to healthy relationships, yet it can be confusing to always know when you cross the line. This week we are giving you examples of unhealthy…
- Healing From an Affair by: joleenwatson
April 17, 2010, 16:26
The Imagine Hope ladies have shared some great statistics and information on infidelity, but what can you do if an affair has already happened? Seek out a…
- Affair Proof Your Marriage by: nataliechandler
April 15, 2010, 06:01
Unfortunately, too many people wait to walk thru our doors once an affair has happened. Although there is hope if an affair has occurred, it is much easier to…
- Are You At Risk For an Affair? by: tamarawilhelm
April 13, 2010, 08:55
If you haven't read Teri's blog yesterday on the statistics of affairs, please read it. The stats are alarming, depressing, sad and scary. It's easy to spiral…
- Affair Statistics by: tericlaassen
April 12, 2010, 05:22
Infidelity is an issue we work with multiple times a day at Imagine Hope. Unfortunately it is an epidemic that is plaguing America's marriages and relationships…
- How to Keep Your Sanity: If a Counterdependent Won't Get in Recovery by: joleenwatson
April 2, 2010, 17:51
By now, you have heard the characteristics of Counterdependency. But what do you do if you're in a relationship with one or work with one who refuses…
- Counterdependency- Characteristics Part 2 by: nataliechandler
April 1, 2010, 05:37
On Tuesday, Tamara gave us great descriptions of 4 of the 7 characteristics of Counterdependency: Grandiose, Not knowing/respecting boundaries of others,…
- Counterdependency-Characteristics Part 1 by: tamarawilhelm
March 30, 2010, 09:23
Yesterday Teri introduced us to Jim, a sharp-tongued workaholic who seems very self-involved. Sound familiar? Maybe you have a parent, sibling, friend, boss,…
- Counterdependency by: tericlaassen
March 29, 2010, 16:19
Many people are familiar with co-dependency issues, but do not always understand it’s counterpart: The counterdependent. This week we will help you see the…
- Depression- How it Affects Relationships by: tamarawilhelm
March 23, 2010, 19:07
According to the National Institute of Mental Health, nearly 15 million American adults, or about 6.7% of the U.S. population age 18 and older, is affected…
- Depression- Signs and Symptoms by: tericlaassen
March 22, 2010, 17:32
Depression is a common issue that many people are facing in their day to day lives. At Imagine Hope we help people everyday on the road to recovery through…
- Do you fight fair? Tips 16-20 by: joleenwatson
March 5, 2010, 13:28
Teri, Tammy, and Natalie have all shared some great tips so far to fighting fair. Here are a few more to add to your "marital toolbox": 16. Remember…
- Do you fight fair? Tips 11-15 by: nataliechandler
March 4, 2010, 06:28
Are you starting to understand that conflict is normal? It is how you handle it that is important! Have you tried any of the tips so far? Here are 5 more to…
- Do you fight fair? - Tips 6-10 by: tamarawilhelm
March 1, 2010, 21:05
As Teri mentioned, fighting can be healthy, as long as it's done in a respectful way. Conflict can be one of the ways you and another person grow closer. It's…
- Do you Fight Fair?- Tips 1-5 by: tericlaassen
March 1, 2010, 05:45
All relationships have conflict at some point. Many couples try to avoid it mostly because they don’t know how to make fighting work “for” their…
- What are Boundaries? -Sexual Boundaries by: joleenwatson
February 19, 2010, 17:34
As Teri, Tammy, and Natalie have discussed, our boundaries define the limits we need to set in our lives to protect what is most important to us. Learning…
- What are Boundaries?- Emotional/Intellectual by: tamarawilhelm
February 16, 2010, 17:33
As Teri introduced yesterday, boundaries are essential in relationships, and are what keep us feeling safe and secure. Boundaries are designed to keep the good…
- What are Boundaries?- Physical Boundaries by: tericlaassen
February 15, 2010, 12:02
Boundaries are vital to healthy relationships. A boundary is a rule you set or the line you draw when it comes to your interactions with others. Whether you…
- What do healthy families look like? by: joleenwatson
February 12, 2010, 17:51
Having healthy family dynamics is such an important thing, yet few of us are aware of what that looks like because we tend to equate "normal" with what we are…
- What does a healthy friendship look like? by: nataliechandler
February 11, 2010, 06:44
We have been discussing what healthy relationships look like this week. I am so excited to talk about friendships. Why? Because I have been on both sides of…
- What is a healthy romantic relationship? by: tamarawilhelm
February 9, 2010, 18:54
This week we're discussing all types of relationships: romantic, friend, and family. Yesterday Teri introduced us to the styles we can get into with our…
- What does a Healthy Relationship Look Like? by: tericlaassen
February 8, 2010, 12:41
It's Valentine's week and many people are focused on relationships. So Imagine Hope wants to help you discover what a healthy relationship looks like. This…
- Recognizing and dealing with stress Part 3 by: joleenwatson
January 21, 2010, 19:56
Natalie and Tammy have explained the signs and symptoms of stress, as well as some tips for how to stay healthy during stressful times. Have you gotten past…
- The Imagine Hope Experience Part 4 by: tericlaassen
January 15, 2010, 09:56
As you can see from Natalie, Joleen, and Tamara's blog this week, the Imagine Hope Experience has been carefully thought out from start to finish and is…
- Joleen's 2010 Book Recommendation by: joleenwatson
January 8, 2010, 16:27
There are SO many self-help and personal growth books out there lately, it can be overwhelming and sometimes conflicting to find one giving sound advice that…
- Teri's 2010 Book Recommendation by: tericlaassen
January 4, 2010, 07:17
Happy New Year! Imagine Hope wishes each of you a good start to a new year. Here at our practice we often recommend books to help aid the recovery process for…
- Ways to decrease Holiday stress part 4 by: joleenwatson
December 18, 2009, 13:21
Teri, Tammy and Natalie have shared some really helpful tips so far in ways to decrease Holiday stress, which helps each of us to enjoy the Holiday season…
- Ways to decrease holiday stress Part 3 by: nataliechandler
December 17, 2009, 16:37
Teri and Tamara have done such a great job sharing ways to decrease holiday stress pertaining to families. I want to share with you some tips to help you keep…
- Ways to decrease holiday stress Part 1 by: tericlaassen
December 14, 2009, 11:33
Clients tell me all the time, “I hate the holidays”. There are many stressors as people are attending family gatherings and trying to meet everyone’s…
- Signs your Marriage is in Trouble Part 4 by: joleenwatson
December 11, 2009, 13:33
Teri, Natalie, and Tammy have shared some insightful ways to learn more about the state of your marriage. Today we will finish up this blog series with a few…
- Signs your Marriage is in trouble Part 3 by: nataliechandler
December 10, 2009, 07:30
Hopefully you have found Teri and Tamara's signs helpful. Have you identified any signs in your relationship yet? Here are a few more: 9. You have same…
- Signs your Marriage is in trouble Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
December 8, 2009, 13:31
Teri got us started yesterday on signs to watch out for that can show a marriage is in trouble. You may read some of these and think, "Duh!" But some of these…
- Signs your marriage is in trouble- Part 1 by: tericlaassen
December 7, 2009, 09:23
Imagine Hope specializes in helping couples build a healthy relationship. Unfortunately many people come to marriage counseling after a lot of damage has been…
- Communication Tips for Parents Part 3 by: nataliechandler
December 3, 2009, 10:27
Here are some more tips Imagine Hope is offering parents to better connect with your children and teens: Say "I know" rather than "it's okay" when your…
- Fear and Anxiety Part 3 by: nataliechandler
November 19, 2009, 12:47
Joleen and Teri have done an excellent job of describing anxiety and giving tips to help with it. We thought because we are relationship experts and see how…
- Fear and Anxiety Part 2 by: tericlaassen
November 17, 2009, 08:55
Fear and Anxiety can be paralyzing. It can stop you from being productive and can cause you to have a very negative view of the world. Here are 5 quick tips to…
- 5 Love Languages by: joleenwatson
November 12, 2009, 21:21
By now, you have read about the other 4 Love Languages: Acts of Service, Gifts, Words of Affirmation, and Physical Touch. The 5th Love Language is Quality…
- 5 Love Languages by: nataliechandler
November 12, 2009, 18:09
Teri and Tamara have described the first three love languages: Acts of Service, Affirmations, and Giving Gifts. Today I want to talk about Physical Touch. Lo…
- 5 Love Languages by: tamarawilhelm
November 10, 2009, 12:55
We're continuing our talk today on how we receive and show love. The next two love languages are: 2. Words of Affirmations. This includes giving verbal…
- 5 Love Languages by: tericlaassen
November 9, 2009, 05:26
This week Imagine Hope is talking about The Five Languages. We all have needs in relationships, and it is important to know what those needs are so you can…
- Tips for Creating Intimacy by: joleenwatson
November 6, 2009, 15:13
Here are our last two tips for creating a deeper level of intimacy with your partner: 9. Flirt with your partner throughout the day! Send text messages…
- Tips for Creating Intimacy by: nataliechandler
November 5, 2009, 07:13
This week we have been giving tips for creating intimacy with your partner. By now maybe you can think of some things to do for your partner that will bring…
- Tips for Creating Intimacy by: tamarawilhelm
November 3, 2009, 12:56
We're continuing our talk on creating intimacy in relationships. It is essential the lines of communication stay open and assumptions be put aside in order for…
- Tips for Creating Intimacy by: tericlaassen
November 2, 2009, 07:08
This week Imagine Hope is focusing on creating intimacy with your partner. Intimacy is more than just sex, it is the deep connection you strive for to feel…
- Tips for Positive Parenting by: joleenwatson
October 30, 2009, 11:47
8. The best way to parent in a positive way is to take care of you. Make sure you get enough rest, good nutrition, and some time for yourself when…
- Emotional Affairs Part 4 by: joleenwatson
October 23, 2009, 17:22
There are many signs of emotional affairs, if you know what to look for. While these signs can also be related to other life issues, as well as physical or…
- Emotional Affairs Part 2 by: nataliechandler
October 20, 2009, 10:29
Harry and Sally both worked at Eli Lilly. They were on the IT team together and worked on several projects as a great team. They started going out to lunch to…
- Emotional Affair by: tamarawilhelm
October 19, 2009, 08:50
In this week's blog series, Imagine Hope is going to discuss Emotional Affairs. It's a issue we see happening more & more often, and throughout the week,…
- Codependency part 4 by: joleenwatson
October 16, 2009, 09:27
Codependency has a great impact on our relationships, and is very destructive to both the individual, as well as the relationships well-being. Here are…
- Codependency Part 3 by: nataliechandler
October 15, 2009, 19:02
You might be codependent if……. You might be codependent if you feel exhausted from helping others and spend little time taking care of yourself. You…
- Codependency Part #2 by: tericlaassen
October 13, 2009, 12:51
Good story Tammy! It is amazing how easy it is to fall into the codependency trap. Here are some characteristics of codependency: low self-esteem feeling…
- Codependency by: tamarawilhelm
October 12, 2009, 06:01
The other evening I decided I wanted to workout while watching TV with my husband. The only problem was that I had to get the equipment down the stairs. It…
- 3 Common mistakes couples make by: joleenwatson
October 9, 2009, 15:45
In addition to what Teri, Tammy, and Natalie spoke about in their blogs, here are 3 additional mistakes I see when working with couples: Becoming…
- 3 common mistakes couples make by: nataliechandler
October 8, 2009, 15:47
The 3 most common mistakes I see couples make are the following: 1. Making a lot of assumptions about what the other partner is thinking. I see this a lot.…
- 3 common mistakes couples make by: tamarawilhelm
October 6, 2009, 08:03
Fighting about too many things at once. It's hard to follow a disagreement when you're fighting about this, that, & the kitchen sink. Stick to one topic…
- 3 common mistakes couples make by: tericlaassen
October 5, 2009, 05:40
As therapists we many times see big issues in relationships start from a small mistake and grow into a bigger issue. Conquering the small issues is good…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Mother- 5 by: joleenwatson
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- How Can You Help With Your Treatment of Postpartum Depression? by: joleenwatson
May 17, 2013, 05:09
To help the treatment from your provider work better, there are several things that you can do on your own: Stay healthy and fit: Do somthing active…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Mother- 5 by: joleenwatson
May 10, 2013, 11:43
In honor of Mother's Day, Imagine Hope is blogging about several different characteristics of a healthy Mom. 5. She is involved in her child's life-- but…
- Hoarding: Common Traits of Hoarders by: joleenwatson
April 26, 2013, 11:20
What are some common traits of hoarders? There are many traits that contribute to hoarding behaviors, though just because you only share of few of these…
- Tips to Nurture Relationships 5 by: joleenwatson
March 15, 2013, 08:34
Speak your child's love language! Speaking your child's love language, whether it's physical touch or quality time (or any of the 5), helps to restore…
- Signs of Hidden Anger: 18-23 by: joleenwatson
February 22, 2013, 05:00
So far, we have seen 17 different signs that can tell you if you might have hidden anger. As Natalie and Tammy have shared, many of them can mimic signs of…
- The Masks We Wear... Counterdependency by: joleenwatson
November 2, 2012, 08:27
This week, as a tribute to the Halloween season, we are talking about masks. Every day we can unknowingly put on different masks that hide us from various…
- How To Create Fireworks in Your Marriage- Dream by: joleenwatson
August 17, 2012, 06:02
Dream Together! Many couples begin their dating relationship full of dreams for their future, but once the marriage has become comfortable, they stop…
- How To Find Mr. Or Mrs. Right- 6-8 by: joleenwatson
June 29, 2012, 06:33
What are some additional things you can do if you are searching for "Mr. Or Mrs. Right"? Have realistic expectations. Things aren't always a bed of roses,…
- Characteristics of A Healthy Father- Protection by: joleenwatson
June 15, 2012, 11:24
In honor of Father's Day, this week Imagine Hope is talking about some characteristics of a healthy father. Do any of the characteristics from this week…
- 13 Essential Ingredients To A Healthy Relationship 11-13 by: joleenwatson
June 8, 2012, 07:50
This week, Imagine Hope is going over the different ingredients that are needed to have a healthy relationship-- whether it's with a spouse, co-worker, friend,…
- Tips on Helping Your Child Cope With Divorce- Control by: joleenwatson
March 16, 2012, 12:59
Give your child some element of control. Kids feels totally out of control of their world while going through a divorce. Try to find ways to let them…
- Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce 5 by: joleenwatson
March 9, 2012, 15:09
10. Evaluate your relationships and make whatever life adjustments you feel are necessary. During a divorce, you might encounter many "Monday Morning…
- Dealing With Difficult People- The Know-it-all by: joleenwatson
February 24, 2012, 21:03
Do you have a difficult person in your life? Perhaps it's a boss, or a relative-- or maybe a co-worker... or even a spouse! This week, Imagine Hope is…
- Let's Talk About Love- Agape by: joleenwatson
February 17, 2012, 15:48
In honor of Valentine's week, this week Imagine Hope is discussing the different kinds of love. Today is one of the most incredible forms of love-- Agape…
- Do You Have a Healthy Love Relationship? by: joleenwatson
February 10, 2012, 11:09
Picture two people standing side by side, each reaching for the other's hand: This is a healthy love relationship. A healthy love relationship…
- Talks To Have Before Getting Married: Conflict Styles and Common Interests by: joleenwatson
February 4, 2012, 06:01
If you are presently engaged to be married, we send you our warmest congratulations! The time of dating and engagement is exciting and promising-- a time where…
- Flower Messages 2 by: joleenwatson
January 27, 2012, 09:56
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the different types of messages we give to others in our communication-- termed "Garbage Messages" or "Flower Messages". …
- Life Lessons from Movies- Sliding Doors by: joleenwatson
December 30, 2011, 12:17
This week, Imagine Hope therapists are reviewing different movies that help us see a life lesson within the story. If you haven't gotten the opportunity to…
- Decrease Holiday Stress- Watch Your Spending by: joleenwatson
December 16, 2011, 11:59
Teri, Tammy and Natalie have shared some really helpful tips so far in ways to decrease Holiday stress, which helps each of us to enjoy the Holiday season…
- Christmas Gifts that Say "I Get You"- Physical Touch & Acts of Service by: joleenwatson
December 9, 2011, 13:55
This week we are reviewing different Christmas gift ideas for your significant other, based on the 5 Love Languages. Do you know your significant other's P…
- Don't Drive a Relationship Lemon- Warning Lights! by: nataliechandler
March 17, 2011, 05:39
What a fun way to look at a relationship this week! And it's so true. As Tamara talked about maintenance and its importance on Tuesday, I am going to piggyback…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Step 4 & Step 5 by: joleenwatson
March 4, 2011, 16:00
This week we are discussing the 12 Steps of recovery... You might be saying to yourself "But I don't have an addiction, so this doesn't apply!" We…
- Serenity Prayer- Wisdom by: joleenwatson
February 25, 2011, 12:02
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the Serenity Prayer and it's meaning. So far, we have gone through serenity, courage and change. Today we will…
- Gifts that say "I Get You!"- Physical Touch/Acts of Service by: joleenwatson
February 11, 2011, 10:47
This week we are reviewing different Valentine's Day gift ideas for your significant other, based on the 5 Love Languages. Do you know your significant…
- Great Self-Help Books- Joleen by: joleenwatson
February 4, 2011, 06:00
One book that I recently read and highly recommend is "Parenting Your Out of Control Teenager: 7 Steps to Reestablish Authority and Reclaim Love" by Scott…
- Seasonal Affective Disorder Part 4 by: joleenwatson
January 7, 2011, 23:54
So far, we have described what Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is, as well as how it can impact your life. So what can you do to help with the symptoms? …
- The Secret to Keeping New Years Resolutions 4 by: joleenwatson
December 31, 2010, 05:00
To start off the new year, this week we are discussing how we can successfully keep new year's resolutions. So far, we have some great tips on how to do…
- How Emotional Trauma Affects Everyday Interactions 4 by: joleenwatson
December 17, 2010, 18:30
This week, we have been discussing the subject of trauma-- Not the obvious kind of trauma that occurs due to a natural disaster or global catastrophic event,…
- Ways to Decrease Holiday Stress part 4 by: joleenwatson
December 3, 2010, 13:25
Teri, Tammy and Natalie have shared some really helpful tips so far in ways to decrease Holiday stress, which helps each of us to enjoy the Holiday season…
- Roadblocks to a Healthy Sex Life- 4 by: joleenwatson
November 19, 2010, 08:00
Hopefully, you've had a chance to read our earlier blog posts from this week discussing some of the most common roadblocks to having a healthy sex life! Some…
- Roles for Parenting Teens- 4 by: joleenwatson
November 12, 2010, 13:34
We have heard some great tips for parenting teens so far this week on Imagine Hope's blog. Today we will review the fourth and final tip: 4. Build a…
- Domestic Violence- What to do/Resources by: joleenwatson
October 29, 2010, 08:00
This week, Imagine Hope Counseling Group is dedicating our blog topic in honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Earlier this week, we heard from Teri,…
- Communication Myths 8-10 by: joleenwatson
October 22, 2010, 21:20
How many communication myths have you noticed so far in your relationships? Today we will finish up with myths 8-10: Myth #8: “For healthy communication…
- Tips for reducing stress in your life #4 by: joleenwatson
October 14, 2010, 16:28
So, how many tips have you used this week to reduce stress in your life? Looking for more? Well, here they are! Be optimistic Visualize accomplishing…
- H.A.L.T.- Tired by: joleenwatson
October 8, 2010, 17:37
This week, we are discussing the acronym HALT- Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired. As you've read, all of these can be triggers to both addictions, as well as a…
- What blocks you from working on your issues?-Insight vs. Changes by: joleenwatson
September 10, 2010, 08:00
We all have personal obstacles that block us from growth, and therapy is no exception to this! I am blessed to be working with some individuals and couples…
- What blocks you from working on your issues? Keeping consistent by: nataliechandler
September 9, 2010, 09:50
There are many things that block individuals and couples from working on their issues in therapy. However, the one I see the most is keeping consistent. This…
- What blocks you from working on your issues? Waiting too long to start by: tericlaassen
September 7, 2010, 03:24
Issues...everyone has them. There's always a little "needs improvement" somewhere in our lives, whether it's in our relationships, with parenting, as an…
- Do you say these things? He/she "makes" me feel.... by: joleenwatson
August 27, 2010, 12:29
Phrase #4: "He/she MAKES me feel...." It's a common myth that others are responsible for our feelings. Let's face it-- Most of us didn't grow up…
- How do you know if you are ready for counseling Part 3 by: nataliechandler
August 19, 2010, 06:38
This week we have been discussing how to know if you are ready for counseling. Have you recognized any of the items Tamara has mentioned this week? So many…
- School's coming- Connect with others by: joleenwatson
August 12, 2010, 20:16
This week we are using the acronym PACE, when talking about how to make the “Back to School” transition more manageable for everyone— especially you, as…
- What is stopping you from meeting your goals? by: joleenwatson
August 4, 2010, 17:04
As Teri discussed, sometimes we set goals for ourselves at the beginning of the New Year, which fizzle out or we don’t accomplish. If your goals haven’t…
- When have you felt most loved? #4 by: joleenwatson
July 25, 2010, 17:11
As Teri and Tammy have mentioned, feeling loved allows us to have SO much to give back to a relationship-- whether romantic, friendship, or family. Each time…
- Inspirational Quotes 4 by: joleenwatson
July 11, 2010, 18:49
Both Tammy and Teri have some great inspirational quotes with great lessons! One of my all time favorite quotes is by Eleanor Roosevelt: "No one can…
- Negative Thinking Patterns Part 4 by: joleenwatson
June 18, 2010, 17:59
There can be many ways we sabotage our thinking, which result in issues such as marital conflict and communication issues in relationships, depression,…
- AH-HA! Moments and life changing experiences- Joleen by: joleenwatson
June 12, 2010, 14:57
One of my biggest Ah-ha! moments came shortly after graduate school. In school, we learn about the concept of shame, and how it impacts a person's life (and…
- AH-HA! Moments and life changing experiences-Tammy by: tamarawilhelm
June 8, 2010, 16:20
One of my AH-HA! moments happened for me when I was 20 years old. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship with a guy and I had become completely…
- More Things To Remove From Your Life by: joleenwatson
June 4, 2010, 22:10
What is one definite way to ruin communication, trust and intimacy in your relationships? Passive-Aggressive behaviors and indirect communication. In our…
- Things You Need To Remove From Your Life by: tamarawilhelm
June 1, 2010, 15:23
If you follow the MLB, you probably already know that in 2008 the Tampa Bay Devil Rays became the Tampa Bay Rays. They removed the "Devil" from their…
- Alcohol and Drug Addiction by: joleenwatson
May 29, 2010, 18:18
This week, Imagine Hope has covered some common areas of addiction: Sex addiction, TV and internet addiction, and Relationship addiction. In the final part…
- Addictions- Sex by: tericlaassen
May 24, 2010, 16:48
Sex addiction became a popular topic in the media as stories of Tiger Woods' situation continue to break. But many don't really understand what makes something…
- Addictions- Spending/Shopping by: joleenwatson
May 20, 2010, 19:15
So far, you have read about what makes up an addiction and some relevant addictive behaviors. Today we will discuss another common addiction that is a…
- Healthy Love Songs part 4 by: joleenwatson
May 13, 2010, 20:20
I absolutely loved the songs that Teri, Natalie, and Tammy chose for their blogs this week. They all give such great messages about love, and are wonderful…
- "Dysfunctional" Love Songs- Part 4 by: joleenwatson
May 7, 2010, 17:25
After reading Teri, Tammy, and Natalie's blog posts on "Dysfunctional" love songs, by now you've probably got several in mind of your own (if you haven't…
- Characteristics of Unsafe People part 4 by: joleenwatson
April 30, 2010, 19:26
How many (emotionally) unsafe people have you recognized so far? Here a few more characteristics: 17. Unsafe people confront not to forgive, but to…
- Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries Part 4 by: joleenwatson
April 23, 2010, 13:13
By now, you might have already recognized some ways that you or the people in your life have unhealthy boundaries. Here are a few more to wrap things…
- Healing From an Affair by: joleenwatson
April 17, 2010, 16:26
The Imagine Hope ladies have shared some great statistics and information on infidelity, but what can you do if an affair has already happened? Seek out a…
- Self-Care: Tammy by: tamarawilhelm
April 6, 2010, 08:24
Those are great ideas Teri! I might just have to adopt some of those myself. When I think of self-care, I get a smile on my face because they're things I do…
- Self Care Ideas by: tericlaassen
April 5, 2010, 18:29
I feel like a broken record when I talk about Imagine Hope practicing what we preach- but it is true! There isn't a day that goes by that we aren't talking to…
- Depression- How to cope by: nataliechandler
March 24, 2010, 11:24
I hope this week has been helpful in recognizing the signs and symptoms of depression as well as how it effects relationships. Today we want to offer hope and…
- Goals We've Accomplished and How We Did it- Joleen by: joleenwatson
March 12, 2010, 15:24
Like Tammy and Natalie, one of the goals I'm most proud of is graduating with my Master's degree. My story, however, is a little bit different. My high…
- Goals We've Accomplished & How We Did It- Tammy's by: tamarawilhelm
March 10, 2010, 14:30
Tammy's Story One of the biggest goals, and something I'm most proud of is getting my Master's Degree. I had known since high school that I wanted to be a…
- Do you fight fair? Tips 16-20 by: joleenwatson
March 5, 2010, 13:28
Teri, Tammy, and Natalie have all shared some great tips so far to fighting fair. Here are a few more to add to your "marital toolbox": 16. Remember…
- What do healthy families look like? by: joleenwatson
February 12, 2010, 17:51
Having healthy family dynamics is such an important thing, yet few of us are aware of what that looks like because we tend to equate "normal" with what we are…
- Grief and Loss part 4 by: joleenwatson
February 5, 2010, 10:27
So far, we have explained the first 4 stages of grief and loss: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, and Depression. Remember that everyone grieves in their own way,…
- Recognizing and dealing with stress Part 3 by: joleenwatson
January 21, 2010, 19:56
Natalie and Tammy have explained the signs and symptoms of stress, as well as some tips for how to stay healthy during stressful times. Have you gotten past…
- The Imagine Hope Experience Part 4 by: tericlaassen
January 15, 2010, 09:56
As you can see from Natalie, Joleen, and Tamara's blog this week, the Imagine Hope Experience has been carefully thought out from start to finish and is…
- The Imagine Hope Experience Part 3 by: tamarawilhelm
January 14, 2010, 12:10
Earlier this week Natalie discussed how we strive for the environment at Imagine Hope to help the healing process, and Joleen shared how customer service plays…
- The Imagine Hope Experience part 2 by: joleenwatson
January 12, 2010, 19:00
Yesterday, Natalie discussed how important it is for Imagine Hope to provide our clients a great experience from start to finish when they come for counseling.…
- The Imagine Hope Experience by: nataliechandler
January 11, 2010, 18:29
Do you have a favorite store that you LOVE to go into, even if you aren't purchasing anything? You just love going in for the experience. My husband is a huge…
- Joleen's 2010 Book Recommendation by: joleenwatson
January 8, 2010, 16:27
There are SO many self-help and personal growth books out there lately, it can be overwhelming and sometimes conflicting to find one giving sound advice that…
- Joleens Favorite Christmas Memory by: joleenwatson
December 23, 2009, 12:23
Christmas-time always brings up pleasant (and sometimes not-so-pleasant!) memories of growing up and celebrating the Holidays with my family. One of my…
- Ways to decrease Holiday stress part 4 by: joleenwatson
December 18, 2009, 13:21
Teri, Tammy and Natalie have shared some really helpful tips so far in ways to decrease Holiday stress, which helps each of us to enjoy the Holiday season…
- Signs your Marriage is in Trouble Part 4 by: joleenwatson
December 11, 2009, 13:33
Teri, Natalie, and Tammy have shared some insightful ways to learn more about the state of your marriage. Today we will finish up this blog series with a few…
- Signs your marriage is in trouble- Part 1 by: tericlaassen
December 7, 2009, 09:23
Imagine Hope specializes in helping couples build a healthy relationship. Unfortunately many people come to marriage counseling after a lot of damage has been…
- Communication Tips for Parents Part 4 by: joleenwatson
December 4, 2009, 13:11
Teri, Tammy, and Natalie have listed many wonderful tips for better communication between parents and their children. Today we will expand on this to…
- Communication Tips for Parents Part 3 by: nataliechandler
December 3, 2009, 10:27
Here are some more tips Imagine Hope is offering parents to better connect with your children and teens: Say "I know" rather than "it's okay" when your…
- Fear and Anxiety Part 1 by: joleenwatson
November 16, 2009, 19:34
There is a lot of talk about anxiety these days, but what exactly is it? Usually, with fear, we are able to name what we are fearful of. The feeling of…
- Tips for Creating Intimacy by: joleenwatson
November 6, 2009, 15:13
Here are our last two tips for creating a deeper level of intimacy with your partner: 9. Flirt with your partner throughout the day! Send text messages…
- Tips for Positive Parenting by: joleenwatson
October 30, 2009, 11:47
8. The best way to parent in a positive way is to take care of you. Make sure you get enough rest, good nutrition, and some time for yourself when…
- Emotional Affairs Part 4 by: joleenwatson
October 23, 2009, 17:22
There are many signs of emotional affairs, if you know what to look for. While these signs can also be related to other life issues, as well as physical or…
- Codependency part 4 by: joleenwatson
October 16, 2009, 09:27
Codependency has a great impact on our relationships, and is very destructive to both the individual, as well as the relationships well-being. Here are…
- 3 Common mistakes couples make by: joleenwatson
October 9, 2009, 15:45
In addition to what Teri, Tammy, and Natalie spoke about in their blogs, here are 3 additional mistakes I see when working with couples: Becoming…
- 3 common mistakes couples make by: nataliechandler
October 8, 2009, 15:47
