Every relationship deserves to have a healthy sex life. Unfortunately it is hard for many couples to achieve and maintain what they might consider a healthy sex life. Things block them from reaching the ideal closeness that connects a couples emotional intimacy into physical intimacy. This week Imagine Hope is talking about some of the issues that we see as road blocks to reaching a healthy sex life.
Low Emotional Intimacy and High Emotional Walls
When a couple struggles with connection outside of the bedroom, they will have trouble reaching a healthy sex life. Being emotionally disconnected and having high emotional walls means there is something in the realtionship that doesn’t feel safe. A relationship may not feel safe due to a past with infidelity, lack of trust, fighting, feeling more like roommates than a couple, or surface interactions without revealing emotional depth. Make sure you are lowering those emotional walls and building a safe relationship; this will transfer into the bedroom.
Too busy and Tired
When you are out of balance, it is hard to prioritize even the most important things. When people get too busy, they tend to loose the ability to juggle things they enjoy. Being too tired will suck the energy and motivation out of a person’s desire for sex. Working towards balance in all areas of your life- like time management and getting enough sleep- will help you prioritize sex in your relationship. It’s all about good self care.
Feeling insecure and embarrassed about your body will surely affect a person’s ability to feel comfortable with sex. When you struggle with embracing your body’s positives it is hard for people to give themselves an opportunity to enjoy something related to their body. Try doing things that help you feel more comfortable in your own skin and take charge of your body’s image instead of allowing it to control your sex life.
Keep reading this week as we explore various other issues which keep a relationship from a healthy sex life.
Written by Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW
Teri Claassen MSW, LCSW is a licensed therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Teri enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Teri also does family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield.