“Let Me Get Your Power Drill”
Okay, this title may sound completely silly, but the concept really does work. (I know this from personal experience!).
We’ve all been there. We ask our spouses over and over (and over and over) to fix this or that, and it doesn’t get done. Each time we bring it up, it ends in an argument or a quick snap back on the man’s part. Women think, “Why don’t they just do it and keep their promise?!” A guy is thinking, “Who made them boss anyway?”
When a guy feels controlled or believes his woman is trying to be the boss, he’ll come up with many excuses for not doing x, y and z. Is this line of thinking healthy? No, but it is what it is. You can ask as nice as possible, but he’s probably going to hear it as an “order” anyway.
What do you do instead? Offer to help your man. Gather all the tools needed for the job and be there to grab things & hand it to him when he needs it. Offer to help clean up as well. Be an assistant to him being first in command. For those women out there who are go-getter’s, this will be a challenge, but hopefully a rewarding experience between you and your spouse. Good luck!
Source: “How to Get Through To A Man” by W. Bruce Cameron from O’s Guide to Life; The Best of O, The Oprah Magazine p. 211-212
Written by: Tamara Wilhelm MA, LMHC, LCAC
*Tamara enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, & couples counseling at Imagine Hope. We also specialize in family counseling, child & adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Noblesville, Zionsville, Westfield & Fishers.