The 3 most common mistakes I see couples make are the following: 1. Making a lot of assumptions about what the other partner is thinking. I see this a lot.…
- Welcome to Imagine Hope's Blog by: nataliechandler
September 24, 2009, 18:38
We are so excited to add an Imagine Hope blog to our website! We will each keep our own individual blogs where you can continue to get tidbits of what we hope…
- How Can You Help With Your Treatment of Postpartum Depression? by: joleenwatson
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- Spring Book Recommendations- Joleen by: joleenwatson
April 12, 2013, 14:29
The subject of ambiguous loss is a relatively new one to me, as it relates to therapy, but is one that we frequently see with our clients (as well as in our…
- Signs of Hidden Anger: 6-11 by: tamarawilhelm
February 20, 2013, 05:00
As we continue to talk about anger, some of these next few may be surprising. Alone, they can be signs of depression or sleeping disorder problems. The key…
- Signs of Hidden Anger: 1-5 by: tericlaassen
February 19, 2013, 05:00
Anger is an extremely powerful emotion that can often consume people if it is not processed effectively. Many people allow things to build up over time. They…
- Feelings and Defenses 1 by: tericlaassen
October 15, 2012, 02:57
Feelings are a normal part of the human experience. You can't get away from them, but people do fight to hide them by using defenses. Our primary feelings…
- Counterdependency by: tericlaassen
August 27, 2012, 04:56
Many people are familiar with co-dependency issues, but do not always understand it’s counterpart: The counterdependent. This week we will help you see…
- Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce 5 by: joleenwatson
March 9, 2012, 15:09
10. Evaluate your relationships and make whatever life adjustments you feel are necessary. During a divorce, you might encounter many "Monday Morning…
- Taking Care of Yourself Thru a Divorce 4 by: nataliechandler
March 8, 2012, 06:32
7. Allow yourself to grieve the loss of the relationship and the loss of the DREAM of what you hoped for when you married this person Talk to others, cry,…
- Do You Have a Healthy Love Relationship? by: joleenwatson
February 10, 2012, 11:09
Picture two people standing side by side, each reaching for the other's hand: This is a healthy love relationship. A healthy love relationship…
- Talks To Have Before Getting Married: Communication Styles by: nataliechandler
February 2, 2012, 04:40
If you are reading this, there is probably a Congratulations in order?? Well congrats! Or you may be a parent or friend, reading this to pass along the…
- The Masks We Wear- Codependency by: nataliechandler
October 27, 2011, 05:32
This week we are talking about masks we wear to cover up our authentic selves. If you haven't already, feel free to back up and read the other blogs from this…
- Healing From Sexual Abuse- Healing From Within by: nataliechandler
September 29, 2011, 05:34
Now that you've made the decision to heal and you have a trained professional to guide you thru the process, many people ask, "What next?". This is a great…
- 30 Tips to Help with Communication Traps 14-22 by: nataliechandler
July 28, 2011, 04:33
As Therapists, we get the opportunity to be on the outside of conflict, looking in without being emotionally involved. Most of the time, it is easy to see how…
- Emotional Needs - Sex, Conversation, & Recreation by: tamarawilhelm
June 7, 2011, 05:00
Teri did a great job yesterday introducing emotional needs and the concept of the "Love Bank". If we don't deposit into each other's emotional accounts, we…
- What Does Healthy Self-Esteem Look Like? #1 by: tericlaassen
May 16, 2011, 04:08
Self- esteem is the way we see ourselves as good or bad when compared with others. When we compare ourselves to others, it can cause a lot of trouble with our…
- Abandonment Issues- Withdrawl and Internalizing by: nataliechandler
April 28, 2011, 14:07
Teri and Tamara have done a wonderful job of explaining abandonment and the first stage of the process- Shattering. I want to reiterate what Tamara said, this…
- Abandonment Issues- What are they? by: tericlaassen
April 25, 2011, 04:43
Have you heard someone say they suffer from abandonment issues? Most people think about adoption or being left on a door step as a child, but abandonment…
- Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples 10-13 by: nataliechandler
April 14, 2011, 05:31
If you are just joining us in our blog this week, please check out Tamara and Teri's previous blogs. We are discussing charateristics of Dysfunctional Couples…
- Is Your Life Balanced? Spirituality & Romance by: tamarawilhelm
March 29, 2011, 05:00
Life is constantly changing. Whether it's a move, addition to the family, or career change. How well we handle the change in our lives depends upon how well we…
- Don't Drive a Relationship Lemon- Warning Lights! by: nataliechandler
March 17, 2011, 05:39
What a fun way to look at a relationship this week! And it's so true. As Tamara talked about maintenance and its importance on Tuesday, I am going to piggyback…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Step 12 by: joleenwatson
March 11, 2011, 06:17
Today, we will finish up with the 12 Steps of Recovery, discussing the 12th and final step. Remember that utilizing these steps in everyday life is for…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Steps 6 & 7 by: tericlaassen
March 7, 2011, 03:15
This week we are finishing up the 12 steps! We hope you have been able to apply these to an affliction in your life through last week and this week. These…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Step 2 by: tamarawilhelm
March 1, 2011, 07:40
As Teri pointed out yesterday, as we discuss these 12-Steps, keep in mind that the Steps do not only have to be applied to addictions. These can be applied…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Step 1 by: tericlaassen
February 28, 2011, 03:54
Did you know that the 12 steps can be used as a guide through life even for people who don't struggle with addictions? You can use them as part of your coping…
- Great Self-Help Books- Teri by: tericlaassen
January 31, 2011, 03:22
Self-help books are great tools for taking the things we teach in therapy sessions to a deeper explanation for your lives. I am always on a lookout for good…
- How Emotional Trauma Affects Everyday Interactions 1 by: tericlaassen
December 13, 2010, 12:50
When most people think of "trauma", they think of how it's defined in the dictionary: "as a body wound or shock produced by sudden physical injury, as from…
- Types of Sex Addicts: Part 4 by: joleenwatson
December 10, 2010, 16:41
This week, we are going through the different types of sexual addicts. Teri and Tamara started the weeks blog off with the different types of socially…
- Communication Myths 3-5 by: tamarawilhelm
October 19, 2010, 08:32
Teri got us off to a great start yesterday with uncovering some common mis-beliefs in communication. Here are 3 more communication myths individuals and…
- Recommended Books for the Fall- Natalie by: nataliechandler
September 23, 2010, 05:00
My book recommendation is "Healing is a Choice" by Stephen Arterburn. Just the title alone speaks volumes. Healing IS a choice. We have to decide to keep doing…
- What blocks you from working on your issues?-Insight vs. Changes by: joleenwatson
September 10, 2010, 08:00
We all have personal obstacles that block us from growth, and therapy is no exception to this! I am blessed to be working with some individuals and couples…
- What blocks you from working on your issues? Keeping consistent by: nataliechandler
September 9, 2010, 09:50
There are many things that block individuals and couples from working on their issues in therapy. However, the one I see the most is keeping consistent. This…
- What blocks you from working on your issues? Homework? by: tamarawilhelm
September 8, 2010, 05:45
I really like this topic this week. This can be a refresher course for those in therapy, or great preparation for those thinking of joining counseling. These…
- What blocks you from working on your issues? Waiting too long to start by: tericlaassen
September 7, 2010, 03:24
Issues...everyone has them. There's always a little "needs improvement" somewhere in our lives, whether it's in our relationships, with parenting, as an…
- Do you say these things? He/she "makes" me feel.... by: joleenwatson
August 27, 2010, 12:29
Phrase #4: "He/she MAKES me feel...." It's a common myth that others are responsible for our feelings. Let's face it-- Most of us didn't grow up…
- Do You Say These Things?--"Yeah, but..." by: tericlaassen
August 23, 2010, 16:03
As therapist's we hear a lot of dysfunctional phrases from people. Many say things without thinking about the message they are sending. Some will blurt phrases…
- How do you know if you are ready for counseling Part 3 by: nataliechandler
August 19, 2010, 06:38
This week we have been discussing how to know if you are ready for counseling. Have you recognized any of the items Tamara has mentioned this week? So many…
- How do you know you're ready for counseling? Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
August 17, 2010, 11:56
As discussed yesterday, this week we're talking about how to know when you are ready individually or as a couple to begin counseling. For some, that decision…
- What is stopping you from meeting your goals? by: joleenwatson
August 4, 2010, 17:04
As Teri discussed, sometimes we set goals for ourselves at the beginning of the New Year, which fizzle out or we don’t accomplish. If your goals haven’t…
- Have you met your goals? by: tericlaassen
August 2, 2010, 03:56
It is August already!! 2010 is flying by. Back to school is in full bloom and I actually saw Halloween costumes being sold this weekend! It's been a long time…
- Negative Thinking Patterns Part 4 by: joleenwatson
June 18, 2010, 17:59
There can be many ways we sabotage our thinking, which result in issues such as marital conflict and communication issues in relationships, depression,…
- AH-HA! Moments and life changing experiences-Natalie by: nataliechandler
June 10, 2010, 10:55
I LOVE Ah-ha moments! I love to have them, I love to see them in our clients! You can just tell something has clicked and that person will never be the same.…
- More Things To Remove From Your Life by: joleenwatson
June 4, 2010, 22:10
What is one definite way to ruin communication, trust and intimacy in your relationships? Passive-Aggressive behaviors and indirect communication. In our…
- More Things to Remove From Your Life by: nataliechandler
June 3, 2010, 05:53
Do you know the definition of insanity? We see it a lot in couples and individuals. It's what many of them need to remove from their life: Doing the same…
- More Things to Remove From Your Life by: tericlaassen
June 2, 2010, 16:13
Thanks Tammy! That is a great example of how a "remodel" can change your outlook in life and relationships. Speaking of a remodel...another thing that is…
- Things You Need To Remove From Your Life by: tamarawilhelm
June 1, 2010, 15:23
If you follow the MLB, you probably already know that in 2008 the Tampa Bay Devil Rays became the Tampa Bay Rays. They removed the "Devil" from their…
- Alcohol and Drug Addiction by: joleenwatson
May 29, 2010, 18:18
This week, Imagine Hope has covered some common areas of addiction: Sex addiction, TV and internet addiction, and Relationship addiction. In the final part…
- Addictions-Gambling Addiction by: tamarawilhelm
May 18, 2010, 16:16
When some people think of gambling addiction, they have a picture in mind of someone who takes their paycheck and blows it on scratch offs or at the casino.…
- Addictions- Introduction and Food addiction by: tericlaassen
May 17, 2010, 17:13
Addictions are a common issue we deal with here at Imagine Hope. We see everything ranging from alcohol, drugs, and sex, to work, facebook, and food. Society…
- Characteristics of Unsafe People part 4 by: joleenwatson
April 30, 2010, 19:26
How many (emotionally) unsafe people have you recognized so far? Here a few more characteristics: 17. Unsafe people confront not to forgive, but to…
- Healing From an Affair by: joleenwatson
April 17, 2010, 16:26
The Imagine Hope ladies have shared some great statistics and information on infidelity, but what can you do if an affair has already happened? Seek out a…
- Affair Proof Your Marriage by: nataliechandler
April 15, 2010, 06:01
Unfortunately, too many people wait to walk thru our doors once an affair has happened. Although there is hope if an affair has occurred, it is much easier to…
- Self Care: Joleen by: joleenwatson
April 9, 2010, 09:38
As Natalie was saying, it is SO important to take time out for self-care... And not just waiting to do it when you are stressed out! Taking time for yourself…
- Self-Care: Tammy by: tamarawilhelm
April 6, 2010, 08:24
Those are great ideas Teri! I might just have to adopt some of those myself. When I think of self-care, I get a smile on my face because they're things I do…
- Counterdependency- Characteristics Part 2 by: nataliechandler
April 1, 2010, 05:37
On Tuesday, Tamara gave us great descriptions of 4 of the 7 characteristics of Counterdependency: Grandiose, Not knowing/respecting boundaries of others,…
- Counterdependency-Characteristics Part 1 by: tamarawilhelm
March 30, 2010, 09:23
Yesterday Teri introduced us to Jim, a sharp-tongued workaholic who seems very self-involved. Sound familiar? Maybe you have a parent, sibling, friend, boss,…
- Depression- How to cope by: nataliechandler
March 24, 2010, 11:24
I hope this week has been helpful in recognizing the signs and symptoms of depression as well as how it effects relationships. Today we want to offer hope and…
- Depression- Signs and Symptoms by: tericlaassen
March 22, 2010, 17:32
Depression is a common issue that many people are facing in their day to day lives. At Imagine Hope we help people everyday on the road to recovery through…
- Goals We've Accomplished and How We Did It- Teri's by: tericlaassen
March 8, 2010, 17:03
As therapists, we are always helping people set and meet goals to improve their lives. One thing Imagine Hope prides themselves on is that we are walking our…
- Do you fight fair? - Tips 6-10 by: tamarawilhelm
March 1, 2010, 21:05
As Teri mentioned, fighting can be healthy, as long as it's done in a respectful way. Conflict can be one of the ways you and another person grow closer. It's…
- Seasonal Affective Disorder part 4 by: joleenwatson
January 29, 2010, 15:28
So far, we have described what Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is, as well as how it can impact your life. So what can you do to help with the symptoms? …
- Seasonal Affective Disorder Part 3 by: nataliechandler
January 28, 2010, 07:34
As we talk about Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) this week, it is important to know the causes and the risk factors for the disorder . There are three…
- Recognizing and dealing with stress Part 1 by: nataliechandler
January 18, 2010, 13:12
Many of us are stressed. We live in a stressful world, have stressful jobs, and sometimes stressful relationships. We all will experience it one time or…
- The Imagine Hope Experience Part 4 by: tericlaassen
January 15, 2010, 09:56
As you can see from Natalie, Joleen, and Tamara's blog this week, the Imagine Hope Experience has been carefully thought out from start to finish and is…
- The Imagine Hope Experience Part 3 by: tamarawilhelm
January 14, 2010, 12:10
Earlier this week Natalie discussed how we strive for the environment at Imagine Hope to help the healing process, and Joleen shared how customer service plays…
- The Imagine Hope Experience part 2 by: joleenwatson
January 12, 2010, 19:00
Yesterday, Natalie discussed how important it is for Imagine Hope to provide our clients a great experience from start to finish when they come for counseling.…
- The Imagine Hope Experience by: nataliechandler
January 11, 2010, 18:29
Do you have a favorite store that you LOVE to go into, even if you aren't purchasing anything? You just love going in for the experience. My husband is a huge…
- Joleen's 2010 Book Recommendation by: joleenwatson
January 8, 2010, 16:27
There are SO many self-help and personal growth books out there lately, it can be overwhelming and sometimes conflicting to find one giving sound advice that…
- Signs your Marriage is in trouble Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
December 8, 2009, 13:31
Teri got us started yesterday on signs to watch out for that can show a marriage is in trouble. You may read some of these and think, "Duh!" But some of these…
- Signs your marriage is in trouble- Part 1 by: tericlaassen
December 7, 2009, 09:23
Imagine Hope specializes in helping couples build a healthy relationship. Unfortunately many people come to marriage counseling after a lot of damage has been…
- Fear and Anxiety Part 3 by: nataliechandler
November 19, 2009, 12:47
Joleen and Teri have done an excellent job of describing anxiety and giving tips to help with it. We thought because we are relationship experts and see how…
- Fear and Anxiety Part 2 by: tericlaassen
November 17, 2009, 08:55
Fear and Anxiety can be paralyzing. It can stop you from being productive and can cause you to have a very negative view of the world. Here are 5 quick tips to…
- Fear and Anxiety Part 1 by: joleenwatson
November 16, 2009, 19:34
There is a lot of talk about anxiety these days, but what exactly is it? Usually, with fear, we are able to name what we are fearful of. The feeling of…
- Tips for Creating Intimacy by: joleenwatson
November 6, 2009, 15:13
Here are our last two tips for creating a deeper level of intimacy with your partner: 9. Flirt with your partner throughout the day! Send text messages…
- Tips for Positive Parenting by: joleenwatson
October 30, 2009, 11:47
8. The best way to parent in a positive way is to take care of you. Make sure you get enough rest, good nutrition, and some time for yourself when…
- Emotional Affairs Part 4 by: joleenwatson
October 23, 2009, 17:22
There are many signs of emotional affairs, if you know what to look for. While these signs can also be related to other life issues, as well as physical or…
- Codependency part 4 by: joleenwatson
October 16, 2009, 09:27
Codependency has a great impact on our relationships, and is very destructive to both the individual, as well as the relationships well-being. Here are…
- 3 Common mistakes couples make by: joleenwatson
October 9, 2009, 15:45
In addition to what Teri, Tammy, and Natalie spoke about in their blogs, here are 3 additional mistakes I see when working with couples: Becoming…
- 3 common mistakes couples make by: nataliechandler
October 8, 2009, 15:47
The 3 most common mistakes I see couples make are the following: 1. Making a lot of assumptions about what the other partner is thinking. I see this a lot.…
- 3 common mistakes couples make by: tamarawilhelm
October 6, 2009, 08:03
Fighting about too many things at once. It's hard to follow a disagreement when you're fighting about this, that, & the kitchen sink. Stick to one topic…
- 3 common mistakes couples make by: tericlaassen
October 5, 2009, 05:40
As therapists we many times see big issues in relationships start from a small mistake and grow into a bigger issue. Conquering the small issues is good…
- Welcome to Imagine Hope's Blog by: nataliechandler
September 24, 2009, 18:38
We are so excited to add an Imagine Hope blog to our website! We will each keep our own individual blogs where you can continue to get tidbits of what we hope…
- Spring Book Recommendations- Joleen by: joleenwatson
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- Spring Book Recommendations-Christy by: joleenwatson
April 9, 2013, 06:00
Reshaping it All: Motivation for Physical and Spiritual Fitness by Candace Cameron Bure Candace, who most of us remember as the oldest daughter DJ on the…
- Spring Book Recommendations- Teri by: tericlaassen
April 8, 2013, 02:46
It is spring! Which means it is time for us to share some of our favorite reads as we look forward to nicer weather :) The Law of Happiness: How Spiritual…
- Serenity Prayer - Acceptance by: tamarawilhelm
March 5, 2013, 05:00
In studying the Serenity Prayer this week, we want an awareness & focus to be on what the words mean, not memorization and repetitiveness of the…
- Serenity Prayer- Serenity by: tericlaassen
March 4, 2013, 04:58
The Serenity Prayer is commonly linked to 12 step programs and is used by many as a coping tool. It says: “God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I…
- Lessons From Kid's Books- You Are Worthy by: alexa griffith
February 27, 2013, 06:47
When I was five years old, my mother read to me The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams. This book is about a little stuffed rabbit who was made of velveteen…
- Lessons From Kid's Books: You Are Special by: tamarawilhelm
February 26, 2013, 05:00
You Are Special by Max Lucado This is an absolutely precious book! It's about a village of Wemmicks who are wooden people carved by a woodworker named…
- Favorite Holiday Traditions- Teri by: tericlaassen
December 10, 2012, 03:39
It is Christmas time, which means people are participating in family traditions. Traditions can be an important part of people's lives as they create connectedn…
- Alexa's Lessons From The Thanksgiving Table by: alexa griffith
November 21, 2012, 04:11
Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates…
- Let's Talk About Love- Agape by: joleenwatson
February 17, 2012, 15:48
In honor of Valentine's week, this week Imagine Hope is discussing the different kinds of love. Today is one of the most incredible forms of love-- Agape…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Step 12 by: joleenwatson
March 11, 2011, 06:17
Today, we will finish up with the 12 Steps of Recovery, discussing the 12th and final step. Remember that utilizing these steps in everyday life is for…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone - Steps 8 & 9 by: tamarawilhelm
March 8, 2011, 05:00
Natalie, Joleen & Teri have done a great job of explaining the Steps & have given some great exercises to do along the way. I hope you'll get a chance…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Steps 6 & 7 by: tericlaassen
March 7, 2011, 03:15
This week we are finishing up the 12 steps! We hope you have been able to apply these to an affliction in your life through last week and this week. These…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Step 4 & Step 5 by: joleenwatson
March 4, 2011, 16:00
This week we are discussing the 12 Steps of recovery... You might be saying to yourself "But I don't have an addiction, so this doesn't apply!" We…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Step 2 by: tamarawilhelm
March 1, 2011, 07:40
As Teri pointed out yesterday, as we discuss these 12-Steps, keep in mind that the Steps do not only have to be applied to addictions. These can be applied…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Step 1 by: tericlaassen
February 28, 2011, 03:54
Did you know that the 12 steps can be used as a guide through life even for people who don't struggle with addictions? You can use them as part of your coping…
- Serenity Prayer- Wisdom by: joleenwatson
February 25, 2011, 12:02
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the Serenity Prayer and it's meaning. So far, we have gone through serenity, courage and change. Today we will…
- Serenity Prayer- Serenity by: tericlaassen
February 21, 2011, 03:07
The Serenity Prayer is commonly linked to 12 step programs and is used by many as a coping tool. It says: “God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I…
- Great Self-Help Books- Tammy by: tamarawilhelm
February 1, 2011, 08:34
One of books I've found to be wonderful and full of insight recently is So Long, Insecurity by Beth Moore. Beth addresses the main issue many women struggle…
- Our Thanksgiving Memories- Teri by: tericlaassen
November 22, 2010, 13:27
This week Imagine Hope is sharing our thoughts and memories about the Thanksgiving holiday season! Enjoy our stories as you create some of your own! Teri's…
- Recommended Books for the Fall- Joleen by: joleenwatson
September 24, 2010, 08:00
So far, the therapists at Imagine Hope have recommended some great books (and a few that I've already added to my reading "to do" list)! One book that I've…
- Recommended Books for the Fall- Natalie by: nataliechandler
September 23, 2010, 05:00
My book recommendation is "Healing is a Choice" by Stephen Arterburn. Just the title alone speaks volumes. Healing IS a choice. We have to decide to keep doing…
- Forgiveness Tips by: tericlaassen
July 12, 2010, 03:30
Forgiveness is powerful and necessary for the healing process. Lewis Smedes says that "Forgiveness is to set a prisoner free; and to discover that prisoner is…
- What are boundaries? -Spiritual Boundaries by: nataliechandler
February 18, 2010, 07:45
Teri and Tamara have done an excellent job describing what boundaries are and explaining what physical, emotional, and intellectual boundaries are. If you…
- Natalie's 2010 Book Recommendation by: nataliechandler
January 7, 2010, 13:06
One of the most inspiring books I have ever read and one I highly recommend is The Shack by William P. Young. This books takes all our hang ups and all our…
- Tammy's 2010 Book Recommendation by: tamarawilhelm
January 5, 2010, 12:50
A book I have found extremely useful and love to recommend to others is Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Meyer. This book tackles something so many struggle…
- Spring Book Recommendations-Christy by: joleenwatson
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- Characteristics of a Healthy Mother 3 by: alexa griffith
May 8, 2013, 04:47
This week before Mother’s Day we are examining what characteristics make a healthy mother. Most moms want to do their best to raise happy well- adjusted…
- What Kind of Unglued Are You? The Stuffer Who Collects Retaliation Rocks by: joleenwatson
April 19, 2013, 12:06
The Stuffer Who Collects Retaliation Rocks What do you do with your feelings about small (and not-so-small) situations that happen in your marriage? Do…
- What Kind of Unglued Are You? The Stuffer Who Builds Barriers by: nataliechandler
April 17, 2013, 17:48
The Stuffer Who Builds Barriers So what do you do when you have a friend who has said or did something that really hurt you? What about your spouse- do you…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Natalie by: nataliechandler
March 28, 2013, 04:31
The 3 most common mistakes I see couples make are the following: 1. Making a lot of assumptions about what the other partner is thinking. I see this a…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Tammy by: joleenwatson
March 26, 2013, 05:00
*Fighting about too many things at once - It’s hard to follow a disagreement when you’re fighting about this, that, & the kitchen sink. Stick to one…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Teri by: tericlaassen
March 17, 2013, 08:58
As therapists we see big issues in relationships start from a small mistake and grow into a bigger issue. Conquering the small issues is good prevention and…
- Tips to Nurture Relationships 4 by: nataliechandler
March 14, 2013, 04:50
Acceptance of Underlying Feelings Many times we may have a strong emotional reactions to something that may not be that big of a deal to someone else.…
- Tips To Nurture Relationships 3 by: alexa griffith
March 13, 2013, 07:13
A New Approach to Criticism Most of us have that one family member, coworker, or aquaitance that just cannot help but say negative comments. We usually…
- Tips To Nurture Relationships 2 by: tamarawilhelm
March 12, 2013, 05:00
Opportunities to Build Trust Trust is an essential ingredient in every relationship. Trust is extremely important in marriages, romantic relationships,…
- Tips to Nurture Relationships 1 by: joleenwatson
March 11, 2013, 09:13
We all have moments where we stop and think “I should call and check on so-and-so to see how they are”, or “I should really make an effort with this…
- The Five Levels of Intimacy #4- My Feelings and Experiences by: nataliechandler
February 14, 2013, 06:37
You've learned safe communication, are comfortable hearing other's opinions and beliefs, and have shared your own. The next level is deeper- sharing your…
- 5 Levels of Intimacy- #3 Personal Opinions and Beliefs by: joleenwatson
February 13, 2013, 06:43
This level of intimacy is about taking small risks, while still allowing some protective barriers to exist. This stage is often where we start to share…
- 5 Levels of Intimacy- #2 Other's Opinions and Beliefs by: tamarawilhelm
February 12, 2013, 05:00
During this stage, we start making ourselves more vulnerable to each other than we did in the first stage (discussed yesterday). While we're not quite…
- 5 Levels of Intimacy- #1 Safe Communication by: tericlaassen
February 11, 2013, 04:25
Love is in the air as we look forward to celebrating Valentine's Day this week! Relationships aren't just about romance and feeling "that loving feeling".…
- Love Knot: The Judge by: joleenwatson
February 1, 2013, 14:26
We all want to have our parnter be our biggest listener and support system when something is going wrong in life (and even when it isn't!). But what happens…
- Love Knot- If I were Important then You Would Remember! by: nataliechandler
January 31, 2013, 12:39
It is easy to fall into the trap of believing that because someone doesn't remember something, that it is not important to them. It is even more difficult to…
- Love Knot-If You Really Loved Me by: joleenwatson
January 29, 2013, 06:48
Now that you know what a "Love Knot" is, we will be spending this week talking about some of the most popular ones that we see our clients get stuck in. …
- What is A Love Knot? by: tericlaassen
January 28, 2013, 03:26
When you get frustrated with your partner, do you notice a phrase in your head that starts with, "If he really loved me, he would just know I'm upset about…
- Lying and Trust Issues- 5 by: joleenwatson
January 25, 2013, 06:21
What to do if you think you are being lied to: Don't obsess-- when you invest all of your emotional energy in what another person is doing, you are only…
- How to Rebuild Trust by: nataliechandler
January 24, 2013, 06:21
Rebuilding trust is very difficult and takes a lot of time. I think the most difficult part of working with people that have lied or have been untrustworthy…
- Saving Your Marriage Before Giving Up-5 by: joleenwatson
January 11, 2013, 11:29
All week we have been talking about the importance of addressing issues and identifying “hot buttons” in your marriage. Today I’m going to talk about…
- Saving Your Marriage Before Giving Up-4 by: nataliechandler
January 10, 2013, 07:28
As Alexa mentioned yesterday, there are certain reasons you get so upset with your spouse. One of them is your hot buttons. It is important to identify what…
- Natalie's Lessons from the Thanksgiving Table by: nataliechandler
November 21, 2012, 15:51
What great lessons I am learning and being reminded of this week thru our Lessons from the Thanksgiving Table! We host both sides of the family at our house…
- How Dysfunctional Families Affect Children 4 by: nataliechandler
November 15, 2012, 00:00
A child naturally feels wants and has needs. This is built into them as babies- we are helpless, therefore we need and want things from our caretakers. In a…
- The Masks We Wear- Codependency by: nataliechandler
November 1, 2012, 05:46
This week we are talking about masks we wear to cover up our authentic selves. If you haven't already, feel free to back up and read the other blogs from this…
- How to Get Your Teen to Open Up-Be Open Yourself by: joleenwatson
October 23, 2012, 05:07
This week Imagine Hope is focusing on specific things parents can do to help draw out more open communication with their teens. #2 Be Open Yourself Do…
- How to Get Your Teen to Open Up- Seize Moments by: tericlaassen
October 22, 2012, 02:40
Teens can be tricky to communicate with! Many parents hear more grunts and silence then they do words when trying to get their teenager to share and open…
- Feelings and Defenses 5 by: joleenwatson
October 19, 2012, 06:15
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing how defenses can be used to mask or avoid feelings, especially the feelings of anger, sadness, fear, loneliness, shame…
- Feelings and Defenses 4 by: nataliechandler
October 18, 2012, 05:34
As we are talking this week about defensive behaviors that cover our primary feelings, it is imperative that we chat about the "quiet behaviors". These are…
- Feelings and Defenses 3 by: alexa griffith
October 17, 2012, 00:43
This week we have been talking about how defenses mask and cover true feelings. As described on Monday, the five main focus feelings that are commonly…
