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The key to seduction is communicating desire. Not just desire for your own needs to be met, but to meet the desires of your partner. You have to show your partner that you really want them. At the beginning of our sexual relationships, we are on our best behavior. We aim to please and we are open to pleasure. Over time and with familiarity- that can fade and leave us in a sexual rut.
Sometimes after years of marriage, we can become sexually lazy. Often life, careers, children get in the way of intimacy. Sometimes those things drain our energy and we have nothing left to give in bed at night. However, sex with spark is not an energy drain, but an energy boost!
Quit having the same old sex! Really seduce your partner. Try something new! Try someplace new! As long as it is loving, safe, and mutual, intimacy can be fun. Take it out of the bedroom and see how you feel. Make your own rules together.
Remember your partner’s turn ons. Use them. Nothing feels as good as being truly appreciated and desired. Are you a visual person? Take off that old nightgown or tattered pajamas. Then put on something sexy! A sense of touch person? Touch your partner in non-sexual ways too. A sense of smell person? Wear your partner’s favorite cologne or light sensual candles.
Have sex at least twice a week. You can find the time. When you put the time and effort into making it fun and rewarding, it does not seem like a chore. The key here is to seduce, not service your partner! Find the connection that makes YOU want more. Explore and communicate your own sensuality. Find and show your enthusiasm. And last but not least, have a blast!
Written by Alexa Griffith, LMHC, LCAC, NCC, RPT
Alexa Griffith, LMHC, LCAC, NCC, RPT is a licensed therapist and Registered Play Therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Alexa enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Alexa also does play therapy, family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield
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” Wanna Dance?”
Are you feeling romanic? Are you wondering how to seduce your man? There is a reason why it is called the dance of seduction. Seduction can often be a game, or dance if you will. The first thing is to figure out if your man wants to dance! Men are not famous for turning away sex, so the odds are in your favor that he will respond positively. Remember, men are biologically programed to want and be ready for sex with little notice or prompting. But that does not mean that they don’t like the chase. And lets be honest ladies, we like to be chased. We like the mystery, the fun, the connection and engagement that comes along with the chase. It makes us feel special and valued.
If you are ready to take the next step in your relationship and take it to a physical level, let him know! You do not want to be “easy”, so you can let him know with the word, “maybe”. Will you meet him for a drink? Maybe. Would you like to go over to his place? Maybe. Would you be interested in a back rub? Maybe. Maybe offers hope for a yes without dousing his confidence, but enough of a no to keep him working! If you are already in a long term relationship, sit next to him on the couch and give him small flirty kisses and be playful. Let him take it from there. For men, the visual and physical touch is much more stimulating than the verbal suggestions. So instead of telling him you want to make love, show him, preferably with nudity!
Continue to check in as Natalie and Joleen talk more about how to get through to a man. As always thanks for reading!
Source: “How to Get Through To A Man” by W. Bruce Cameron from O’s Guide to Life; The Best of O, The Oprah Magazine p. 211-212
Written by Alexa Griffith, LMHC, LCAC, NCC, RPT
Alexa Griffith, LMHC, LCAC, NCC, RPT is a licensed therapist and Registered Play Therapist at Imagine Hope Counseling Group. Alexa enjoys doing marriage counseling, individual counseling, couples and relationship counseling. Alexa also does play therapy, family counseling, child counseling, and adolescent counseling. Imagine Hope serves the Indianapolis area, including the surrounding areas of Carmel, Fishers, Noblesville, Zionsville, and Westfield
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