- Feelings and Defenses 2 by: tamarawilhelm
October 16, 2012, 05:00
Teri did a great job yesterday explaining the primary emotions. A reminder is that the primary feeling words are Angry, Sad, Afraid, Lonely, Ashamed and…
- Facebook and Your Marriage- Tips by: nataliechandler
October 4, 2012, 05:34
Make it a priority to saying something positive to your spouse on your wall at least once a week. It can be very simple like, "Can't wait to take my queen out…
- Relationship Exits-4 by: nataliechandler
September 27, 2012, 06:18
We exit when we see you are in pain and we can't fix it Many people feel uncomfortable with seeing others in emotional pain. That is normal. Usually it brings…
- Relationship Exits - 2 by: tamarawilhelm
September 25, 2012, 05:00
We exit when we can't find the language to express our feelings - sometimes it can be hard to find the words to clearly express what we're trying to say.…
- Relationship Exits-1 by: tericlaassen
September 24, 2012, 02:22
The fight or flight instinct is a strong one that kicks in without us even thinking about it. Sometimes this instinct can play out in relationships too. We…
- Counterdependency Characteristics Part 1 by: tamarawilhelm
August 28, 2012, 05:00
Yesterday Teri introduced us to Jim, a sharp-tongued workaholic who seems very self-involved. Sound familiar? Maybe you have a parent, sibling, friend, boss,…
- Positive Discipline Techniques- 1 by: tericlaassen
August 20, 2012, 04:20
Parenting is a hard job- especially when it comes to disciplining your child. Discipline should be something parents do as a way to teach children right from…
- How To Create Fireworks in Your Marriage- Dream by: joleenwatson
August 17, 2012, 06:02
Dream Together! Many couples begin their dating relationship full of dreams for their future, but once the marriage has become comfortable, they stop…
- How To Create Fireworks in Your Marriage- Flirting by: nataliechandler
August 16, 2012, 05:52
You've heard the saying, "The grass grows where it's watered". As with grass and plants, so it is in our relationships. The more effort and time you give to…
- How To Create Fireworks In Your Marriage- Seduction by: alexa griffith
August 15, 2012, 00:45
The key to seduction is communicating desire. Not just desire for your own needs to be met, but to meet the desires of your partner. You have to show your…
- How to Create Fireworks In Your Marriage - It matters when you're apart by: tamarawilhelm
August 14, 2012, 05:00
Ever receive a small gift or thank-you note unexpectedly? Remember how special it felt to receive it? The same applies in marriage too. Let your spouse know…
- The Five Freedoms: Taking Risks by: joleenwatson
August 3, 2012, 06:20
Freedom #5: To take risks in one's own behalf instead of choosing to be only "secure" and not rocking the boat. We have all probably been in a situation…
- 5 Freedoms: To Ask For What You Want by: nataliechandler
August 2, 2012, 05:34
Freedom #4: To Ask for What One Wants Instead of Always Waiting For Permission Many people struggle with telling people what they really want or need. They…
- The 5 Freedoms: To Feel by: alexa griffith
August 1, 2012, 00:26
Freedom #3: To Feel What One Feels and not what one “ought” to feel. It has happened to all of us. We are in a situation where we are “should”…
- The Five Freedoms: To Say by: tamarawilhelm
July 31, 2012, 05:00
Freedom #2: To Say What One Feels and Thinks Instead of What One Should Feel and Think There's that "Should" word again. Whenever you use the word "Should",…
- 5 Toxic Behaviors That Poison Your Relationship with Your Teens by: nataliechandler
July 26, 2012, 05:49
Toxic Behavior #4: You must first be good to get my love It can be so difficult to show your child love when you are angry and frustrated, right? But it is…
- 5 Toxic Behaviors That Poison Your Relationship With Your Teen by: alexa griffith
July 25, 2012, 00:26
Toxic Behavior #3 Compliment Sandwiches Have you ever received a compliment followed by a "but?" Imagine your boss tells you, " you did a great job on…
- 5 Toxic Behaviors That Poison Your Relationship With your Teen- Attacking the Person by: tamarawilhelm
July 24, 2012, 05:00
Toxic Behavior #2: Attacking the Person Rather Than the Misbehavior This can happen when you don't separate out your teen's misbehavior from their character…
- 5 Toxic Behaviors That Poison Your Relationship With your Teen- Bringing up the Past by: tericlaassen
July 23, 2012, 05:38
Parenting a teenager can feel like a roller coaster! A few weeks ago we shared good info about out of control teen behaviors, but this week we want to look at…
- Myths About Love- Love and Anger Are Incompatible by: joleenwatson
July 20, 2012, 05:38
Myth #7: Love and Anger are Incompatible Many people believe that if you really love someone, that means you never get angry at them. Or perhaps you…
- 4 Ways to Tear Apart A Relationship- Stonewalling by: joleenwatson
July 6, 2012, 19:26
Very few people actually enjoy conflict, and it's natural to sometimes feel stuck during a fight. Maybe you are struggling with what to say, or perhaps you…
- 4 Ways to Tear Apart A Relationship- Defensiveness by: nataliechandler
July 5, 2012, 11:53
#3 Defensiveness We are probably all guilty of getting defensive at one time or another in our relationships. It's a natural feeling to want to defend…
- 4 Ways to Tear Apart A Relationship- Contempt by: tamarawilhelm
July 3, 2012, 05:00
#2 Contempt In his book, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail, John Gottman describes contempt as the intention to insult and psychologically abuse your partner.…
- 4 Ways to Tear Apart A Relationship- Criticism by: tericlaassen
July 2, 2012, 02:22
Imagine Hope is in the relationship repairing business. Which means we see a lot of people come to us with bad habits that need undone in order for the…
- How to Find Mr. or Mrs. Right- 4 & 5 by: nataliechandler
June 28, 2012, 05:42
#4- Don't talk yourself out of pink and red flags First of all, what are pink and red flags? Most of you know what a red flag is- it's a phrase we use to…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Father- Communication by: alexa griffith
June 13, 2012, 00:51
This week of Father’s Day, Teri has written about engagement and Tamara has written about teaching and modeling. Another essential skill for healthy…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Father- Engaged by: tericlaassen
June 11, 2012, 04:49
Father's Day is coming up this Sunday! Last month we wrote about characteristics of a healthy mother, so now it is time to do the same for fathers. I know…
- 13 Essential Ingredients To A Healthy Relationship 11-13 by: joleenwatson
June 8, 2012, 07:50
This week, Imagine Hope is going over the different ingredients that are needed to have a healthy relationship-- whether it's with a spouse, co-worker, friend,…
- 13 Essential Ingredients To A Healthy Relationship 5-7 by: alexa griffith
June 6, 2012, 00:14
We do not usually think of our relationship as something with ingredients. However, it is important to break down components that support relationship…
- 13 Essential Ingredients To A Healthy Relationship 3-4 by: tamarawilhelm
June 5, 2012, 05:00
Ahhh, healthy relationships. It's what we all strive for, right?! Let's talk about the next 2 ingredients: Ingredient #3 - Compassion - Do I have a…
- Ways To Protect Your Kids From Predators 1 by: tericlaassen
May 28, 2012, 15:19
As a parent, one of my main concerns is my child's safety. Part of my job is to be the "safety patrol" and teach them how to catch on to what is safe and what…
- Mind Over Mood- Alternative Thoughts by: nataliechandler
May 17, 2012, 05:33
This week we are talking about how to challenge your thinking rather than making assumptions that can possibly lead to a negative mood. In order to follow, it…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Mother 3 by: alexa griffith
May 9, 2012, 00:17
This week before Mother’s Day we are examining what characteristics make a healthy mother. Most moms want to do their best to raise happy well- adjusted…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Mother 1 by: tericlaassen
May 7, 2012, 05:50
Mother's Day is approaching on Sunday! I know this day can be exciting for some as they celebrate motherhood, while for others it can be painful due to loss of…
- How to Get Through to A Man 5 by: joleenwatson
April 27, 2012, 19:47
Today we finish up with this weeks blog topic, adapted from W. Bruce Cameron's article (reference below). What do you think of the tips so far? "What a…
- How to Get Through to a Man 4 by: nataliechandler
April 26, 2012, 10:15
If you are just catching up with us this week, we are talking about how to get through to a man. We've adapted it from W. Bruce Cameron's article (see below…
- How to Get Through To A Man 2 by: tamarawilhelm
April 24, 2012, 05:00
"Let Me Get Your Power Drill" Okay, this title may sound completely silly, but the concept really does work. (I know this from personal experience!). We'v…
- How to Get Through To A Man 1 by: tericlaassen
April 23, 2012, 06:18
Let's face it, women AND men are hard to understand sometimes. If only we could read each others minds, it would be so much easier! There are some specific…
- Top 7 Reasons for Teen Misbehavior- #7 by: joleenwatson
April 20, 2012, 04:43
Today we will finish up with this weeks blog series on the reasons for teen misbehavior. Have you recognized any of these reasons so far this week? Reason…
- Top 7 Reasons for Teen Misbehavior #4 by: alexa griffith
April 18, 2012, 00:04
The mere mention of adolescence often produces strong emotional responses from adults. Teens have strong emotions, and evoke strong emotions from the adults…
- Top 7 Reasons for Teen Misbehavior- #2 & 3 by: tamarawilhelm
April 17, 2012, 11:46
Don't ya just love teens? Especially one who's testing the boundaries? Scott Sells book, Parenting Your Out of Control Teenager, can help you love them even…
- Top 7 Reasons for Teen Misbehavior- #1 by: tericlaassen
April 16, 2012, 07:06
Raising a teen can be overwhelming. This is often the time I hear cries from parents who feel lost and at the end of their rope. Scott Sells gives us 7 reasons…
- From The Mouths of Babes- Alexa by: alexa griffith
April 4, 2012, 04:12
Kids really do say the darndest things. The show of the same name was before my time, but being a mother and working with children has shown me that truth. …
- Relationships: Intimate vs. Addictive- 4 by: nataliechandler
March 29, 2012, 04:45
Hopefully this week you have been able to identify if your relationship is healthy/intimate or has more addictive characteristics. Being in an addictive type…
- Relationships: Intimate vs Addictive - 2 by: tamarawilhelm
March 27, 2012, 05:00
In an intimate relationship you have a sense of freedom vs. in an addictive relationship there is a sense of compulsion. In healthy relationships, there's a…
- What Does It Mean to “Let Go”? -2 by: tamarawilhelm
March 20, 2012, 03:00
This is a great topic this week. Too often we can get wrapped up & worried about situations, when in reality, we need to let go. Let's explore some more…
- Tips on Helping Your Child Cope With Divorce - Watch Your Mouth by: tamarawilhelm
March 14, 2012, 03:00
Teri & Alexa have done an excellent job preparing a parent for how to tell a child they're divorcing. Now, let's discuss what you as a parent should do…
- Basic Human Needs - Listening by: tamarawilhelm
February 28, 2012, 03:00
Listening, Participating & Accepting Everyone likes to know the person they're speaking with has heard them, even if that person does not always agree…
- Dealing with Difficult People- Silent People and Busybodies by: nataliechandler
February 23, 2012, 07:02
Everyone knows difficult people, right? That's why a few years ago we developed a presentation to start helping people to deal with difficult people in the…
- Dealing with Difficult People - The Complainer by: alexa griffith
February 22, 2012, 06:35
Everyone knows a complainer or two or twelve. Complainers drain our energy! Complainers are difficult to be around due to their negative outlook and fear.…
- Dealing with Difficult People - The Sniper by: tamarawilhelm
February 21, 2012, 03:00
Difficult people are everywhere in our life. It could be someone in our family, workplace or a friend. It could also be a distant acquaintence. It's easy…
- Do you have a Boarding House or Martyr Relationship? by: nataliechandler
February 9, 2012, 06:58
The Boarding House Relationship Picture two people linked together by their elbows, with their backs to each other. This is the Boarding House Relationship.…
- Do you have a Pedestal Relationship or a Master /Slave Relationship? by: alexa griffith
February 8, 2012, 07:17
As we head toward Valentine's Day, often we think of our relationships. Sometimes we remember past relationships, appreciate present relationships, or dream…
- Talks To Have Before Getting Married: Conflict Styles and Common Interests by: joleenwatson
February 4, 2012, 06:01
If you are presently engaged to be married, we send you our warmest congratulations! The time of dating and engagement is exciting and promising-- a time where…
- Talks To Have Before Getting Married: Communication Styles by: nataliechandler
February 2, 2012, 04:40
If you are reading this, there is probably a Congratulations in order?? Well congrats! Or you may be a parent or friend, reading this to pass along the…
- Talks to Have Before Getting Married: Love Style by: alexa griffith
February 1, 2012, 07:59
What is your partners's love style? Have you ever been with your partner and you feel like you are expressing a lot of love but your s/he does not seem to…
- Talks to Have Before Getting Married: Relationship Rules by: tamarawilhelm
January 31, 2012, 03:00
Whether you realize it or not, you have relationship rules and role expectations. It's how we believe things are going to be when we're married. It's how the…
- Talks to Have Before Getting Married: My Expectations by: tericlaassen
January 30, 2012, 11:15
Imagine Hope is getting several calls each week for people who want to save their marriage before it starts! Couples are starting to realize that they need to…
- Flower Messages 2 by: joleenwatson
January 27, 2012, 09:56
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the different types of messages we give to others in our communication-- termed "Garbage Messages" or "Flower Messages". …
- Flower Messages 1 by: nataliechandler
January 26, 2012, 07:13
By now you are understanding what a Garbage Message is. Now let's talk about Flower Messages. These are messages that we send that are encouraging, uplifting,…
- Garbage Message 2 by: alexa griffith
January 25, 2012, 07:07
We all engage in negative self-talk. These are the conversations we have with ourselves in our heads that spiral from “oops I made a mistake” to “I’m…
- Garbage Messages 1 by: tamarawilhelm
January 24, 2012, 03:00
I love this week's blog because it brings to all of our attention how we're communicating with each other and whether that communication is positive or…
- Are You Full of Garbage Messages or Flower Messages? by: tericlaassen
January 23, 2012, 06:57
What messages do you send to others? What messages do others give to you? What about the messages you tell yourself in your own head? Are these messages…
- What To Do if You Are Loving Too Much 9-10 by: joleenwatson
January 21, 2012, 06:25
So far, have you used any of this week's blog post suggestions to help with your relationship with yourself? Or, maybe you are wondering "How can you love…
- Christmas Gifts That Say "I get you"- Words of Affirmation by: tericlaassen
December 6, 2011, 04:00
When giving a Christmas gift to someone who's love language is Words of Affirmation, you have the chance for your creativity to come out! If you want to…
- TV Families- All in the Family by: nataliechandler
December 1, 2011, 06:34
I am LOVING reading this weeks blogs about dysfunctional TV families. How fun to relive the childhood moments of the Brady Bunch and to think of the beauty of…
- Natalie's Lessons from the Thanksgiving Table by: nataliechandler
November 19, 2011, 07:54
What great lessons I am learning and being reminded of this week thru our Lessons from the Thanksgiving Table! We host both sides of the family at our house…
- The Masks We Wear- Codependency by: nataliechandler
October 27, 2011, 05:32
This week we are talking about masks we wear to cover up our authentic selves. If you haven't already, feel free to back up and read the other blogs from this…
- Ways to Develop Companionate Love by: joleenwatson
October 14, 2011, 15:57
So, we've all heard the fairy tale endings at some point in our childhood, right? But what really happens after the prince kisses Sleeping Beauty and…
- What does Companionate Love Look Like 4-7 by: nataliechandler
October 13, 2011, 05:23
Companionate Love is such a wonderful thing. Many couples think if two people love each other that this should come naturally. This is a myth. This type of…
- Are You a BAD Communicator? 5 by: joleenwatson
September 23, 2011, 06:15
So far this week, we have heard several characteristics of bad communication. Today we will finish up with three more: 13. Defensiveness is where you…
- Are You a BAD Communicator? 4 by: nataliechandler
September 22, 2011, 05:35
Communication can be so difficult. You put all our experiences (childhood, past relationships etc) + our current mood and that can = a disaster! We all…
- Are you a BAD Communicator?- 3 by: tamarawilhelm
September 20, 2011, 08:32
Hopefully you're getting a solid idea of bad communication. These characteristics need to be eliminated as much as possible when talking with others. Let's…
- Are you a BAD Communicator?- 1 by: tericlaassen
September 19, 2011, 03:16
At Imagine Hope we spend endless hours teaching people HOW to communicate effectively. It is amazing how easy it is to fall into poor habits. This week we will…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent-Nonexistent Spirituality by: nataliechandler
August 25, 2011, 05:51
Teri and Tamara have described what having the symptoms of Negative Control and Resentment can create in our lives as Codependents. Today I will discuss how…
- Do You Have a "Damaged Love Style"? The Secure Connector by: joleenwatson
August 19, 2011, 07:43
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing how our love styles can impact us in our relationships later in life. Based on the book "How We Love" by Milan and Kay…
- Do You Have a "Damaged Love Style"? Controller and Victim by: nataliechandler
August 18, 2011, 05:18
By now you may have identified some of the ways you love by either being an avoider, a pleaser, or a vacillator. If you are not sure what these types are,…
- Do You Have a “Damaged” Love Style?- Pleaser & Vacillator by: tamarawilhelm
August 16, 2011, 05:00
No one wants to damage their relationship and the way they love each other. Learning these 5 love styles by Milan & Kay Yerkovich can create deeper…
- The Difference Between Toxic and Healthy Secrets by: joleenwatson
August 5, 2011, 06:39
So now you know what toxic and healthy secrets look like and how they impact your relationships… How do you know the difference between the two? Here are…
- The Difference Between Healthy and Toxic Secrets by: nataliechandler
August 4, 2011, 05:35
Teri and Tammy have discussed both toxic secrets and healthy secrets, but how do each of them impact our relationships with others? Toxic Secrets: Create…
- Healthy Secrets by: tamarawilhelm
August 2, 2011, 05:00
You might be surprised to know that there are secrets that are indeed "healthy". Support4Change.com gives a great rule of thumb. They say: "Healthy Secrets…
- Toxic Secrets by: tericlaassen
August 1, 2011, 02:54
This week we are talking about secrets! Secrets come in many forms. There are healthy secrets, but also toxic ones. What is the difference? A toxic…
- 30 Tips to Help with Communication Traps 23-30 by: joleenwatson
July 29, 2011, 10:38
This week, we are discussing the different ways you can work on avoiding communication traps, whether you are the speaker or the listener in communication. …
- 30 Tips to Help with Communication Traps 14-22 by: nataliechandler
July 28, 2011, 04:33
As Therapists, we get the opportunity to be on the outside of conflict, looking in without being emotionally involved. Most of the time, it is easy to see how…
- 30 Tips To Help With Communication Traps 5-13 by: tamarawilhelm
July 26, 2011, 05:00
Communication is all around us. It can be verbal or non-verbal, and a part of every type of relationship from friendship to romantic relationship. Throw in…
- 30 Tips To Help With Communication Traps 1-4 by: tericlaassen
July 25, 2011, 03:25
Using good communication and listening skills are key to helping you avoid being misunderstood. People get trapped when they aren't slowing down enough to use…
- Tips to Getting Out of a Toxic Friendship #4 by: joleenwatson
July 22, 2011, 14:09
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing 5 different tips to getting out of a toxic friendship. If you haven't read our earlier blogs, feel free to go back and…
- Tips To Getting Out of a Toxic Friendship #3 by: nataliechandler
July 21, 2011, 11:32
Friendships are the sunshine in our lives. Yes, all friendships go thru problems or struggles, but for the most part, a friendship needs to be a bright spot in…
- Tips To Get Out of a Toxic Friendship- #2 by: tamarawilhelm
July 19, 2011, 05:00
It's hard to imagine ever having to "get out" of a friendship as you would a bad relationship. Besides, they're supposed to be your friend, right? But,…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Part 4 by: joleenwatson
July 8, 2011, 05:12
In addition to what Teri, Tammy, and Natalie spoke about in their blogs, here are 3 additional mistakes I see when working with couples: Becoming…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Part 3 by: joleenwatson
July 7, 2011, 05:08
The 3 most common mistakes I see couples make are the following: 1. Making a lot of assumptions about what the other partner is thinking. I see this a lot.…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Part 1 by: joleenwatson
July 5, 2011, 05:05
As therapists we many times see big issues in relationships start from a small mistake and grow into a bigger issue. Conquering the small issues is good…
- Healthy Boundaries and Separateness 4 by: joleenwatson
July 2, 2011, 06:38
Having healthy boundaries and maintaining our own identity is an important part of being healthy individuals-- and being a healthy individual means having…
- Healthy Boundaries and Separateness 3 by: tamarawilhelm
June 30, 2011, 10:03
Hopefully you're getting a great feel for healthy & unhealthy boundaries. Let's continue to talk about how to have healthy separateness in relationships…
- Emotional Needs- Domestic Support, Family Commitment, Admiration by: joleenwatson
June 10, 2011, 21:05
If you are finding your "love bank" empty in your relationship, there's a good chance that you or your partner are lacking in one (or more) critical area of…
- Emotional Needs- Honesty/Openness, Attractive Spouse, Financial Support by: nataliechandler
June 9, 2011, 05:40
As you are reading the blogs for the week on Emotional Needs, are you imagining your love tank full or empty? What about your spouse? How would they answer…
- Emotional Needs - Sex, Conversation, & Recreation by: tamarawilhelm
June 7, 2011, 05:00
Teri did a great job yesterday introducing emotional needs and the concept of the "Love Bank". If we don't deposit into each other's emotional accounts, we…
- How to Keep Your Sanity: If a Counterdependent Won't Get in Recovery by: nataliechandler
June 3, 2011, 06:53
By now, you have heard the characteristics of Counterdependency. But what do you do if you're in a relationship with one or work with one who refuses…
- Counterdependency Characteristics Part 2 by: nataliechandler
June 2, 2011, 05:19
On Wednesday, Tamara gave us great descriptions of 4 of the 7 characteristics of Counterdependency: Grandiose, Not knowing/respecting boundaries of others,…
- What Memorial Day Means to Me- Teri by: tericlaassen
May 23, 2011, 12:25
Memorial Day can be a great time for family and friends to get together and celebrate having a day off at the beginning of summer. But many use the day to…
- Do You Have “Stinkin’ Thinking”? 8-10 by: joleenwatson
May 13, 2011, 03:56
As the Imagine Hope therapists have covered, "Stinkin' Thinking", or Cognitive Distortions are the different ways of thinking that can sabotage our personal…
- Do You Have “Stinkin’ Thinking”? 1-2 by: tericlaassen
May 9, 2011, 03:44
Do you have "Stinkin' Thinking"? Many people suffer from cognitive distortions that lead to difficulty in relationships. A cognitive distortion is a thought…
- How Do You Handle Conflict? -Collaborating by: joleenwatson
April 22, 2011, 04:00
This week, Imagine Hope therapist's are discussing the different ways we handle conflict. If you haven't gotten the chance to read the earlier blog posts, we…
- How Do You Handle Conflict- Accommodating by: nataliechandler
April 21, 2011, 13:37
As Teri and Tamara have mentioned, many of us were not taught how to handle conflict appropriately or effectively. Many of us learn the hard way or don't learn…
- How Do You Handle Conflict? - Avoiding & Competing by: tamarawilhelm
April 19, 2011, 07:19
As Teri pointed out yesterday, conflict is a natural part of relationships. The hard part during conflict is slowing down, taking deep breaths, and really…
- How Do You Handle Conflict?-Compromise by: tericlaassen
April 18, 2011, 03:50
Conflict is a reality in all relationships. We can't avoid it. Many people react and respond so fast to conflict they don't slow down enough to see that they…
- Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples 14-18 by: joleenwatson
April 16, 2011, 07:24
This week's blog is focusing on the different characteristics of a dysfunctional couple. Today we will finish up with the final characteristics: 14. It…
- Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples 5-9 by: tamarawilhelm
April 12, 2011, 06:13
I've often been told & read that God built us to be in relationships. Whether those relationships are familial, friendships, or romantic relationships.…
- Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples 1-4 by: tericlaassen
April 11, 2011, 04:17
What does it mean to be a dysfunctional couple? You might be wondering if you're in one! This week we are writing about the characteristics of dysfunctional…
- Family Communication Tips- Do's 4 by: joleenwatson
April 8, 2011, 09:20
Today we will finish up with our tips for healthier communication in a family: Do: Use a neutral/natural tone of voice Say what you mean, be specific…
- Family Communication Skills "Do's" 1 by: nataliechandler
April 7, 2011, 05:31
Doesn't it frustrate you when self-help books and articles tell you everything NOT to do? That's why we wanted to be sure and give you some "do's" this week…
- Family Communication Tips- Don'ts 2 by: tamarawilhelm
April 5, 2011, 06:35
We all fall prey to bad communication from time to time. However, doing poor communication over and over can really lead to distance between relationships and…
- Family Communication Tips-Don'ts 1 by: tericlaassen
April 4, 2011, 10:54
Every family has bumps in the road which can create stress. But the stress can be increased significantly when the family has poor communication skills. This…
- Don't Drive a Relationship Lemon- Warning Lights! by: nataliechandler
March 17, 2011, 05:39
What a fun way to look at a relationship this week! And it's so true. As Tamara talked about maintenance and its importance on Tuesday, I am going to piggyback…
- Don't Drive a Relationship Lemon - Maintenance by: tamarawilhelm
March 15, 2011, 05:00
In therapy we use alot of analogies with individuals and couples to get a point across. This week we chose cars. Everyone can relate to cars because they…
- Conflict Resolution Tips 4 by: joleenwatson
February 18, 2011, 07:20
What are some different ways you can fight fair in your relationship? This week we are discussing tips on healthy conflict resolution: 18. Don't argue…
- Conflict Resolution Tips 3 by: nataliechandler
February 17, 2011, 00:00
As Teri said, conflict is unavoidable in relationships. It is always a red flag when couples tell us, "We never fight or have conflict". Yikes! That means…
- Conflict Resolution Tips 1 by: tericlaassen
February 14, 2011, 02:53
Resolving conflict is a skill that everyone needs to work on, even if you aren't in a relationship. There are several things to remember when entering into a…
- Great Self-Help Books- Tammy by: tamarawilhelm
February 1, 2011, 08:34
One of books I've found to be wonderful and full of insight recently is So Long, Insecurity by Beth Moore. Beth addresses the main issue many women struggle…
- 7 Tips to Keep Your Child from Being Self-Absorbed 1 by: tericlaassen
January 24, 2011, 05:29
Doing the "right" thing as a parent is always a concern when you think about how to handle things with your children. In the book "Why Is It Always About You?"…
- Communication Using an Internal Boundary 4 by: joleenwatson
January 14, 2011, 13:59
This week we are discussing how to use internal boundaries for better communication. Today we will finish up some tips to help you with internal boundaries…
- Communication using an Internal Boundary Part 3- Listening by: nataliechandler
January 12, 2011, 11:30
Hopefully Teri and Tamara have given you some understanding into internal boundaries and you are recognizing a better way to talk with people. Today we are…
- Communication Using an Internal Boundary 2 by: tamarawilhelm
January 11, 2011, 06:57
I know I generally start Tuesday's blog saying "If you haven't read Monday's blog, go back and start there". Well, today isn't any different! This week we're…
- Communication Using an Internal Boundary 1 by: tericlaassen
January 10, 2011, 03:00
Pia Mellody is one of my favorite self-help authors. Tamara and I were able to hear her speak last fall at a conference! In her latest book "The Intimacy…
- Roadblocks to a Healthy Sex Life- 4 by: joleenwatson
November 19, 2010, 08:00
Hopefully, you've had a chance to read our earlier blog posts from this week discussing some of the most common roadblocks to having a healthy sex life! Some…
- Roles for parenting teens- 3 by: nataliechandler
November 11, 2010, 06:35
I have to admit, I'm anxious when I think about my little children one day becoming teens! My friends and clients say they would do anything to go back to…
- Pia Melody's Relationship Maxims 19-24 by: joleenwatson
November 5, 2010, 12:56
Today we will finish up with Pia Melody's Relationship Maxims from her book: The Intimacy Factor. These maxim's offer great insight into healthy relationshi…
- Pia Melody's Relationship Maxim's 13-18 by: nataliechandler
November 4, 2010, 19:31
I am so excited we are teaching you Pia's Relationship Maxim's this week. They are so relevant to what we do. Hopefully you are finding them helpful. Here are…
- Pia Mellody's Relationship Maxims 1-6 by: tericlaassen
November 1, 2010, 10:09
Tamara and I had a chance to go to Chicago for a conference a few weeks ago, and while there we heard Pia Mellody speak. Mellody is a true pioneer in the…
- Communication Myths 8-10 by: joleenwatson
October 22, 2010, 21:20
How many communication myths have you noticed so far in your relationships? Today we will finish up with myths 8-10: Myth #8: “For healthy communication…
- Communication Myths 6-7 by: nataliechandler
October 20, 2010, 23:29
Thank you Teri and Tamara for Myths 1-5. Isn't it amazing the myths we believe? It seems we pick these up from so many different relationships in our lives and…
- Communication Myths 3-5 by: tamarawilhelm
October 19, 2010, 08:32
Teri got us off to a great start yesterday with uncovering some common mis-beliefs in communication. Here are 3 more communication myths individuals and…
- Communication Myths 1-2 by: tericlaassen
October 18, 2010, 08:41
Are you struggling with communication? Do you get frustrated when it feels like your partner and you aren't on the same page? This might mean that you are…
- Stages of Relationships- Norming by: nataliechandler
September 30, 2010, 05:00
Teri and Tamara did a wonderful job explaining Forming and Storming. Now we move into Norming. Norming is the part of the relationship that is comfortable.…
- Stages of Relationships- Storming by: tamarawilhelm
September 28, 2010, 11:38
Teri introduced us to Tuckman's stages of group development yesterday. Today we're going to discuss the 2nd stage of Storming. I like to go over these stages…
- Stages of Relationships- Forming by: tericlaassen
September 27, 2010, 03:55
Bruce Tuckman created a theory in the 1960's about the stages of Group and Team development. These stages can be applicable to any relationships, whether it is…
- Recommended Books for the Fall- Joleen by: joleenwatson
September 24, 2010, 08:00
So far, the therapists at Imagine Hope have recommended some great books (and a few that I've already added to my reading "to do" list)! One book that I've…
- What blocks you from working on your issues?-Insight vs. Changes by: joleenwatson
September 10, 2010, 08:00
We all have personal obstacles that block us from growth, and therapy is no exception to this! I am blessed to be working with some individuals and couples…
- What blocks you from working on your issues? Homework? by: tamarawilhelm
September 8, 2010, 05:45
I really like this topic this week. This can be a refresher course for those in therapy, or great preparation for those thinking of joining counseling. These…
- Are You Creating a Shame-Based Family Environment? 16-20 by: joleenwatson
September 3, 2010, 11:53
Teri, Tamara and Natalie did a great job at explaining the issue of shame: a feeling of toxic guilt, or where you feel bad-- even though you haven't done…
- Are You Creating a Shame-based Family Environment? 11-15 by: nataliechandler
September 2, 2010, 14:50
Yesterday Tamara really hit home with shame by calling it "toxic guilt". Unfortunately, we see so much of this toxic guilt in our clients. They have been…
- Are You Creating a Shame-Based Family Environment? by: tericlaassen
August 30, 2010, 10:51
Many people are confused about the issue of shame. They often mistake it as guilt or as just being ashamed of an action you have done; but that is only a…
- Do you say these things? He/she "makes" me feel.... by: joleenwatson
August 27, 2010, 12:29
Phrase #4: "He/she MAKES me feel...." It's a common myth that others are responsible for our feelings. Let's face it-- Most of us didn't grow up…
- Do you say these things? I'm not addicted. it's just a really bad habit. by: nataliechandler
August 26, 2010, 09:55
I can't tell you how many times we hear people say, "I'm not addicted. It's just a really bad habit. I can quit anytime." I always feel very confused by this.…
- Do You Say These Things?- People Take Advantage Of Me by: tamarawilhelm
August 24, 2010, 12:02
Phrase #2: "People Take Advantage Of Me...." Too many times this phrase is said in our office, without someone realizing what impact and belief this phrase…
- Do You Say These Things?--"Yeah, but..." by: tericlaassen
August 23, 2010, 16:03
As therapist's we hear a lot of dysfunctional phrases from people. Many say things without thinking about the message they are sending. Some will blurt phrases…
- School's coming- Educate Yourself by: tericlaassen
August 13, 2010, 10:40
Just because we are adults does not mean that we know it all! Parenting techniques are always changing and can be different from child to child. So as our…
- The difference between toxic and healthy secrets by: joleenwatson
July 30, 2010, 23:02
So now you know what toxic and healthy secrets look like and how they impact your relationships... How do you know the difference between the two? Here are…
- How toxic and healthy secrets impact our relationships by: joleenwatson
July 29, 2010, 19:04
Teri and Tammy have discussed both toxic secrets and healthy secrets, but how do each of them impact our relationships with others? Toxic Secrets: Create…
- Healthy Secrets by: tamarawilhelm
July 27, 2010, 15:39
You might be surprised to know that there are secrets that are indeed "healthy". Support4Change.com gives a great rule of thumb. They say: "Healthy Secrets…
- Toxic Secrets by: tericlaassen
July 26, 2010, 11:08
This week we are talking about secrets! Secrets come in many forms. There are healthy secrets, but also toxic ones. What is the difference? A toxic secret is…
- When have you felt most loved? #4 by: joleenwatson
July 25, 2010, 17:11
As Teri and Tammy have mentioned, feeling loved allows us to have SO much to give back to a relationship-- whether romantic, friendship, or family. Each time…
- When have you felt most loved? #2 by: tamarawilhelm
July 20, 2010, 11:02
I absolutely love Gary Chapman's concept of the Love Languages. I love teaching it to couples and watch them "get it" as they identify their own language and…
- When have you felt most loved? by: tericlaassen
July 19, 2010, 12:57
Tamara and I were invited to present 2 workshops a few weeks ago at the National Alpha Sigma Alpha Convention. We were honored to present on Positive…
- Forgiveness Tips by: tericlaassen
July 12, 2010, 03:30
Forgiveness is powerful and necessary for the healing process. Lewis Smedes says that "Forgiveness is to set a prisoner free; and to discover that prisoner is…
- Inspirational Quotes 4 by: joleenwatson
July 11, 2010, 18:49
Both Tammy and Teri have some great inspirational quotes with great lessons! One of my all time favorite quotes is by Eleanor Roosevelt: "No one can…
- Negative Thinking Patterns Alternatives Part 4 by: joleenwatson
June 27, 2010, 17:15
Here are the last 4 alternate ways of thinking that are healthier and less destructive: 12. Fallacy of Change: You expect that other people will change…
- Negative Thinking Pattern Alternatives by: tericlaassen
June 21, 2010, 10:59
Last week you read about examples of negative thinking patterns. This week we will show you the self talk you can use as an alternative. As you could see…
- Negative Thinking Patterns Part 4 by: joleenwatson
June 18, 2010, 17:59
There can be many ways we sabotage our thinking, which result in issues such as marital conflict and communication issues in relationships, depression,…
- Negative Thinking Patterns Part 3 by: nataliechandler
June 17, 2010, 06:21
Are you identifying any distortions in your thinking this week? Here are a few more: 9. Emotional Reasoning: This is believing what you feel must be true. If…
- Negative Thinking Patterns Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
June 15, 2010, 10:54
Today we're continuing our discussion on unhealthy thinking patterns. We may not be aware that we're doing these, but it's very helpful to recognize them…
- Negative Thinking Patterns by: tericlaassen
June 14, 2010, 10:35
Did you know that negative thinking can really impact your life and relationships? Many people don't realize how damaging your mindset can be if it isn't…
- More Things To Remove From Your Life by: joleenwatson
June 4, 2010, 22:10
What is one definite way to ruin communication, trust and intimacy in your relationships? Passive-Aggressive behaviors and indirect communication. In our…
- More Things to Remove From Your Life by: nataliechandler
June 3, 2010, 05:53
Do you know the definition of insanity? We see it a lot in couples and individuals. It's what many of them need to remove from their life: Doing the same…
- More Things to Remove From Your Life by: tericlaassen
June 2, 2010, 16:13
Thanks Tammy! That is a great example of how a "remodel" can change your outlook in life and relationships. Speaking of a remodel...another thing that is…
- Things You Need To Remove From Your Life by: tamarawilhelm
June 1, 2010, 15:23
If you follow the MLB, you probably already know that in 2008 the Tampa Bay Devil Rays became the Tampa Bay Rays. They removed the "Devil" from their…
- Characteristics of Unsafe People part 4 by: joleenwatson
April 30, 2010, 19:26
How many (emotionally) unsafe people have you recognized so far? Here a few more characteristics: 17. Unsafe people confront not to forgive, but to…
- Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries by: tericlaassen
April 19, 2010, 06:23
Boundaries are key to healthy relationships, yet it can be confusing to always know when you cross the line. This week we are giving you examples of unhealthy…
- Affair Proof Your Marriage by: nataliechandler
April 15, 2010, 06:01
Unfortunately, too many people wait to walk thru our doors once an affair has happened. Although there is hope if an affair has occurred, it is much easier to…
- Counterdependency by: tericlaassen
March 29, 2010, 16:19
Many people are familiar with co-dependency issues, but do not always understand it’s counterpart: The counterdependent. This week we will help you see the…
- Do you fight fair? Tips 16-20 by: joleenwatson
March 5, 2010, 13:28
Teri, Tammy, and Natalie have all shared some great tips so far to fighting fair. Here are a few more to add to your "marital toolbox": 16. Remember…
- Do you fight fair? Tips 11-15 by: nataliechandler
March 4, 2010, 06:28
Are you starting to understand that conflict is normal? It is how you handle it that is important! Have you tried any of the tips so far? Here are 5 more to…
- Do you fight fair? - Tips 6-10 by: tamarawilhelm
March 1, 2010, 21:05
As Teri mentioned, fighting can be healthy, as long as it's done in a respectful way. Conflict can be one of the ways you and another person grow closer. It's…
- Do you Fight Fair?- Tips 1-5 by: tericlaassen
March 1, 2010, 05:45
All relationships have conflict at some point. Many couples try to avoid it mostly because they don’t know how to make fighting work “for” their…
- What are Boundaries? -Sexual Boundaries by: joleenwatson
February 19, 2010, 17:34
As Teri, Tammy, and Natalie have discussed, our boundaries define the limits we need to set in our lives to protect what is most important to us. Learning…
- What are Boundaries?- Emotional/Intellectual by: tamarawilhelm
February 16, 2010, 17:33
As Teri introduced yesterday, boundaries are essential in relationships, and are what keep us feeling safe and secure. Boundaries are designed to keep the good…
- What do healthy families look like? by: joleenwatson
February 12, 2010, 17:51
Having healthy family dynamics is such an important thing, yet few of us are aware of what that looks like because we tend to equate "normal" with what we are…
- Joleen's 2010 Book Recommendation by: joleenwatson
January 8, 2010, 16:27
There are SO many self-help and personal growth books out there lately, it can be overwhelming and sometimes conflicting to find one giving sound advice that…
- Ways to decrease holiday stress Part 3 by: nataliechandler
December 17, 2009, 16:37
Teri and Tamara have done such a great job sharing ways to decrease holiday stress pertaining to families. I want to share with you some tips to help you keep…
- Signs your Marriage is in Trouble Part 4 by: joleenwatson
December 11, 2009, 13:33
Teri, Natalie, and Tammy have shared some insightful ways to learn more about the state of your marriage. Today we will finish up this blog series with a few…
- Signs your Marriage is in trouble Part 3 by: nataliechandler
December 10, 2009, 07:30
Hopefully you have found Teri and Tamara's signs helpful. Have you identified any signs in your relationship yet? Here are a few more: 9. You have same…
- Communication Tips for Parents Part 4 by: joleenwatson
December 4, 2009, 13:11
Teri, Tammy, and Natalie have listed many wonderful tips for better communication between parents and their children. Today we will expand on this to…
- Communication Tips for Parents Part 3 by: nataliechandler
December 3, 2009, 10:27
Here are some more tips Imagine Hope is offering parents to better connect with your children and teens: Say "I know" rather than "it's okay" when your…
- Characteristics of a Healthy Mother 3 by: alexa griffith
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- What Kind of Unglued Are You? The Stuffer Who Collects Retaliation Rocks by: joleenwatson
April 19, 2013, 12:06
The Stuffer Who Collects Retaliation Rocks What do you do with your feelings about small (and not-so-small) situations that happen in your marriage? Do…
- What Kind of Unglued Are You? The Stuffer Who Builds Barriers by: nataliechandler
April 17, 2013, 17:48
The Stuffer Who Builds Barriers So what do you do when you have a friend who has said or did something that really hurt you? What about your spouse- do you…
- Serenity Prayer- Wisdom by: joleenwatson
March 8, 2013, 17:07
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the Serenity Prayer and it's meaning. So far, we have gone through serenity, courage and change. Today we will…
- Serenity Prayer- Courage to Change by: nataliechandler
March 7, 2013, 06:48
Teri and Tamara have done a wonderful job explaining the Serenity Prayer and Acceptance. The next step goes a little deeper into action. The COURAGE to…
- Lessons From Kid's Books- You Are Worthy by: alexa griffith
February 27, 2013, 06:47
When I was five years old, my mother read to me The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams. This book is about a little stuffed rabbit who was made of velveteen…
- Signs of Hidden Anger: 18-23 by: joleenwatson
February 22, 2013, 05:00
So far, we have seen 17 different signs that can tell you if you might have hidden anger. As Natalie and Tammy have shared, many of them can mimic signs of…
- Love Knot: The Judge by: joleenwatson
February 1, 2013, 14:26
We all want to have our parnter be our biggest listener and support system when something is going wrong in life (and even when it isn't!). But what happens…
- Love Knot- If I were Important then You Would Remember! by: nataliechandler
January 31, 2013, 12:39
It is easy to fall into the trap of believing that because someone doesn't remember something, that it is not important to them. It is even more difficult to…
- What is A Love Knot? by: tericlaassen
January 28, 2013, 03:26
When you get frustrated with your partner, do you notice a phrase in your head that starts with, "If he really loved me, he would just know I'm upset about…
- Why do People Lie? by: tamarawilhelm
January 22, 2013, 05:00
This is the golden question, isn't it? Truth is, there's not really one correct answer to this. People lie for many different reasons, and I'm sure I won't…
- 10 Steps to Forgiving Yourself- Steps 9 & 10 by: joleenwatson
November 30, 2012, 09:37
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the different steps towards self-forgiveness. If you haven't read the blogs from earlier this week, we encourage you to…
- Teri’s Lessons from the Thanksgiving Table by: tericlaassen
November 19, 2012, 04:35
Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays! Having family together, enjoying great food, and laughter make the day a special one. This week we wanted to…
- How Dysfunctional Families Affect Children 5 by: joleenwatson
November 16, 2012, 04:00
A child is naturally immature. This is normal due to brain development and lack of life experiences. If children are growing up in a dysfunctional family,…
- How Dysfunctional Families Affect Children 4 by: nataliechandler
November 15, 2012, 00:00
A child naturally feels wants and has needs. This is built into them as babies- we are helpless, therefore we need and want things from our caretakers. In a…
- Danger of Being in an Enmeshed Relationship by: joleenwatson
November 9, 2012, 12:58
By now, you are aware of what "enmeshment" is and how to know if you are in an enmeshed relationship (see earlier blog posts this week). What are the…
- Tips To Not Be an Enmeshing Person by: joleenwatson
November 8, 2012, 06:52
If you’ve been reading this week, you may have realized that you have been or are currently in an enmeshed relationship. The following are some ways to…
- Tips To Break Free of An Enmeshed Relationship by: alexa griffith
November 7, 2012, 00:28
After reading the signs of being an enmeshed relationship, have you recognized that you may be in one? Have you realized that you may have merged your…
- The Masks We Wear- Codependency by: nataliechandler
November 1, 2012, 05:46
This week we are talking about masks we wear to cover up our authentic selves. If you haven't already, feel free to back up and read the other blogs from this…
- The Masks We Wear...Addiction by: joleenwatson
October 31, 2012, 06:26
This week we are talking about masks since it is Halloween. However, we are not talking about the masks we put on to dress up for trick-or-treating; we are…
- Feelings and Defenses 5 by: joleenwatson
October 19, 2012, 06:15
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing how defenses can be used to mask or avoid feelings, especially the feelings of anger, sadness, fear, loneliness, shame…
- Feelings and Defenses 4 by: nataliechandler
October 18, 2012, 05:34
As we are talking this week about defensive behaviors that cover our primary feelings, it is imperative that we chat about the "quiet behaviors". These are…
- Feelings and Defenses 3 by: alexa griffith
October 17, 2012, 00:43
This week we have been talking about how defenses mask and cover true feelings. As described on Monday, the five main focus feelings that are commonly…
- Non-Traditional Addictions- Busy Addiction by: joleenwatson
October 12, 2012, 06:30
Do you ever find it difficult to sit still and just "be" without having to do something "productive" with your time? Does idle time without having a…
- Non Traditional Addictions- People Pleasing by: nataliechandler
October 11, 2012, 05:33
People Pleasing Addiction This one is tricky as well. Most of us have an innate need inside us to please other people. Individuals who don't care what…
- Relationship Exits-4 by: nataliechandler
September 27, 2012, 06:18
We exit when we see you are in pain and we can't fix it Many people feel uncomfortable with seeing others in emotional pain. That is normal. Usually it brings…
- Relationship Exits-3 by: alexa griffith
September 26, 2012, 12:01
We exit when we feel the ancient feeling of being trapped. Our fight or flight or freeze responses can be traced back to our ancient human days. When we…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent- Avoiding Reality & Impaired Intimacy by: alexa griffith
September 7, 2012, 11:51
Avoiding Reality- This symptom of codependence presents itself in the form of using addictions, constant physical illness or emotional issues that serve to…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent- Nonexistent Spirituality by: nataliechandler
September 6, 2012, 09:23
Teri and Tamara have described what having the symptoms of Negative Control and Resentment can create in our lives as Codependents. Today I will discuss how…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent- Resentment by: tamarawilhelm
September 4, 2012, 05:00
Teri did a great job yesterday describing Codependency. If you find yourself relating to our blog this week, we encourage you to get more information on…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent- Negative Control by: tericlaassen
September 3, 2012, 10:14
Codependency is unhealthy love and a tendency to behave in overly passive or excessively caretaking ways that negatively impact one’s relationships and…
- How to Keep Your Sanity: If a Counterdependent Won't Get in Recovery by: alexa griffith
August 31, 2012, 09:08
By now, you have heard the characteristics of Counterdependency. But what do you do if you're in a relationship with one or work with one who refuses…
- Counterdependency- Characteristics Part 2 by: nataliechandler
August 30, 2012, 16:29
On Tuesday, Tamara gave us great descriptions of 4 of the 7 characteristics of Counterdependency: Grandiose, Not knowing/respecting boundaries of others,…
- Counterdependency Characteristics Part 1 by: tamarawilhelm
August 28, 2012, 05:00
Yesterday Teri introduced us to Jim, a sharp-tongued workaholic who seems very self-involved. Sound familiar? Maybe you have a parent, sibling, friend, boss,…
- The Five Freedoms: Taking Risks by: joleenwatson
August 3, 2012, 06:20
Freedom #5: To take risks in one's own behalf instead of choosing to be only "secure" and not rocking the boat. We have all probably been in a situation…
- 5 Freedoms: To Ask For What You Want by: nataliechandler
August 2, 2012, 05:34
Freedom #4: To Ask for What One Wants Instead of Always Waiting For Permission Many people struggle with telling people what they really want or need. They…
- The Five Freedoms: To Say by: tamarawilhelm
July 31, 2012, 05:00
Freedom #2: To Say What One Feels and Thinks Instead of What One Should Feel and Think There's that "Should" word again. Whenever you use the word "Should",…
- Myths About Love- Love and Anger Are Incompatible by: joleenwatson
July 20, 2012, 05:38
Myth #7: Love and Anger are Incompatible Many people believe that if you really love someone, that means you never get angry at them. Or perhaps you…
- Myths about Love- True Love is Selfless by: nataliechandler
July 19, 2012, 07:32
Myth #6- True Love is Selfless Many people have this myth in their minds and it can be dangerous. Yes, selfish is not good if we are all consuming and…
- Mind Over Mood- What's the Trigger? by: tericlaassen
May 14, 2012, 01:00
The human mind is amazing when you think of all it is capable of. But sometimes our minds can play tricks on us. This week we are going to work though a…
- How to Help a Friend.....Who is an Addict by: nataliechandler
May 3, 2012, 05:42
It can be really difficult to help a friend who is addicted to something. We are not just talking about being addicted to alcohol or drugs either. Many…
- Healthy Sexual Intimacy after Sexual Addiction by: joleenwatson
April 13, 2012, 05:26
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing sexual addiction and what healthy sexual intimacy looks like after sexual addiction has been identified in a relationship.…
- Relationships: Intimate vs. Addictive- 4 by: nataliechandler
March 29, 2012, 04:45
Hopefully this week you have been able to identify if your relationship is healthy/intimate or has more addictive characteristics. Being in an addictive type…
- Relationships: Intimate vs Addictive- 3 by: alexa griffith
March 28, 2012, 01:00
In an intimate relationship you know that you begin your feelings with yourself. You know your feelings come from within. In an addictive relationship,…
- Relationships: Intimate vs Addictive - 2 by: tamarawilhelm
March 27, 2012, 05:00
In an intimate relationship you have a sense of freedom vs. in an addictive relationship there is a sense of compulsion. In healthy relationships, there's a…
- What Does It Mean to "Let Go"? -5 by: joleenwatson
March 22, 2012, 21:33
"Letting Go" is a popular topic in recovery from many things-- childhood issues, addictions, codependency, and unhealthy relationships, just to name a few. …
- What Does It Mean to "Let Go"? -1 by: tericlaassen
March 19, 2012, 10:18
Day after day we hear people talk about the difficulty they have with letting things go. Sometimes it's related to codependency and the trouble they have with…
- Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce 5 by: joleenwatson
March 9, 2012, 15:09
10. Evaluate your relationships and make whatever life adjustments you feel are necessary. During a divorce, you might encounter many "Monday Morning…
- Dealing With Difficult People- The Know-it-all by: joleenwatson
February 24, 2012, 21:03
Do you have a difficult person in your life? Perhaps it's a boss, or a relative-- or maybe a co-worker... or even a spouse! This week, Imagine Hope is…
- Dealing with Difficult People - The Sniper by: tamarawilhelm
February 21, 2012, 03:00
Difficult people are everywhere in our life. It could be someone in our family, workplace or a friend. It could also be a distant acquaintence. It's easy…
- Do You Have a Healthy Love Relationship? by: joleenwatson
February 10, 2012, 11:09
Picture two people standing side by side, each reaching for the other's hand: This is a healthy love relationship. A healthy love relationship…
- Do you have a Boarding House or Martyr Relationship? by: nataliechandler
February 9, 2012, 06:58
The Boarding House Relationship Picture two people linked together by their elbows, with their backs to each other. This is the Boarding House Relationship.…
- Do you have a Pedestal Relationship or a Master /Slave Relationship? by: alexa griffith
February 8, 2012, 07:17
As we head toward Valentine's Day, often we think of our relationships. Sometimes we remember past relationships, appreciate present relationships, or dream…
- Do You Have An "A-Frame Dependency" Relationship? by: tericlaassen
February 6, 2012, 06:21
Love and relationships are a big focus this time of year as we approach Valentine's Day. In honor of the upcoming day, we will be sharing about many types of…
- Flower Messages 2 by: joleenwatson
January 27, 2012, 09:56
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the different types of messages we give to others in our communication-- termed "Garbage Messages" or "Flower Messages". …
- Garbage Message 2 by: alexa griffith
January 25, 2012, 07:07
We all engage in negative self-talk. These are the conversations we have with ourselves in our heads that spiral from “oops I made a mistake” to “I’m…
- What To Do if You Are Loving Too Much 9-10 by: joleenwatson
January 21, 2012, 06:25
So far, have you used any of this week's blog post suggestions to help with your relationship with yourself? Or, maybe you are wondering "How can you love…
- What to do if you are loving too much 6-8 by: nataliechandler
January 19, 2012, 10:58
As we have been discussing this week, loving too much can be damaging to your relationships and to yourself. It can cause Depression, Anxiety, multiple…
- What To Do If You Are Loving Too Much 3-5 by: alexa griffith
January 18, 2012, 06:27
Do Teri and Tamara have you wondering, "Do I love too much"? As we continue to talk about loving too much, think about when you first began to have romantic…
- What to Do if You Are Loving Too Much 1-2 by: tamarawilhelm
January 17, 2012, 03:00
As Teri wrote yesterday, it is possible to love too much. Amazing, but true. We want to help those of you who find yourself in this situation to find balance…
- Are You Loving Too Much? by: tericlaassen
January 16, 2012, 06:04
What? Love TOO much? Is that possible? Yes it is and it can be very damaging for someone when they do. Loving someone is a great thing, but when it crosses…
- Decrease Holiday stress- Boundaries by: nataliechandler
December 15, 2011, 06:22
Teri and Tamara have done such a great job sharing ways to decrease holiday stress pertaining to families. I want to share with you some tips to help you keep…
- Decrease Holiday Stress- Emotional Boundaries by: tericlaassen
December 12, 2011, 06:08
Clients tell me all the time, “I hate the holidays”. There are many stressors as people are attending family gatherings and trying to meet everyone’s…
- TV Families- All in the Family by: nataliechandler
December 1, 2011, 06:34
I am LOVING reading this weeks blogs about dysfunctional TV families. How fun to relive the childhood moments of the Brady Bunch and to think of the beauty of…
- TV Families- The Brady Bunch by: alexa griffith
November 30, 2011, 06:00
At Imagine Hope we help many blended families. I am currently in a blended family and I come from a blended family. Perhaps that is why my sister Natalie…
- Teri's Lessons from the Thanksgiving Table by: tericlaassen
November 14, 2011, 10:41
Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays! Having family together, enjoying great food, and laughter make the day a special one. This week we wanted to take…
- The Masks We Wear- Codependency by: nataliechandler
October 27, 2011, 05:32
This week we are talking about masks we wear to cover up our authentic selves. If you haven't already, feel free to back up and read the other blogs from this…
- The Masks We Wear- Addiction by: alexa griffith
October 26, 2011, 08:00
As Teri mentioned earlier this week, for Halloween we are writing about the masks we wear as adults in our everyday lives. Some masks are made to look…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent- Avoiding Reality & Impaired Intimacy by: joleenwatson
August 27, 2011, 05:57
Avoiding Reality- This symptom of codependence presents itself in the form of using addictions, constant physical illness or emotional issues that serve to…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent-Nonexistent Spirituality by: nataliechandler
August 25, 2011, 05:51
Teri and Tamara have described what having the symptoms of Negative Control and Resentment can create in our lives as Codependents. Today I will discuss how…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent- Negative Contol by: tericlaassen
August 22, 2011, 10:46
Codependency is unhealthy love and a tendency to behave in overly passive or excessively caretaking ways that negatively impact one's relationships and quality…
- Do You Have a "Damaged Love Style"? Controller and Victim by: nataliechandler
August 18, 2011, 05:18
By now you may have identified some of the ways you love by either being an avoider, a pleaser, or a vacillator. If you are not sure what these types are,…
- Do You Have a "Damaged" Love Style?- Avoider by: tericlaassen
August 15, 2011, 04:43
Milan and Kay Yerkovich's book "How We Love" gives us a great picture of how dysfunctional attachments can cause painful patterns in relationships. Their…
- The Difference Between Toxic and Healthy Secrets by: joleenwatson
August 5, 2011, 06:39
So now you know what toxic and healthy secrets look like and how they impact your relationships… How do you know the difference between the two? Here are…
- Tips to Getting Out of a Toxic Friendship #4 by: joleenwatson
July 22, 2011, 14:09
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing 5 different tips to getting out of a toxic friendship. If you haven't read our earlier blogs, feel free to go back and…
- Tips To Getting Out of a Toxic Friendship #3 by: nataliechandler
July 21, 2011, 11:32
Friendships are the sunshine in our lives. Yes, all friendships go thru problems or struggles, but for the most part, a friendship needs to be a bright spot in…
- Tips To Get Out of a Toxic Friendship- #1 by: tericlaassen
July 18, 2011, 02:34
Have you ever been in a toxic friendship? Did you have the courage to "break up" with them and get out? Toxic friends often leave you feeling worse than…
- Healthy Boundaries and Separateness 4 by: joleenwatson
July 2, 2011, 06:38
Having healthy boundaries and maintaining our own identity is an important part of being healthy individuals-- and being a healthy individual means having…
- Healthy Boundaries and Separateness 3 by: tamarawilhelm
June 30, 2011, 10:03
Hopefully you're getting a great feel for healthy & unhealthy boundaries. Let's continue to talk about how to have healthy separateness in relationships…
- Healthy Boundaries and Separateness 2 by: tamarawilhelm
June 28, 2011, 05:00
Teri did a great job yesterday introducing boundaries and describing their importance. It's amazing how many different boundaries there are....that's why we're…
- Healthy Boundaries and Separateness 1 by: tericlaassen
June 27, 2011, 03:59
Can you connect with others without losing yourself? Being ok with being separate is an important part of mastering healthy boundaries. It's sometimes hard…
- Are You an Enabler? 4 by: joleenwatson
June 24, 2011, 11:29
Enabling is a way that we knowingly or unknowingly protect an addict-- which actually helps the addiction get worse, instead of helping the individual learn to…
- Are You an Enabler? 3 by: nataliechandler
June 23, 2011, 05:43
Setting boundaries and keeping them can be a very difficult thing for many people to do. We work with many clients who struggle with this, particularly when…
- Are You an Enabler? 2 by: tamarawilhelm
June 21, 2011, 05:00
If you have a loved one in your life who is currently an addict, our hearts go out to you & your family. We know how difficult it can be to live and…
- Are You an Enabler? 1 by: tericlaassen
June 20, 2011, 03:00
Do you enable an addict in your life? Many people think they are helping a loved one with an addiction, when in reality they are giving an addict permission to…
- How to Keep Your Sanity: If a Counterdependent Won't Get in Recovery by: nataliechandler
June 3, 2011, 06:53
By now, you have heard the characteristics of Counterdependency. But what do you do if you're in a relationship with one or work with one who refuses…
- What Does Healthy Self-Esteem Look Like? #4 by: joleenwatson
May 20, 2011, 17:39
In our society, the term "self-esteem" is frequently used, but what exactly does it look like to have "high self-esteem" or "low self-esteem"? This week,…
- What Does Healthy Self-Esteem Look Like? #1 by: tericlaassen
May 16, 2011, 04:08
Self- esteem is the way we see ourselves as good or bad when compared with others. When we compare ourselves to others, it can cause a lot of trouble with our…
- Abandonment Issues- Rage and Lifting by: joleenwatson
April 30, 2011, 09:25
Imagine Hope Counseling Group has been discussing abandonment issues this week. So far, we have gone over the first stages of abandonment: Shattering,…
- Abandonment Issues- Withdrawl and Internalizing by: nataliechandler
April 28, 2011, 14:07
Teri and Tamara have done a wonderful job of explaining abandonment and the first stage of the process- Shattering. I want to reiterate what Tamara said, this…
- How Do You Handle Conflict- Accommodating by: nataliechandler
April 21, 2011, 13:37
As Teri and Tamara have mentioned, many of us were not taught how to handle conflict appropriately or effectively. Many of us learn the hard way or don't learn…
- Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples 14-18 by: joleenwatson
April 16, 2011, 07:24
This week's blog is focusing on the different characteristics of a dysfunctional couple. Today we will finish up with the final characteristics: 14. It…
- Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples 5-9 by: tamarawilhelm
April 12, 2011, 06:13
I've often been told & read that God built us to be in relationships. Whether those relationships are familial, friendships, or romantic relationships.…
- Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples 1-4 by: tericlaassen
April 11, 2011, 04:17
What does it mean to be a dysfunctional couple? You might be wondering if you're in one! This week we are writing about the characteristics of dysfunctional…
- Is Your Life Balanced? Money & Career by: joleenwatson
April 1, 2011, 05:00
This week, Imagine Hope Counseling Group is discussing the importance of balance in all areas of life and different ways to achieve balance. So far, we have…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Step 12 by: joleenwatson
March 11, 2011, 06:17
Today, we will finish up with the 12 Steps of Recovery, discussing the 12th and final step. Remember that utilizing these steps in everyday life is for…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Step 10 and 11 by: nataliechandler
March 10, 2011, 06:25
This has been one of my favorite blogs we have done so far. It is so applicable to everyone! It feels like a lot of work, for sure, but there are so many…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone - Steps 8 & 9 by: tamarawilhelm
March 8, 2011, 05:00
Natalie, Joleen & Teri have done a great job of explaining the Steps & have given some great exercises to do along the way. I hope you'll get a chance…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Step 4 & Step 5 by: joleenwatson
March 4, 2011, 16:00
This week we are discussing the 12 Steps of recovery... You might be saying to yourself "But I don't have an addiction, so this doesn't apply!" We…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Step 3 by: nataliechandler
March 3, 2011, 06:49
This week, in discussing the 12 Steps, we have talked about recognizing our brokenness and believing we can be restored by something far greater than ourselves.…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Step 2 by: tamarawilhelm
March 1, 2011, 07:40
As Teri pointed out yesterday, as we discuss these 12-Steps, keep in mind that the Steps do not only have to be applied to addictions. These can be applied…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Step 1 by: tericlaassen
February 28, 2011, 03:54
Did you know that the 12 steps can be used as a guide through life even for people who don't struggle with addictions? You can use them as part of your coping…
- Serenity Prayer- Wisdom by: joleenwatson
February 25, 2011, 12:02
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the Serenity Prayer and it's meaning. So far, we have gone through serenity, courage and change. Today we will…
- Serenity Prayer- Courage and Change by: nataliechandler
February 24, 2011, 06:24
Teri and Tamara have done a wonderful job explaining the Serenity Prayer and Acceptance. The next step goes a little deeper into action. The COURAGE to…
- Great Self-Help Books- Tammy by: tamarawilhelm
February 1, 2011, 08:34
One of books I've found to be wonderful and full of insight recently is So Long, Insecurity by Beth Moore. Beth addresses the main issue many women struggle…
- 7 Tips to Keep Your Child from Being Self-Absorbed 1 by: tericlaassen
January 24, 2011, 05:29
Doing the "right" thing as a parent is always a concern when you think about how to handle things with your children. In the book "Why Is It Always About You?"…
- Are You an Adult Child of Dysfunction? 4 by: joleenwatson
January 21, 2011, 10:47
This week, Imagine Hope Counseling Group is discussing signs of Adult Children of Dysfunction. So far, we have some insightful descriptions. Here are some…
- Are You an Adult Child of Dysfunction? Part 3 by: nataliechandler
January 20, 2011, 09:35
As Tammy and Teri have described, living in an alcoholic or dysfunctional family can cause problems that carry over for generations to come. It is so important…
- Communication Using an Internal Boundary 4 by: joleenwatson
January 14, 2011, 13:59
This week we are discussing how to use internal boundaries for better communication. Today we will finish up some tips to help you with internal boundaries…
- Communication Using an Internal Boundary 1 by: tericlaassen
January 10, 2011, 03:00
Pia Mellody is one of my favorite self-help authors. Tamara and I were able to hear her speak last fall at a conference! In her latest book "The Intimacy…
- Ways to decrease holiday stress Part 3 by: nataliechandler
December 2, 2010, 09:08
Teri and Tamara have done such a great job sharing ways to decrease holiday stress pertaining to families. I want to share with you some tips to help you keep…
- Ways to Decrease Holiday Stress 1 by: tericlaassen
November 29, 2010, 08:30
Clients tell me all the time, “I hate the holidays”. There are many stressors as people are attending family gatherings and trying to meet everyone’…
- Pia Melody's Relationship Maxims 19-24 by: joleenwatson
November 5, 2010, 12:56
Today we will finish up with Pia Melody's Relationship Maxims from her book: The Intimacy Factor. These maxim's offer great insight into healthy relationshi…
- Pia Mellody's Relationship Maxims 1-6 by: tericlaassen
November 1, 2010, 10:09
Tamara and I had a chance to go to Chicago for a conference a few weeks ago, and while there we heard Pia Mellody speak. Mellody is a true pioneer in the…
- H.A.L.T.- Tired by: joleenwatson
October 8, 2010, 17:37
This week, we are discussing the acronym HALT- Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired. As you've read, all of these can be triggers to both addictions, as well as a…
- H.A.L.T.- Hungry by: tericlaassen
October 4, 2010, 05:29
H.A.L.T. is an acronym that people use to remember how to protect themselves from relapsing into an addiction. H.A.L.T. stands for Hungry, Angry, Lonely, and…
- Recommended Books for the Fall- Joleen by: joleenwatson
September 24, 2010, 08:00
So far, the therapists at Imagine Hope have recommended some great books (and a few that I've already added to my reading "to do" list)! One book that I've…
- Recommended Books for the Fall- Natalie by: nataliechandler
September 23, 2010, 05:00
My book recommendation is "Healing is a Choice" by Stephen Arterburn. Just the title alone speaks volumes. Healing IS a choice. We have to decide to keep doing…
- Recommended Books for the Fall - Tammy by: tamarawilhelm
September 21, 2010, 08:03
One book I find myself recommending over and over to clients is Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. This book is a great read for anyone struggling with…
- Recommended Books for the Fall- Teri by: tericlaassen
September 20, 2010, 10:35
At Imagine Hope we read and recommend books for people all the time. As the fall is starting it's time for us to recommend some more! When you think about the…
- What blocks you from working on your issues?-Insight vs. Changes by: joleenwatson
September 10, 2010, 08:00
We all have personal obstacles that block us from growth, and therapy is no exception to this! I am blessed to be working with some individuals and couples…
- Are You Creating a Shame-Based Family Environment? 16-20 by: joleenwatson
September 3, 2010, 11:53
Teri, Tamara and Natalie did a great job at explaining the issue of shame: a feeling of toxic guilt, or where you feel bad-- even though you haven't done…
- Do you say these things? He/she "makes" me feel.... by: joleenwatson
August 27, 2010, 12:29
Phrase #4: "He/she MAKES me feel...." It's a common myth that others are responsible for our feelings. Let's face it-- Most of us didn't grow up…
- Do You Say These Things?- People Take Advantage Of Me by: tamarawilhelm
August 24, 2010, 12:02
Phrase #2: "People Take Advantage Of Me...." Too many times this phrase is said in our office, without someone realizing what impact and belief this phrase…
- How do you know you're ready for counseling? Part 4 by: joleenwatson
August 20, 2010, 18:06
As you have read, this week we are discussing ways an individual or couple might recognize if they are ready for counseling. So many times in my…
- The difference between toxic and healthy secrets by: joleenwatson
July 30, 2010, 23:02
So now you know what toxic and healthy secrets look like and how they impact your relationships... How do you know the difference between the two? Here are…
- How toxic and healthy secrets impact our relationships by: joleenwatson
July 29, 2010, 19:04
Teri and Tammy have discussed both toxic secrets and healthy secrets, but how do each of them impact our relationships with others? Toxic Secrets: Create…
- Toxic Secrets by: tericlaassen
July 26, 2010, 11:08
This week we are talking about secrets! Secrets come in many forms. There are healthy secrets, but also toxic ones. What is the difference? A toxic secret is…
- Forgiveness Tips by: tericlaassen
July 12, 2010, 03:30
Forgiveness is powerful and necessary for the healing process. Lewis Smedes says that "Forgiveness is to set a prisoner free; and to discover that prisoner is…
- Inspirational Quotes 4 by: joleenwatson
July 11, 2010, 18:49
Both Tammy and Teri have some great inspirational quotes with great lessons! One of my all time favorite quotes is by Eleanor Roosevelt: "No one can…
- Inspirational Quotes by: tericlaassen
July 5, 2010, 04:20
Inspirational quotes can be found everywhere. As therapists we run across them all the time in books and at trainings. This week Imagine Hope is sharing some…
- Negative Thinking Patterns Alternatives Part 4 by: joleenwatson
June 27, 2010, 17:15
Here are the last 4 alternate ways of thinking that are healthier and less destructive: 12. Fallacy of Change: You expect that other people will change…
- Negative Thinking Patterns Part 4 by: joleenwatson
June 18, 2010, 17:59
There can be many ways we sabotage our thinking, which result in issues such as marital conflict and communication issues in relationships, depression,…
- Negative Thinking Patterns by: tericlaassen
June 14, 2010, 10:35
Did you know that negative thinking can really impact your life and relationships? Many people don't realize how damaging your mindset can be if it isn't…
- AH-HA! Moments and life changing experiences-Natalie by: nataliechandler
June 10, 2010, 10:55
I LOVE Ah-ha moments! I love to have them, I love to see them in our clients! You can just tell something has clicked and that person will never be the same.…
- AH-HA! Moments and life changing experiences-Tammy by: tamarawilhelm
June 8, 2010, 16:20
One of my AH-HA! moments happened for me when I was 20 years old. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship with a guy and I had become completely…
- More Things To Remove From Your Life by: joleenwatson
June 4, 2010, 22:10
What is one definite way to ruin communication, trust and intimacy in your relationships? Passive-Aggressive behaviors and indirect communication. In our…
- Relationship Addiction by: nataliechandler
May 27, 2010, 06:58
As we continue to discuss Addictions this week, it is important to identify Relationship Addictions. We see this a lot at Imagine Hope. Again, it is one of the…
- "Dysfunctional" Love Songs- Part 4 by: joleenwatson
May 7, 2010, 17:25
After reading Teri, Tammy, and Natalie's blog posts on "Dysfunctional" love songs, by now you've probably got several in mind of your own (if you haven't…
- "Dysfunctional" Love Songs Part 3 by: nataliechandler
May 6, 2010, 09:18
I have enjoyed reading Tamara and Teri's blogs. Although I love the Police, I guess that gave me a different perspective for sure- major stalker song! But we…
- "Dysfunctional" Love Songs Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
May 4, 2010, 15:04
I like what Teri said yesterday about singing along with a song, but not really "listening" to what the song is about. I did that with this song for a while,…
- "Dysfunctional" Love Songs by: tericlaassen
May 3, 2010, 16:30
Listening to the radio it is easy to get lost in the fantasy world of love that you hear described in most "love songs". Most of the time we sing along without…
- Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries Part 4 by: joleenwatson
April 23, 2010, 13:13
By now, you might have already recognized some ways that you or the people in your life have unhealthy boundaries. Here are a few more to wrap things…
- Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries Part 3 by: nataliechandler
April 22, 2010, 08:35
Teri and Tamara have given us many signs of unhealthy boundaries in ourselves and in our relationships. Are you identifying with any of them in your life? Here…
- Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
April 20, 2010, 17:55
As Teri mentioned yesterday, it's good to know the signs of unhealthy boundaries to know if you are ever crossing the line, or if someone else ever crosses…
- Signs of Unhealthy Boundaries by: tericlaassen
April 19, 2010, 06:23
Boundaries are key to healthy relationships, yet it can be confusing to always know when you cross the line. This week we are giving you examples of unhealthy…
- Self Care: Joleen by: joleenwatson
April 9, 2010, 09:38
As Natalie was saying, it is SO important to take time out for self-care... And not just waiting to do it when you are stressed out! Taking time for yourself…
- Counterdependency- Characteristics Part 2 by: nataliechandler
April 1, 2010, 05:37
On Tuesday, Tamara gave us great descriptions of 4 of the 7 characteristics of Counterdependency: Grandiose, Not knowing/respecting boundaries of others,…
- Counterdependency-Characteristics Part 1 by: tamarawilhelm
March 30, 2010, 09:23
Yesterday Teri introduced us to Jim, a sharp-tongued workaholic who seems very self-involved. Sound familiar? Maybe you have a parent, sibling, friend, boss,…
- What are Boundaries? -Sexual Boundaries by: joleenwatson
February 19, 2010, 17:34
As Teri, Tammy, and Natalie have discussed, our boundaries define the limits we need to set in our lives to protect what is most important to us. Learning…
- What are Boundaries?- Physical Boundaries by: tericlaassen
February 15, 2010, 12:02
Boundaries are vital to healthy relationships. A boundary is a rule you set or the line you draw when it comes to your interactions with others. Whether you…
- What do healthy families look like? by: joleenwatson
February 12, 2010, 17:51
Having healthy family dynamics is such an important thing, yet few of us are aware of what that looks like because we tend to equate "normal" with what we are…
- What does a healthy friendship look like? by: nataliechandler
February 11, 2010, 06:44
We have been discussing what healthy relationships look like this week. I am so excited to talk about friendships. Why? Because I have been on both sides of…
- Recognizing and dealing with stress Part 3 by: joleenwatson
January 21, 2010, 19:56
Natalie and Tammy have explained the signs and symptoms of stress, as well as some tips for how to stay healthy during stressful times. Have you gotten past…
- Joleen's 2010 Book Recommendation by: joleenwatson
January 8, 2010, 16:27
There are SO many self-help and personal growth books out there lately, it can be overwhelming and sometimes conflicting to find one giving sound advice that…
- Teri's 2010 Book Recommendation by: tericlaassen
January 4, 2010, 07:17
Happy New Year! Imagine Hope wishes each of you a good start to a new year. Here at our practice we often recommend books to help aid the recovery process for…
- Ways to decrease Holiday stress part 4 by: joleenwatson
December 18, 2009, 13:21
Teri, Tammy and Natalie have shared some really helpful tips so far in ways to decrease Holiday stress, which helps each of us to enjoy the Holiday season…
- Ways to decrease holiday stress Part 3 by: nataliechandler
December 17, 2009, 16:37
Teri and Tamara have done such a great job sharing ways to decrease holiday stress pertaining to families. I want to share with you some tips to help you keep…
- Ways to decrease holiday stress Part 1 by: tericlaassen
December 14, 2009, 11:33
Clients tell me all the time, “I hate the holidays”. There are many stressors as people are attending family gatherings and trying to meet everyone’s…
- Signs your Marriage is in Trouble Part 4 by: joleenwatson
December 11, 2009, 13:33
Teri, Natalie, and Tammy have shared some insightful ways to learn more about the state of your marriage. Today we will finish up this blog series with a few…
- Codependency part 4 by: joleenwatson
October 16, 2009, 09:27
Codependency has a great impact on our relationships, and is very destructive to both the individual, as well as the relationships well-being. Here are…
- Codependency Part 3 by: nataliechandler
October 15, 2009, 19:02
You might be codependent if……. You might be codependent if you feel exhausted from helping others and spend little time taking care of yourself. You…
- What Kind of Unglued Are You? The Stuffer Who Collects Retaliation Rocks by: joleenwatson
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- Spring Book Recommendations- Joleen by: joleenwatson
April 12, 2013, 14:29
The subject of ambiguous loss is a relatively new one to me, as it relates to therapy, but is one that we frequently see with our clients (as well as in our…
- 10 Steps to Forgiving Yourself-Steps 3 and 4 by: tamarawilhelm
November 27, 2012, 05:00
As you read the blog this week, please keep in mind that the blog is best read from beginning to end. Trying to do one of these steps out of order won't…
- Facebook and Your Marriage- Tips by: joleenwatson
October 5, 2012, 13:50
Keep good boundaries when using Facebook. Don't friend people you used to date or have romantic feelings towards. This is important because it can easily…
- Relationships: Intimate vs Addictive- 3 by: alexa griffith
March 28, 2012, 01:00
In an intimate relationship you know that you begin your feelings with yourself. You know your feelings come from within. In an addictive relationship,…
- Do you have a Boarding House or Martyr Relationship? by: nataliechandler
February 9, 2012, 06:58
The Boarding House Relationship Picture two people linked together by their elbows, with their backs to each other. This is the Boarding House Relationship.…
- Life Lessons from Movies- Sliding Doors by: joleenwatson
December 30, 2011, 12:17
This week, Imagine Hope therapists are reviewing different movies that help us see a life lesson within the story. If you haven't gotten the opportunity to…
- The Difference Between Toxic and Healthy Secrets by: joleenwatson
August 5, 2011, 06:39
So now you know what toxic and healthy secrets look like and how they impact your relationships… How do you know the difference between the two? Here are…
- Toxic Secrets by: tericlaassen
August 1, 2011, 02:54
This week we are talking about secrets! Secrets come in many forms. There are healthy secrets, but also toxic ones. What is the difference? A toxic…
- Emotional Needs- Domestic Support, Family Commitment, Admiration by: joleenwatson
June 10, 2011, 21:05
If you are finding your "love bank" empty in your relationship, there's a good chance that you or your partner are lacking in one (or more) critical area of…
- Emotional Needs- Honesty/Openness, Attractive Spouse, Financial Support by: nataliechandler
June 9, 2011, 05:40
As you are reading the blogs for the week on Emotional Needs, are you imagining your love tank full or empty? What about your spouse? How would they answer…
- 4 Myths about Affairs- #4 by: joleenwatson
May 7, 2011, 07:44
So far, we have heard some rather powerful myths about infidelity. Have you recognized any from this week's blog? Myth #4: Adultery has to end in…
- 4 Myths about Affairs- #3 by: nataliechandler
May 5, 2011, 05:31
This week we are talking about MYTHS people have about affairs. So much magical thinking goes on in affairs. As ridiculous as some of the myths sound, when…
- 4 Myths about Affairs - #2 by: tamarawilhelm
May 3, 2011, 11:26
There's no doubt that affairs cause grief, heartache, destruction and pain in relationships. One of the most important things to do when dealing with infidelity…
- 4 Myths about Affairs- #1 by: tericlaassen
May 2, 2011, 03:46
Affairs happen in many relationships. It causes deep pain and destruction for all parties involved with it's ripple effects going much wider than people think.…
- Emotional Affairs - What to Watch For by: tamarawilhelm
March 25, 2011, 05:00
There are many signs of emotional affairs, if you know what to look for. While these signs can also be related to other life issues, as well as physical or…
- Emotional Affairs - What to do by: tamarawilhelm
March 24, 2011, 05:00
Once you have identified that you are in an emotional affair or you have been caught in an emotional affair, there is a specific reconstruction process to…
- Emotional Affairs - How it Starts by: tamarawilhelm
March 22, 2011, 05:00
Harry and Sally both worked at Eli Lilly. They were on the IT team together and worked on several projects as a great team. They started going out to lunch to…
- Emotional Affairs by: tamarawilhelm
March 21, 2011, 05:00
In this week's blog series, Imagine Hope is going to discuss Emotional Affairs. It's a issue we see happening more & more often, and throughout the week,…
- Don't Drive a Relationship Lemon- Warning Lights! by: nataliechandler
March 17, 2011, 05:39
What a fun way to look at a relationship this week! And it's so true. As Tamara talked about maintenance and its importance on Tuesday, I am going to piggyback…
- How Emotional Trauma Affects Everyday Interactions 3 by: nataliechandler
December 15, 2010, 10:15
As Teri and Tamara have discussed so far this week, trauma is not necessarily something that happens that creates Post Traumatic Stress, but is often times…
- Recommended Books for the Fall- Joleen by: joleenwatson
September 24, 2010, 08:00
So far, the therapists at Imagine Hope have recommended some great books (and a few that I've already added to my reading "to do" list)! One book that I've…
- Recommended Books for the Fall- Natalie by: nataliechandler
September 23, 2010, 05:00
My book recommendation is "Healing is a Choice" by Stephen Arterburn. Just the title alone speaks volumes. Healing IS a choice. We have to decide to keep doing…
- The difference between toxic and healthy secrets by: joleenwatson
July 30, 2010, 23:02
So now you know what toxic and healthy secrets look like and how they impact your relationships... How do you know the difference between the two? Here are…
- How toxic and healthy secrets impact our relationships by: joleenwatson
July 29, 2010, 19:04
Teri and Tammy have discussed both toxic secrets and healthy secrets, but how do each of them impact our relationships with others? Toxic Secrets: Create…
- Toxic Secrets by: tericlaassen
July 26, 2010, 11:08
This week we are talking about secrets! Secrets come in many forms. There are healthy secrets, but also toxic ones. What is the difference? A toxic secret is…
- Inspirational Quotes 3 by: tericlaassen
July 8, 2010, 03:04
Thanks Tamara for that powerful lesson! This quote is one of my favorites and is at the end of my email: "In the adversity we dread facing, we find a…
- More Things to Remove From Your Life by: nataliechandler
June 3, 2010, 05:53
Do you know the definition of insanity? We see it a lot in couples and individuals. It's what many of them need to remove from their life: Doing the same…
- Things You Need To Remove From Your Life by: tamarawilhelm
June 1, 2010, 15:23
If you follow the MLB, you probably already know that in 2008 the Tampa Bay Devil Rays became the Tampa Bay Rays. They removed the "Devil" from their…
- Healing From an Affair by: joleenwatson
April 17, 2010, 16:26
The Imagine Hope ladies have shared some great statistics and information on infidelity, but what can you do if an affair has already happened? Seek out a…
- Affair Proof Your Marriage by: nataliechandler
April 15, 2010, 06:01
Unfortunately, too many people wait to walk thru our doors once an affair has happened. Although there is hope if an affair has occurred, it is much easier to…
- Are You At Risk For an Affair? by: tamarawilhelm
April 13, 2010, 08:55
If you haven't read Teri's blog yesterday on the statistics of affairs, please read it. The stats are alarming, depressing, sad and scary. It's easy to spiral…
- Affair Statistics by: tericlaassen
April 12, 2010, 05:22
Infidelity is an issue we work with multiple times a day at Imagine Hope. Unfortunately it is an epidemic that is plaguing America's marriages and relationships…
- Depression- How it Affects Relationships by: tamarawilhelm
March 23, 2010, 19:07
According to the National Institute of Mental Health, nearly 15 million American adults, or about 6.7% of the U.S. population age 18 and older, is affected…
- Signs your Marriage is in Trouble Part 4 by: joleenwatson
December 11, 2009, 13:33
Teri, Natalie, and Tammy have shared some insightful ways to learn more about the state of your marriage. Today we will finish up this blog series with a few…
- Signs your Marriage is in trouble Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
December 8, 2009, 13:31
Teri got us started yesterday on signs to watch out for that can show a marriage is in trouble. You may read some of these and think, "Duh!" But some of these…
- Emotional Affairs Part 4 by: joleenwatson
October 23, 2009, 17:22
There are many signs of emotional affairs, if you know what to look for. While these signs can also be related to other life issues, as well as physical or…
- Emotional Affairs Part 2 by: nataliechandler
October 20, 2009, 10:29
Harry and Sally both worked at Eli Lilly. They were on the IT team together and worked on several projects as a great team. They started going out to lunch to…
- Emotional Affair by: tamarawilhelm
October 19, 2009, 08:50
In this week's blog series, Imagine Hope is going to discuss Emotional Affairs. It's a issue we see happening more & more often, and throughout the week,…
- Codependency part 4 by: joleenwatson
October 16, 2009, 09:27
Codependency has a great impact on our relationships, and is very destructive to both the individual, as well as the relationships well-being. Here are…
- Spring Book Recommendations- Joleen by: joleenwatson
- Marriage (192)
- How Can You Help With Your Treatment of Postpartum Depression? by: joleenwatson
May 17, 2013, 05:09
To help the treatment from your provider work better, there are several things that you can do on your own: Stay healthy and fit: Do somthing active…
- 30 Questions To Ask About Your Relationship 19-24 by: nataliechandler
May 2, 2013, 08:37
If you haven't read questions 1-18 yet, please go back and read them. These are excellent questions this week. 19. Would you ever consider having an affair?…
- 30 Questions To Ask About Your Relationship 13-18 by: alexa griffith
May 1, 2013, 07:09
13. How do you feel when your partner arrives home after being away? This is a good barometer for how you feel about your partner. Do you look forward or…
- 30 Questions to Ask About Your Relationship 7-12 by: tamarawilhelm
April 30, 2013, 05:00
#7 - When you think of your partner, do you smile? - Is your gut reaction to smile when you think of your spouse or your significant other? We hope so! If your…
- 30 Questions to Ask About Your Relationship 1-6 by: tericlaassen
April 29, 2013, 02:41
Everyone questions themselves...did I make the right or wrong choice? Should or shouldn't I? Why do I do that? etc. Questions are a normal part of the human…
- What Kind of Unglued Are You? The Stuffer Who Collects Retaliation Rocks by: joleenwatson
April 19, 2013, 12:06
The Stuffer Who Collects Retaliation Rocks What do you do with your feelings about small (and not-so-small) situations that happen in your marriage? Do…
- What Kind of Unglued Are You? The Stuffer Who Builds Barriers by: nataliechandler
April 17, 2013, 17:48
The Stuffer Who Builds Barriers So what do you do when you have a friend who has said or did something that really hurt you? What about your spouse- do you…
- Spring Book Recommendations- Joleen by: joleenwatson
April 12, 2013, 14:29
The subject of ambiguous loss is a relatively new one to me, as it relates to therapy, but is one that we frequently see with our clients (as well as in our…
- Spring Book Recommendations- Natalie by: nataliechandler
April 11, 2013, 07:15
Constantly Craving by Marilyn Meberg This book is a wonderful book that is insightful, engaging, and filled with humor. Marilyn has a way of getting her…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Natalie by: nataliechandler
March 28, 2013, 04:31
The 3 most common mistakes I see couples make are the following: 1. Making a lot of assumptions about what the other partner is thinking. I see this a…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Tammy by: joleenwatson
March 26, 2013, 05:00
*Fighting about too many things at once - It’s hard to follow a disagreement when you’re fighting about this, that, & the kitchen sink. Stick to one…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Teri by: tericlaassen
March 17, 2013, 08:58
As therapists we see big issues in relationships start from a small mistake and grow into a bigger issue. Conquering the small issues is good prevention and…
- Tips To Nurture Relationships 2 by: tamarawilhelm
March 12, 2013, 05:00
Opportunities to Build Trust Trust is an essential ingredient in every relationship. Trust is extremely important in marriages, romantic relationships,…
- Tips to Nurture Relationships 1 by: joleenwatson
March 11, 2013, 09:13
We all have moments where we stop and think “I should call and check on so-and-so to see how they are”, or “I should really make an effort with this…
- The Five Levels of Intimacy: 5-My Needs, Emotions & Desires by: joleenwatson
February 15, 2013, 06:38
As we have previously discussed, there are five main levels of intimacy in relationships. When beginning to date, or when working on rebuilding a relationship…
- 5 Levels of Intimacy- #1 Safe Communication by: tericlaassen
February 11, 2013, 04:25
Love is in the air as we look forward to celebrating Valentine's Day this week! Relationships aren't just about romance and feeling "that loving feeling".…
- Love Knot- If I were Important then You Would Remember! by: nataliechandler
January 31, 2013, 12:39
It is easy to fall into the trap of believing that because someone doesn't remember something, that it is not important to them. It is even more difficult to…
- Love Knot-If You Really Loved Me by: joleenwatson
January 29, 2013, 06:48
Now that you know what a "Love Knot" is, we will be spending this week talking about some of the most popular ones that we see our clients get stuck in. …
- What is A Love Knot? by: tericlaassen
January 28, 2013, 03:26
When you get frustrated with your partner, do you notice a phrase in your head that starts with, "If he really loved me, he would just know I'm upset about…
- How to Rebuild Trust by: nataliechandler
January 24, 2013, 06:21
Rebuilding trust is very difficult and takes a lot of time. I think the most difficult part of working with people that have lied or have been untrustworthy…
- Saving Your Marriage Before Giving Up-5 by: joleenwatson
January 11, 2013, 11:29
All week we have been talking about the importance of addressing issues and identifying “hot buttons” in your marriage. Today I’m going to talk about…
- Saving Your Marriage Before Giving Up-4 by: nataliechandler
January 10, 2013, 07:28
As Alexa mentioned yesterday, there are certain reasons you get so upset with your spouse. One of them is your hot buttons. It is important to identify what…
- Saving Your Marriage Before Giving Up-3 by: alexa griffith
January 9, 2013, 09:55
Before you give up on your marriage, it is important to isolate and identify what is making you feel so upset. Why Do You Get Upset? Are you feeling…
- Saving Your Marriage Before Giving Up-2 by: tamarawilhelm
January 8, 2013, 05:00
3 Reasons you don't want to give up in your marriage: 1. Some research shows if you have patience, your marriage will take a turn for the better. Note: This…
- Saving Your Marriage Before Giving Up-1 by: tericlaassen
January 7, 2013, 04:17
It is sad to say that the following are America's divorce rates: 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce,…
- 10 Steps to Forgiving Yourself- Steps 9 & 10 by: joleenwatson
November 30, 2012, 09:37
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the different steps towards self-forgiveness. If you haven't read the blogs from earlier this week, we encourage you to…
- Danger of Being in an Enmeshed Relationship by: joleenwatson
November 9, 2012, 12:58
By now, you are aware of what "enmeshment" is and how to know if you are in an enmeshed relationship (see earlier blog posts this week). What are the…
- Signs You're In An Enmeshed Relationship by: tamarawilhelm
November 6, 2012, 05:00
Your belief systems change - When you get too close to someone and enmesh with them, sometimes the things you believe in (religion, politics, moral…
- Enmeshment- What is it? by: tericlaassen
November 5, 2012, 03:23
"I LOVE him and CAN'T live without him." "I would just DIE without her." "You complete me." "I NEED you." "I am NOTHING without you." Ever heard…
- The Masks We Wear... Counterdependency by: joleenwatson
November 2, 2012, 08:27
This week, as a tribute to the Halloween season, we are talking about masks. Every day we can unknowingly put on different masks that hide us from various…
- Feelings and Defenses 5 by: joleenwatson
October 19, 2012, 06:15
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing how defenses can be used to mask or avoid feelings, especially the feelings of anger, sadness, fear, loneliness, shame…
- Feelings and Defenses 4 by: nataliechandler
October 18, 2012, 05:34
As we are talking this week about defensive behaviors that cover our primary feelings, it is imperative that we chat about the "quiet behaviors". These are…
- Non-Traditional Addictions- Busy Addiction by: joleenwatson
October 12, 2012, 06:30
Do you ever find it difficult to sit still and just "be" without having to do something "productive" with your time? Does idle time without having a…
- Facebook and Your Marriage- Tips by: joleenwatson
October 5, 2012, 13:50
Keep good boundaries when using Facebook. Don't friend people you used to date or have romantic feelings towards. This is important because it can easily…
- Facebook and Your Marriage- Tips by: nataliechandler
October 4, 2012, 05:34
Make it a priority to saying something positive to your spouse on your wall at least once a week. It can be very simple like, "Can't wait to take my queen out…
- Facebook and Your Marriage- Ground Rules 2 by: tamarawilhelm
October 2, 2012, 05:00
Ground Rule #3: Exchange login and password information with your spouse - I'm sure some of you just choked, but hear us out. Letting your spouse login to your…
- Facebook and Your Marriage- Ground Rules 1 by: tericlaassen
October 1, 2012, 03:59
Facebook has changed the way people communicate. People have more ability to share with all of their "friends" through one post. People can reconnect or stay…
- Relationship Exits-4 by: nataliechandler
September 27, 2012, 06:18
We exit when we see you are in pain and we can't fix it Many people feel uncomfortable with seeing others in emotional pain. That is normal. Usually it brings…
- Relationship Exits-3 by: alexa griffith
September 26, 2012, 12:01
We exit when we feel the ancient feeling of being trapped. Our fight or flight or freeze responses can be traced back to our ancient human days. When we…
- Relationship Exits-1 by: tericlaassen
September 24, 2012, 02:22
The fight or flight instinct is a strong one that kicks in without us even thinking about it. Sometimes this instinct can play out in relationships too. We…
- Fall Book Recommendations: Why Does He Do That? by: joleenwatson
September 15, 2012, 07:40
Why Does He Do That?, by Lundy Bancroft is a straightforward book about being in an abusive relationship and abusive men. Bancroft challenges the myth that…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent- Nonexistent Spirituality by: nataliechandler
September 6, 2012, 09:23
Teri and Tamara have described what having the symptoms of Negative Control and Resentment can create in our lives as Codependents. Today I will discuss how…
- How to Keep Your Sanity: If a Counterdependent Won't Get in Recovery by: alexa griffith
August 31, 2012, 09:08
By now, you have heard the characteristics of Counterdependency. But what do you do if you're in a relationship with one or work with one who refuses…
- Counterdependency- Characteristics Part 2 by: nataliechandler
August 30, 2012, 16:29
On Tuesday, Tamara gave us great descriptions of 4 of the 7 characteristics of Counterdependency: Grandiose, Not knowing/respecting boundaries of others,…
- Counterdependency by: tericlaassen
August 27, 2012, 04:56
Many people are familiar with co-dependency issues, but do not always understand it’s counterpart: The counterdependent. This week we will help you see…
- How To Create Fireworks in Your Marriage- Dream by: joleenwatson
August 17, 2012, 06:02
Dream Together! Many couples begin their dating relationship full of dreams for their future, but once the marriage has become comfortable, they stop…
- How To Create Fireworks in Your Marriage- Flirting by: nataliechandler
August 16, 2012, 05:52
You've heard the saying, "The grass grows where it's watered". As with grass and plants, so it is in our relationships. The more effort and time you give to…
- How To Create Fireworks In Your Marriage- Seduction by: alexa griffith
August 15, 2012, 00:45
The key to seduction is communicating desire. Not just desire for your own needs to be met, but to meet the desires of your partner. You have to show your…
- How to Create Fireworks In Your Marriage - It matters when you're apart by: tamarawilhelm
August 14, 2012, 05:00
Ever receive a small gift or thank-you note unexpectedly? Remember how special it felt to receive it? The same applies in marriage too. Let your spouse know…
- How to Create Fireworks In Your Marriage- Date Each Other by: tericlaassen
August 13, 2012, 02:51
The beginning of relationships can feel like fireworks. The passion, the desire to see them and talk to them, and the drug like euphoria are all common parts…
- The Five Freedoms: Taking Risks by: joleenwatson
August 3, 2012, 06:20
Freedom #5: To take risks in one's own behalf instead of choosing to be only "secure" and not rocking the boat. We have all probably been in a situation…
- Myths About Love- Love and Anger Are Incompatible by: joleenwatson
July 20, 2012, 05:38
Myth #7: Love and Anger are Incompatible Many people believe that if you really love someone, that means you never get angry at them. Or perhaps you…
- Myths about Love- True Love is Selfless by: nataliechandler
July 19, 2012, 07:32
Myth #6- True Love is Selfless Many people have this myth in their minds and it can be dangerous. Yes, selfish is not good if we are all consuming and…
- Myths About Love- Falling in Love and Exclusiveness by: alexa griffith
July 18, 2012, 00:30
Myth #4 -We fall in and out of love. To watch movies or read romance novels, one would believe that love is something that happens to us, not something we…
- Myths About Love- It's Fleeting & Constant Closeness by: tamarawilhelm
July 17, 2012, 05:00
Myth #2 - Love Is Fleeting There are some people whose feelings change for their significant other very quickly. They may be in love with Partner #1 on…
- Myths About Love- It's Eternal by: tericlaassen
July 16, 2012, 04:24
People love love. Romance can be like a drug to many. But the danger of this is that people don't truly understand what love is. They bring misconceptions…
- 4 Ways to Tear Apart A Relationship- Stonewalling by: joleenwatson
July 6, 2012, 19:26
Very few people actually enjoy conflict, and it's natural to sometimes feel stuck during a fight. Maybe you are struggling with what to say, or perhaps you…
- 4 Ways to Tear Apart A Relationship- Defensiveness by: nataliechandler
July 5, 2012, 11:53
#3 Defensiveness We are probably all guilty of getting defensive at one time or another in our relationships. It's a natural feeling to want to defend…
- 4 Ways to Tear Apart A Relationship- Contempt by: tamarawilhelm
July 3, 2012, 05:00
#2 Contempt In his book, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail, John Gottman describes contempt as the intention to insult and psychologically abuse your partner.…
- 4 Ways to Tear Apart A Relationship- Criticism by: tericlaassen
July 2, 2012, 02:22
Imagine Hope is in the relationship repairing business. Which means we see a lot of people come to us with bad habits that need undone in order for the…
- How To Find Mr. Or Mrs. Right- 6-8 by: joleenwatson
June 29, 2012, 06:33
What are some additional things you can do if you are searching for "Mr. Or Mrs. Right"? Have realistic expectations. Things aren't always a bed of roses,…
- How to Find Mr. or Mrs. Right- 4 & 5 by: nataliechandler
June 28, 2012, 05:42
#4- Don't talk yourself out of pink and red flags First of all, what are pink and red flags? Most of you know what a red flag is- it's a phrase we use to…
- How to Find Mr or Mrs Right 1 by: tericlaassen
June 25, 2012, 04:56
We are asked many times a week by singles about how to find a quality mate. Everyone is looking for Mr or Mrs Right to share their lives with, but the biggest…
- Tips to Make Sex More Fulfilling- Joleen by: joleenwatson
June 22, 2012, 18:07
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing different tips for how you can make your sex life more fulfilling. Have fun and be more playful. Sex doesn't have to…
- Tips to Make Sex More Fulfilling- Natalie by: nataliechandler
June 21, 2012, 05:49
Wow- are we having fun around here this week with our topic and your comments! Glad you all are enjoying it and getting some ideas! Here are a few more: Talk…
- Tips to Make Sex More Fulfilling- Alexa by: alexa griffith
June 20, 2012, 00:18
Remember that feeling you had when you began dating your partner? When we make special effort to romance our partner, they will know that we are interested…
- Tips to Make Sex More Fulfilling- Tammy by: tamarawilhelm
June 19, 2012, 05:00
Don't Get Stuck In A Rut Change it up! Sex can get boring very quickly when the routine (& the room) is the same each time. If you have sex mainly at…
- Tips to Make Sex More Fulfilling- Teri by: tericlaassen
June 18, 2012, 04:53
Every relationship deserves a healthy sex life. Sex is what sets a romantic relationship apart from any other relationship. Ideally, sex is a physical…
- Characteristics of A Healthy Father- Protection by: joleenwatson
June 15, 2012, 11:24
In honor of Father's Day, this week Imagine Hope is talking about some characteristics of a healthy father. Do any of the characteristics from this week…
- 13 Essential Ingredients To A Healthy Relationship 11-13 by: joleenwatson
June 8, 2012, 07:50
This week, Imagine Hope is going over the different ingredients that are needed to have a healthy relationship-- whether it's with a spouse, co-worker, friend,…
- 13 Essential Ingredients to a Healthy Relationship 8-10 by: nataliechandler
June 7, 2012, 05:28
It feels like we are baking a cake this week with all these "ingredients" :) But isn't that kind of how relationships are? If the ingredients are nasty, the…
- 13 Essential Ingredients To A Healthy Relationship 5-7 by: alexa griffith
June 6, 2012, 00:14
We do not usually think of our relationship as something with ingredients. However, it is important to break down components that support relationship…
- 13 Essential Ingredients To A Healthy Relationship 1-2 by: tericlaassen
June 4, 2012, 09:14
Everyone has good intentions to find a healthy relationship, but do they have what it takes to make it happen? Enmeshment is the initial love stuck feeling…
- How to Get Through to A Man 5 by: joleenwatson
April 27, 2012, 19:47
Today we finish up with this weeks blog topic, adapted from W. Bruce Cameron's article (reference below). What do you think of the tips so far? "What a…
- How to Get Through to a Man 4 by: nataliechandler
April 26, 2012, 10:15
If you are just catching up with us this week, we are talking about how to get through to a man. We've adapted it from W. Bruce Cameron's article (see below…
- How To Get Through To A Man 3 by: alexa griffith
April 25, 2012, 00:09
" Wanna Dance?" Are you feeling romanic? Are you wondering how to seduce your man? There is a reason why it is called the dance of seduction. Seduction…
- How to Get Through To A Man 2 by: tamarawilhelm
April 24, 2012, 05:00
"Let Me Get Your Power Drill" Okay, this title may sound completely silly, but the concept really does work. (I know this from personal experience!). We'v…
- How to Get Through To A Man 1 by: tericlaassen
April 23, 2012, 06:18
Let's face it, women AND men are hard to understand sometimes. If only we could read each others minds, it would be so much easier! There are some specific…
- Healthy Sexual Intimacy after Sexual Addiction by: joleenwatson
April 13, 2012, 05:26
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing sexual addiction and what healthy sexual intimacy looks like after sexual addiction has been identified in a relationship.…
- Relationships: Intimate vs. Addictive- 4 by: nataliechandler
March 29, 2012, 04:45
Hopefully this week you have been able to identify if your relationship is healthy/intimate or has more addictive characteristics. Being in an addictive type…
- Relationships: Intimate vs. Addictive- 1 by: tericlaassen
March 26, 2012, 05:32
Many clients dance the line in their relationships between achieving emotional intimacy and being addicted to the relationship. The key to an emotionally…
- What Does It Mean to "Let Go"? -5 by: joleenwatson
March 22, 2012, 21:33
"Letting Go" is a popular topic in recovery from many things-- childhood issues, addictions, codependency, and unhealthy relationships, just to name a few. …
- Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce 5 by: joleenwatson
March 9, 2012, 15:09
10. Evaluate your relationships and make whatever life adjustments you feel are necessary. During a divorce, you might encounter many "Monday Morning…
- Taking Care of Yourself Thru a Divorce 4 by: nataliechandler
March 8, 2012, 06:32
7. Allow yourself to grieve the loss of the relationship and the loss of the DREAM of what you hoped for when you married this person Talk to others, cry,…
- Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce 2 by: tamarawilhelm
March 6, 2012, 03:00
1. Find Some Stability- Throughout this process there will be alot of disruption. Lots of meetings with lawyers & mediators, lots of packing, lots of…
- Basic Human Needs- Sexuality by: joleenwatson
March 2, 2012, 06:21
Sometimes, it's difficult to see sexuality or sex as a human need. Many times in marriage, we tend to think of it as a "perk" or a benefit... or a want,…
- Basic Human Needs- Accomplishment and Enjoyment/Fun by: nataliechandler
March 1, 2012, 05:47
It is never surprising to us when couples come in with challenges they are having that revolve around not getting their needs met. Besides communication, this…
- Basic Human Needs- Touch by: joleenwatson
February 27, 2012, 04:55
All of us have basic needs that make us feel fulfilled in our lives. Some of these needs are critical to our survival as a child (such as safety and…
- Dealing With Difficult People- The Know-it-all by: joleenwatson
February 24, 2012, 21:03
Do you have a difficult person in your life? Perhaps it's a boss, or a relative-- or maybe a co-worker... or even a spouse! This week, Imagine Hope is…
- Dealing with Difficult People- Silent People and Busybodies by: nataliechandler
February 23, 2012, 07:02
Everyone knows difficult people, right? That's why a few years ago we developed a presentation to start helping people to deal with difficult people in the…
- Do You Have a Healthy Love Relationship? by: joleenwatson
February 10, 2012, 11:09
Picture two people standing side by side, each reaching for the other's hand: This is a healthy love relationship. A healthy love relationship…
- Do you have a Boarding House or Martyr Relationship? by: nataliechandler
February 9, 2012, 06:58
The Boarding House Relationship Picture two people linked together by their elbows, with their backs to each other. This is the Boarding House Relationship.…
- Do you have a Pedestal Relationship or a Master /Slave Relationship? by: alexa griffith
February 8, 2012, 07:17
As we head toward Valentine's Day, often we think of our relationships. Sometimes we remember past relationships, appreciate present relationships, or dream…
- Do You Have A Smothering Relationship? by: tamarawilhelm
February 7, 2012, 03:00
The Smothering Relationship Picture two people hugging, attached at the hip, never far apart from the other at any time. Feel suffocated? I bet! This…
- Do You Have An "A-Frame Dependency" Relationship? by: tericlaassen
February 6, 2012, 06:21
Love and relationships are a big focus this time of year as we approach Valentine's Day. In honor of the upcoming day, we will be sharing about many types of…
- Talks To Have Before Getting Married: Conflict Styles and Common Interests by: joleenwatson
February 4, 2012, 06:01
If you are presently engaged to be married, we send you our warmest congratulations! The time of dating and engagement is exciting and promising-- a time where…
- Talks To Have Before Getting Married: Communication Styles by: nataliechandler
February 2, 2012, 04:40
If you are reading this, there is probably a Congratulations in order?? Well congrats! Or you may be a parent or friend, reading this to pass along the…
- Talks to Have Before Getting Married: Relationship Rules by: tamarawilhelm
January 31, 2012, 03:00
Whether you realize it or not, you have relationship rules and role expectations. It's how we believe things are going to be when we're married. It's how the…
- Talks to Have Before Getting Married: My Expectations by: tericlaassen
January 30, 2012, 11:15
Imagine Hope is getting several calls each week for people who want to save their marriage before it starts! Couples are starting to realize that they need to…
- Flower Messages 2 by: joleenwatson
January 27, 2012, 09:56
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the different types of messages we give to others in our communication-- termed "Garbage Messages" or "Flower Messages". …
- What To Do if You Are Loving Too Much 9-10 by: joleenwatson
January 21, 2012, 06:25
So far, have you used any of this week's blog post suggestions to help with your relationship with yourself? Or, maybe you are wondering "How can you love…
- What to do if you are loving too much 6-8 by: nataliechandler
January 19, 2012, 10:58
As we have been discussing this week, loving too much can be damaging to your relationships and to yourself. It can cause Depression, Anxiety, multiple…
- Christmas Gifts that Say "I Get You"- Physical Touch & Acts of Service by: joleenwatson
December 9, 2011, 13:55
This week we are reviewing different Christmas gift ideas for your significant other, based on the 5 Love Languages. Do you know your significant other's P…
- Christmas Gifts that say "I get you!" Quality Time/Receiving Gifts by: nataliechandler
December 8, 2011, 06:15
Thank you, Teri for giving us a great description of the 5 Love Languages. And Tamara had some GREAT ideas for Words of Affirmations. If you haven't read the…
- Christmas Gifts That Say "I get you"- Words of Affirmation by: tericlaassen
December 6, 2011, 04:00
When giving a Christmas gift to someone who's love language is Words of Affirmation, you have the chance for your creativity to come out! If you want to…
- Christmas Gifts that say "I Get You" by: tericlaassen
December 5, 2011, 07:44
Christmas is coming up and many feel pressure to find the "perfect" gift. This week Imagine Hope is giving you tips on what to give based on your partner's…
- TV Families- All in the Family by: nataliechandler
December 1, 2011, 06:34
I am LOVING reading this weeks blogs about dysfunctional TV families. How fun to relive the childhood moments of the Brady Bunch and to think of the beauty of…
- The Masks We Wear- Codependency by: nataliechandler
October 27, 2011, 05:32
This week we are talking about masks we wear to cover up our authentic selves. If you haven't already, feel free to back up and read the other blogs from this…
- What does Companionate Love Look Like 4-7 by: nataliechandler
October 13, 2011, 05:23
Companionate Love is such a wonderful thing. Many couples think if two people love each other that this should come naturally. This is a myth. This type of…
- What Does Companionate Love Look Like 1-3 by: alexa griffith
October 12, 2011, 05:57
Companionate Love reaches the depths of our hearts and has the ability to ignite our passion and calm insecurities with equal measure. There is no like for…
- What Does Companionate Love Look Like? by: tamarawilhelm
October 11, 2011, 05:00
Yesterday Teri gave us two stories describing two very different couples. Can you pick out which couple is displaying Companionate Love? It's Couple #2, Jane…
- Which Story is Companionate Love? by: tericlaassen
October 10, 2011, 05:51
You might ask... What IS companionate love? This week Imagine Hope is going to tell you! But I'm going to keep you guessing for now! Today I'm giving you 2…
- Are You a BAD Communicator? 4 by: nataliechandler
September 22, 2011, 05:35
Communication can be so difficult. You put all our experiences (childhood, past relationships etc) + our current mood and that can = a disaster! We all…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent-Nonexistent Spirituality by: nataliechandler
August 25, 2011, 05:51
Teri and Tamara have described what having the symptoms of Negative Control and Resentment can create in our lives as Codependents. Today I will discuss how…
- Do You Have a "Damaged Love Style"? The Secure Connector by: joleenwatson
August 19, 2011, 07:43
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing how our love styles can impact us in our relationships later in life. Based on the book "How We Love" by Milan and Kay…
- Do You Have a "Damaged Love Style"? Controller and Victim by: nataliechandler
August 18, 2011, 05:18
By now you may have identified some of the ways you love by either being an avoider, a pleaser, or a vacillator. If you are not sure what these types are,…
- Do You Have a “Damaged” Love Style?- Pleaser & Vacillator by: tamarawilhelm
August 16, 2011, 05:00
No one wants to damage their relationship and the way they love each other. Learning these 5 love styles by Milan & Kay Yerkovich can create deeper…
- Do You Have a "Damaged" Love Style?- Avoider by: tericlaassen
August 15, 2011, 04:43
Milan and Kay Yerkovich's book "How We Love" gives us a great picture of how dysfunctional attachments can cause painful patterns in relationships. Their…
- Toxic Secrets by: tericlaassen
August 1, 2011, 02:54
This week we are talking about secrets! Secrets come in many forms. There are healthy secrets, but also toxic ones. What is the difference? A toxic…
- 30 Tips To Help With Communication Traps 1-4 by: tericlaassen
July 25, 2011, 03:25
Using good communication and listening skills are key to helping you avoid being misunderstood. People get trapped when they aren't slowing down enough to use…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Part 4 by: joleenwatson
July 8, 2011, 05:12
In addition to what Teri, Tammy, and Natalie spoke about in their blogs, here are 3 additional mistakes I see when working with couples: Becoming…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Part 3 by: joleenwatson
July 7, 2011, 05:08
The 3 most common mistakes I see couples make are the following: 1. Making a lot of assumptions about what the other partner is thinking. I see this a lot.…
- 3 Common Mistakes Couples Make- Part 1 by: joleenwatson
July 5, 2011, 05:05
As therapists we many times see big issues in relationships start from a small mistake and grow into a bigger issue. Conquering the small issues is good…
- Healthy Boundaries and Separateness 4 by: joleenwatson
July 2, 2011, 06:38
Having healthy boundaries and maintaining our own identity is an important part of being healthy individuals-- and being a healthy individual means having…
- Healthy Boundaries and Separateness 1 by: tericlaassen
June 27, 2011, 03:59
Can you connect with others without losing yourself? Being ok with being separate is an important part of mastering healthy boundaries. It's sometimes hard…
- Emotional Needs- Domestic Support, Family Commitment, Admiration by: joleenwatson
June 10, 2011, 21:05
If you are finding your "love bank" empty in your relationship, there's a good chance that you or your partner are lacking in one (or more) critical area of…
- Emotional Needs - Sex, Conversation, & Recreation by: tamarawilhelm
June 7, 2011, 05:00
Teri did a great job yesterday introducing emotional needs and the concept of the "Love Bank". If we don't deposit into each other's emotional accounts, we…
- Emotional Needs- Affection by: tericlaassen
June 6, 2011, 03:42
In Willard Harley's book "His Needs, Her Needs", he includes an Emotional Needs Questionnaire for couples. This book breaks down 10 primary needs that…
- 4 Myths about Affairs- #3 by: nataliechandler
May 5, 2011, 05:31
This week we are talking about MYTHS people have about affairs. So much magical thinking goes on in affairs. As ridiculous as some of the myths sound, when…
- 4 Myths about Affairs - #2 by: tamarawilhelm
May 3, 2011, 11:26
There's no doubt that affairs cause grief, heartache, destruction and pain in relationships. One of the most important things to do when dealing with infidelity…
- 4 Myths about Affairs- #1 by: tericlaassen
May 2, 2011, 03:46
Affairs happen in many relationships. It causes deep pain and destruction for all parties involved with it's ripple effects going much wider than people think.…
- How Do You Handle Conflict? -Collaborating by: joleenwatson
April 22, 2011, 04:00
This week, Imagine Hope therapist's are discussing the different ways we handle conflict. If you haven't gotten the chance to read the earlier blog posts, we…
- How Do You Handle Conflict?-Compromise by: tericlaassen
April 18, 2011, 03:50
Conflict is a reality in all relationships. We can't avoid it. Many people react and respond so fast to conflict they don't slow down enough to see that they…
- Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples 14-18 by: joleenwatson
April 16, 2011, 07:24
This week's blog is focusing on the different characteristics of a dysfunctional couple. Today we will finish up with the final characteristics: 14. It…
- Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples 5-9 by: tamarawilhelm
April 12, 2011, 06:13
I've often been told & read that God built us to be in relationships. Whether those relationships are familial, friendships, or romantic relationships.…
- Characteristics of Dysfunctional Couples 1-4 by: tericlaassen
April 11, 2011, 04:17
What does it mean to be a dysfunctional couple? You might be wondering if you're in one! This week we are writing about the characteristics of dysfunctional…
- Emotional Affairs - What to Watch For by: tamarawilhelm
March 25, 2011, 05:00
There are many signs of emotional affairs, if you know what to look for. While these signs can also be related to other life issues, as well as physical or…
- Emotional Affairs - What to do by: tamarawilhelm
March 24, 2011, 05:00
Once you have identified that you are in an emotional affair or you have been caught in an emotional affair, there is a specific reconstruction process to…
- Emotional Affairs by: tamarawilhelm
March 21, 2011, 05:00
In this week's blog series, Imagine Hope is going to discuss Emotional Affairs. It's a issue we see happening more & more often, and throughout the week,…
- Don't Drive a Relationship Lemon- Detailing by: joleenwatson
March 18, 2011, 14:21
This week, you have learned about how your relationships can be like a car... So far we've talked about how to choose a car, the importance of regular…
- Don't Drive a Relationship Lemon - Maintenance by: tamarawilhelm
March 15, 2011, 05:00
In therapy we use alot of analogies with individuals and couples to get a point across. This week we chose cars. Everyone can relate to cars because they…
- Don't Drive a Relationship Lemon-Which One to Choose? by: tericlaassen
March 14, 2011, 02:55
How is your relationship with your car similar to your relationships with others? Can you learn something about what it takes to be in a relationship from how…
- Conflict Resolution Tips 1 by: tericlaassen
February 14, 2011, 02:53
Resolving conflict is a skill that everyone needs to work on, even if you aren't in a relationship. There are several things to remember when entering into a…
- Gifts that say "I Get You!"- Physical Touch/Acts of Service by: joleenwatson
February 11, 2011, 10:47
This week we are reviewing different Valentine's Day gift ideas for your significant other, based on the 5 Love Languages. Do you know your significant…
- Gifts that say "I get you" by: tericlaassen
February 7, 2011, 03:19
Valentine's Day is coming up and many feel pressure to find the "perfect" gift. This week Imagine Hope is giving you tips on what to give based on your…
- Roadblocks to a Healthy Sex Life- 4 by: joleenwatson
November 19, 2010, 08:00
Hopefully, you've had a chance to read our earlier blog posts from this week discussing some of the most common roadblocks to having a healthy sex life! Some…
- Roadblocks to a Healthy Sex Life- 1 by: tericlaassen
November 15, 2010, 06:03
Every relationship deserves to have a healthy sex life. Unfortunately it is hard for many couples to achieve and maintain what they might consider a healthy…
- Pia Mellody's Relationship Maxims 7-12 by: tamarawilhelm
November 3, 2010, 11:22
In continuance of our blog this week, here are more of Pia Mellody's maxims: 7. Lead your life and see who shows up. When you honor your own personal…
- Pia Mellody's Relationship Maxims 1-6 by: tericlaassen
November 1, 2010, 10:09
Tamara and I had a chance to go to Chicago for a conference a few weeks ago, and while there we heard Pia Mellody speak. Mellody is a true pioneer in the…
- Communication Myths 8-10 by: joleenwatson
October 22, 2010, 21:20
How many communication myths have you noticed so far in your relationships? Today we will finish up with myths 8-10: Myth #8: “For healthy communication…
- Do You Say These Things?--"Yeah, but..." by: tericlaassen
August 23, 2010, 16:03
As therapist's we hear a lot of dysfunctional phrases from people. Many say things without thinking about the message they are sending. Some will blurt phrases…
- How do you know you're ready for counseling? Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
August 17, 2010, 11:56
As discussed yesterday, this week we're talking about how to know when you are ready individually or as a couple to begin counseling. For some, that decision…
- Toxic Secrets by: tericlaassen
July 26, 2010, 11:08
This week we are talking about secrets! Secrets come in many forms. There are healthy secrets, but also toxic ones. What is the difference? A toxic secret is…
- When have you felt most loved? #4 by: joleenwatson
July 25, 2010, 17:11
As Teri and Tammy have mentioned, feeling loved allows us to have SO much to give back to a relationship-- whether romantic, friendship, or family. Each time…
- When have you felt most loved? #3 by: tericlaassen
July 22, 2010, 17:00
Feeling loved is important in all close relationships. It's what draws us into intimacy with a person. If we don't feel loved we will likely hold back and…
- When have you felt most loved? #2 by: tamarawilhelm
July 20, 2010, 11:02
I absolutely love Gary Chapman's concept of the Love Languages. I love teaching it to couples and watch them "get it" as they identify their own language and…
- When have you felt most loved? by: tericlaassen
July 19, 2010, 12:57
Tamara and I were invited to present 2 workshops a few weeks ago at the National Alpha Sigma Alpha Convention. We were honored to present on Positive…
- Inspirational Quotes 4 by: joleenwatson
July 11, 2010, 18:49
Both Tammy and Teri have some great inspirational quotes with great lessons! One of my all time favorite quotes is by Eleanor Roosevelt: "No one can…
- Negative Thinking Patterns by: tericlaassen
June 14, 2010, 10:35
Did you know that negative thinking can really impact your life and relationships? Many people don't realize how damaging your mindset can be if it isn't…
- More Things To Remove From Your Life by: joleenwatson
June 4, 2010, 22:10
What is one definite way to ruin communication, trust and intimacy in your relationships? Passive-Aggressive behaviors and indirect communication. In our…
- More Things to Remove From Your Life by: tericlaassen
June 2, 2010, 16:13
Thanks Tammy! That is a great example of how a "remodel" can change your outlook in life and relationships. Speaking of a remodel...another thing that is…
- Things You Need To Remove From Your Life by: tamarawilhelm
June 1, 2010, 15:23
If you follow the MLB, you probably already know that in 2008 the Tampa Bay Devil Rays became the Tampa Bay Rays. They removed the "Devil" from their…
- Healthy Love Songs part 4 by: joleenwatson
May 13, 2010, 20:20
I absolutely loved the songs that Teri, Natalie, and Tammy chose for their blogs this week. They all give such great messages about love, and are wonderful…
- Healthy Love Songs Part 3 by: nataliechandler
May 13, 2010, 16:03
I am lovin the healthy love songs this week! This has been one of my favorites for a long time. Now that I am married, I really understand and appreciate it.…
- Healthy Love Songs by: tericlaassen
May 10, 2010, 04:54
It's true- healthy love songs do exist! We searched and found some that depict healthy love in a way that is more interdependent than the dysfunctional loves…
- "Dysfunctional" Love Songs by: tericlaassen
May 3, 2010, 16:30
Listening to the radio it is easy to get lost in the fantasy world of love that you hear described in most "love songs". Most of the time we sing along without…
- Healing From an Affair by: joleenwatson
April 17, 2010, 16:26
The Imagine Hope ladies have shared some great statistics and information on infidelity, but what can you do if an affair has already happened? Seek out a…
- Affair Proof Your Marriage by: nataliechandler
April 15, 2010, 06:01
Unfortunately, too many people wait to walk thru our doors once an affair has happened. Although there is hope if an affair has occurred, it is much easier to…
- Are You At Risk For an Affair? by: tamarawilhelm
April 13, 2010, 08:55
If you haven't read Teri's blog yesterday on the statistics of affairs, please read it. The stats are alarming, depressing, sad and scary. It's easy to spiral…
- Affair Statistics by: tericlaassen
April 12, 2010, 05:22
Infidelity is an issue we work with multiple times a day at Imagine Hope. Unfortunately it is an epidemic that is plaguing America's marriages and relationships…
- How to Keep Your Sanity: If a Counterdependent Won't Get in Recovery by: joleenwatson
April 2, 2010, 17:51
By now, you have heard the characteristics of Counterdependency. But what do you do if you're in a relationship with one or work with one who refuses…
- Counterdependency-Characteristics Part 1 by: tamarawilhelm
March 30, 2010, 09:23
Yesterday Teri introduced us to Jim, a sharp-tongued workaholic who seems very self-involved. Sound familiar? Maybe you have a parent, sibling, friend, boss,…
- Counterdependency by: tericlaassen
March 29, 2010, 16:19
Many people are familiar with co-dependency issues, but do not always understand it’s counterpart: The counterdependent. This week we will help you see the…
- Depression- How it Affects Relationships by: tamarawilhelm
March 23, 2010, 19:07
According to the National Institute of Mental Health, nearly 15 million American adults, or about 6.7% of the U.S. population age 18 and older, is affected…
- Do you fight fair? Tips 16-20 by: joleenwatson
March 5, 2010, 13:28
Teri, Tammy, and Natalie have all shared some great tips so far to fighting fair. Here are a few more to add to your "marital toolbox": 16. Remember…
- Do you fight fair? Tips 11-15 by: nataliechandler
March 4, 2010, 06:28
Are you starting to understand that conflict is normal? It is how you handle it that is important! Have you tried any of the tips so far? Here are 5 more to…
- Do you fight fair? - Tips 6-10 by: tamarawilhelm
March 1, 2010, 21:05
As Teri mentioned, fighting can be healthy, as long as it's done in a respectful way. Conflict can be one of the ways you and another person grow closer. It's…
- Do you Fight Fair?- Tips 1-5 by: tericlaassen
March 1, 2010, 05:45
All relationships have conflict at some point. Many couples try to avoid it mostly because they don’t know how to make fighting work “for” their…
- What does a Healthy Relationship Look Like? by: tericlaassen
February 8, 2010, 12:41
It's Valentine's week and many people are focused on relationships. So Imagine Hope wants to help you discover what a healthy relationship looks like. This…
- Joleen's 2010 Book Recommendation by: joleenwatson
January 8, 2010, 16:27
There are SO many self-help and personal growth books out there lately, it can be overwhelming and sometimes conflicting to find one giving sound advice that…
- Signs your Marriage is in Trouble Part 4 by: joleenwatson
December 11, 2009, 13:33
Teri, Natalie, and Tammy have shared some insightful ways to learn more about the state of your marriage. Today we will finish up this blog series with a few…
- Signs your Marriage is in trouble Part 3 by: nataliechandler
December 10, 2009, 07:30
Hopefully you have found Teri and Tamara's signs helpful. Have you identified any signs in your relationship yet? Here are a few more: 9. You have same…
- Signs your Marriage is in trouble Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
December 8, 2009, 13:31
Teri got us started yesterday on signs to watch out for that can show a marriage is in trouble. You may read some of these and think, "Duh!" But some of these…
- Signs your marriage is in trouble- Part 1 by: tericlaassen
December 7, 2009, 09:23
Imagine Hope specializes in helping couples build a healthy relationship. Unfortunately many people come to marriage counseling after a lot of damage has been…
- 5 Love Languages by: joleenwatson
November 12, 2009, 21:21
By now, you have read about the other 4 Love Languages: Acts of Service, Gifts, Words of Affirmation, and Physical Touch. The 5th Love Language is Quality…
- 5 Love Languages by: nataliechandler
November 12, 2009, 18:09
Teri and Tamara have described the first three love languages: Acts of Service, Affirmations, and Giving Gifts. Today I want to talk about Physical Touch. Lo…
- 5 Love Languages by: tamarawilhelm
November 10, 2009, 12:55
We're continuing our talk today on how we receive and show love. The next two love languages are: 2. Words of Affirmations. This includes giving verbal…
- 5 Love Languages by: tericlaassen
November 9, 2009, 05:26
This week Imagine Hope is talking about The Five Languages. We all have needs in relationships, and it is important to know what those needs are so you can…
- Tips for Creating Intimacy by: joleenwatson
November 6, 2009, 15:13
Here are our last two tips for creating a deeper level of intimacy with your partner: 9. Flirt with your partner throughout the day! Send text messages…
- Tips for Creating Intimacy by: nataliechandler
November 5, 2009, 07:13
This week we have been giving tips for creating intimacy with your partner. By now maybe you can think of some things to do for your partner that will bring…
- Tips for Creating Intimacy by: tamarawilhelm
November 3, 2009, 12:56
We're continuing our talk on creating intimacy in relationships. It is essential the lines of communication stay open and assumptions be put aside in order for…
- Tips for Creating Intimacy by: tericlaassen
November 2, 2009, 07:08
This week Imagine Hope is focusing on creating intimacy with your partner. Intimacy is more than just sex, it is the deep connection you strive for to feel…
- How Can You Help With Your Treatment of Postpartum Depression? by: joleenwatson
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- 30 Questions To Ask About Your Relationship 13-18 by: alexa griffith
May 1, 2013, 07:09
13. How do you feel when your partner arrives home after being away? This is a good barometer for how you feel about your partner. Do you look forward or…
- 30 Questions to Ask About Your Relationship 1-6 by: tericlaassen
April 29, 2013, 02:41
Everyone questions themselves...did I make the right or wrong choice? Should or shouldn't I? Why do I do that? etc. Questions are a normal part of the human…
- What Kind of Unglued Are You? The Stuffer Who Collects Retaliation Rocks by: joleenwatson
April 19, 2013, 12:06
The Stuffer Who Collects Retaliation Rocks What do you do with your feelings about small (and not-so-small) situations that happen in your marriage? Do…
- What Kind of Unglued Are You? The Stuffer Who Builds Barriers by: nataliechandler
April 17, 2013, 17:48
The Stuffer Who Builds Barriers So what do you do when you have a friend who has said or did something that really hurt you? What about your spouse- do you…
- The Five Levels of Intimacy #4- My Feelings and Experiences by: nataliechandler
February 14, 2013, 06:37
You've learned safe communication, are comfortable hearing other's opinions and beliefs, and have shared your own. The next level is deeper- sharing your…
- 5 Levels of Intimacy- #3 Personal Opinions and Beliefs by: joleenwatson
February 13, 2013, 06:43
This level of intimacy is about taking small risks, while still allowing some protective barriers to exist. This stage is often where we start to share…
- 30 Questions To Ask About Your Relationship 13-18 by: alexa griffith
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- Hoarding or Collecting? by: alexa griffith
April 24, 2013, 09:03
Some throw the term "hoarder"around loosely about people who collect a lot of a particular items from a point of interest. But not all collectors are suffer…
- What Is Hoarding? by: tericlaassen
April 22, 2013, 02:52
Many have watched the reality shows about hoarding...it can be hard to watch. Compulsive hoarding is a real issue that many struggle with. Neziroglu,…
- What Kind of Unglued Are You? The Stuffer Who Collects Retaliation Rocks by: joleenwatson
April 19, 2013, 12:06
The Stuffer Who Collects Retaliation Rocks What do you do with your feelings about small (and not-so-small) situations that happen in your marriage? Do…
- What Kind of Unglued Are You? The Stuffer Who Builds Barriers by: nataliechandler
April 17, 2013, 17:48
The Stuffer Who Builds Barriers So what do you do when you have a friend who has said or did something that really hurt you? What about your spouse- do you…
- Spring Book Recommendations- Joleen by: joleenwatson
April 12, 2013, 14:29
The subject of ambiguous loss is a relatively new one to me, as it relates to therapy, but is one that we frequently see with our clients (as well as in our…
- Spring Book Recommendations- Alexa by: alexa griffith
April 10, 2013, 02:44
Carry On Warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton I do not follow many blogs, but there are some I follow regularly: Brene Brown’s Ordinarycourage.com; Jenny…
- Serenity Prayer- Serenity by: tericlaassen
March 4, 2013, 04:58
The Serenity Prayer is commonly linked to 12 step programs and is used by many as a coping tool. It says: “God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I…
- Signs of Hidden Anger: 18-23 by: joleenwatson
February 22, 2013, 05:00
So far, we have seen 17 different signs that can tell you if you might have hidden anger. As Natalie and Tammy have shared, many of them can mimic signs of…
- Lying and Trust Issues by: joleenwatson
January 21, 2013, 06:42
We all have people in our lives that we struggle with because of lying or betrayal. I'm sure you can probably think of a few right now! These individuals…
- Teri’s Lessons from the Thanksgiving Table by: tericlaassen
November 19, 2012, 04:35
Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays! Having family together, enjoying great food, and laughter make the day a special one. This week we wanted to…
- The Masks We Wear…But Why? by: tericlaassen
October 29, 2012, 02:42
Halloween can be so much fun to get dressed up and be whoever you want to be! At Halloween we give permission as a society to “pretend” to be someone…
- Feelings and Defenses 5 by: joleenwatson
October 19, 2012, 06:15
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing how defenses can be used to mask or avoid feelings, especially the feelings of anger, sadness, fear, loneliness, shame…
- Relationship Exits-3 by: alexa griffith
September 26, 2012, 12:01
We exit when we feel the ancient feeling of being trapped. Our fight or flight or freeze responses can be traced back to our ancient human days. When we…
- Stages of Grief and Loss- Sadness by: nataliechandler
September 20, 2012, 05:36
This week we have been walking you through the stages of Grief and Loss. The next stage is very difficult but very important. Sadness Denial, anger, and…
- 5 Freedoms: To Ask For What You Want by: nataliechandler
August 2, 2012, 05:34
Freedom #4: To Ask for What One Wants Instead of Always Waiting For Permission Many people struggle with telling people what they really want or need. They…
- The Five Freedoms: To Say by: tamarawilhelm
July 31, 2012, 05:00
Freedom #2: To Say What One Feels and Thinks Instead of What One Should Feel and Think There's that "Should" word again. Whenever you use the word "Should",…
- The Five Freedoms: To See And Hear by: tericlaassen
July 30, 2012, 05:00
Virginia Satir was a pioneer in the therapy world in bringing amazing concepts to life to help individuals, families, and couples. She looked at the…
- Mind Over Mood- Where's the Evidence? by: alexa griffith
May 16, 2012, 00:10
This is Part 3 of a series of our blog this week about Patty and Jenny. If you have not read the full story, please go back and read Teri’s and Tamara’s…
- Mind Over Mood- What's the Trigger? by: tericlaassen
May 14, 2012, 01:00
The human mind is amazing when you think of all it is capable of. But sometimes our minds can play tricks on us. This week we are going to work though a…
- What Does It Mean to "Let Go"-3? by: alexa griffith
March 20, 2012, 05:55
Some of us are better at letting go than others. We all struggle with this concept at some point during our lives. The sensation of holding on gives us…
- Basic Human Needs- Touch by: joleenwatson
February 27, 2012, 04:55
All of us have basic needs that make us feel fulfilled in our lives. Some of these needs are critical to our survival as a child (such as safety and…
- What to do if you are loving too much 6-8 by: nataliechandler
January 19, 2012, 10:58
As we have been discussing this week, loving too much can be damaging to your relationships and to yourself. It can cause Depression, Anxiety, multiple…
- What To Do If You Are Loving Too Much 3-5 by: alexa griffith
January 18, 2012, 06:27
Do Teri and Tamara have you wondering, "Do I love too much"? As we continue to talk about loving too much, think about when you first began to have romantic…
- Natalie's Lessons from the Thanksgiving Table by: nataliechandler
November 19, 2011, 07:54
What great lessons I am learning and being reminded of this week thru our Lessons from the Thanksgiving Table! We host both sides of the family at our house…
- Teri's Lessons from the Thanksgiving Table by: tericlaassen
November 14, 2011, 10:41
Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays! Having family together, enjoying great food, and laughter make the day a special one. This week we wanted to take…
- The Masks We Wear...But Why? by: tericlaassen
October 24, 2011, 05:50
Halloween can be so much fun to get dressed up and be whoever you want to be! At Halloween we give permission as a society to "pretend" to be someone else. It…
- Coping With Stress- Part 2 by: joleenwatson
October 7, 2011, 06:07
Have you identified the stressful areas of your life so far with this week's blog topic? Stress is something that is almost inevitable in our society…
- The Difference Between Toxic and Healthy Secrets by: joleenwatson
August 5, 2011, 06:39
So now you know what toxic and healthy secrets look like and how they impact your relationships… How do you know the difference between the two? Here are…
- Abandonment Issues - Shattering by: tamarawilhelm
April 26, 2011, 05:00
Teri did a great job yesterday describing the concept of abandonment and all of it's characteristics. Abandonment is similar to grief. With both, you…
- Is Your Life Balanced? Environment and Recreation by: tericlaassen
March 28, 2011, 05:22
One of the best ways to combat depression and anxiety is to live a balanced life. It is one of the ultimate ways to practice self care. Life can be a roller…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Steps 6 & 7 by: tericlaassen
March 7, 2011, 03:15
This week we are finishing up the 12 steps! We hope you have been able to apply these to an affliction in your life through last week and this week. These…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Step 4 & Step 5 by: joleenwatson
March 4, 2011, 16:00
This week we are discussing the 12 Steps of recovery... You might be saying to yourself "But I don't have an addiction, so this doesn't apply!" We…
- Serenity Prayer- Serenity by: tericlaassen
February 21, 2011, 03:07
The Serenity Prayer is commonly linked to 12 step programs and is used by many as a coping tool. It says: “God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I…
- Tips for reducing stress in your life #4 by: joleenwatson
October 14, 2010, 16:28
So, how many tips have you used this week to reduce stress in your life? Looking for more? Well, here they are! Be optimistic Visualize accomplishing…
- Tips for Reducing Stress in Your Life #1 by: tericlaassen
October 11, 2010, 01:36
Stress comes in all forms and is an unavoidable part of life. Ideally the best thing would be to eliminate as much as you can, but when there is stubborn…
- H.A.L.T.- Tired by: joleenwatson
October 8, 2010, 17:37
This week, we are discussing the acronym HALT- Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired. As you've read, all of these can be triggers to both addictions, as well as a…
- H.A.L.T.- Lonely by: nataliechandler
October 7, 2010, 08:19
H.A.L.T. is such a great acronym to use for recovery. We have been talking about recovery of addictions but we also use this for our clients who struggle with…
- H.A.L.T.- Hungry by: tericlaassen
October 4, 2010, 05:29
H.A.L.T. is an acronym that people use to remember how to protect themselves from relapsing into an addiction. H.A.L.T. stands for Hungry, Angry, Lonely, and…
- Recommended Books for the Fall- Natalie by: nataliechandler
September 23, 2010, 05:00
My book recommendation is "Healing is a Choice" by Stephen Arterburn. Just the title alone speaks volumes. Healing IS a choice. We have to decide to keep doing…
- The difference between toxic and healthy secrets by: joleenwatson
July 30, 2010, 23:02
So now you know what toxic and healthy secrets look like and how they impact your relationships... How do you know the difference between the two? Here are…
- Negative Thinking Patterns Alternatives Part 4 by: joleenwatson
June 27, 2010, 17:15
Here are the last 4 alternate ways of thinking that are healthier and less destructive: 12. Fallacy of Change: You expect that other people will change…
- Negative Thinking Patterns Part 4 by: joleenwatson
June 18, 2010, 17:59
There can be many ways we sabotage our thinking, which result in issues such as marital conflict and communication issues in relationships, depression,…
- Characteristics of Unsafe People part 4 by: joleenwatson
April 30, 2010, 19:26
How many (emotionally) unsafe people have you recognized so far? Here a few more characteristics: 17. Unsafe people confront not to forgive, but to…
- Goals We've Accomplished and How We Did it- Joleen by: joleenwatson
March 12, 2010, 15:24
Like Tammy and Natalie, one of the goals I'm most proud of is graduating with my Master's degree. My story, however, is a little bit different. My high…
- Grief and Loss Part 3 by: nataliechandler
February 4, 2010, 07:05
This week we have been walking you through the stages of Grief and Loss. The next stage is very difficult but very important. Denial, anger, and bargaining…
- Recognizing and dealing with stress Part 4 by: tericlaassen
January 22, 2010, 14:11
Good reminders ladies of how to recognize and deal with stress. It sure is a stressful world for us adults, but what about our kids. Oftentimes a child will…
- Recognizing and dealing with stress Part 3 by: joleenwatson
January 21, 2010, 19:56
Natalie and Tammy have explained the signs and symptoms of stress, as well as some tips for how to stay healthy during stressful times. Have you gotten past…
- Recognizing and dealing with stress Part 1 by: nataliechandler
January 18, 2010, 13:12
Many of us are stressed. We live in a stressful world, have stressful jobs, and sometimes stressful relationships. We all will experience it one time or…
- Ways to decrease holiday stress Part 3 by: nataliechandler
December 17, 2009, 16:37
Teri and Tamara have done such a great job sharing ways to decrease holiday stress pertaining to families. I want to share with you some tips to help you keep…
- Ways to decrease holiday stress Part 1 by: tericlaassen
December 14, 2009, 11:33
Clients tell me all the time, “I hate the holidays”. There are many stressors as people are attending family gatherings and trying to meet everyone’s…
- Fear and Anxiety Part 3 by: nataliechandler
November 19, 2009, 12:47
Joleen and Teri have done an excellent job of describing anxiety and giving tips to help with it. We thought because we are relationship experts and see how…
- Fear and Anxiety Part 2 by: tericlaassen
November 17, 2009, 08:55
Fear and Anxiety can be paralyzing. It can stop you from being productive and can cause you to have a very negative view of the world. Here are 5 quick tips to…
- Hoarding or Collecting? by: alexa griffith
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- What Kind of Unglued Are You? Exploder Who Blames Others by: joleenwatson
April 17, 2013, 05:00
What Kind of Unglued Are You? Exploder Who Blames Others: Like Tamara mentioned yesterday, you don’t have to be a yeller in order to be an exploder. …
- What Kind of Unglued Are You? Exploder Who Shames Themselves by: tamarawilhelm
April 16, 2013, 05:00
The Exploder Who Shames Themselves: When we think of exploders, we tend to have a vision of a person that is loud, yelling and maybe even throwing things.…
- What Kind of Unglued Are You? by: tericlaassen
April 15, 2013, 02:39
Let's admit it...we all come unglued at times. Some of us are loud and reactive, others let the frustration simmer until and explosion happens, while others…
- Serenity Prayer - Acceptance by: tamarawilhelm
March 5, 2013, 05:00
In studying the Serenity Prayer this week, we want an awareness & focus to be on what the words mean, not memorization and repetitiveness of the…
- Lessons from Kid's Books: Oh, the Places You'll Go! by: joleenwatson
March 1, 2013, 14:50
Oh, the Places You’ll Go! By Dr. Seuss In honor of Dr. Seuss’s birthday tomorrow, I wanted to pick out my favorite Dr. Seuss book to write about. …
- Signs of Hidden Anger 12-17 by: nataliechandler
February 21, 2013, 05:00
As Tamara and Teri have shared this week, there are many signs of Hidden Anger. Are you relating to any of them? As Tamara mentioned, it is interesting how…
- Signs of Hidden Anger: 6-11 by: tamarawilhelm
February 20, 2013, 05:00
As we continue to talk about anger, some of these next few may be surprising. Alone, they can be signs of depression or sleeping disorder problems. The key…
- Signs of Hidden Anger: 1-5 by: tericlaassen
February 19, 2013, 05:00
Anger is an extremely powerful emotion that can often consume people if it is not processed effectively. Many people allow things to build up over time. They…
- How Dysfunctional Families Affect Children 5 by: joleenwatson
November 16, 2012, 04:00
A child is naturally immature. This is normal due to brain development and lack of life experiences. If children are growing up in a dysfunctional family,…
- How Dysfunctional Families Affect Children 2 by: tamarawilhelm
November 13, 2012, 05:00
A child naturally feels vulnerable. They easily feel "emotionally naked" because not all of their defenses have been yet fully developed. If children are…
- How Dysfunctional Families Affect Children 1 by: tericlaassen
November 12, 2012, 03:47
Dysfunctional families are every where. Most often the family is caught up in all the drama around them that they don't notice how much it can impact the kids.…
- Stages of Grief & Loss - Anger by: tamarawilhelm
September 18, 2012, 05:00
As Teri discussed yesterday, Denial is the first stage in the grief process. What happens once denial is removed? After you realize your loved one is gone or…
- Tips to Make Sex More Fulfilling- Alexa by: alexa griffith
June 20, 2012, 00:18
Remember that feeling you had when you began dating your partner? When we make special effort to romance our partner, they will know that we are interested…
- Mind Over Mood- Where's the Evidence? by: alexa griffith
May 16, 2012, 00:10
This is Part 3 of a series of our blog this week about Patty and Jenny. If you have not read the full story, please go back and read Teri’s and Tamara’s…
- Mind Over Mood- What's the Trigger? by: tericlaassen
May 14, 2012, 01:00
The human mind is amazing when you think of all it is capable of. But sometimes our minds can play tricks on us. This week we are going to work though a…
- Top 7 Reasons for Teen Misbehavior- #1 by: tericlaassen
April 16, 2012, 07:06
Raising a teen can be overwhelming. This is often the time I hear cries from parents who feel lost and at the end of their rope. Scott Sells gives us 7 reasons…
- What Does It Mean to "Let Go"? -5 by: joleenwatson
March 22, 2012, 21:33
"Letting Go" is a popular topic in recovery from many things-- childhood issues, addictions, codependency, and unhealthy relationships, just to name a few. …
- Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce 1 by: tericlaassen
March 5, 2012, 10:47
Unfortunately divorce is a reality for many. It is never easy when a marriage ends. I often hear the words "I never thought they would do that" or "How could…
- Dealing with Difficult People - The Complainer by: alexa griffith
February 22, 2012, 06:35
Everyone knows a complainer or two or twelve. Complainers drain our energy! Complainers are difficult to be around due to their negative outlook and fear.…
- Dealing with Difficult People- Openly Aggressive Person by: tericlaassen
February 20, 2012, 05:00
Difficult people are everywhere in this world! It is inevitable that you will come across someone daily who is hard to deal with. Because of this, Imagine Hope…
- Life Lessons from Movies- Wizard of Oz by: tericlaassen
December 26, 2011, 11:17
Although movies are intended for entertainment, it is amazing how many life lessons can be drawn from them when you dig deep. This week Imagine Hope is sharing…
- Decrease Holiday Stress- Watch Your Spending by: joleenwatson
December 16, 2011, 11:59
Teri, Tammy and Natalie have shared some really helpful tips so far in ways to decrease Holiday stress, which helps each of us to enjoy the Holiday season…
- Decrease Holiday Stress- Focus on the Significance of the Holiday by: tamarawilhelm
December 13, 2011, 05:00
Celebrating the Holidays means parties, food, fun and families. Some family members we love to see, and others we don't. Maybe we see these family members…
- Decrease Holiday Stress- Emotional Boundaries by: tericlaassen
December 12, 2011, 06:08
Clients tell me all the time, “I hate the holidays”. There are many stressors as people are attending family gatherings and trying to meet everyone’s…
- Coping With Stress- Part 2 by: joleenwatson
October 7, 2011, 06:07
Have you identified the stressful areas of your life so far with this week's blog topic? Stress is something that is almost inevitable in our society…
- Coping With Stress Part 1 by: nataliechandler
October 6, 2011, 05:35
Now that we know what stress is (good stress and bad stress) and have recognized different stressors in life, it is time to learn to cope with it. It's…
- Stressful Areas of Life Part 2 by: alexa griffith
October 5, 2011, 07:02
Stress has an effect on everyone, but not everyone finds the same events stressful. Yesterday Tammy mentioned a few areas where stress creeps up. It is…
- Stressful Areas of Life Part 1 by: tamarawilhelm
October 4, 2011, 05:00
Let's face it: Stress is unavoidable. Now that Teri has described for us the difference between "good" and "bad" stress, we can take action on conquering the…
- Stress Overview- What is it? by: tericlaassen
October 3, 2011, 06:02
As a society, we tend to thrive on stress. It is an inevitable part of life. Whether it's from relationships, work, big life changes, money, kids, school, or…
- Teen Suicide - Risk Factors by: tamarawilhelm
September 13, 2011, 05:00
Now that yesterday's blog talked about statistics and facts. Let's talk about what makes a teen at risk for suicide. There are times in a teen's life where…
- Teen Suicide- Stats and Facts by: tericlaassen
September 12, 2011, 03:36
The alarmingly high rate of suicide in the U.S. emphasizes the extreme need for continual education on suicide for our youth. Suicide rates in adolescents and…
- How Do You Handle Conflict? - Avoiding & Competing by: tamarawilhelm
April 19, 2011, 07:19
As Teri pointed out yesterday, conflict is a natural part of relationships. The hard part during conflict is slowing down, taking deep breaths, and really…
- Family Communication Tips-Don'ts 1 by: tericlaassen
April 4, 2011, 10:54
Every family has bumps in the road which can create stress. But the stress can be increased significantly when the family has poor communication skills. This…
- Is Your Life Balanced? Money & Career by: joleenwatson
April 1, 2011, 05:00
This week, Imagine Hope Counseling Group is discussing the importance of balance in all areas of life and different ways to achieve balance. So far, we have…
- Is Your Life Balanced? Spirituality & Romance by: tamarawilhelm
March 29, 2011, 05:00
Life is constantly changing. Whether it's a move, addition to the family, or career change. How well we handle the change in our lives depends upon how well we…
- Is Your Life Balanced? Environment and Recreation by: tericlaassen
March 28, 2011, 05:22
One of the best ways to combat depression and anxiety is to live a balanced life. It is one of the ultimate ways to practice self care. Life can be a roller…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone - Steps 8 & 9 by: tamarawilhelm
March 8, 2011, 05:00
Natalie, Joleen & Teri have done a great job of explaining the Steps & have given some great exercises to do along the way. I hope you'll get a chance…
- The 12 Steps for Everyone- Step 2 by: tamarawilhelm
March 1, 2011, 07:40
As Teri pointed out yesterday, as we discuss these 12-Steps, keep in mind that the Steps do not only have to be applied to addictions. These can be applied…
- Serenity Prayer- Serenity by: tericlaassen
February 21, 2011, 03:07
The Serenity Prayer is commonly linked to 12 step programs and is used by many as a coping tool. It says: “God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I…
- Conflict Resolution Tips 2 by: tamarawilhelm
February 15, 2011, 12:55
This week as we explore conflict resolution tips, see if you can recognize strengths you already possess in this area, along with skills you need to sharpen a…
- Seasonal Affective Disorder Part 4 by: joleenwatson
January 7, 2011, 23:54
So far, we have described what Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is, as well as how it can impact your life. So what can you do to help with the symptoms? …
- Seasonal Affective Disorder Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
January 4, 2011, 12:58
Yesterday we met Cindy who is most likely suffering from SAD. What exactly is Seasonal Affective Disorder? It’s a type of depression that affects a…
- Seasonal Affective Disorder 1 by: tericlaassen
January 3, 2011, 03:00
Seasonal Affective Disorder is a common thing we see in our offices starting this time of year. Keep reading this week to see if you are a sufferer or know…
- How to Enjoy Your Christmas Break 1 by: tericlaassen
December 20, 2010, 03:30
Merry Christmas! Christmas break is here! We hope all our readers take advantage of this time to be intentional about enjoying their break. This week we came…
- How Emotional Trauma Affects Everyday Interactions 4 by: joleenwatson
December 17, 2010, 18:30
This week, we have been discussing the subject of trauma-- Not the obvious kind of trauma that occurs due to a natural disaster or global catastrophic event,…
- Ways to Decrease Holiday Stress part 4 by: joleenwatson
December 3, 2010, 13:25
Teri, Tammy and Natalie have shared some really helpful tips so far in ways to decrease Holiday stress, which helps each of us to enjoy the Holiday season…
- Roles for Parenting Teens- 1 by: tericlaassen
November 8, 2010, 03:38
Parenting a teen can be an extremely stressful stage for parents. They often feel overwhelmed and sucked into the wild roller coaster ride of adolescence.…
- Tips for reducing stress in your life #4 by: joleenwatson
October 14, 2010, 16:28
So, how many tips have you used this week to reduce stress in your life? Looking for more? Well, here they are! Be optimistic Visualize accomplishing…
- Tips for reducing stress in your life #3 by: nataliechandler
October 13, 2010, 10:10
Aaahhh! Nothing like a deep breath to calm yourself down! Are you finding some ways to relax, decompress, or ward off stress. We hope so. Here are a few…
- Tips for Reducing Stress in Your Life #2 by: tamarawilhelm
October 12, 2010, 03:32
Stress can creep up on you, but if you've got a good list of stress-relieving tips that you like to practice, you can feel better in no time! Here are a few…
- Tips for Reducing Stress in Your Life #1 by: tericlaassen
October 11, 2010, 01:36
Stress comes in all forms and is an unavoidable part of life. Ideally the best thing would be to eliminate as much as you can, but when there is stubborn…
- H.A.L.T.- Tired by: joleenwatson
October 8, 2010, 17:37
This week, we are discussing the acronym HALT- Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired. As you've read, all of these can be triggers to both addictions, as well as a…
- H.A.L.T.- Lonely by: nataliechandler
October 7, 2010, 08:19
H.A.L.T. is such a great acronym to use for recovery. We have been talking about recovery of addictions but we also use this for our clients who struggle with…
- H.A.L.T.- Hungry by: tericlaassen
October 4, 2010, 05:29
H.A.L.T. is an acronym that people use to remember how to protect themselves from relapsing into an addiction. H.A.L.T. stands for Hungry, Angry, Lonely, and…
- Recommended Books for the Fall- Natalie by: nataliechandler
September 23, 2010, 05:00
My book recommendation is "Healing is a Choice" by Stephen Arterburn. Just the title alone speaks volumes. Healing IS a choice. We have to decide to keep doing…
- What blocks you from working on your issues? Waiting too long to start by: tericlaassen
September 7, 2010, 03:24
Issues...everyone has them. There's always a little "needs improvement" somewhere in our lives, whether it's in our relationships, with parenting, as an…
- School's coming- Educate Yourself by: tericlaassen
August 13, 2010, 10:40
Just because we are adults does not mean that we know it all! Parenting techniques are always changing and can be different from child to child. So as our…
- School's coming- Connect with others by: joleenwatson
August 12, 2010, 20:16
This week we are using the acronym PACE, when talking about how to make the “Back to School” transition more manageable for everyone— especially you, as…
- School's Coming- Find an Activity by: tamarawilhelm
August 10, 2010, 15:37
In keeping with our P.A.C.E. (Staying Positive, Activity, Connecting with Others & Educating) theme this week, today we're focusing on Activity. What does…
- School's coming- Are you ready? by: tericlaassen
August 9, 2010, 16:32
It's back to school time already! I can't believe how quick this summer has gone. Here at Imagine Hope we work with lots of parents and kids who want to start…
- What is stopping you from meeting your goals? by: joleenwatson
August 4, 2010, 17:04
As Teri discussed, sometimes we set goals for ourselves at the beginning of the New Year, which fizzle out or we don’t accomplish. If your goals haven’t…
- Have you met your goals? by: tericlaassen
August 2, 2010, 03:56
It is August already!! 2010 is flying by. Back to school is in full bloom and I actually saw Halloween costumes being sold this weekend! It's been a long time…
- Toxic Secrets by: tericlaassen
July 26, 2010, 11:08
This week we are talking about secrets! Secrets come in many forms. There are healthy secrets, but also toxic ones. What is the difference? A toxic secret is…
- Forgiveness Tips 2 by: joleenwatson
July 13, 2010, 19:06
The alternative to forgiveness is resentment. Resentment is one of the most toxic things to relationships, and can often times cause irreparable damage. …
- Forgiveness Tips by: tericlaassen
July 12, 2010, 03:30
Forgiveness is powerful and necessary for the healing process. Lewis Smedes says that "Forgiveness is to set a prisoner free; and to discover that prisoner is…
- Inspirational Quotes 3 by: tericlaassen
July 8, 2010, 03:04
Thanks Tamara for that powerful lesson! This quote is one of my favorites and is at the end of my email: "In the adversity we dread facing, we find a…
- Perfectionism by: tericlaassen
June 28, 2010, 11:32
Our society puts too much pressure on us to live up to the image of perfection. Whether it is the way we look, the things we own, or who people believe us to…
- Negative Thinking Patterns Alternatives Part 4 by: joleenwatson
June 27, 2010, 17:15
Here are the last 4 alternate ways of thinking that are healthier and less destructive: 12. Fallacy of Change: You expect that other people will change…
- Negative Thinking Pattern Alternatives by: tericlaassen
June 21, 2010, 10:59
Last week you read about examples of negative thinking patterns. This week we will show you the self talk you can use as an alternative. As you could see…
- AH-HA! Moments and life changing experiences-Tammy by: tamarawilhelm
June 8, 2010, 16:20
One of my AH-HA! moments happened for me when I was 20 years old. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship with a guy and I had become completely…
- More Things to Remove From Your Life by: tericlaassen
June 2, 2010, 16:13
Thanks Tammy! That is a great example of how a "remodel" can change your outlook in life and relationships. Speaking of a remodel...another thing that is…
- Self Care: Joleen by: joleenwatson
April 9, 2010, 09:38
As Natalie was saying, it is SO important to take time out for self-care... And not just waiting to do it when you are stressed out! Taking time for yourself…
- Self Care: Natalie by: nataliechandler
April 8, 2010, 16:08
It's the end of my work week and it's been a challenging one to say the least. It can be easy to feel empty when we have been taking care of kids, our…
- Self-Care: Tammy by: tamarawilhelm
April 6, 2010, 08:24
Those are great ideas Teri! I might just have to adopt some of those myself. When I think of self-care, I get a smile on my face because they're things I do…
- Self Care Ideas by: tericlaassen
April 5, 2010, 18:29
I feel like a broken record when I talk about Imagine Hope practicing what we preach- but it is true! There isn't a day that goes by that we aren't talking to…
- Depression- How to cope by: nataliechandler
March 24, 2010, 11:24
I hope this week has been helpful in recognizing the signs and symptoms of depression as well as how it effects relationships. Today we want to offer hope and…
- Depression- How it Affects Relationships by: tamarawilhelm
March 23, 2010, 19:07
According to the National Institute of Mental Health, nearly 15 million American adults, or about 6.7% of the U.S. population age 18 and older, is affected…
- Do you fight fair? - Tips 6-10 by: tamarawilhelm
March 1, 2010, 21:05
As Teri mentioned, fighting can be healthy, as long as it's done in a respectful way. Conflict can be one of the ways you and another person grow closer. It's…
- Do you Fight Fair?- Tips 1-5 by: tericlaassen
March 1, 2010, 05:45
All relationships have conflict at some point. Many couples try to avoid it mostly because they don’t know how to make fighting work “for” their…
- Self-Care by: tamarawilhelm
February 22, 2010, 17:45
This week Imagine Hope is practicing self-care by taking a blogging break. This leaves you, (our faithful, fearless reader), with an extra 10-15 minutes in…
- Seasonal Affective Disorder part 4 by: joleenwatson
January 29, 2010, 15:28
So far, we have described what Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is, as well as how it can impact your life. So what can you do to help with the symptoms? …
- Seasonal Affective Disorder Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
January 26, 2010, 07:46
Yesterday we met Cindy who is most likely suffering from SAD. What exactly is Seasonal Affective Disorder? It's a type of depression that affects a person…
- Seasonal Affective Disorder Part 1 by: tericlaassen
January 25, 2010, 09:42
Cindy’s alarm goes off. It’s still dark outside. The news says it’s going to be a cloudy, cold day AGAIN. “Winter blues- yuck! I hate January. I…
- Recognizing and dealing with stress Part 4 by: tericlaassen
January 22, 2010, 14:11
Good reminders ladies of how to recognize and deal with stress. It sure is a stressful world for us adults, but what about our kids. Oftentimes a child will…
- Recognizing and dealing with stress Part 3 by: joleenwatson
January 21, 2010, 19:56
Natalie and Tammy have explained the signs and symptoms of stress, as well as some tips for how to stay healthy during stressful times. Have you gotten past…
- Recognizing and dealing with stress Part 2 by: tamarawilhelm
January 19, 2010, 15:31
Yesterday Natalie posted physical, emotional and behavioral signs of stress. You might have read those and thought "Yep, that's me!" Or, maybe you don't…
- Recognizing and dealing with stress Part 1 by: nataliechandler
January 18, 2010, 13:12
Many of us are stressed. We live in a stressful world, have stressful jobs, and sometimes stressful relationships. We all will experience it one time or…
- Ways to decrease Holiday stress part 4 by: joleenwatson
December 18, 2009, 13:21
Teri, Tammy and Natalie have shared some really helpful tips so far in ways to decrease Holiday stress, which helps each of us to enjoy the Holiday season…
- Ways to decrease holiday stress Part 3 by: nataliechandler
December 17, 2009, 16:37
Teri and Tamara have done such a great job sharing ways to decrease holiday stress pertaining to families. I want to share with you some tips to help you keep…
- What Kind of Unglued Are You? Exploder Who Blames Others by: joleenwatson
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- 30 Questions To Ask About Your Relationship 25-30 by: joleenwatson
May 3, 2013, 05:41
25. When was the last time you talked about your future together, and were you on the same page? Obviously, if you aren’t talking about the future, you…
- Hoarding: Common Traits of Hoarders by: joleenwatson
April 26, 2013, 11:20
What are some common traits of hoarders? There are many traits that contribute to hoarding behaviors, though just because you only share of few of these…
- What Kind of Unglued Are You? The Stuffer Who Collects Retaliation Rocks by: joleenwatson
April 19, 2013, 12:06
The Stuffer Who Collects Retaliation Rocks What do you do with your feelings about small (and not-so-small) situations that happen in your marriage? Do…
- Tips To Nurture Relationships 2 by: tamarawilhelm
March 12, 2013, 05:00
Opportunities to Build Trust Trust is an essential ingredient in every relationship. Trust is extremely important in marriages, romantic relationships,…
- Love Knot: The Judge by: joleenwatson
February 1, 2013, 14:26
We all want to have our parnter be our biggest listener and support system when something is going wrong in life (and even when it isn't!). But what happens…
- Lying and Trust Issues- 5 by: joleenwatson
January 25, 2013, 06:21
What to do if you think you are being lied to: Don't obsess-- when you invest all of your emotional energy in what another person is doing, you are only…
- Natalie's Lessons from the Thanksgiving Table by: nataliechandler
November 21, 2012, 15:51
What great lessons I am learning and being reminded of this week thru our Lessons from the Thanksgiving Table! We host both sides of the family at our house…
- How Dysfunctional Families Affect Children 5 by: joleenwatson
November 16, 2012, 04:00
A child is naturally immature. This is normal due to brain development and lack of life experiences. If children are growing up in a dysfunctional family,…
- How Dysfunctional Families Affect Children 4 by: nataliechandler
November 15, 2012, 00:00
A child naturally feels wants and has needs. This is built into them as babies- we are helpless, therefore we need and want things from our caretakers. In a…
- How Dysfunctional Families Affect Children 2 by: tamarawilhelm
November 13, 2012, 05:00
A child naturally feels vulnerable. They easily feel "emotionally naked" because not all of their defenses have been yet fully developed. If children are…
- Danger of Being in an Enmeshed Relationship by: joleenwatson
November 9, 2012, 12:58
By now, you are aware of what "enmeshment" is and how to know if you are in an enmeshed relationship (see earlier blog posts this week). What are the…
- Tips To Not Be an Enmeshing Person by: joleenwatson
November 8, 2012, 06:52
If you’ve been reading this week, you may have realized that you have been or are currently in an enmeshed relationship. The following are some ways to…
- Tips To Break Free of An Enmeshed Relationship by: alexa griffith
November 7, 2012, 00:28
After reading the signs of being an enmeshed relationship, have you recognized that you may be in one? Have you realized that you may have merged your…
- Signs You're In An Enmeshed Relationship by: tamarawilhelm
November 6, 2012, 05:00
Your belief systems change - When you get too close to someone and enmesh with them, sometimes the things you believe in (religion, politics, moral…
- The Masks We Wear- Codependency by: nataliechandler
November 1, 2012, 05:46
This week we are talking about masks we wear to cover up our authentic selves. If you haven't already, feel free to back up and read the other blogs from this…
- The Masks We Wear...Addiction by: joleenwatson
October 31, 2012, 06:26
This week we are talking about masks since it is Halloween. However, we are not talking about the masks we put on to dress up for trick-or-treating; we are…
- The Masks We Wear…But Why? by: tericlaassen
October 29, 2012, 02:42
Halloween can be so much fun to get dressed up and be whoever you want to be! At Halloween we give permission as a society to “pretend” to be someone…
- How to Get Your Teen to Open Up- Be Consistent by: nataliechandler
October 25, 2012, 05:44
Be Consistent and Follow Through With Commitments Kids need consistency. They need to know what to expect from parents. Otherwise they are floundering and…
- Feelings and Defenses 5 by: joleenwatson
October 19, 2012, 06:15
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing how defenses can be used to mask or avoid feelings, especially the feelings of anger, sadness, fear, loneliness, shame…
- Feelings and Defenses 4 by: nataliechandler
October 18, 2012, 05:34
As we are talking this week about defensive behaviors that cover our primary feelings, it is imperative that we chat about the "quiet behaviors". These are…
- Non-Traditional Addictions- Busy Addiction by: joleenwatson
October 12, 2012, 06:30
Do you ever find it difficult to sit still and just "be" without having to do something "productive" with your time? Does idle time without having a…
- Non Traditional Addictions- People Pleasing by: nataliechandler
October 11, 2012, 05:33
People Pleasing Addiction This one is tricky as well. Most of us have an innate need inside us to please other people. Individuals who don't care what…
- Facebook and Your Marriage- Tips by: joleenwatson
October 5, 2012, 13:50
Keep good boundaries when using Facebook. Don't friend people you used to date or have romantic feelings towards. This is important because it can easily…
- Facebook and Your Marriage- Tips by: nataliechandler
October 4, 2012, 05:34
Make it a priority to saying something positive to your spouse on your wall at least once a week. It can be very simple like, "Can't wait to take my queen out…
- Facebook and Your Marriage- Ground Rules 2 by: tamarawilhelm
October 2, 2012, 05:00
Ground Rule #3: Exchange login and password information with your spouse - I'm sure some of you just choked, but hear us out. Letting your spouse login to your…
- Relationship Exits-4 by: nataliechandler
September 27, 2012, 06:18
We exit when we see you are in pain and we can't fix it Many people feel uncomfortable with seeing others in emotional pain. That is normal. Usually it brings…
- Fall Book Recommendations: Why Does He Do That? by: joleenwatson
September 15, 2012, 07:40
Why Does He Do That?, by Lundy Bancroft is a straightforward book about being in an abusive relationship and abusive men. Bancroft challenges the myth that…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent- Nonexistent Spirituality by: nataliechandler
September 6, 2012, 09:23
Teri and Tamara have described what having the symptoms of Negative Control and Resentment can create in our lives as Codependents. Today I will discuss how…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent- Resentment by: tamarawilhelm
September 4, 2012, 05:00
Teri did a great job yesterday describing Codependency. If you find yourself relating to our blog this week, we encourage you to get more information on…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent- Negative Control by: tericlaassen
September 3, 2012, 10:14
Codependency is unhealthy love and a tendency to behave in overly passive or excessively caretaking ways that negatively impact one’s relationships and…
- How to Keep Your Sanity: If a Counterdependent Won't Get in Recovery by: alexa griffith
August 31, 2012, 09:08
By now, you have heard the characteristics of Counterdependency. But what do you do if you're in a relationship with one or work with one who refuses…
- Counterdependency- Characteristics Part 2 by: nataliechandler
August 30, 2012, 16:29
On Tuesday, Tamara gave us great descriptions of 4 of the 7 characteristics of Counterdependency: Grandiose, Not knowing/respecting boundaries of others,…
- Positive Discipline Techniques by: nataliechandler
August 23, 2012, 05:30
I love that Alexa reminded us that discipline is about teaching. So many times as parents we forget that we don't just need to eliminate the negative behavior,…
- Positive Discipline Techniques- 2 by: alexa griffith
August 21, 2012, 05:25
Parenting is a fantastically fun job. However, it is the hardest most important job in the world. Part of our responsibility as a parent is to teach our…
- Positive Discipline Techniques- 1 by: tericlaassen
August 20, 2012, 04:20
Parenting is a hard job- especially when it comes to disciplining your child. Discipline should be something parents do as a way to teach children right from…
- TV's Influence on Children- 4 by: joleenwatson
August 10, 2012, 10:00
Do you give consent by remaining silent? Many parents react with silence when a television program is misleading to our children. Unfortunately, this…
- TV's Influence on Children-3 by: alexa griffith
August 8, 2012, 00:20
Do You Interrupt, Interpret, or Mediate the Programs Watched By Your Children? If your children are at all like mine, they watch very different shows than…
- TV’s Influence On Children-2 by: tamarawilhelm
August 7, 2012, 05:00
Do You Use TV as a Reward, or to Punish Bad Behavior? This is ultimately not a good idea either way. Rewards and punishments need to relate to the behavior…
- TV's Influence On Children-1 by: tericlaassen
August 6, 2012, 04:53
Do you worry about how the media will shape your kids? TV can impact a child's social and intellectual development. Violence and inappropriate scenes on TV can…
- The Five Freedoms: Taking Risks by: joleenwatson
August 3, 2012, 06:20
Freedom #5: To take risks in one's own behalf instead of choosing to be only "secure" and not rocking the boat. We have all probably been in a situation…
- 5 Freedoms: To Ask For What You Want by: nataliechandler
August 2, 2012, 05:34
Freedom #4: To Ask for What One Wants Instead of Always Waiting For Permission Many people struggle with telling people what they really want or need. They…
- The 5 Freedoms: To Feel by: alexa griffith
August 1, 2012, 00:26
Freedom #3: To Feel What One Feels and not what one “ought” to feel. It has happened to all of us. We are in a situation where we are “should”…
- The Five Freedoms: To Say by: tamarawilhelm
July 31, 2012, 05:00
Freedom #2: To Say What One Feels and Thinks Instead of What One Should Feel and Think There's that "Should" word again. Whenever you use the word "Should",…
- 5 Toxic Behaviors That Poison Your Relationship With Your Teen by: joleenwatson
July 27, 2012, 05:38
Toxic Behavior #5: No Oppportunities to Regain Trust When teenagers feel as though they can't regain trust with their parents after something has…
- 5 Toxic Behaviors That Poison Your Relationship with Your Teens by: nataliechandler
July 26, 2012, 05:49
Toxic Behavior #4: You must first be good to get my love It can be so difficult to show your child love when you are angry and frustrated, right? But it is…
- 5 Toxic Behaviors That Poison Your Relationship With Your Teen by: alexa griffith
July 25, 2012, 00:26
Toxic Behavior #3 Compliment Sandwiches Have you ever received a compliment followed by a "but?" Imagine your boss tells you, " you did a great job on…
- 5 Toxic Behaviors That Poison Your Relationship With your Teen- Attacking the Person by: tamarawilhelm
July 24, 2012, 05:00
Toxic Behavior #2: Attacking the Person Rather Than the Misbehavior This can happen when you don't separate out your teen's misbehavior from their character…
- 5 Toxic Behaviors That Poison Your Relationship With your Teen- Bringing up the Past by: tericlaassen
July 23, 2012, 05:38
Parenting a teenager can feel like a roller coaster! A few weeks ago we shared good info about out of control teen behaviors, but this week we want to look at…
- Myths About Love- Falling in Love and Exclusiveness by: alexa griffith
July 18, 2012, 00:30
Myth #4 -We fall in and out of love. To watch movies or read romance novels, one would believe that love is something that happens to us, not something we…
- Myths About Love- It's Fleeting & Constant Closeness by: tamarawilhelm
July 17, 2012, 05:00
Myth #2 - Love Is Fleeting There are some people whose feelings change for their significant other very quickly. They may be in love with Partner #1 on…
- Stopping Your Out of Control Teen- Level 7 by: joleenwatson
July 13, 2012, 10:21
Level 7- Threats of Suicide While any threat of suicide should be taken seriously, it's important to react appropriately and not allow this to become a form…
- Stopping Your Out of Control Teen- Levels 5&6 by: nataliechandler
July 12, 2012, 05:32
Your teen has now pulled out MOST of the stops! They've been disrespectful, are truant or failing school and running away, and now are threatening to have a…
- Stopping Your Out Of Control Teen Levels 3&4 by: alexa griffith
July 11, 2012, 00:11
Maybe your teen is beyond disrespect or truancy and failing school. Perhaps your child is trying to manipulate you with more severe or dangerous threats. …
- Stopping Your Out of Control Teen- Levels 1&2 by: tamarawilhelm
July 10, 2012, 05:00
Starting with the least extreme and dangerous, let's look at what some teens will tell themselves in order to manipulate parents into getting what they want.…
- Stopping Your Out of Control Teen- Intro by: tericlaassen
July 9, 2012, 04:58
Are you parenting teenagers? Have you lost total control because of their behaviors? Do you resist taking back control because you are scared of what they…
- How to Find Mr. or Mrs. Right- 4 & 5 by: nataliechandler
June 28, 2012, 05:42
#4- Don't talk yourself out of pink and red flags First of all, what are pink and red flags? Most of you know what a red flag is- it's a phrase we use to…
- How to Find Mr or Mrs Right 2-3 by: tamarawilhelm
June 26, 2012, 05:00
Tip #2 - Be the person you think your Ideal would be attracted to. First off, we're not saying to change who you are in order to get someone to like you.…
- Ways to Protect Your Kids From Predators 5 by: joleenwatson
June 1, 2012, 18:40
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing the importance of protecting your children from predators. As we have discussed, in this day and age, it's vital to…
- Ways To Protect Your Kids From Predators 1 by: tericlaassen
May 28, 2012, 15:19
As a parent, one of my main concerns is my child's safety. Part of my job is to be the "safety patrol" and teach them how to catch on to what is safe and what…
- Top 7 Reasons for Teen Misbehavior- #2 & 3 by: tamarawilhelm
April 17, 2012, 11:46
Don't ya just love teens? Especially one who's testing the boundaries? Scott Sells book, Parenting Your Out of Control Teenager, can help you love them even…
- Top 7 Reasons for Teen Misbehavior- #1 by: tericlaassen
April 16, 2012, 07:06
Raising a teen can be overwhelming. This is often the time I hear cries from parents who feel lost and at the end of their rope. Scott Sells gives us 7 reasons…
- Healthy Sexual Intimacy after Sexual Addiction by: nataliechandler
April 12, 2012, 04:53
This week, we have covered what sexual addiction is, how to recover, and we have started talking about sexual intimacy after you discover you have a sexual…
- How to Recover from Sexual Addiction by: tamarawilhelm
April 10, 2012, 05:00
Teri did a great job yesterday explaining sexual addiction. There's not one exact definition of sexual addiction, or any addiction for that matter. If you…
- Relationships: Intimate vs. Addictive- 4 by: nataliechandler
March 29, 2012, 04:45
Hopefully this week you have been able to identify if your relationship is healthy/intimate or has more addictive characteristics. Being in an addictive type…
- Relationships: Intimate vs Addictive - 2 by: tamarawilhelm
March 27, 2012, 05:00
In an intimate relationship you have a sense of freedom vs. in an addictive relationship there is a sense of compulsion. In healthy relationships, there's a…
- What Does It Mean to "Let Go"? -5 by: joleenwatson
March 22, 2012, 21:33
"Letting Go" is a popular topic in recovery from many things-- childhood issues, addictions, codependency, and unhealthy relationships, just to name a few. …
- What Does It Mean to "Let Go"- 4 by: nataliechandler
March 22, 2012, 04:55
This week we are focusing on what it means to "let go". This can help you with relationships, in your job, with your children, and many aspects of your life.…
- What Does It Mean to “Let Go”? -2 by: tamarawilhelm
March 20, 2012, 03:00
This is a great topic this week. Too often we can get wrapped up & worried about situations, when in reality, we need to let go. Let's explore some more…
- Tips on Helping Your Child Cope With Divorce - Watch Your Mouth by: tamarawilhelm
March 14, 2012, 03:00
Teri & Alexa have done an excellent job preparing a parent for how to tell a child they're divorcing. Now, let's discuss what you as a parent should do…
- Taking Care of Yourself Through A Divorce 5 by: joleenwatson
March 9, 2012, 15:09
10. Evaluate your relationships and make whatever life adjustments you feel are necessary. During a divorce, you might encounter many "Monday Morning…
- Basic Human Needs - Listening by: tamarawilhelm
February 28, 2012, 03:00
Listening, Participating & Accepting Everyone likes to know the person they're speaking with has heard them, even if that person does not always agree…
- Dealing With Difficult People- The Know-it-all by: joleenwatson
February 24, 2012, 21:03
Do you have a difficult person in your life? Perhaps it's a boss, or a relative-- or maybe a co-worker... or even a spouse! This week, Imagine Hope is…
- Dealing with Difficult People - The Complainer by: alexa griffith
February 22, 2012, 06:35
Everyone knows a complainer or two or twelve. Complainers drain our energy! Complainers are difficult to be around due to their negative outlook and fear.…
- Dealing with Difficult People - The Sniper by: tamarawilhelm
February 21, 2012, 03:00
Difficult people are everywhere in our life. It could be someone in our family, workplace or a friend. It could also be a distant acquaintence. It's easy…
- Do You Have a Healthy Love Relationship? by: joleenwatson
February 10, 2012, 11:09
Picture two people standing side by side, each reaching for the other's hand: This is a healthy love relationship. A healthy love relationship…
- Do you have a Pedestal Relationship or a Master /Slave Relationship? by: alexa griffith
February 8, 2012, 07:17
As we head toward Valentine's Day, often we think of our relationships. Sometimes we remember past relationships, appreciate present relationships, or dream…
- Do You Have A Smothering Relationship? by: tamarawilhelm
February 7, 2012, 03:00
The Smothering Relationship Picture two people hugging, attached at the hip, never far apart from the other at any time. Feel suffocated? I bet! This…
- Talks To Have Before Getting Married: Conflict Styles and Common Interests by: joleenwatson
February 4, 2012, 06:01
If you are presently engaged to be married, we send you our warmest congratulations! The time of dating and engagement is exciting and promising-- a time where…
- Flower Messages 1 by: nataliechandler
January 26, 2012, 07:13
By now you are understanding what a Garbage Message is. Now let's talk about Flower Messages. These are messages that we send that are encouraging, uplifting,…
- Garbage Message 2 by: alexa griffith
January 25, 2012, 07:07
We all engage in negative self-talk. These are the conversations we have with ourselves in our heads that spiral from “oops I made a mistake” to “I’m…
- Garbage Messages 1 by: tamarawilhelm
January 24, 2012, 03:00
I love this week's blog because it brings to all of our attention how we're communicating with each other and whether that communication is positive or…
- What To Do if You Are Loving Too Much 9-10 by: joleenwatson
January 21, 2012, 06:25
So far, have you used any of this week's blog post suggestions to help with your relationship with yourself? Or, maybe you are wondering "How can you love…
- What to do if you are loving too much 6-8 by: nataliechandler
January 19, 2012, 10:58
As we have been discussing this week, loving too much can be damaging to your relationships and to yourself. It can cause Depression, Anxiety, multiple…
- What to Do if You Are Loving Too Much 1-2 by: tamarawilhelm
January 17, 2012, 03:00
As Teri wrote yesterday, it is possible to love too much. Amazing, but true. We want to help those of you who find yourself in this situation to find balance…
- Are You Loving Too Much? by: tericlaassen
January 16, 2012, 06:04
What? Love TOO much? Is that possible? Yes it is and it can be very damaging for someone when they do. Loving someone is a great thing, but when it crosses…
- 6 Blocks to Achieving Goals - Insuffient Knowledge & Time Mgmt by: tamarawilhelm
January 10, 2012, 10:18
I love the 8 questions from yesterday's blog on how to structure & set up goals. If you haven't read them yet, please do so. Let's talk about 2 more…
- Decrease Holiday Stress- Watch Your Spending by: joleenwatson
December 16, 2011, 11:59
Teri, Tammy and Natalie have shared some really helpful tips so far in ways to decrease Holiday stress, which helps each of us to enjoy the Holiday season…
- Decrease Holiday stress- Boundaries by: nataliechandler
December 15, 2011, 06:22
Teri and Tamara have done such a great job sharing ways to decrease holiday stress pertaining to families. I want to share with you some tips to help you keep…
- Decrease Holiday Stress- Emotional Boundaries by: tericlaassen
December 12, 2011, 06:08
Clients tell me all the time, “I hate the holidays”. There are many stressors as people are attending family gatherings and trying to meet everyone’s…
- TV Families- All in the Family by: nataliechandler
December 1, 2011, 06:34
I am LOVING reading this weeks blogs about dysfunctional TV families. How fun to relive the childhood moments of the Brady Bunch and to think of the beauty of…
- The Masks We Wear- Counterdependency by: joleenwatson
October 28, 2011, 08:34
This week, as a tribute to the Halloween season, we are talking about masks. Every day we can unknowingly put on different masks that hide us from various…
- The Masks We Wear- Codependency by: nataliechandler
October 27, 2011, 05:32
This week we are talking about masks we wear to cover up our authentic selves. If you haven't already, feel free to back up and read the other blogs from this…
- The Masks We Wear...But Why? by: tericlaassen
October 24, 2011, 05:50
Halloween can be so much fun to get dressed up and be whoever you want to be! At Halloween we give permission as a society to "pretend" to be someone else. It…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent- Avoiding Reality & Impaired Intimacy by: joleenwatson
August 27, 2011, 05:57
Avoiding Reality- This symptom of codependence presents itself in the form of using addictions, constant physical illness or emotional issues that serve to…
- Distorted Symptoms of a Codependent- Negative Contol by: tericlaassen
August 22, 2011, 10:46
Codependency is unhealthy love and a tendency to behave in overly passive or excessively caretaking ways that negatively impact one's relationships and quality…
- Do You Have a "Damaged Love Style"? The Secure Connector by: joleenwatson
August 19, 2011, 07:43
This week, Imagine Hope is discussing how our love styles can impact us in our relationships later in life. Based on the book "How We Love" by Milan and Kay…
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- 30 Questions To Ask About Your Relationship 25-30 by: joleenwatson